Let’s Make it Clear

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It’s been a while since I’ve posted on my WordPress blog so here we go. I think it’s about time for a post like this, long overdue.

So, for the last few months, I’ve been trolling and watching the social medialites blab on their soliloquies, wondering if anyone is really listening or reading for that matter.

A few months ago, one of the automated paper.li tweets mentioned a person (who shall remain nameless), who became upset at the fact they were mentioned.

What the fuck, I thought to myself. Why is this person getting a hair up their ass over being mentioned by paper.li – when the paper is actually promoting their stupid shit.

I’m not one to argue with people on Twitter. The back and forth banter just doesn’t look good and at the end of the day, I’m running a business. I’m not here to throw mud at idiots (maybe once in a while LOL).

So I ended up blocking this person. Funny this person has noted in their profile they’re a coach or expert on some sort of fetish thing.

Right….and I’m an expert on building the Brooklyn Bridge.

Yet again, a similar incident happened with another person, who shall remain nameless. Bear in mind, some of these people are not even worth putting on blast and I’ll get to that “why” in a minute.

I see a response from the paper.li tweet, “Please take me off this or I will have you all blocked”, something to that effect. This time I didn’t hold back.  My response was pretty clear about this automated tweet and if you don’t like it we’ll just block you.  #stuckup

I mean really? What the fuck is wrong with people? Yet here’s another one who owns something similar to Kink~E Magazine #WeOpenTheDoor – all of these sites mind you are the same as my magazine.

Now I’m not saying Kink~E Magazine was the first fetish magazine ever. Back in the day, newspapers and personals were used in order to connect with kink communities. The only logical way back then was connecting via newspapers and personals through letter writing and perhaps phone contact.

When I began establishing my presence online was in mid 2000, when AOL gave you your own webpage as part of your subscription and I began keeping an online diary of my blind dates.  My friends thought I was insane to put my life out there, but at the time, and still now, I didn’t care. It was a great way for me to share exactly what was going on in my life, what I felt about blind dating and the blind dating itself. This was sort of a release for me. Life wasn’t good for me back then. I made a terrible choice that ended up saving my life. I did’t see it then but I see it now. Anyway as part of my restoration of self progress I was keeping these online dairies and it helped me put a lot of things into perspective with my life, myself and my needs of what I wanted in a relationship.

Even when guys got wind of my blogging, I realized they were only dating me so I can blog about them, even when they knew there was a bigger possibility of me writing not so good things about them. Maybe they were learning themselves how to be better on the next date. Who knows?

I did discover this. Because of my blogging, I was able to connect with women who related to the horrors of blind dating and it gave me an idea on how to expand on that and incorporating fetish lifestyle, one I personally life and enjoy. It was important for me to connect some type of alternative lifestyle because it wasn’t good for women to secretly keep ideas of fetish to themselves or feel shame to express something they really liked and wanted to explore. So there’s your bit of history of Kink~E Magazine.

The Internet was just booming by then and other than your local newspapers, how many fetish magazine sites did you find in 2002 as oppose to now? Today we are saturated with endless means of fetish advice, domination along with the fakers looking to rake in fast cash without having to honor what they say they are offering.

I’m not going to put down my magazine by any means.  I really believe that having this opportunity, I opened the door along with others who are still around today who believe in promoting the alternative lifestyle correctly.

I’m sure anyone that looks at the magazine thinks to themselves, “Oh I can do this better”.  I’m sure you can.

On the other hand, thanks to my business management courses and communication courses (yes unlike most I’m actually getting a real degree), I continue to transition the magazine and once again it will be seeing another transition. So while people are taking a back seat stealing ideas, they have yet to see what my pretty little head is putting together.

One thing I’ve learned about all of these social medialites and their sites sites, everyone is a “shark” waiting for their hater to disclose what they are doing so they can copy it. Don’t think I even noticed one site who conveniently copied the same last four digits of my business phone number. (Yeah I caught that).

Now back to my “why” point about not putting people on blast. First and foremost they aren’t worth it. Second and most importantly, why bother give these assholes any type of notoriety?

If you’re paying attention to your social media feed, really read what people are writing. If you’re following someone who’s apparently some coach of sorts, why is it they become easily offended over a tweet that’s actually promoting them? Wouldn’t that defeat the purpose of someone who claims they are here to enhance your self esteem but catch an attitude at the mere fact they are being mentioned in a positive way? Also, think about this, why aren’t people looking up what paper.li is?

It’s super easy. All you have to do is go on google and type in paper.li…wow how simple is that?

Here’s another thing about me. I’m not one to pitch a fucking fit if someone tags me on something. Actually, I’m grateful that other people in supporting communities think of me or my magazine to tag us and help them not only promote but inform.

Wow…let’s read that word again….”Inform”.

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I mean I would think so….unless I missed the memo of the weekly stupidity report. (I always seem to miss those.)

Oh this is a good example. Recently, the President and his wife went on a venture trip and part of that trip was to visit the Pope. According to protocol, the first lady is supposed to dress in black with a veil. The next day I get up and there are hash tags going around she’s dressing for her future.

Look, motherfuckers, it’s shit like this that pisses me off. I think to myself how other countries must look at us and how stupid we are. Does anyone do their homework or research or are you taking things at face value.  I go and look up as to why Melania Trump is dressed like this and find out when Michelle Obama when to visit the pope with her husband she was also dressed in the same get up. So where was the hashtag for her? Not…right? Protocol dummies. #DoYourHomework

I never thought I would see such a level of stupidity and on a daily basis.

Am I pissed off? Hell yeah? Please people wake up and read. Take a history course. If you don’t know something or a term in social media, look the shit up before flying off on the deep end making all sorts of unrealistic threats, especially over a mention on paper.li. There is too much shit going on in this world to solely focus on hate that’s not going to change.  Hello Manchester fucking assholes. While everyone is diluted in their own hate look at the shit going on around you!

I mean, really?

And then here we are back at the lab where you have some of these bitches talking about they’re a coach? An advisor? A sexpert (now there’s a recent term for the last few years).

All of these are great names while most aren’t backed up with a degree. #Sad.

What’s even sadder is no one is evolving. People spend more time copying and not really make a real name for themselves other than social media. Whoever their followers are, they make a star for themselves but let me tell you ladies, once you step out the door of you apartment, you are like everyone else. No one is stopping you in the street for an autograph. You’re not getting nominated for Person of the Year in Time Magazine or a star in the Hollywood Walk of Fame.

I’m not sure what we are coming to. Almost frightening when I think about it.  I try to stay in my own lane and focus on finishing my book An Illegal Affair (which is in its final stages before proofreading), but at times I veer off course and see stupid shit like, (in valley girl voice), “you betta take me off that tweet or I’m going to block you”.

Really, fuck you bitch. No one has time for such meagerness.

Good luck being 60 and thinking you’re going to get some man to pay you for a BDSM session.

That’s the funny part. Some of these women are forgetting day by day they are getting older.

Better think about your future princesses.

Until then.

Marabelle Blue~

Valuable Meanings

In the light of being attacked by two different women towards my “indifference” for the reality show Duck Dynasty comment posted a couple of days ago which exactly read, “Duck Dynasty, Don’t get it, Don’t care.” lead to an array names calling like I was a whore and a bitch, etc.

While I’m not a whore, I can be quite of a bitch, let me tell you LOL. Most times, if I don’t like something someone will know whether in social media or in private. If that’s regarded at being a bitch, okay.

Low mentality such as these women possess clearly didn’t understand the meaning of my statement. They were under the impression that I was hating.

Sadly, our society today, within social networking continues the barrier many people set up for themselves into thinking that hiding behind their computers won’t award them immunity from what they say, even if they will never meet that person their entire life. I have been at fault of saying fucked up things – surely I’m not innocent in online bashing. However, when I do bash, at least I do my fucking research.

In the case of Duck Dynasty, I have seen enough commercials for my personal taste that it didn’t spark any interest of watching nor do I care. Do I think any less of the people that watch it…no again why should I care? That’s like caring if a celebrity is taking a picture of the moon on Instagram (who FB also owns) and I’m taking time out of my moment to say, “wow that’s a great pic, what camera did you use”, and waiting for a response. Do you really think they will respond?

Realistically most do not and some do, but only a small few and mostly don’t care. Sad but true.

Let’s take the time out and learn what these words mean and when we should use them appropriately. Many thanks to dictionary.com.

As you read below there are different meanings for indifference care and hate.

If you read the meanings carefully perhaps there is some ray of hope that people will choose their words more carefully before typing something in you can’t take back.

For example lets start with “indifference”. People have an indifference towards animals but it doesn’t mean they hate them or wish ill feelings towards them it just simply means they don’t think about it either way.

Society has put celebrities today in very high standards which why “hating” is discussed so much. I feel this is where it all derives coupled with social media like Facebook being the number one of “hate” statements.

Facebook has met the demise of relationships and friendships, has sparked up cheating/infidelity either through “sexting” or meeting in real life. It has probably introduced STD’s as well and of course the unnecessary bashing amongst those who people still keep in their FB page even though they can’t stand them or (and this is the big one) when one continues reporting a page that has ZERO sexual or OFFENSIVE content but still mark it as so when all someone is trying to do is promote their projects..

While it may have it’s perks like having people getting recognized like children looking for likes so they can go to Disney World, meanwhile would you do it for your own kids?

Think about how much energy goes into hating a person that’s not even thinking about you. When you can take that same energy and A. Hate yourself or B. Love yourself and do something with your life, like live it.

What a fucking concept!

Dictionary.com meanings for your perusal, Lord knows people need to understand the meaning of these words. (Considering there is a God too LOL. Another topic, another time)

in·dif·fer·ence

/ɪnˈdɪfərəns, -ˈdɪfrəns/ Show Spelled [in-dif-er-uhns, -dif-ruhns] Show IPA

noun

1.

lack of interest or concern: We were shocked by their indifference toward poverty.
2.

unimportance; little or no concern: Whether or not to attend the party is a matter of indifference to him.

care

/kɛər/ Show Spelled [kair] Show IPA noun, verb, cared, car·ing.

noun

1.

a state of mind in which one is troubled; worry, anxiety, or concern: He was never free from care.
2.

a cause or object of worry, anxiety, concern, etc.: Their son has always been a great care to them.
Usage note
15. Couldn’t care less,  a phrase used to express indifference, is sometimes heard as could care less,  which ought to mean the opposite but is intended to be synonymous with the former phrase. Both versions are common mainly in informal speech.

hate

/heɪt/ Show Spelled [heyt] Show IPA verb, hat·ed, hat·ing, noun

verb (used with object)

1.

to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward; detest: to hate the enemy; to hate bigotry.
2.

to be unwilling; dislike: I hate to do it.
verb (used without object)

3.

to feel intense dislike, or extreme aversion or hostility.
noun

4.

intense dislike; extreme aversion or hostility.
5.

the object of extreme aversion or hostility.