The Bachelorette E5 – Goodbye to Clint and Hello to Nick V. @KaitlynBristowe @chrisbharrison

IMG_8921The producers have learned a long time ago that just having one person courting a bunch of suitors or in the case bachelors just wasn’t enough. So why not turn up the heat by bringing in past bachelors into the fold of current suitors.

In this lovely episode of the Bachelorette, the episode picks up where it left off last week with Clint being confronted about his attitude after he feed a bunch of lies to Kaitlyn telling her that his sole intention was to be with her when he blandly told JJ (who also needs to go) that he just wanted a rose.

I think for the next season whoever the Bachelor/Bachelorette is, the producers should find people at least two of them where they are not into the them at all and solely there for camera time.

Oh wait, that’s already happening. Scratch that idea. Stupid me.

Anyway, so here’s this little skinny woman confronting this buff man on how he needs to go because there’s nothing left to say in regards to anything that will transpire between them. Doesn’t Clint remind you of someone that ended up having a date with himself in Bachelor Paradise, Kalon McMahon. He was the one Emily Maynard cursed out due to his baggage comment referring to Emily’s daughter.

Part of me felt it sucked to see Clint go. I was truly enjoying that relationship he and JJ were developing and it would have been nice to see the Bachelorette on a flip side of things.

I mean what man has cried on any season of the Bachelor for another man. He was in tears and couldn’t even talk. And after folding over in his tears he got up and smacked himself in the face (yes smacked himself hard) and told said out loud to himself to pull himself together.

After the commercial break, Kaityln begins her speech on another night of drama and without finishing her speech she pulls Chris Harrison aside to ask him if she can talk to him for a minute. I was pretty sure at the point that she was not going to have a rose ceremony and when she came back, my best guess was correct as she opt of sending anyone home.

I have to say, while she was talking to  C.H., Ian who hasn’t really gotten any time with her began asking all the guys who had time with her and how it was unfair those who didn’t get a rose should have fair game to spend time with her and assure themselves still in the running for Kaityln’s heart.

So even though no roses were handed out and everyone was safe, no one was really happy because that meant they were still dealing with JJ who insists he was not here for a man but here for a girlfriend. Okay…JJ, whatever you say. Sooner or later, you can’t deny who you truly are inside. Be free, my son, be free!

And with the C.H. announces to all the men to pack their bags as they are leaving the mansion forever and the next trip in their journey to find love will be in New York City.

The next day the group of men happily waits for the date card as they check out their hotel room in the heart of New York, Times Square. Shawn who’s confident that he and Kaitlyn have something special (also I think he’s the one that will be the man standing in the end) was excited to pursue the prospect of being with her and spending more time together.

The date card arrives for the first group date in New York is as follows: Jonathon, Justin, Ben Z., Corey, Ryan, Tanner, JJ, Shawn. “Let’s keep our love fresh”

Yet another date where the guys get a chance to make fools of themselves by rapping and walks in Doug E. Fresh (….Let’s keep our love “fresh”).

Everyone makes a choice of who they are going to battle, with Doug E. Fresh being a mentor. Really now, you can’t expect for any of these guys, where rapping is truly an art form, to rap within five minutes and be ready to battle it out in front of a live audience.

But…this is The Bachelor where the never ending ways of making a fool out of everyone is the goal.

In the back of the room, the camera pans to Nick V. and Ashley from last season, remember she was the virgin who left hysterical crying after Farmer Chris ditched her and Kelsey in Deadwood, SD. (It was pretty funny).

I have to say boy was Kaitlyn giddy when she met Nick for the first time. It was almost as if we forgot how the guys just made fools of themselves rapping, that Doug E. Fresh was their mentor, where did all that go? It was the Nick V. and Kaitlyn show.

Was love unfolding or pure lust? Remember that when all these bachelor/bachelorette people come together in their parties, etc. who knows who they are meeting and bedding at the same time. It’s one big orgy.

While Kaitlyn takes the time out to talk to Nick and find out why he’s there, he admits that he wanted to meet her and then the big question, “how long are you here”, and Nick replies, “well that’s up to you, isn’t it”.

Talk about awkwardness. Hello, hello, think Kaitlyn, think…..you’re the Bachelorette.  You have the guys downstairs waiting for you.

After spending a bit of time with Nick, it seems “reality” strikes, “hey I’m a group date, Kaitlyn tells Nick she needs to think about it over night.

Boy oh boy that Nick is a charmer. If I were Kaitlyn, I would have bought him down on the group date and rapped to all the guys, here’s Nick V from Andi sea….

I’m not going there.

Moving on.

When Nick was interviewed he said that last season was extraordinary but not that much fun. I guess that’s another way of saying that Andi was a bore in bed…makes me wonder why it didn’t work out with Josh.

Back on Entertainment Cruises, as the guys approach, here is Kaitlyn still stuck in the Nick mode and it’s clear she’s different now that Nick has shown his face to be part of the game and Kaitlyn does admit she’s interested in having Nick there with the guys.

It’s funny how all the guys had something negative to say about Nick throwing Andi under the bus saying they slept together.  Look shit happens, I mean really? Does anyone think that anyone going in the fantasy suite doesn’t do anything whether they kiss and tell or not.

And even after Kaitlyn admits to the guys that she wants to bring Nick, here is Nick waiting for her on the boat, waiting with open arms and a kiss in tow. If anyone thinks Nick is going home, think again. I think I felt that kiss through the television screen!

Back at the hotel the date card arrives and Jared gets the one on one date. The guys still on the boat, Kaitlyn comes back after spending her one on one time with Nick she gives the group date rose to Justin, leaving Tanner to comment that it was probably the least meaningful rose in the history of the Bachelor. Really Tanner? Where is your one on one date card?

The next day after much sleep and thought, Kaitlyn called Nick to set up a meeting so she can make a choice on what she decided to do and while she said after a month of being with these guys and claiming to have serious feelings for them (one month people), she met up with Ashley from Farmer Chris season while getting her hair done to discuss her feelings with Nick…while Ashley says that it may be lust, I didn’t think that was sound advice.

Needless to say bypassing all the stupid drama with the cab ride and Kailtyn walking to 6th and B to meet Nick, Kailtyn made her decision and decided to keep Nick.

I was not surprised by her choice. Look at how giddy she was when she first met him.

Anyone feel like the one on one date with Jared was a yawner. I was feeling like I wanted more Nick and Kaitlyn.  Oh but we had to put the promos in for The Met and Neal Lane jewelry. It’s funny how they showed Jared running his mouth and how they made it seem like Kaitlyn’s mind somewhere else and I’m sure it was. Jared seems like a really sweet guy but he’s definitely not the one for Kaitlyn and I don’t see him as one of the top four.

Back at the hotel, the guys can’t seem to let go of the fact that Nick is going to be part of the group as the date card arrives the next group date is as follows: Ian, Chris (Cupcake), Joe, Joshua and Ben H. The clue is, “Let’s play”.

Notice who keeps going on the group date and who gets the one on one date.

Back at The Met, Kaitlyn who seems back in the game, gives Jared a rose….I feel this is a date with a brother and sister…it just doesn’t mesh well at all. The date ends in a helicopter ride, so easy to fall in love huh…

The next day after the one on one with Jared, Kaitlyn stops by the guys room to tell them that she’s decided to keep Nick and that he will be moving in that night. This didn’t sit well with the guys at all and that he’s going to be part of the rose ceremony. I think if anyone thinks that Nick is taking away a rose from them, I have news, I don’t see Ian moving forward in this episode.

The group date was another promotion of the play Aladin where the guys had to do an audition and appear in the play later on that night.

cupcake aladinAnother clownish performance with the biggest clown being Cupckae Chris (no surprise there) and guess who got the part while all the guys went back to the hotel. Yep, you guessed it, Cupcake Chris. Joshua’s point about how Cupcake Chris behaved during the audition if he did that he would’ve gotten beat up when he got home. Very funny! Thankfully they did not have to sing, because if I were in that audience and bought a ticket I would want my money back immediately.  The guys were watching with Kailtyn and Cupcake to do their part in the play, they realized all of the audition was basically a waste of time. There could have been better things to do but I keep forgetting this is a promotional item.

While Cupcake and Kaitlyn were in the dressing room waiting for their call, Chris is pushing himself on her when he said, “gimmie kiss”….Gimmie kiss? UGH.

I can tell she only did it just to do it and then go away. She was more excited being on the stage and that was it.  Even after their five seconds on the stage while he kept pressing his dry lips on her she turned her head away like no more.

Back at the hotel, the guys are waiting for Nick to show up while complaining as to why he’s there. He’s there because Kaitlyn has interest in him and they just don’t seem to get that.

Sadly the cupcake got a rose.

And Nick got on the elevator off to the lions den…

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Viewing my World…A Little Bit Of Me…..

IMG_0798So most times, if not all the time, I use my WordPress to write my sarcastic thoughts about the Bachelor/Bachelorette like most people will that blog about this show.

But at times, I give a little of me almost as a therapeutic way of getting in touch with my own feelings as I continue to write my autobiography, which I have to say has been extremely difficult and for specific reasons, specifically on something I shared with my neighbor earlier today.

Last night as my phone chimes off from my news apps of the lunatic who shot up people at a bible class in church in South Carolina, I opt out of sharing breaking news I normally would. I needed to disconnect.

It was no surprise that everyone started blowing up social media timelines of their opinions on this person, as stated above, lunatic.

My neighbor and I were talking earlier as Friday is usually a day that we walk our dogs longer than usual and discuss life.  I needed the time to get away and unwind due to my current living situation which for some, I’ve made no secret of my disdain when it comes to my sister and her husband.

My sister has been living with me for the last two years due to a irresponsible husband that cannot keep a roof over her head. He is married who likes to play the field (allegedly).

He is not welcomed in my home.

He is the main reason why my family has much disconnect.

Why, is the question we give this piece of shit so much power.

Why my sister loves this man is the question that no one can answer.

He is well loathed (yes well loathed) in my family.

No matter what anyone says, at the end of the day, he’s a piece of shit in the present, to the past and eternity. Period. The End.

With that being said, while my neighbor and I were talking, I shared with her a story about my father. When I was a young girl, my father went out and worked every day to keep a roof over out head and have food on the table. I never, ever, saw a day of not having to eat, having clothes on my back and shoes on my feet. My father always ensured our well being.

While things weren’t all roses growing up with my father, I know he always had our best interests, even if at times we didn’t feel that way.

Being a grown woman, I can definitely understand why my father made the choices he made for us and you know back in the day, upbringing was different than they are these days. Our technology has changed the way in how we communicate and how we interact with one another.

So back when I was little. My father owned his own business. From my understanding, there was internal theft going on with one of his family members that caused him to lose his business which led to my father having to search out for a job. While typing the cover letter, every time he made a mistake he had to throw away the paper and start all over again which only infuriated him.

Thinking back on how he typed from throwing out letter after letter, to avoid sending a letter with a typeo, made me really emotional sharing this story. It was painful to see my father having to humble himself looking for a job after losing a business. Of course as a child you cannot equate the words with the feelings but today, I have a better understanding of what I was feeling.

There’s a saying uses in 12 step meetings, “by any means necessary” – which means that no matter what is going on in our lives, we must stay clean in order to ensure our integrity of our clean time. Without having a clear mind, you cannot make clear choices.

While my father was not using drugs, the concept is the same.

Not once did we feel a stress that our home was threaten. I never saw a housing court growing up.

Looking at my sister’s life and her poor choice of a husband, I’ve sarcastically asked, “we did grow up in the same household?”

I know she’s not the only one who’s in a place where she sees the good in someone who’s just a low down dirty piece of shit that contributes nothing to his wife and his children. He’s has not made one single effort to take responsibility to say, “this is my family and I will find us a place to live so we can be together as one unit.” He doesn’t care. He only cares about himself. Someone who clearly didn’t look up the meaning of marriage.

The word marriage is another form of emancipation. “Who gives this girl away….” (hint hint)

My father never gave away my sister for marriage. She did it in secret. Running to the court house to do a quick wedding and guess what, we were all supposed to be happy.

I have learned when you do things in secret, there’s a guilty part of you that knows it’s wrong. Why get any advice from friends and family that will tell you the truth when you can listen to a man who will lie to you and tell you everything you want to hear and give you a fantasy that will never come true.

Back in the nineties they called it champagne taste with beer pockets.

After more than twenty years, and about seven roofs over their heads and now mine, where does this all go? After two years of her living rent free (oh she pays the cable bill) when does it all end where I get my life back and my living situation back to normalcy?

I would have never thought my sister would do the same thing to me what she has done to every other homeowner where she’s rented an apartment and they’re good with paying their rent for about three months, when all of the sudden, they just decide, “well if we’re late, so what or we don’t feel like paying rent because we don’t like you…”

Responsibility is a big word. Sometimes it’s too of a big word for some people like my sister’s husband who enjoys having his cake and eating it too. Not once has her children with him said anything to me like, “thank you for keeping a roof over our head.” His older son has already taken the lead like his father. The apple does not fall too far from this tree.

I mean we did live in the same household….right?

For me, my father signified a pillar of strength and consistency. I have always told my friends when advising them, consistency will tell you a lot about another person. In this case, my sister’s husband has been completely consistent about being an irresponsible father and husband for the last twenty years.

Yes, consistency can tell you a lot about a person.

BTW the image is a tee shirt I bought when I was at Cannon Beach in Oregon.

Oh! On a side note, I went to my ex’s place to write (yes the one I broke up with in 2000 and thus created a magazine called Kink~E Magazine after discovering my voice) 😉 – He has a new girlfriend and you know that you’ve grown up when you can see two people being affectionate with each other and be happy for a person that you were not happy with. Sometimes it takes a while for people to figure that out. It’s called co-dependency (that’s a whole other topic for a whole other blog).

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

#TheBacholerette @kaitlynbristowe @chrisbharrison – E3 Kupah Stupah

abc_bachelor_katilyn_jc_150227_16x9_992In any of the seasons of the Bachelor or Bachelorette, you will find if not one but a few of the contenders not only seeking love but seeking camera time. In this case Kupah which I will discuss towards the end of his idiotic episode.

The episode started off with Chris Harrison catching up with Kaityln in being the new bachelorette.

Date Card: Daniel, Justin, Jarod, Cory, Tanner, Kupah, Ben H. and Ben Z. date card reads, “I see this ending with a ring” – makes me wonder who’s really writing these date cards, being they reflect the date and how much input does Kaitlyn have on the setting up of the dates.

So the first group date has to do with sparring. I’m sure that everyone has signed a disclosure that they don’t plan on suing the Bachelor Production people and ABC executives in the event they get hurt. I mean thankfully no one has ever been killed with their dumb dare devil stunts and kissing in the middle of the air, just to catch a fucking moment on camera.

Anyway…back to the show.

Before the group card arrived most of the men were discussing who they had initially chosen Britt. One of them of Jonathon, if you recall his intro he was gun-ho about meeting Britt and in his mind seemed to be shacking up with her and having her be a mom to his kid, in Detroit, no less. I can’t see anyone leaving sunny weather 365 for cold seasons.

Tony, was another one who picked Britt, but I think we can safely say that we can’t take Tony seriously. The man introduced himself to both Britt and Kaitlyn telling them the same exact thing. Words like that can’t be taken seriously by someone who behaves like a Guru. I don’t think a Guru behaves this way.

Kupah voted for Britt and we can see that he’s there just for camera time and not really for anything else.

Here’s my whole thing, how can a man have a connection with one woman, vote for her and then realize that she’s not the one he voted for, why would he stay? Well it’s the Bachelorette and if you get a chance to show face on television, why not? I highly doubt with Kupah’s ending that he would be the next Bachelor.

Cut to Britt at the hotel room, calling her mom and crying her eyes out, due to the fact that she was not chosen as the Bachelorette. As she ended her call, there’s knock on the door and there stands Brady, who left the night before after he told Kaitlyn that his heart left with the woman who left a few hours before. Curious to see where this goes….

So the group date begins what seems to be a destination of a boxing club where everyone would be getting a lesson from the one and only Laila Ali. Was that googaly eyes Kupah made at Laila?

While everyone was in their training zone, some guys took some time out to talk to Kaitlyn one and one while Kupah was out practicing his boxing because that was way more important.

After practice, Laila spills the beans that they will be boxing each other.

kaitlyn-2-2The boxing match begins with Ben Z. and Daniel and sadly after Ben Z. threw punch after punch at Daniel the towel gets thrown in and the fight it over. One point for Ben Z.

The next match was with Corey and Justin and Justin and then cut to Ben H. and Jared and Jared was not playing at all. He dropped Ben H. like a sack of candy.

When Tanner and Kupah got into the ring it lasted but all of thirty seconds before the towel was thrown in. I guess Kupah missed out on showing off all those moves he was working on before.

Since Ben Z. was the was the top contender he fought with Corey and won that round. Kupah who won, fought with Jared and surprisingly Jared won that round.

It came down to Jared and Ben Z. which left Jared not all together and as much as he wanted to savor his manhood and begging to see Kailtyn, his next stop was the hospital.

When they’re out lounging and having drinks, Kaitlyn mentions that her mind is more on Jared. Jared is kind of cute and Ben Z. even though he’s cute, he just seems to be a guy that a woman would have to worry about being faithful.

He did share about his mom’s passing when he was fourteen.

Justin shared about his son Aurelius….(“strong name”, Kaitlyn says), more like what kind of name is that for a child?

As she spoke to each one, the object of this segment of who’s getting the rose on the first date and while she’s having a conversation with Daniel, she gets a note that says, “come downstairs right now I need to see you”, we all know it’s Jared.

jarerd kissing kaitlynAfter taking a brief walk and he was telling her he was feeling really good, he steps in for a kiss. As cute as Jared is, he looks like he kisses like a fish.

As it was no surprise, Ben Z. gets the rose on the group date and gives him a kiss after her lips were just plastered all over Jared the fish. Kailtyn sure she saw fireworks? I have seen better kissing on Days of Our Lives.

The date card arrives for the one on one date and the first date goes to Clint.

Now this date was pretty cool. It was underwater shoots where they incorporated art in photography and the pictures came out flawless.

Tony who found out the group date had to do with sparring was disgusted and gave his analogy about love. It’s selfless, love is giving, being present, connection, discussions, possibilities, ideas and dreams, you should not fight for love. Really Tony? Then why are you there?

The next date card arrives and reads: JJ, Jonathon, Joshua, Chris, Ian, Joe and Tony and of course another horror of a group date where everyone makes asses of themselves trying to be a comedian. But this gives a chance for the ABC executives to invite celebrities to endorse themselves.

the-bachelorette-premiere-still-14While Tony is, elated, for lack of a better word to describe his demeanor, that Kaityln does know he exists, as he was talking to Justin he asked if Kaitlyn was supportive and Corey says yes and then Tony says,…”it’s great to know that Britt is supportive….”

Justin, “you said Britt”

Anyone watching this, did you roll your eyes at Tony’s stupidity?

Fast forward to the guys writing and practicing and insulting true comedians around the world, let’s get to Tony who spoke about….zzzzz

Certainly I won’t bore my readers with the details.

But yes the reason why Tony is here is to find love because he’s been training for this his whole life. The one on one was even creepier. Discussions about combination lock and she’s not a key turner and what they can create together….believe me when I tell you that conversation did not end with a kiss at all.

2912D20C00000578-3096907-image-m-25_1432616129357But her one on one with JJ seemed to have a stronger connection and he received the rose for the night.  Unfortunately, Joe’s make out session with throwing up Kaitlyn against the wall didn’t garner him a rose. However, it seems for JJ this is just a game and not much of anything else. It’s no wonder why he has a child and no woman by his side raising her.

And now for the rose ceremony and why Kupah is Stupah.

While everyone came a consensus to give the guys who didn’t have a date this week to get a chance to talk to Kaitlyn, JJ decided he was not going to join in and only out for himself, even while donning the rose on his jacket.

Shawn B, who didn’t get a date, to me, is one of the big contenders to be the last guy standing.  JJ definitely doesn’t have a chance. Sooner or later his true colors will come out.

Ian used the desperate card by begging for a rose in throwing some kisses over her way.

Kupah confronted JJ about his scandalous attitude, but he also questioned Kaitlyn on where she’s at and why he is there.

Their conversation didn’t start off well. I got the impression that Kaitlyn had no intention of giving Kupah a rose due to the fact at the boxing practice that he was more into Laila then he was into her. Let’s not forget Kupah voted for Britt, and he really had no intentions of really getting to know Kaitlyn. This was all about camera time for him.

Even after Kaitlyn told him before this talk she did feel a connection, their present conversation now has been a page turner, Kupah threw in compliments that were unnecessary trying to salvage himself, even after he made a fool of himself in front of the guys, even after Kaitlyn told him he needs to go…he takes a swig of his drink and then says he doesn’t want to go home.

So much for that camera time loss, Kupah takes it another notch because you know how they do their interview rejections, he took it up a few notches by screaming like an ass, making claims, how yes he was upset he didn’t get a rose, blah blah blah.

Of course now the rose ceremony will filter into the next week and my guess is that Tony will probably be salvaged and get a rose because Kupah basically assed himself out.

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To Be Continued…..

Married at First Site Season Two – New Couples New Problems

married-at-first-sight-season-2-weddingsThe season starts with three new couples who are paired once again by the experts, Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Joe Cilona, Dr. Logan Levkoff, and spiritualist Greg Epstein.

The couples are Sean and Davina, Ryan R and Jaclyn and Ryan D and Jessica

How the experts paired these couples it seemed were based on past experiences.

For Sean and Davina, both experienced bullying in their childhood lives. Davina who is Indian and beautiful, I must add, was bullied as a child for being different. Her father had abandoned their family when she was growing up so she lacked that experience of having a man figure in her life, however, it seems it doesn’t affect who she is as a woman. Davina reminds me of me in some ways. Yes as a child I was bullied but I did have a present father growing up who never abandoned our family. She, like me, also prefers Caucasian men. Not sure if it’s a thing where she has the same reasons as to why she doesn’t like Indian men as the way I’m not attracted to Latin men.

Both she and Sean worked in the medical field, Davina in pharmaceuticals and Sean in trauma.

Ryan R and Jaclyn both said their “I do’s”, however Jaclyn who hasn’t had sex in more than two years has big reservations on Ryan R who’s really not attractive but not overly ugly. I can understand when she said that there’s something about his face that didn’t sit right with her. If you’re blind you would see it too. Definitely something going on with the front teeth, veneers of some sort so I get it. Sure I think it’s important to date someone with nice teeth, however it’s not a total deal breaker for me. If the man is good, makes money and can take care of you, she should give him a chance. I noticed though she does things that I normally would do when I’m not attracted to someone when I would go on a blind date and be a bit rambunctious – for example the way she threw his drink and told him he needs to drink this or in the next episode on their honey moon when she ordered the steaks for them instead of letting him order his own meal.

Ryan D and Jessica were both paired due to the same commonalities. They are both independent and have been single for a long time and family is very important. The stability of life is what’s important to the both of them.

The only couples that are immediately attracted to each other right now are Ryan D. and Jessica, Sean and Davina.  For Ryan R. and Jaclyn it seems that Ryan R. right now is not seeing that Jaclyn is really not that into him.

After the wedding, it was picture time and while all the couples seem happy in their pictures, it looks like Jaclyn’s brave face it starting to fail her as she’s becoming impatient and irritable. What I find strange is what Dr. Pepper Schwartz says physical match is not that important but trust in the experiment because they share essential values.

Really?

Why do people connect in the first place? Why is it that the other couples are getting along well? They are having that physical attraction. I believe, without that, tell me where the relationship is going. Granted he does not have to look like what women think Brad Pitt is, for me it’s Kyle Secor and Peter Coyote in his younger days, if there isn’t a physical attraction how can one move past that and fall in love with the other important qualities if you can’t see them on top of you.

For me I just can’t get past that. I have met the nicest of guys but if I was not psychically attracted to them, the men remained as friends and not anything more.

This season seems to also focus more on the family, along with their thoughts and feelings on the whole scenario on a blind arranged marriage.

While the couples are off after their husband/wife announcements and celebrating their nuptials at the reception, it’s now the time for the couples to be on their own in the hotel room.

Jaclyn is positive she will not be having sex with her husband Ryan, who’s mom mentioned earlier that she knows Jaclyn loves him as much as he loves her….? Um what?

Davina and Sean look like they are hitting it off very well, and Ryan D. and Jessica were sure not letting religion interfere with their relationship while Jaclyn struggles playing, “as if”, and wanting the experience to end.

Relationships take sacrifice, commitment, compromises and hard work. I can’t see someone making sacrifices for someone they barely know. Most people will chalk it up and say, “no love lost”, but will they ever learn anything from that experience by just taking the shortcut.

This is what people look for day in and day out. I have one person on my Facebook page that does nothing all day but bash women and talk about how he will only use them for sex. That’s the underlying notion that he really wants someone sincere and instead of putting himself out there and being honest, he’d rather sound like a scumbag.

Now while I can relate with is brutal honesty, the fact remains that what you put out there is what you will get.

For these couples, it’s just the beginning. And while some of them may be feeling the physical attraction, the question is will this outlive the reality of what it takes for a relationship to work and the one couple feeling the opposite, will they be the ones that will make a sacrifice to commit?

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#TheBachelorette Season 11 E 2 The Decision @ChrisBHarrison @kaitlynbristowe

The Bachelorette Part II

the-bachelorette-recap-kaitlyn-wins-men-s-votes-britt-feels-embarrassedWhen Chris Harrison approached Britt, he was the bearer of bad news telling her that she was not chosen to be the Bachelorette and it was time for her to go home.

When Kaitlyn came into the room, you can see some of the men were excited and some were masking their faces really well.

Ian who was there for Kaitlyn from the beginning will probably not last very long.

Joshua, who’s a welder made a rose for her will probably not last every long either since he lives on a farm and we already been there done that.

Chris Harrison pulls out the First Impression rose and then of course all the men step up their game.

Tony who’s completely perplexed, because he came for Kaitlyn but then changed his mind and voted for Britt, wasn’t sure how to proceed.

Jared who initially was interested in Kaitlyn and then changed his mind and voted for Britt was forthcoming with Kaitlyn in telling her who he voted for. Kaitlyn then comes to the realization that there are men who are probably not there for her. Helloooooo?!?

Jonathon who voted for Britt also didn’t have a problem sticking around for Kaitlyn and basically said in so many words he had to rearrange with his emotions. Really? I mean come on. Be honest. This is all about staying on television. Another one that won’t last.

Chris the dentist wasted no time planting a kiss on her after his cupcake entrance, even though just before then, JJ seemed to win over Kaitlyn emotionally.

bachelorette-shawn first imprression roseAnd with much effort of the dentist, he didn’t garner the first impression rose, Shawn did and was able to plant no one but two long kisses from Kaityln who was obviously very much into him.

Now for the first Rose Ceremony. Kaitlyn handed the roses as follows:

Chris (the dentist)
Ben H.
J.J.
Joe
Kupah (voted for Britt)
Daniel (voted for Britt)
Ryan B.
Joshua
Tony (voted for Britt)

In the middle of the ceremony, Brady stops the ceremony and ask Kaitlyn if he can speak to her. While all the men are freaking out thinking that Brady is trying to get his way of getting a rose, she comes back to inform the guys that Brady has chosen to leave because his heart was with the woman who left a few hours ago.

After talking with Chris Harrison and asking him to help him get together with Britt, he leaves saying, “The risk of love, whatever the consequence, is always, always worth it.”

The ceremony continued on….

Clint
Corey S.
Jonathon (voted for Britt)
Cory Shiver
Ben Z.
Tanner
Ian
Justin
Jared (voted for Britt)

Who went home:

Carpool guy, Stripper guy, and other not memorable guys walking out of the mansion.

The highlights were interesting. As you can try and guess who she’s with what looks like one on one dates with Clint, Ben Z., Jared, Shawn but then something changes, when Nick. V. from the Andi season comes in and it seems the way she says his name that she’s been with him before. However, it doesn’t seem as though she didn’t have sex with him but with someone else.

Maybe Chris Harrision was right. Maybe this will be the most dramatic season yet.

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@KEMTopTalk Welcomes @BettanyHalle aka Cassandre Dayne

CDayneAfter a bout with sickness and recovering last week I’m  back with a great show featuring Cassandre Dayne, erotic and thriller author of more than one hundred and seventy books. Her bio below:

Cassandre Dayne is the award winning, best selling author of over one hundred and seventy books She is also a blog talk radio host of ‘The Edge’, highlighting authors, publishers and other artists who take their creative pieces to a raw and unconventional precipice. Her works as Cassandre have delved into various aspects of BDSM, D/s, edge play, domestic discipline, LGBT, poems and dark thrillers in books as well as her widely read blog. She also has a love of all things terrifying and pens horror and paranormal pieces. Cassandre is an advocate for education and continued understanding of a true D/s lifestyle, one widely mistaken as a form of abuse.

Cassandre and I talked about a wide range of topics from where her inspiration drives from, a woman’s preservative on serial killers, spanking fictions, BDSM and lots more. Master_Vyle joined in the chat room. Lots of good points were bought up on the show especially when we talked about the lack of sex education and the choices that any woman or man can make to protect themselves from STD and parenthood, which sadly is still a trending problem.

Honorable mentions and shout outs where made throughout the show:

Ray Sostre (@anarchy0029), Robert Ropars (@robertropars), Planet L*A*W (@planet12law), Danny Blaq (@dannyblaqvideos), Sin City 411 (@SinCity_411), Sybian (@sybianmaker), Galen Fous (@FetishSexExpert), Master Vyle (@Master_Vyle), Kimmie Kaboom (@TheKimmieKaboom)

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Look out for our new issue coming out soon www.kinkemagazine.com and of course replays of the show can be found here http://www.blogtalkradio.com/kinkemagazine or here www.kemtoptalk.com

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Thanks for listening!

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

The Bachelor @C_Soules Hometown Dates – Bye Britt :-( AND Carly (YAY)

021615-bachelorbecca1stdateContinuing from last weeks episode, Chris has a one on one date with Becca who I believe he will wind up with in the end. She still has not told Chris that she is a virgin and has never been intimate with any man whatsoever. She tells Chris that she was in a relationship that was on and off but that she had never been in love with him or in love with anyone else for that matter which seems to take Chris aback. Fear perhaps? This is a grown woman who has never felt love for any man. (Three cheers for Becca for not falling for BS and standing her ground.) Back at the hotel,

Britt sits with the girls and ask them what they’re chatting about and Whitney says that they’re talking about Becca and what could be going on on their date and about last night which clearly was not the starring role for Britt. Britt confesses to the girls that she believes in her heart that she is going home and that she’s not going to get a rose so she packed up her things in preparation to leave however if there is a chance that Chris will choose her then she will stay.

That leaves Carly asking a bunch of questions and making sarcastic and antagonizing statements which only upsets Britt even more because Carly feels if Britt is not in the picture that will put her one level up which I don’t believe it will. The evening has dawned upon them for the rose ceremony.

Chris Harrison comes into the room and tells the ladies that there will be no cocktail hour and will go straight to the rose ceremony. Britt has already packed up her things with the intention of telling Chris that she has no plans on staying feeling as though because he gave Kaitlyn the rose after she had put her heart out there. Feeling as though is he worthy of meeting her family coupled with her heart may not be in the right place, she stops the rose ceremony and asks Chris if she can talk to him.

Even though she knows that having put her foot in her mouth, I can understand why she did what she did. What is the point of standing around in a rose ceremony knowing that you’re not going to get a rose when you just might as will say goodbye and get it over with. I think Kaitlyn is an idiot for even making a statement that she made that Britt should just grin and bear it. Why? Perhaps this is the closure Britt wants so she can leave.

I’m surprised even Kaitlyn made it this far also. During their private time while Britt and Chris were talking over each other and nobody was really listening to each other instead of Britt just telling Chris that it was not going to work out for either of them, they come a silence.

43-bachelor-week-7bAnd in that silence it is mutual  that this relationship is over and he walks her out leaving her hysterical crying. All the other girls seem to be empathizing except for Carly, who’s smiling and gloating at Britt’s pain. Chris now heads back to the ladies for the rose ceremony before hometown dates and the ladies that are left standing are Becca, Carly, Whitney, Kaitlyn and Jade.

Before he hands out the roses, he makes a statement that he wants to thank those who have addressed that Britt was being a phony. Huh? If that is the case why did he spend so much time with her and even taking her away from the other ladies to the big and Rich concert for which they were gone for more than an hour while he left all of them waiting and gave Britt a rose that night. Why did he just say earlier in the episode that she was the one he can see being married and having children? Talk about can conflict.

The roses were disbursed as following: Whitney Becca Jade BWAAhAaaaHa. And Carly? Kicked to the curb. Just as she should have been from the moment she came out of the limo with her toy. Continuing on with the episode the first hometown date he has is with Becca who is extremely excited to see him and excited to meet her family as well as she is excited to have him meet her family.

Here are some pictures I took from my television of Carly in the limo clueless as to why Chris let her go. The part of “what’s wrong with me I always end up in the same exact place” got me…what is wrong with her? Where do I begin? Her nasty attitude, the lies she made up to make herself look good, the green eyed monster. Who would want to see her as the next Bachelorette, raise your hands? I thought so. As a woman no one likes to be around nasty, jealous women who will throw them under the bus at the first chance they act upon their insecurity.

pathetic carly2 pathetic carly3 carly pathetic1Speaking of throwing people under the bus, hometown dates are strange because family members will say things that will also throw that person under the bus and ruin potential relationships with the bachelor or bachelorette. Becca’s sister pulls Chris’s side (you know that “private” chat) to tell him that Becca has never been intimate with a guy as far as holding hands or being affectionate and that she had seen them holding hands and she didn’t pull away which was a first. After having a conversation with her mom I don’t think that Chris is deterred from how he feels towards Becca.

Their date ends on a ferris wheel right before he tells her,  “I’m going to take you home with me”. I don’t know if that meant the ferris wheel ride or Arlington. Understand my confusion as he just mentioned the day before how he wanted to ride under the sunset with Britt. On his hometown date with Whitney it was all about her and her career and herself and how fabulous she is.

I guess it’s okay to toot your own horn except when your desperate.  I think shows should show a red flag for Chris because why would she leave that life? Nope! Why would he see that? On their way to meet her family he says he wants to be able to talk to someone to get their blessing I don’t know why he told her that because I don’t believe that he will choose Whitney in the end. At the same time…wow.

Was a choice made already? He eventually asked Whitney’s sister for her blessing and she was very forward and telling him that until she is the last girl standing he should wait to ask that question. She will not give her blessing otherwise. Good point. Despite the situation that is created around the bachelor I don’t believe that Whitney has fallen in love with Chris.

I think it’s just the surroundings and the circumstances where you have a bunch of women pursuing one man that makes one believe that they are in love with them without having them live the realities of life outside of the cameras. But Whitney loves the cameras.

On the hometown date with Kaitlyn she meets him from what looks like a seedy part of Phoenix, Arizona but it was actually a place where there’s a studio and they decided to record a rap song which was pretty bad. I’m not sure who comes up with these strange date ideas. While the family settings seem to the usual boring scene, after dinner Kaitlyn takes Chris to an advertising street sign where she placed Kaitlyn loves Chris.

Which I think is pretty awesome nice way to tell somebody that you love them not that it’s never been done before. An advertisement sign that overlooks the whole street is a big deal. On his hometown date with Jade in Gering, Nebraska, while everything seems to be going fine on the outside, Jade still has concerns because she had pose nude for Playboy and still has not told Chris.

Chris makes inquiries through her family members about Jade and they’re all pretty much saying the same thing. They all seem to express concern that Jade is not ready to settle down, she’s a wild girl, etc. it’s stuff like that that maybe your family should not be sharing with a potential life partner. When Jade took him back to, I’m gathering, her hotel room where she was staying while in Nebraska, she shared with him her secret about posing for Playboy and while Chris seem to have taken it in stride I knew that was the last nail that locked the coffin and the rose ceremony proved it. Was anyone surprised?

I was surprised that, she too, lasted for as long as she did. I believe the only reason why she had surpassed rose ceremony after rose ceremony was because his sisters had chosen her for his one on one, probably thinking they see something he hasn’t seen in her.

Look, if your dick doesn’t get hard and your pussy doesn’t get wet, that should be enough to tell you they ain’t the one. While he made it a point to tell her that his decision was not based on what she told him but more based on the relationships that he has developed with the other women, begs the question how much of a relationship does he really have with Becca?

While I believe Becca is the ideal woman for him, how long did it take for him to establish a relationship with her. In the whole spectrum of looking at the last four ceremonies he has had more of a connection with Britt than any other girl including Whitney.

I really felt for Jade but again I cannot see her settling down on some farm with Chris.

All in all this episode was extremely boring. The hometown dates were just the usual family gatherings with a family member pulling Chris’s side saying  “let’s have some one-on-one time”.

Bye Jade. We all saw that one coming. Really? Could you see her family looking at her with the same eyes the day they were all in Arlington knowing that she was naked in a magazine. People are so hard up. If Chris had real feelings for her and tossed them aside for the sake of conservative modesty, he made a big mistake. Oh did you notice those tears that Chris shed when he said goodbye to Jade. I didn’t see him cry for anyone like that.

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

@AndiDorfman Talks Breakup of a Relationship that Never Was @ChrisBHarrison

andi-and-josh-break-upChris Harrison changes scenes to talk about #BachelorNation with Andi Dorfman and her “shocking” break up with Josh.

Andi, very teary eyed, having difficulties discussing the break up and how she is coping. Chris asked her how did everything happen because at the premier they looked very happy.

Andi admits they have been struggling for a while in their relationship and it wasn’t something that happened overnight.  She was convinced for a while that she had made the right decision. She was 100% sure that her choice was the right choice.

She talked about the things they did together, cooking, spending time and being in love and when Chris asked about the premier and the wedding date – they really didn’t have an answer until they went back home and Andi confronted Josh as to why they didn’t have a date or even in discussions of planning a wedding.

Here’s the answer. Josh was not in love with Andi. He never was. Granted I wasn’t in the between the sheets with them, recalling Andi season, Josh was all about fulfilling his ego, making a name for himself on television. I think I mentioned maybe more than once or one hundred times in my blog about Andi season. This makes me think of Meredith Bachelorette season how she was so falling for Ian the very sexy eye candy guy in her season. Who wouldn’t fall for that but it was clear he was not feeling the same way for her and they broke up. “Surprise”

Josh was very full of himself in the Andi season. He wanted to act like the fucking savior and arguing with all the guys who were there when he found out their  intentions weren’t sincere . And the Boston guy, I forget his name, he was cute too but it was clear he was not into Andi either, he actually preferred blondes which goes to show you how low men can be on this show. On their trolley date he was staring off in the window probably wishing she was a blonde. Anything for air time! When you invite that camera into your life, trust me it’s hard to let go.

Nick, one of the final two and the one I thought she would have chosen, admitted to sleeping with Andi on the overnight date, aired “After the Final Rose”, was clear about his intentions. I believe he did love her and when he admitted what they did he didn’t come from place of malice, it was more like “How can we have such an intimate moment but you walk off the sunset with someone else?”

The fact is Andi fell in love with the wrong man. She wanted it so bad, but it wasn’t real and haven’t we all been there? Do I feel for her, sure I do. Her tears and pain were very real. I can relate on so many different levels having fallen in love with the wrong man in 2008. Back then it didn’t feel wrong and maybe that’s where we all falter as human beings. We get so caught up in that moment and we don’t think of our future with this person and how it may or may not turn out. Even after all of this time that has gone by, sad to say but true, I am still in love with this man. I will always have a love for him BUT at the end of the day, it’s all about realizing that some choices that were made in the past must stay in the past, not to be revisited or entertain thoughts of having that person come back into your life. They must stay gone in order for you to move on.

Andi is a smart and beautiful woman and while I really hated she choose Josh, at the same time I have deep empathy for her because I have been there and it really sucks.

I hope now she realizes that Josh is a lesson learned and that when she sees another bobble head like Josh coming along claiming he will sweep her off her feet, she runs the other way and never looks back.

The Bachelor Farmer Chris Soules E5 @c_soules

In this episode the girls are now leaving the house to go to Santa Fe, New Mexico where all of their dates will be.

Chris Harrison informs them that there will be two one-on-one dates and one group date.

Now that there are 11 girls left farmer Chris feels that they’ve passed the “getting to know you” stage and they should be all at a place where real and true relationships are forming.

Kelsey expressed the desperation that she really needed the one on one as well as Ashley while Whitney claims that she is falling for him (already?).

And surprise (and why?) Carly gets the first one on one date.

While Chris is waiting for Carly he says that he feels that she’s the perfect person for this date and feels they have a great friendship, but do they have anything more than that?

Carly and Chris’ date was guided by a spiritual guru who focuses on love and relationship through meditation.

The sessions consisted of playing a game of trust and Chris was blindfolded while Carly fed him an assortment of food and fruit, which instead of being sensual, turned out to a be sloppy mess and lacked a lot of chemistry.

carly being fakeI’m not sure why this date occurred, meaning the type of date. I really don’t think that this date was not appropriate and it was not a real way for anyone to get to know each other considering that this was a first one on one with Carly. They would’ve been better off having dinner and talking and getting to know each other. I don’t see Carly with him at all and had they had dinner and talked, probably Chris would have found out that no only does she have serious issues but she’s also not a very nice person. Hmmm no wonder her boyfriend of two years didn’t want to touch her.

And this love guru, if she’s such an expert she would have had them do a different type of exercise. Is this how she handles a couple on their first date? I don’t think I would want to strip with someone that I may not be interested in.

Cutting back to the ladies back at the house, Kelsey shares with the girls about her husband dropping dead on his way to work and Ashley I. found that it was strange that she decided to share the story and how nonchalant she was as she was telling the story.

I can sort of agree only because when Juelia was talking about her husband killed himself she was literally falling apart.

The group date card comes in and the names are read as follows Jade, Megan, Kaitlyn, Whitney, McKenzie, Becca, Samantha, Ashley and Kelsey.

Now this makes Britt excited because she has the one on one date with Chris and leaves Kelsey annoyed that again she’s stuck on another group date.

After the intimacy date Carly and Chris head back and have a dinner and she begins to discuss her past relationship. Apparently she spent two years with a man that she wasn’t physical with and how this affected her deeply. She wasn’t sure where the relationship was going and why wasn’t this man interested in taking the relationship a step further. First off, this is a major red flag. Hello Chris, wake up and smell the issues. Any woman that’s sharing this clearly has something going on. Really? Why would anyone stay with a man that’s not interested in her physically? What is the point of staying in that type of relationship? Carly clearly has some low self esteem issues going on and with all that being said, what does Chris do…he gives her the “blah blah” speech on how beautiful she is and gives her a rose.

Hashtag: Confusion.

On the group date all of the girls figured out that they were going white water rafting for which of course does not please Kelsey as she is focused on having that one on one time with him.

Chris expressed how important it is that a woman enjoys the outdoors because most of his life is spent outdoors and listening to Ashley I. who has clearly convinced herself that she is the one for him.

It’s so funny when something happens to someone on a group date and other girls start to make fun of what the situation, as per Jade, who fell in the water, so now everyone thinks she’s playing helpless victim so Chris can come to her rescue.

Whitney, who was on this group date expressing how important time is with Chris and how she really needs to have that one on one time with him now that the rafting date is over. As they are in the lounge waiting for Chris, he’s intercepted by Jordan who was eliminated in week two and for some reason she look completely different I didn’t even recognize who she was when she stepped over to Chris.

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She seemed very humbled as she expressed how important second chances were and apologized for her behavior. Blaming the wine she drank, she told Chris that it wasn’t really who she was and she didn’t get a chance to represent herself appropriately. Against the better judgment of himself, he decided to do that and bought Jordan right into the lion’s nest when the group of ladies were waiting for him and were none too pleased when he walked in with Jordan.

After some discontent from the ladies as each went on their one on one, Chris pulls her out from the group and sends her packing yet again. I’m not sure why Jordan came back in the first place, I mean is Chris that much of a contender that she drove all the way from Colorado to see if she can win his heart? I don’t know thinking back on the ladies that Chris got rid of, he definitely let go some good women that should have been there.

Of course Ashley had much to say on Jordan’s short return because she really thinks that her make out sessions locks in a rose for her. Apparently she believes she is the right person for Chris when she’s not. She also wasted her one to one time to compare herself to everyone else and failing to use that time to get to know one another…okay okay we all know that’s a waste of time. Ashley won’t even last to the top four.

chris and britt on hot air balloon The date card arrives for Britt. The card reads “the skies the limit”. Uh oh is this another jump off a high rise building moment? And Britt who would do anything for Chris spills the water works because she’s afraid of heights and she just cannot do anything that will involve jumping off anything.  Seriously who can blame her? How many dates have lasted with someone jumping off the building, making out (because it’s a romantic moment) and never getting to a top four?  Absolutely pointless!

Getting back to Jordan, (afterthought) even though Jordan seemed sincere, I was still feeling as I was watching that Farmer Chris is getting rid of some good women so why are Ashley and Kelsey there? Clearly these are two women who aren’t for him.

The priceless moment is when Chris gives his speech before handing the rose out how this particular woman makes him feel special and that he thinks that they have a lot of potential together. I know that Ashley didn’t think he was talking about her and why so shocked when Whitney got the rose. No one at that date looked happy after he gave her the rose.

Here are my thoughts on Whitney which I touched upon when she was talking to his sisters. She seems forced not a force to be reckoned with. And I also understand Ashley’s point about Whitney being a fake. I think it’s just coming to a point where she works as a fertility nurse seeing and working with all of these couples who are looking to have children. It’s kind of like if you’re hanging out at the barbershop where women with long hair would get short hair cuts, after you made it a point you would never chop off your hair.  Sooner or later, the short hair would look so appealing that you leave the barber shop with short hair.  Whitney is a career woman. Who will need a fertility specialist in a town of population 427?

The next day, Chris sneaks into Britt’s room to surprise her for their one on one date. As she’s getting up I’m back in what Carly said about Britt not bathing and goes to sleep with makeup. I think if women do that sooner or later they will care about their face and wash it and not worry that their husband will judge them for a natural look. However I did notice she wore those red sneakers quite often.

Terrified that she may have to jump off a building with Chris, she’s pleasantly surprised that it’s a hot air balloon ride.

While Britt and Chris were out on their date, Ashley gossiping that Britt had confided in her how Britt was happy being single she doesn’t understand why anyone would want to have kids. So in other words Ashley is insinuating that Britt is a liar and not here for the right reasons.

Carly,  who’s now emotionally invested, is worried that Chris’ relationship with Britt is a stronger connection than hers which leave her overly emotional. This is her first “relationship” where someone actually reciprocated their feelings towards her. So now she’s afraid in the time that she’s invested with Chris that it will fall through because of Britt.

Kelsey also chimes in with her comments about Chris and ruining her relationship with him. Um Kelsey, what relationship with Chris? Upon Chris’ return on his date with Britt (or it could have been the next day), Kelsey takes matters into her own hands and runs to Chris’ hotel room because the story must be told about her husband dying.

I’m pretty sure that Kelsey was going home this episode and from the looks of things she may have saved herself with her crocodile tears referring to her husband’s death.

At the rose ceremony nobody looked happy. They are all looking forward to having that extra one on one time with him for the cocktail rose ceremony because right now the only women who have roses are Whitney, Britt and Carly.

Tensions are running high as the women with no roses all express concern that they didn’t get enough time with Chris and while everyone is genuinely worried, Kelsey chimes in that she feels very comfortable that she will be getting a rose. Hmm talk about being overly overconfident and arrogant. And then she has a weird friendship with Britt because she seems to be hanging all over her but yet wasn’t she talking about her while Britt was on her one on one.

Chris comes in and makes a speech about a conversation he had with Kelsey that put things into perspective and in the middle of that speech he was overcome with emotion and walked out of the room. Up until then no one knew Kelsey had a conversation with him in private, in his hotel room. Now Kelsey had no choice but to disclose that she had this conversation with him and basically took advantage of the situation because she knew she wasn’t getting a rose.

Carly made a good point (surprisingly), saying that before Kelsey had this conversation with Chris he was fine, but then because she went behind everyone’s back, having this conversation, there’s a strong possibility that somebody else is going home because of what she did.

While Chris was talking with Chris Harrison, Kelsey tells the girls she knows what Chris is going to do and what decisions he’s going to make, and how time is precious, blah blah blah, going off on this weird tirade like she knows what the fuck she’s talking about.

Kelsey has barely had any kind of relationship with Chris and for her to say the things that she saying and talking about how she has to say goodbye to people because she knows what choices he made what the fuck is wrong with this woman. How do you sit there and cry your eyes out and in the midst of that start laughing like some kind of fucking weirdo.

Chris Harrison walks into let the girls know that farmer Chris has made up his mind and there will be no cocktail hour. Chris had made up his mind and he did not want to delay the inevitable, leaving now all the ladies uncertain about their future with Chris.

Ashley who relied on a make out session, was in hysteric of tears and Kelsey who was super duper confident, seems to be shitting in her pants as she gets up to use the ladies room where all of the sudden screams start  blaring from the other room and what looks like a paramedic helping none other than Kelsey who’s now on the floor, crying her eyes out…WTF?

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To be continued…

19 Kids and Counting – Out loud Thoughts of the Duggars

duggarsI usually wake up early in the morning about 7 am. During this time I feed my dogs and cats, mop up the floor and clean up any messes that happened in the middle of the night. Then I crawl back in the bed and tune to TLC where they show repeats of 19 Kids and Counting.

How on earth did I become addicted to this show? It’s not a major addiction but enough to peak my curiosity of the strangeness in this family.

I say strangeness without judgment, just the mere fact that this was not the way I lived my life so to me it’s strange.

Modesty. Something I never really was. I have big boobs and you know sometimes, they make an appearance. And believe me, I’m not one of those women that get mad when I man loses eye contact with what’s around him and leads to my boobs. No offense there. Also I own an adult magazine, which would go against the grain of what this family stands for. I never went on a date that was chaperoned, quite honestly, even though my parents didn’t like me growing up, they certainly were not there for any dates I had considering that once I turned 18, I was able to do almost whatever I wanted. And if you read through the lines, I didn’t get to anything until I was 18.

So now that you know a little bit about me, here’s why I think 19 Kids is so bizarre. This woman gives birth to 19 kids (obviously). They raise their children in the name of the Lord, Jesus Christ (still trying to figure out how a man became a lord but more on that in another post), they don’t believe in birth control, clearly and one of the daughters has been married off and pregnant already. I guess you start out young if you want to have a good round number of kids that can be a baseball team.

As I sit and watch some of the episodes I’m astonished at the rules that are place in these courtships,. Even courting alone, the man must ask the father, Jim Bob, permission to court his daughter and then moving forward must ask for her hand in marriage which happens rather quickly.

So during the courtship, the couple cannot hold hands, they can only do side hugs, a full on face to face hug is not allowed. And OH, no kissing, not until the wedding day. Romantic? No. Not in my opinion.

One of the daughter, Jill, who married Derrick, met him while he was living in Napal. Jill and her father took a trip there to meet him and Derrick asked her father for permission to court her. Jim Bob, had to make a quick decision as his wife was not there to consult with and gave Derrick his blessing. Whoopie!

Moving on. The day Jill and the whole entire family were waiting for Derrick at the airport, greeted Derrick with a full on hug. Uh oh.

The feedback was priceless. “Well other than they haven’t seen each other in two months, they just can’t let it happen again and “no hugging allowed, only side hugging”.

Makes me wonder if she got scolded for that, maybe reading a passage from the bible, that part about how you should only hug your fellow man from the side because if your body touches it just make spark up some horniness. Who knows.

As it was advertised in the ratchet publications, like US Weekly and Star Magazine, Jill’s wedding was a big deal. Then four weeks after this girl is married off, here she is pregnant. Well duh. No birth control that’s what usually happens.

I don’t know. I find the whole thing completely strange. But in the same note, I don’t. I completely understand. One of the things Michelle mentions (she’s the mother) that they home school their children.  With the way the world is today, if I had children, I would home school them too. Not because of anything else other than I want my child to be safe. I’m old school. If my child was hurt by another child, I would probably get my belt and beat the mother.

Minus the outrages church and bible beliefs, one of the things I do admire about this family is the love they have for one another. And watching this show makes me realize that I never had that “tightness” with my own family. I grew up with an angry and controlling father. I commend my father for standing up and being a man and fulfilling his responsibilities as a father because we all know that not many men do that. A perfect example is my sister’s husband, he’s good for sticking his dick to make himself feel good but not deal with the after effect that now you have children that rely on your guidance and presence.

This would beg the question, would this have made me a different person. Would I be a recovering addict/alcoholic? Would I own an adult publication, would I be the writer I am today? I don’t know. I can’t go back and change my family so we can have that closeness that the Duggers have and that’s really the only thing that I like about this family.

Otherwise the whole courtship thing, the chaperone, and not kissing before marriage is not natural. For the Duggars their life is based on what they believe the Lord wants for them. Hence the reason why they are home schooled so they aren’t influenced by outside entities that might deter them from shying away from the Lord. And why the girls are married off so young so they can procreate and have as many kids as they can so they can keep building on their community. I mean after all they will need more of them to marry each other off to make more.

Everyone is different and I get that but I’m also a romantic at heart. I believe that relationships should have the natural setting without feeling as though if you do things that are not allowed according to the “Lord” you will be punished. For me this is not natural. If there is a God, who loves unconditionally then there is no punishment for holding hands or hugging someone that you love.

Recently, Jessa sparked up some controversy with her facebook posts on God’s judgment. Yeah again this brings up that contradiction about how God loves unconditionally but if you engage in sex or porn or curse boy you will definitely feel the wrath of God.  Huh?

There was something that I saw not too long ago, probably on Facebook that said Jesus promoted Love not religion.

Religion is man-made. It’s the one thing that divides society. It’s the one thing that people get killed for and it’s the one thing people will die for.

We are people who enjoy love and being in love and that should never be wrong, no matter what you believe in.

With that being said, carry on Duggars!

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