Married At First Sight – Six Months Later @FYI #marriedatfirstsight

married-at-first-sight-season-2-weddingsI had not realized they showed a six month follow up on Season Two of Married At First Sight.

Logging onto the FYI site, I followed up with having to endure terrible host Kevin Fraizer (wasn’t he like on E! or something) asking remedial questions to the couples who agreed to get married without never seeing their spouse until the day of the wedding.

The first couple up was Davina and Sean. Now if you recall, Davina and Sean work in the health care industry and both were victims of bullying as they were growing up. (What they do here is talk to them individually and then as a couple).

When Davina came out, she was aloof. She answered Kevin’s questions with the air of a starlet who was snubbed by her costar after the movie was filmed. I understand she doesn’t want to expose any hurt feelings. You have cameras following you in a reality series, I’m sure it can be quite intimidating to have to hide feelings

She accused Sean of being an outright liar and nothing he said was true. Throughout the whole time talking, Dr. Logan Levkoff was making faces and shifting her body back and forth in annoyance. I noticed how she looked at the spiritual adviser Greg Epstein in total disgust.

Did I miss something? Why were the advisers so upset? Even Dr. Cilina made a comment about Davina taking responsibility for her actions.

Just as I was taken in by the first season, I now question the second season and so forth. Were any of these couple ready to be married or was it they just looked good for television because they were all pretty?

At some point when Kevin had asked her a question relating to their relationship their wedding picture posted in the back suddenly drops to the floor and fell again when both Sean and Davina were in the room together discussing the demise of their relationship. *creepy*

When Sean was interviewed by Kevin, he admitted he was not ready to make any kind of move to NYC, even though in his application he claimed he would be willing to relocate. Isn’t that a lie right there? #justsaying

He also mentioned how Davina would shut down and how that would make his defense mechanisms go up and shut down as well.

The main theme with both is, they were not willing to budge or make a sacrifice in their relationship. And while the “experts” felt they were a perfect match, clearly both were not ready to make a real commitment to any kind of relationship. But they sure looked good on camera didn’t they…? #justsaying

Dr. Levkoff mentioned out the six weeks they were together they spent 10 to 16 days of that together. So they failed the experiment, not the other way around. Hmm?

Moving on to Jessica and Ryan who if anyone remembers the heated arguments they had together. I think Jessica spent more time berated by Ryan while she said there and cried about how she was afraid to express herself.

I can relate to that on MANY levels. No joke. When I was with my ex, I barely said a word sometimes in our arguments. Sometimes, yes, it can be quite intimidating but let’s be real here now….was Ryan really ready to be committed in a marriage? I don’t think so. Probably the worst match to date. I’m sorry but finding common grounding like they both have the same career path, similar childhood and/or lifestyle, doesn’t make a perfect match. Does it help? Yes, I certainly don’t dispute that. However, it’s not the ends all that says all, this is the perfect relationship because our panel of experts said so.

Noticing the whole time, Dr. Levkoff had not one smile on her face. Happy that Jessica was able to find her own voice, but really, through verbal abuse? That’s not finding your own voice. What was wrong with her before… where she needed to be in an abusive relationship to find her voice? Unheard of!

I’m confused.

While Kevin asks where are they now in their relationship, Jessica admits after the six weeks, Ryan needed a break and moved back to his place where they can get some breathing space. I don’t know. This doesn’t sound like a couple who were happy and in love. Oh wait was it the part where he called her all sorts of names when she accused him of taking the $100.

She also claimed on Valetine’s day they did not spend the day together but after visiting his apartment a week or so later, she found a card from another women dated this year. True or not I think anyone would find that quite disturbing, even when confronted by Ryan, he didn’t dispute someone sent him a card, but he said he had no control over who sends him greeting cards.

Okay, I can buy that. It’s true, you can’t control who sends you shit in the mail. For all we know it could have been some jealous girl or ex girlfriend who didn’t like that Ryan got married to someone else and probably believes she can be more fulfilling than Jessica.

Whatever the case is, I was surprised at the season finale they decided to stay together. This was not a compatible couple at all!

When both together sitting on the couch, Jessica brings up the $100 thing again and whips out a crisp one hundred dollar bill and gives it to him as he storms off the set. He didn’t want to answer if he was seeing someone else (he probably was and he doesn’t have to answer), but I also think that Kevin Frazier, who’s a terrible host, didn’t help the situation by asking him the question which only made him upset. Hello Kevin, did you not watch the show. The guy explodes at the drop of a dime. There’s a way to ask certain uncomfortable questions without being an ass about it. Everyone wants the inside scoop but you can’t be a jerk about it.

Needless to say, it was clear this relationship was a fail. It was so bad, you almost forgot why the “experts” paired them up in the first place.

Last but not least, Jaclyn and Ryan (who Kevin said was the nation’s favorite couple) – I missed that memo Kevin, you think you can pass the tip off to my marketing department. SMH.

Jaclyn who was single and abstinent for more than seven years was paired up with Ryan who she was not initially attracted to.  But somehow they really seemed to make it work, at least in the beginning. Jaclyn is a very straight forward woman and when you’re single, for a long time, sometimes those walls can come up and it’s not easy to open up to someone. I wouldn’t have suggested this at all to someone who’s been single for a long time to have their life uprooted and changed for a complete stranger.

Ryan’s interview was short, he talked about the great relationship Jaclyn has with his mom but when both paired up on the couch and Kevin asked them if they were still together, the answer was no.

I was surprised. They seemed to really want to work things out but like everyone else, I think they couldn’t wait to get away from the other person and go back to their comfortable life. While they both expressed they still had feelings for one another, Dr. Levkoff suggested they go have dinner and she’ll pay for it.

Of course she would….why not? The experts are trying to save face here people.

All of these relationships were doomed from the start.

Sean had no plans moving out from Jersey to move into cluttered Manhattan. Davina wasn’t moving out from an apartment she bought in the city and in some ways who can blame her. People are going to love Manhattan or not.

Ryan and Jessica have individual issues they need to settle as individuals and not as a couple. They both like to spite each other and in my book that’s not a real or even healthy relationship. I’m sure anyone can agree on that. Who wants to be fighting all the time?

As for Ryan and Jaclyn, it may work but then again it may not. I think if it was going to work maybe a kind of courtship can help, like dating and talking and not just jumping into bed right away. Sex is good but it’s not always the solution. It’s just a temporary, feel good, for the moment action. You still have to deal with the person on a day to day basis after and will they be willing to do that?

I can say this. After watching this horrendous season, I would be surprised if Season 3 turns out to be a success.

As for the experts, they are just part of the show. Maybe the producers will find looks will not make the show but to have interesting people who are willing to make this sacrifice to get a real discussion going on.

One thing they do need to do is get rid of Kevin Frasier and put me up there as the host after the season is over. I will take it a better level. Move over Kevin.

A real talk show host is waiting to take your spot.

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Married At First Sight – Cohabitation and Happy New Year

Ryan D. and Jaclyn

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After Ryan and Jaclyn were able to establish a living situation, they consummated their relationship. However, this relationship didn’t start off as a romantic one.

When those doors opened up it was similar reaction to Jamie when she married Doug. Not a very happy one. And even though Jaclyn said, “I do”, inside she was screaming, “I don’t”. Makes me wonder why women continue to just say yes to something where they really want to say no.

Anyway, getting back to this couple, because they are reality television, I’m sure they had to sign some kind of disclosure saying they would stick with this for the next six weeks and even though a honeymoon can make everything exciting, reality is what sets in when the vacation is over and real life steps in.

For this couple things seems to be getting off on a good foot, however, because of Jaclyn’s very possessive and strong attitude, it seems that she tries to castrate Ryan by playing the man role too, instead of just letting Ryan be the man in the relationship.

Behavior like this for me is when someone is really not that into you and will play the role of, “let’s be buddies and hang out and get to know each other.” I think they had a show like this on Bravo who followed couples that were best of friends but one of them was secretly into the other….I don’t know whatever happened to that show. Bravo goes through shows, like ATL Housewives go through hair weaves.

I’ve been known to go out on dates with guys that I was not interested in and would take over the conversation to ensure that this will not go any further and they will remain in the friend zone. Since I don’t like to play games, rest assured, it ended that night when the date was over.

Ryan lived with his family and extremely close to them. Due to the loss of his sister and then his brother in law, he was raising his niece, basically stepping in as the parents this little girl lost. Having to make a move and be away from his family, Ryan was definitely going through withdrawal but seemed ready to make the compromise and sacrifice to co-habitat with his new wife.

For Jaclyn, who seemed to struggle with the new man in her life, started to see a different side of Ryan once they began to get their house in order.

While I agree with Dr. Joseph, there is a side of yourself you have to let go in order to allow someone in your life, you also have to do it with common sense. Just because a doctor told you that this is your ideal mate it doesn’t mean that’s necessarily true.

I think what is lacking in this relationship like the rest of the cast is the courting which seemed to take place with Cortney, Jason, Doug and Jamie. They all were very committed to making their relationships work which included romance.

I’m not really seeing that with this couple…for now at least. Jaclyn is a very outspoken woman and you know sometimes, guys don’t like that. While they like women who exude strength they certainly don’t like to look like an idiot.

New Year’s day, visiting her family, she made it a point to share that under no circumstances she wants to have a child after 35. And not saying this in private but saying this in front of her family.

I think in relationships, there are certain conversations you should have in private and not in front of family members. This was definitely not topic of discussion saved for family and friends.

Davina and Sean

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The team of experts paired Davina and Sean on the main commonality that they were both bullied while growing up. Davina lives and owns an apartment in New York, which Sean owns a house in New Jersey. Both have agreed that for now living separate during certain days of the week while Sean goes to work, will just have to work for the time being. Even though Davina doesn’t like this idea, this is something that she’s temporarily dealing with only to appease Sean.

Here’s another couple with a situation where one loves living in New York while the other isn’t really having it. I think once someone lives in New Jersey and becomes accustomed to living a certain lifestyle, who really wants to live in the hustle of New York. If the man has to drive into work, who wants to drive back and spend an enormous amount of money for parking? Not ideal for New York City living.

Davina isn’t willing to make a compromise.

Sean made a private call from Dr. Joseph regarding their relationship how the chemistry was initially strong to now a friendship level of relationship.

While Dr. Joseph informs Sean to not be hard on himself on his feelings and anxiety, he should find understanding on himself and be accepting of what he’s feeling and find a solution through it.

I think Dr. Joseph is right, BUT, let’s be real here….I mean, this is reality television isn’t it?

Davina comes from a culture where most relationships are arranged, therefore there isn’t really a pursuit or courting. However, Davina who is Americanized and has exposure to American culture understands what is means to be courted or romanced. At least that is what we are taught. Just tune in to, “Say Yes to the Dress”, that’s all you hear and quite honestly that’s what women want. So what happens when you meet someone and marry them at first sight? Where is the romance? Sounds like a repeat of Ryan R. and Jaclyn.

Ryan D. and Jessica

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Now this couple, I questioned on every episode. They did have sex the first night and I’m sure they plenty of sex during the honeymoon, but after the honeymoon, everything changed and things got pretty serious and pretty nasty in a matter of three short weeks.

Jessica is not a girl who communicates her feelings at all. She says she cooks but she doesn’t cook, she says she wants closet space but she doesn’t express that, she says the kitchen will always be clean but gets a nasty response in return. He gets angry because she irons on the bed, she’s tired of sushi, she’s mad because he took their wedding money for himself, oh and let’s forget how he thinks pierces are nasty or tacky and she took out her Monroe piercing to “make a change” but yet he has a shit load of tattoos. What the fuck?

Ryan is very ghetto when he talks to her and Jessica seems to get shut out when she does. They continue to have big arguments and even after celebrating New Years Eve together as a couple, I didn’t see a loving couple at all.

It’s almost as if when everything is good, it’s really good, but just for the time being and when everything is bad, it’s really bad.

So far the last few episodes ending with Happy New Year so far isn’t happy for all of the couples.

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Married at First Site Season Two – New Couples New Problems

married-at-first-sight-season-2-weddingsThe season starts with three new couples who are paired once again by the experts, Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Joe Cilona, Dr. Logan Levkoff, and spiritualist Greg Epstein.

The couples are Sean and Davina, Ryan R and Jaclyn and Ryan D and Jessica

How the experts paired these couples it seemed were based on past experiences.

For Sean and Davina, both experienced bullying in their childhood lives. Davina who is Indian and beautiful, I must add, was bullied as a child for being different. Her father had abandoned their family when she was growing up so she lacked that experience of having a man figure in her life, however, it seems it doesn’t affect who she is as a woman. Davina reminds me of me in some ways. Yes as a child I was bullied but I did have a present father growing up who never abandoned our family. She, like me, also prefers Caucasian men. Not sure if it’s a thing where she has the same reasons as to why she doesn’t like Indian men as the way I’m not attracted to Latin men.

Both she and Sean worked in the medical field, Davina in pharmaceuticals and Sean in trauma.

Ryan R and Jaclyn both said their “I do’s”, however Jaclyn who hasn’t had sex in more than two years has big reservations on Ryan R who’s really not attractive but not overly ugly. I can understand when she said that there’s something about his face that didn’t sit right with her. If you’re blind you would see it too. Definitely something going on with the front teeth, veneers of some sort so I get it. Sure I think it’s important to date someone with nice teeth, however it’s not a total deal breaker for me. If the man is good, makes money and can take care of you, she should give him a chance. I noticed though she does things that I normally would do when I’m not attracted to someone when I would go on a blind date and be a bit rambunctious – for example the way she threw his drink and told him he needs to drink this or in the next episode on their honey moon when she ordered the steaks for them instead of letting him order his own meal.

Ryan D and Jessica were both paired due to the same commonalities. They are both independent and have been single for a long time and family is very important. The stability of life is what’s important to the both of them.

The only couples that are immediately attracted to each other right now are Ryan D. and Jessica, Sean and Davina.  For Ryan R. and Jaclyn it seems that Ryan R. right now is not seeing that Jaclyn is really not that into him.

After the wedding, it was picture time and while all the couples seem happy in their pictures, it looks like Jaclyn’s brave face it starting to fail her as she’s becoming impatient and irritable. What I find strange is what Dr. Pepper Schwartz says physical match is not that important but trust in the experiment because they share essential values.

Really?

Why do people connect in the first place? Why is it that the other couples are getting along well? They are having that physical attraction. I believe, without that, tell me where the relationship is going. Granted he does not have to look like what women think Brad Pitt is, for me it’s Kyle Secor and Peter Coyote in his younger days, if there isn’t a physical attraction how can one move past that and fall in love with the other important qualities if you can’t see them on top of you.

For me I just can’t get past that. I have met the nicest of guys but if I was not psychically attracted to them, the men remained as friends and not anything more.

This season seems to also focus more on the family, along with their thoughts and feelings on the whole scenario on a blind arranged marriage.

While the couples are off after their husband/wife announcements and celebrating their nuptials at the reception, it’s now the time for the couples to be on their own in the hotel room.

Jaclyn is positive she will not be having sex with her husband Ryan, who’s mom mentioned earlier that she knows Jaclyn loves him as much as he loves her….? Um what?

Davina and Sean look like they are hitting it off very well, and Ryan D. and Jessica were sure not letting religion interfere with their relationship while Jaclyn struggles playing, “as if”, and wanting the experience to end.

Relationships take sacrifice, commitment, compromises and hard work. I can’t see someone making sacrifices for someone they barely know. Most people will chalk it up and say, “no love lost”, but will they ever learn anything from that experience by just taking the shortcut.

This is what people look for day in and day out. I have one person on my Facebook page that does nothing all day but bash women and talk about how he will only use them for sex. That’s the underlying notion that he really wants someone sincere and instead of putting himself out there and being honest, he’d rather sound like a scumbag.

Now while I can relate with is brutal honesty, the fact remains that what you put out there is what you will get.

For these couples, it’s just the beginning. And while some of them may be feeling the physical attraction, the question is will this outlive the reality of what it takes for a relationship to work and the one couple feeling the opposite, will they be the ones that will make a sacrifice to commit?

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