The Bachelor @JimmyKimmel Special @c_soules

The Bachelor E3 – The Jimmy Kimmel Special

Jimmy Kimmel looking very intent on making sure he hits every spot on Chris Soules (lol)

Comedian and talk show host Jimmy Kimmel takes over week three of the bachelor which is almost appropriate because Jimmy has a lot to say about what happens the show and making predictions although I think he gets his predictions from reality Steve.
While making priceless jokes, the girls were actually happy to see him and took over Chris Harrison’s job which was also pretty funny. You know if for any reason Chris Harrison couldn’t do a season, Jimmy Kimmel would be a great replacement as he will keep the humor steady in this already comedic show.
Before the date card is given to the ladies, Jimmy pulls out a swear jar explaining the word ‘amazing’ is used quite often so in lieu of keeping count of the word, everyone that uses it has to put a dollar in the jar.
The date card is disbursed with dancer Kaitlyn to start things off with the first one on one date.
Amazing…
Unbeknownst to Farmer Chris and Kaitlyn, Jimmy Kimmel would be in control of their date and upon arrival at Costco’s, Jimmy supplied them with a grocery list of things they must pick up for their date.

Although a highly unconventional date for the Bachelor since most of all the dates are based on glamour, Kaitlyn did make valid points regarding their date, bringing the reality aspect to what they may be doing in real life which would be shopping….?
When they arrived back at the house, and engaged in conversation, Jimmy shows up and becomes part of the date. Of course one of the first things he asks is about the fantasy suite and the unspoken rule that no one is to disclosed if the couples have sex. Come on….we all know they do. Look at Andi – she had sex with Nick but picked Josh because she was convinced at some point he was going to be into her. Jimmy, in his “manly show” ways, made a lot of jokes to Chris that he should have sex with all of the women before he picks one.
Back at the house, the new date card comes in for the group date as follows:
Britt, Jillian, Becca, Tracy, Mackenzie, Kelsey, Amber, Ashley S., Juelia, Samantha, Nikki, and Carly.
…And on the date with Kaitlyn, Chris and Jimmy, Chris (during his interview) talked about how attracted he is to Kaitlyn and the qualities she possesses. While in the pool in their intimate setting and kissing, the camera pans the camera over to the right and there’s Jimmy Kimmel is on the other side of the pool having his champagne and enjoying the view.

Now it’s time for the group date which Jimmy Kimmel informs the ladies that this date will consist of farm work more like an obstacle course of farming. He gave specific instructions to the girls on what they need to do the first thing they need to do is milk a goat and drink some of the milk (which I’m not sure that’s even kosher or safe to drink), after that they had to shovel manure and chase a pig. Carly who didn’t get a date last week was on this group date and mentioned that she was allergic to goats milk but she was still going to drink it anyway I don’t know if that’s a stupid move but if you’re allergic to something chances are you shouldn’t be eating or drinking it. I guess when you come in with your toy karaoke machine, anything is to be expected from Carly.
Carly ends up winning the race and they take photos as the Farmer and wife American Gothic picture. The picture couldn’t be complete without Jimmy Kimmel and Chris Soules as the American Gothic couple part two.
By this point I’ve lost count on how many ‘amazing’ were said, but I do know they missed one with Becca which was later down the line.
After the group festivities, the girls are all dressed and ready to compete for Chris’ time and make out.
Carly grabs him first, now feeling confident that she’s in the game as a result of not having time with him on the episode before and she makes his speech I’m a man you’re a woman blah blah blah and makes out with him.
Amber who’s also feeling super confident has her time with Chris and plays, “let’s pretend to slow dance without music” and they kiss, and it suddenly becomes the repeat of Juan Pablo when his tongue was in everyone’s mouth too. As a matter of fact, they should have had JP for this season to help Farmer Chris decide who the better kisser is.
McKenzie’s, the youngest out of all the ladies, was noticeably upset at all the kissing, as she’s still in her head that she got the first kiss. When she gets her time with him she confronts him and asks why was he kissing everyone on this group date. The look on the farmer’s face was priceless. Yes, why was he kissing everyone? In the past seasons, (except for JP) I can’t recall where everyone was kissing everyone so early on, well maybe Bob Guiny.
When Becca had her one-on-one time with Chris, Becca mentions that their conversations seem effortless. She also confides with him by telling him she would have not done the Bachelor if it were anyone else but him. Watching him last season, she saw he would be the ideal person to bring home to her family. (She did say amazing twice). And while the music is heightening and the scenery is to perfection, they are locked eyes, holding hands, and as they draw closer, they….hug. Were you waiting for a kiss? My thoughts on Becca, I like her. She turned the tables when she said that she would have not come on to the show if it were not him as the Bachelor. Yes while Chris does hand out the roses and it’s about who stays and who goes, just as Andi didn’t feel that Juan Pablo was a good choice for her, she chose to leave, any one of these women can do that. But you know in reality television every woman wants their spotlight. Right now I’m placing my bet on Becca to be one of the top contenders.
While all is well on the group date, back at the house, fertility nurse, Whitney was complaining that she hadn’t gotten one on one time with Chris and when the date card arrives, guess who’s name is read…of course Whiney, I mean Whitney.
Now back at the group date, Chris tells the ladies how he had a good time with everybody, but he gives the rose to someone that he said he wanted to have a further connection with and he gave the rose to Becca, probably the only girl that he didn’t make out with that he had one on one time with.
Whitney who spent most of her time complaining she didn’t get any one on one time with him finally has her date with Chris. There’s something about Whitney where her conversations seems forced and phony. While they are talking Chris mentions how important it is to him that he is with someone who is spontaneous, who can work a crowd or be comfortable in a party or casual setting.
And then….how convenient because here’s a wedding party that strolls down from the hill they are sitting from. Whitney who immediately notices that it’s a wedding party suggest they crash the party. Really? Really….
 At the wedding, Whitney suggests that if anyone recognizes him they should pretend they are engaged so no one suspects anything and to let the guests know the must keep top secret. My thoughts on Whitney, I’m not a fan and here’s why. This is a woman whose meeting couples day in and day out helping them have babies. She’s 29 years old and this is about the age where women start to freak out thinking if they don’t hurry up and get married, their eggs will dry up and they will die an old lady with cats.
I really hate this concept. I would like to believe as women we are allowed to make out own choices. And if a woman decides that she does not want to marry nor have children, why is she looked up as a reject? Very stupid thinking if you ask me.
What’s even more stupid is Whitney not really looking as she’s thinking anything through. More like, I will do whatever he wants just so I can get that ring.
After they crash the wedding and walk away he comes back with the rose exclaiming that Whitney absolutely made his day and he asked her if she will accept the rose. Of course she will. Time is of the essence for Whitney. SMH

On the flip side Juelia confides with the other ladies about the incident that happened with her husband committing suicide. I have a lot of issues with this. First, I’m not sure why casting felt the need to choose her. The woman clearly is still reeling from the loss of her husband. Not only the loss but how it happened still plagues her. It’s not right that a woman with so much pain give herself to a guy who will basically spend most of his time comforting her loss instead of being an equal partner.  (note: Apparently, Chris had found out through one or more the women gossiping about her)
I have to say while I empathize with her story, the fact of the matter is, while I was sitting here watching, my eyes were rolling around because it’s so dramatic and so unnecessary. It was just over-the-top and furthermore with the way she was crying, there is no way I can see any kind of relationship developing with Chris. This is this kind of stuff that you see in soap operas for pure entertainment and nothing more. Sad to see that The Bachelor continues to use women’s pain as the, “coming up next”, for their features on this show.
Britt continues to hang out all him and making out with him every chance that she gets, because she wants to feel some sense of security. Jade, the cosmetics girl runs and take him inside his house to make with out with him. Ashley I. is completely losing her mind and Jillian is walking around half naked looking for him. Sounds like a naked retreat if you ask me.
When Jade and Chris get back out of the room Jillian is in the hot tub like waiting for them and Ashley I. still running around like a chicken without a head because she needs that one on one time STAT! While the rest of the girls are looking for him they don’t realized that he’s with Jade making out on the bed and when they finally emerge, Chris goes in the hottub where Jillian monopolizes the whole time as she refused to leave when the girls started to gather around trying to get that one on one time.
A little bit about Ashley I…she’s a virgin. That’s not to say that she doesn’t have experience in relationships but in her mind, she seems to be stuck that if her tongue is not in Chris’ mouth she doesn’t stand a chance being with him and this gives her some distorted confidence that it does. She too is highly emotional and over the top. Have you noticed when she does kiss Chris, it’s almost awkward and unnatural.
And the roses goes to:
Jade
Samantha
Juelia
McKenzie
Kelsey
Britt
Megan
Carly
Ashley S. the lunatic
Nikki
Jillian
Ashley I.
The ladies who received roses on dates: Becca, Whitney and Kaitlyn

The most notable that didn’t get a rose was Amber – fake music, fake dancing, maybe the kissing was fake on Chris’ part too, a perfect example of why kissing doesn’t guarantee a rose. There was clearly no romantic connection but that didn’t stop Chris from putting his tongue in her mouth. Amber’s rejection on interview was visible without her saying a word and kudos to her that she choose not to talk and walk away and savor those tears in private. I felt really bad for her. Rejection is never the greatest feeling in the world and even worse when exposed on national television. I’m glad she walked away.
But there was one that went away “crying” in the limo and that was Jimmy Kimmel’s as Chris Harrison informed him that he was no longer needed. Chris Harrison definitely has a great sense of comedic humor and I thought this was a very good episode definitely bought something different into the show even though the one thing that wasn’t different was a new set of pathetic women.
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The Bachelor Farmer Chris Soules E2 @c_soules

While everyone is celebrating at the rose ceremony that they’ve surpassed the first of the wars of the roses, yoga teacher Kimberly was speaking off camera and walks away back to the house to fetch Chris to give her a chance. Chris who seems to be the most kind, goes outside to talk to her all the while the girls are having a cow and suddenly becoming possessive of him. Because there are certain “rules” (and I use the term loosely) Farmer Chris goes back to Chris Harrison to have a conversation with him regarding Kimberly.
While he thought this may be unconventional, he decided to give her a chance. I mean he did give Tara the drunk a chance why not someone who flew from the East Coast who didn’t behave like an ass.
Needless to say, he did give her a chance while she anticipated a rose for the next ceremony. So in other words she was allowed to stay even though she didn’t have a rose.
Quite unconventional you might ask. Remember when Chris Bukowski came by surprise to meet Andi and Chris Harrison stopped him practically at the foot of the hill where is located telling him he could not meet Andi. Even while telling Andi to give her the “option”, he made sure Bukowski wasn’t even given a chance after Chris Harrison threw him under the bus. We all know why Chris Harrison was extremely protective of Andi, he liked her. And I wouldn’t be surprised that he was secretly jumping for joy when the announcement came out when Andi and Josh broke up. I mean really. Josh was not a catch at all and we all know the reason why Andi choose him, not only was she attracted to him, we always want something that doesn’t want us. Isn’t that the ways of relationships? (“Yes please”)
The next day, after all of the Kimberly “save”, Chris Harrison meets up with the girls to talk to them about the “rules”. He lets them know Chris living in the house down the driveway urges them to get as much time as they can with him that there are no rules.

Now we all know what that means….we will find a lot of these girls sneaking out to see him especially if he’s had other dates and they didn’t have one on one time with him. Even knowing this of course there will be backlash because that’s just the nature of this show.
After his spiel, he drops off the first date card which the first of the group dates and the attendees are as follows:
Jade, Tandra, Ashley, McKenzie, Kimberly, and Tara.
Now this is Kimberly’s opportunity to get to know Chris within a small group setting and the option to win a rose. Some girls expressed their discontentment that Kimberly gets to go out on this date which they shouldn’t be upset that is the whole point. However, I  can understand because if Kimberly gets a rose and they don’t, it has nothing to do with who is on the date but the chemistry that is generating on each date.
The girls are taken to TenTen Wilshire where the date card had said show me your country.  So basically it’s a pool party and how convenient they all have the bikini underneath their clothes.
Being bold, Kimberly pulls him aside and suggest that they start all over again like a first meeting and oh how cute, Chris gets up and walks into the room where she is and acts like he’s meeting her for the first time.
While the group date is going on, two of the girls decided to go to Chris’s house to see what the house looks like.
One of the girls puts Chris’s helmet on to test it out and she bangs her head in the wall, on the fridge and on the wood wall, she’s an idiot.
Back at the group date, they ladies and Chris all leave the pool party in their bikini’s walking down LA streets, over to a set of tractor-trailers which means that not only are they going to ride these in their bikinis, clearly this was going to be a contest of some sort.
Tara, our drunken country girl was super excited, as she is purely convinced that this man is going to be her husband and expresses how lucky she was to have received a rose due to she felt she was skating on thin ice thanks to her inebriated escapade during the rose ceremony.
And the race begins! But guess what? What I’m sure the girls did not expect, these tractors are snails and the first girl to the finish line wins one on one time with Farmer Chris.
Ashley I. ended up winning the race, the freelance journalist from Wayne New Jersey and you can tell that she’s from Jersey because of all the heavy make up around her eyes and the way she wears her hair and the way she talks. Anyone who watches the Housewives of New Jersey, you can hear her accent from three thousand miles away.
Now here’s my take on Ashley. This girl is not a good fit for him at all. She’s not realistic in her goals of what she believes a relationship should be. She’s also a virgin. Not that that’s anything that should be held against her, but her lack of experience and her youth will have her looking for more dick once she gets a taste of it. Believe me when I tell you, we are all creatures of habit. One dick experience will not be enough.
 Meanwhile back at the house all the girls are waiting for the next date card, Juelia is talking to the other ladies about what she plans on sharing with Farmer Chris. The first being she has a daughter, Ireland, and second that her child’s father killed himself not too long after their child was born. And now the waterworks begins.
So while she’s busy crying through the telling of the story, she brings up a point on how she feels obligated to tell Farmer Chris and this is what makes this show “sensational”.
The whole dramatic aspect of, “I have to tell a guy certain things so that it’s not a secret or I have to spill my guts”, the bottom line is in real life nobody feels the need to spill their guts all in one shot, but because this is reality TV this is what they’re told to say to make it good. Clearly, and in all respect for Juelia, this is not a person who’s prepared to be in a relationship. Death of a spouse is a big deal and while people move on with their lives as one should, the waterworks were too heavy for me to believe that this woman is prepared to be in a serious relationship and uproot her life to another state with her child. What are they going to do? Discuss her dead husband to a child that will never know her father?
Meanwhile, Ashley I. and Chris are spending some time together because she won the tractor-trailer race. I don’t think that there’s any chemistry between Chris and Ashley I. She seems to be forcing herself on Chris and her kisses seem unnatural. Not only is she a virgin but she does not know the art of kissing. This wasn’t a traditional one on one more like she won the race so she had uncharted time without disruptions.
Chris expressed his feelings in regards to the awkward situation of the group date with the six girls and he wanted to finish off the night dating one girl that that girl ended up being McKenzie. Surprise, surprise! Did Ashely I. think this was going to be her magical night as she was sent packing back the mansion with the rest of the girls? The season is being set to expect the unexpected.
Now the five girls that are left on the group date are left sitting and not very happy but no rose has been given out…yet.  Tara, who got a reprieve, seems to be taking this extremely difficult clearly this is a woman who has broken heart issues and takes everything literally.
Ashley I. was hoping to get the rest of the evening with him but I knew that wasn’t going to happen because he just doesn’t seem in to her and she seems too forceful.
Chris, now alone with his one to one with McKenzie, finds himself engaged in weird conversations, like how she said she likes guys with big noses then she asked him if he believes in aliens. I’m sure that now he sitting there regretting he picked for the date. This is the same girl who has a child and she’s a child herself…isn’t she 21 years old?
Nevertheless, Chris feels they have a lot in common, especially after she discusses on having a son, being a single mom and for some odd reason he ends up giving her a rose so for right now he’s clueless and I think it’s okay because usually the first date never outlives the rest of the season.
A new date card comes in and it’s for Megan and she’s thinking it’s a note card or a love note card I don’t understand some women in here. Hello!!! When a date card comes in with your name it means you’re going out on a date. Sheesh.
As the episode wears on, McKenzie’s shares her date with the other ladies and admits that she got the first kiss. Little does anyone know that on that first night of meeting Britt actually got the first kiss.
Chris comes over to pick up Megan for their one-on-one date and of course all the girls are very giddy and beside themselves. What a lot of the girls don’t understand usually the girls that go on a date early on usually miss out later on because a connection could build up much stronger where he will lose interest and pursue the most current. At least this is what has been apparent season after season.
They drive to an airport where there’s a small aircraft waiting for them heading to I’m not sure where.
The plane lands in Las Vegas and from there they jet on a helicopter to the Grand Canyon’s breath taking views where a picnic awaits them. Let us remind ourselves that The Bachelor series will feature all of these trips with views to die for where anyone can be infatuated easily. It’s the survival of the relationship when they can live in real life with no cameras following them.
While sharing a meal Megan goes on to tell Chris three days after she had received a phone call from the bachelor casting people her father had passed away and it just makes me think how much drama these women have. The casting agency must know all of their dramatic stuff so that they could put it in the forefront and this is probably why the fatality rate of the relationship is higher than it being successful and finding less needy women who are 25 and thinking if they don’t get married and have children within a three year span all will be lost and they will be regarded as a failure.
I remember in the in the fourth season of the Bachelor with Bob Guiney. Right down to the wire, Meredith gets a call that one of her family members passed away. Now through no fault of her own, Bob Guiney was not prepared to handle such devastation, let alone still in the process of getting to know here and the three other women that were left. Because of this he ended up sending her home, advising her that it was best that she’d be with her family.
Chris goes into a similar spiel that he gave McKenzie and asked her if she will accept the rose that he had for her and of course she does. No one will turn down a rose in this joint. LOL
The group date card arrives and the names are as follows:
Kelsey, Trina, Alyssa, Tracie, Jillian, Becca, Amber, Ashlee S, Juelia, Kaitlyn and Britt. Date card reads “till us death do us part”.
Later that evening, the limo pulled into what looks like a dilapidated building it’s a very dark and they’re basically in the middle of nowhere.
All of the sudden zombies appear around the limo basically scaring the shit out of all of them which was pretty funny and then Chis opens the car door. They look so petrified that one of them took a drink before she headed out of the car was hilarious.
The game they are about to play is paintball and the target are zombies. They have to split into teams and I’m gathering the team that wins is the one that gets to spend time with him.
Ashley starts getting technical because she thinks that you have to shoot your selves and not the zombies I’m not sure why she’s on the show. I wasn’t sure what to make of this zombie hunt and Ashley is walking around like the terminator which probably now makes sense thinking back on this episode. I guess we all would want to know how a woman will react with a “gun” in her hand. If not it seems it’s all about the frree alcohol because that’s what the focus seems to be.
 Kaitlyn, the dancer, had some one-on-one time with Chris talking about the breakdancing and the dancing that they did in etc. etc. she goes in to talk about her last relationship and how she lived out of the country and Chris feeling like wow she does great smart and sassy girl what would she want with me etc. etc. and then they go and kiss. He seems to be kissing everybody now.
I think Ashley forgot to take her medication and he definitely made a mistake picking her over the yoga teacher. And as the dates continue, Ashley seems to be all over the place. I don’t know if the whole situation has gotten the better of her (if there is a better), while Chris was in the middle of interviewing she comes in and she starts talking to him and he seems concerned. I’m left confused watching this debacle because I don’t know if she’s acting or there’s something quite not right with this woman. Chris says that she’s a unique girl it’s more like uniquely crazy.
Britt, who pulled him aside, has made it a point to keep the relationship alive from their first kiss on the first episode but when he hands out the rose he gives it to Kaitlyn.

Within the second cocktail party the girls are asking who has roses so far it’s McKenzie, Kaitlyn and Megan, leaving the rest of the ladies anxious because they don’t want to go home, name Kimberly who did not receive a rose on the initial group date.

Whitney who’s banking on a rose gives him a bottle of whiskey so that he would have some recollection of who she is and telling him that she is looking forward to building a journey with him.
These are notes I made while watching: Ashley I is a virgin. When she pulls Chris’s side to talk to him, her conversations remain to be seen, when all she wants to do is kiss which she doesn’t seem to be doing very well. I don’t know, but that was probably one of the worst and awkward kisses I’ve ever seen in my life. Don’t know why Britt is crying as far as I’m concerned she has nothing to worry about I don’t think that Ashley I is going to last very long, Jordan, also continues to make a fool out of herself too. I’m not sure why these girls are crying like they just invested a lifetime with Farmer Chris and this is only episode two. Makes me wonder what they are really crying about…is it Chris or the mere fact they won’t be on television.
And the roses goes to! Rose ceremony number two:
Britt
Ashley I.
Trina
Kelsey
Samantha
Juelia (for some reason Jillian who was standing in front of Juelia tripped and then busted out laughing)
Amber
Tracy
Jillian
Jade
Nikki
Becca
Carly
Whitney
Chris ends up giving the final rose to crazy Ashley S. and not to Kimberly the yoga teacher which makes me wonder what the fuck is going on in the Farmer’s mind.

The most notable who did not get a rose:
Tara is beside herself in tears.
Jordan gave him a very unusual bro hug like “see ya around”.
Kimberly, who didn’t make a beeline back to house, is not coming back this time.
I think the idea to this show is very sad because you watch these women walking away hysterical crying thinking that it was them who did something wrong and most times it’s not.
As for Kimberly, I’m not sure why Farmer Chris would opt out of choosing her and keeping Ashley S. The woman is not all there and clearly there’s no connection, other than her “crazy” is good for television.

Welcome to the Red Carpet Event….wha…? The Bachelor Season 19

Welcome to the Red Carpet Event….wha…?
Who: Chris Soules from Arlington Iowa is the next bachelor due to not being chosen from last season’s bachelorette he became a popular bachelor and owns a six thousand acre  land. Chris appeared in the Andi season and became a fan favorite. I called him Farmer Chris on my wordspress blog which Chris Harrison adopted.
The opening of The Bachelor with the live red carpet event, for me was a step too far.
I felt that I was forced to watch something that was so completely unnecessary. I was not happy when I looked at my DVR and saw the bachelor was three hours I said to myself, ‘three hours of what?”
Sean and Catherine showed up to the red carpet along with Deanna and her husband when you have all of these people coming out of the limo like they are someone famous and they’re not. These are single people who have continuously made for names of themselves on television when it comes to dating what people do in private we have seen them displayed on the show.
Chris Harrison interviews Sean and Catherine basically nosing in on their relationship asking about when they plan on having babies which I think is rather personal but that is personal for anybody not just for people who have displayed looking for love on TV.
Moving forward Chris interviews Marcus and Lacy who met on the Bachelor in Paradise show and ended up falling in love and getting engaged rather quickly. They talked about having a wedding in the summertime but no date has been proposed yet.They go on to introduce some of the girls that will meet Farmer Chris starting with Britt from Los Angeles, rather pretty, she’s a waitress. She went on to discuss her last relationship, that she did not have sex at all and that she benefited from the relationship by appreciating who he was without the physical aspect. Apparently she gives out free hugs.
Jillian from D.C is 25 and she’s a national news producer. OMG this girl is fierce she was lifting the only weights definitely a training type of a girl can’t see her with Chris because she is too much out there.
Amanda 24 from Lake in the Hills Illinois she’s A ballerina instructor. In her interview she says she lives with her mom, she likes not having to pay bills and not cooking and not doing much of anything. Clearly not a woman design for Chris who’s an active farmer. I don’t think he will appreciate having a partner who’s lazy.
Whitney, a fertility nurse is 29 years old from Chicago Illinois. She helps couples who are struggling to have babies.  Being a nurse and being a fertility nurse seems just about right for Chris.
McKenzie, 21 is too young. I don’t know what she does but she already has a child who she named after a vegetable Kale.
Moving on to flight attendant Alyssa, 24 from New Jersey and cute she seems like the right girl for him.
Kelsey, 28, lives in Austin Texas and a school counselor is a widow for year and four months. Her husband was walking to work when his heart just stopped. Clearly emotional about this death, after all it was her husband, someone she was building a life with makes me question if she is a good candidate for someone who is looking to settle down. She’s very pretty and has a great body and seems really upbeat. Looks like from the coming attractions, she’s a contender.
Cutting back to the bachelor premiere on this useless red carpet Chris Harrison interviews and Andi and her big headed pick Josh who was not a fan favorite at all at least not for me. I’m not sure where Chris Harrison’s head is that he actually believes that these people walk down the street and they have the paparazzi chasing after them. They seemed really lovey dovey. The whole time Andi and Josh were talking to Chris Harrison, she was massaging Josh’s back. I thought to myself, “Wow maybe there is something there after all.” – (this was before I found out just the other day (Thursday. Jan 8th they broke up – more comments here)
I guess the useful thing about this red carpet was the Break up with Juan Pablo and Nikki because she was the most hated woman in the Juan Pablo season.
Chris Harrison had asked her about what was going through her mind the night that they reunited after the final Rose and how she seem to spill out or her emotions and Juan Pablo did not.
She talked about how it’s hard to have a relationship in the public eye and while she felt comfortable with expressing her feelings in public display and he did not, she stated she was fine with that because she knew that going into the relationship with him. And at the end of the day she chose to stand by him whether or not he displayed affection.
She also stated their break up was because of their careers and living in two different states. Even though they tried to make an effort to make the relationship work it did not. It was more of they had different priorities and different lifestyles. Chris asked her that even though they had different priorities was she a priority and Juan Pablo’s life and I could see the discomfort in her face when he was asking her that question.
She went on to say that she knew that she was not the number one priority in his life that place is for his daughter.  They are just different people but aspiring to accomplish different things which I think is bullshit.
I think he wasn’t into her like she thought he was or maybe he just wanted her to be something else that she was not. Chris also asked did she feel that he was in love with her and she said yes that she felt he was at some point but it just was too late to work things out as a couple.
 How she felt about the backlash when Chris pointed out about what the media outlets were saying about her, Nikki says that even though she did sign up for it, nothing  prepared her for the things that people had said about her. If she had seriously watched herself with an open mind, perhaps she wouldn’t have liked herself either.
As for JP, I believe he wasn’t into anyone and he was just playing along with what the producers either may have wanted or he just didn’t want to be another Brad Womack, who eventually chose no one and became the most hated man in Bachelor history.
Nikky did admit that Juan Pablo did tell her that he loved her in private and insisted that he really was a good person despite of what was depicted on national TV.
I don’t know, if it’s reality television how much more unreal can you be?

The Bachelor Juan Pablo Season 18

Now that the Bachelor is a sensationalized dating show with more babbling women crying to find love, the man that Desiree kept on (when we all know she really wasn’t interested in him) has been crowned the new bachelor and believe me when I tell you everyone is eating this up.

The season kicks off with the introduction to JP and the relationship he has with his daughter, because of course, we just never see enough dad’s with their kids, we see the total opposite of dad’s trying to get away from their kids.

Now that the Bachelor is a sensationalized dating show with more babbling women crying to find love, the man that Desiree kept on (when we all know she really wasn’t interested in him) has been crowned the new bachelor and believe me when I tell you everyone is eating this up.

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The Difference Between Fantasy and Reality

If there’s one thing I know about myself, people can always talk to me about what’s on their mind and I’m happy for that.

It had me regress to a memory I had of a guy I started speaking to on Twitter, no less, who wanted to share with me what he was looking for in a relationship. We went out for breakfast, and as we ate he proceeded to share with me his woes of what he has experienced in past relationships.  And now he was interested in looking to be involved in a D/s relationship.

Okay, understandable, he’s looking to explore something new I thought to myself, until he graphically explained how he wanted someone to sit on his face (someone like me) – considering the view that sat across from me, sitting on pancakes dripping with syrup was much more enticing. 

I’m pretty sure I established I wasn’t looking for anything serious. Also in financial domination sitting on anyone’s face is not a requirement. I know Domina’s who will wear full clad latex and the man will never see beyond that latex. To me this is true Domination. Why have people gotten lost in the sauce with BDSM?

I’m not sure why guys do not take me seriously at all when I fully express I’m not interested in them in any way shape or form. They think some how some way ,”I’m going to say the right thing and she’s going to change her mind.”

It will never happen, trust me.

Just recently a man on my facebook page unfriend me for that very reason. It came to a point where I stopped answering his emails every time I posted something. And out loud in a post, I told him straight out, “I’m not interested in you….”

Did it really have to go that far? I mean what was wrong with the way I said it privately? 

There are a variety of reasons why people feel the need to pursue or persuade a girl to be with them. And while maybe in movies it’s cute, it’s cute because the leading role is played by Josh Duhamel or Jake Gyllenhaal. But real life is a totally different game and people are truly at a loss.

There’s nothing wrong with knowing your worth. I had a friend a while back advise me on just that. I guess she saw I was just going out with anyone and getting hurt in the process because of MY unrealistic expectations. Knowing your worth is not about finding the most beautiful person on the outside, it’s about finding the most beautiful person on the inside. 

While I may like my eye candy, I still know my worth. And believe me when I tell you, the personality inside will override the eye candy outside.

Relationships are all about chemistry. It is not forced, it’s not a fantasy come true. It’s about a true connection and if only one person is feeling it then it might as well stay a fantasy.

Think of it as a song. All of this music audition shows, have you ever watched one person take a song and just milk the lyric while holding the note thinking that this is going to take them to the top and everyone will remember how they rode that note?

Of course everyone will remember. The will remember the idiot who couldn’t just sing the song.

As for the guy who thought I was going to sit on his face…he eventually unfollowed me on Twitter. I think he realized his “swag” didn’t work on me, nor was it ever going to.