#TheBachelor @benhiggi E5 – Cleaning House

The ladies arrive in Mexico City where once again Olivia is convinced the date card is for her.
 
Guess what???
 
It’s not LOL. 
ben and amanda.jpgIt was actually Amanda.
 
Oh, but Olivia had much to say about Amanda. She doesn’t believe Ben is the right person for her because she has children.
 
Really Olivia? You are a fucking child.
 
The next day, Ben wakes the girls up at 4:30 in the morning so he can see all of them in their element. Surprisingly, Cray Cray Jub had her hair in head while Olivia left pieces of her weave on the dresser. It was pretty funny to hear Ben ask, “who’s weave is this?” Definitely an LOL moment.
 
Ben finally did find Amanda and as they headed off on their date, Olivia, having a conversation with Lauren H. and telling her she completely disagrees Ben should keep her, especially since she’s been away from her kids for quite some time. She also doesn’t believe it would work out, if Ben wanted children, he would have had them.
 
Really Olivia? Are you a psychologist now? Perhaps you should be on the show, “Married At First Sight” and after a whole psychological work up, I’m sure none of the advisors on that show would pick her to be with someone. That marriage wouldn’t last more than a week.
 
During Ben and Amanda’s date, she expressed concerns on her interview regarding relationships and marriage because at her such youthful age, she’s already lived that life where Ben has not. In real life, relationships like this are truly a challenge. You can’t expect for someone to come into your life and adjust to your needs and your family without adjusting to his needs.
 
While Amanda seems to be on a “long extended date”, according to Jubilee (cray cray), she’s upset and jealous that Ben is spending more and more time with the other ladies and not her. If she thinks really hard about their one on one date, it wasn’t romantic at all, and the proceeding episodes he treats her as just one of the guys. You can take the ghetto out of the hood and the ghetto will always follow LOL. It just won’t jive with Ben’s family. Let’s not pretend here guys.
 
The group date card arrives and the names are read as follows (with Olivia begging not to want to be a part of the group date because she wants to spend more time with “her man”).
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I was all convinced at some point Olivia would be one of the top two but I think between episodes 1 and 2, I changed my mind. Now watching episode three, I’m would be surprised if Olivia receives a rose at the end of this.

Four weeks in and she’s calling Ben her husband and how she’s in love with him that’s “her man”, “Ben and Zen” I’m not sure how many more shit she can come up with, that is after Chris Harrison announces Ben is no long in Los Angels but rather in Las Vegas (my future home).

As soon as they realize they are going, she’s instigating she’s going to whisper to him, she wants to see Celine. She’s funny.

Needless to say, once the ladies arrive in Vegas, the first date card also arrives in their hotel room at the beautiful Aria Hotel (was there in 2014 truly beautiful hotel), and JoJo is on this particular one and one.

When Ben picked her up as they waited for the helicopter and the girls became jealous but then laughed when the helicopter landed and the force of the propellers knocked the table and champagne down from the table BUT walked away when Ben took advantage of the moment and kissed JoJo. Now that was pretty cool.

 

During the one on one, it seemed the conversation between Ben and JoJo was truncated. What exactly the story with JoJo and her last relationship. Why did it sound like she was having an affair? I mean no offense, we’re all grown here, aren’t we and shit happens, however, it would make sense she would discuss a relationship to make a conversation flow for the cameras and before you know it, Ben is offering a rose. Okay. Great.

The night ended with one more surprise after he gave the rose to JoJo, the fireworks above the Aria hotel began to spark when the girls inside their room heard the fireworks but could not see them (Ben and JoJo’s date were at the MGM Grand – great hotel too) of course had a clearest view of the fireworks.

JoJo one point, Olivia zero.

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Keeping My Options Open…

henotintoEver meet someone and think, wow this may be a person I can hang out with and see where it goes. Then you start talking and that statement comes out, “I’m not looking to be in a relationship”.

I’ve heard this before. I once dated a very sexy attorney who said the same thing and for eight months we spent a lot of time together. We went out to dinners, lunch, to his place of course.

I’ve spent weekends with him, but after eight months, the statement still stood, “I’m not looking to be in a relationship”.

And with that, after an argument we had, an emailed titled “Us”, before I opened it, I knew it was over. I didn’t cry. I expected it. He was a great man. I don’t have a bad thing to say about him. I really don’t. But he wanted to play the field and I wasn’t there in my life to be with someone I had to share, that is till a few months I met someone else, but that’s another story for another time.

Anyway, so back to the “new” guy. We met towards the end of summer, he was a “newbie” to our dog run and my neighbor noticed he was checking me out. To be quite honest, I wasn’t sure if he was, I wasn’t sure if he was straight but he is LOL.

After running into each other several times and talking, we both learned, we are single (good start), we have similar values and belief systems, we both like to laugh and joke a lot, however there a holes in this “developing relationship”.

For someone who says they are interested, the behavior doesn’t match up. Sure he knows about me and my magazine, interviews, etc but how does that affect how we interact with each other, it doesn’t seem to get in the way of who we are as individuals. And for someone who says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, doesn’t act like he’s attracted to me either, words, like “my hang out buddy”, isn’t something that leads to anything romantic, at least not in my book.

The awkward hugs, the let’s get together and meet up at the dog run and hang out isn’t my idea of getting to know one other while my dogs are freezing out in the cold (and me too), what about diner time, talking in a place where we won’t get thrown out right away. Nope, that’s not happening. Any phone calls during the day, no, but I get texts periodically. Some days are more than others when he’s talking about projects and skit writing he suddenly wants to do.

Anyone seeing a pattern here?

Other than someone I can relate to in writing scripts or books, there isn’t really anything else there other than wishful thinking.

Last night I asked him if he was attracted to me. His response was yes, but he’s reserved because he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. And he also said, “if I wasn’t attracted to you, I wouldn’t be here with you right now”.

Well I feel better already [sarcasm].

That feeling creeps over, “what is wrong with me”.

Disappointed? Yes.

However, I know what I’m looking for. It’s not to spend another eight months with someone and get hurt in the end.

When a man says he’s not looking to be in a relationship, believe him. The worst thing in the world is to know a man doesn’t feel you are deserving enough to spend time with.

Keep your self esteem because there’s someone out there who will appreciate you for it.

Moving on…

Until then.

Love and Hugs,
Marabelle Blue

#TheBachelor @benhiggi

Here we are~ A New Year has just begun and ABC wastes no time in premiering the Bachelor Ben Higgins from the Kaitlyn season. Surprisingly Ben was one of the last men standing (not sure why) there seemed to be a lack of personality there and with all the good looking men who were in her season, why choose Ben?

Anyway, I’m trying something new. I weaned myself off cable and no longer have the opportunity to watch live television. With an array of streaming applications where you can watch all of your favorite shows on your own time, I have to say, it sucks just a little bit.

I’m not able to catch up on the Housewives because Bravo hasn’t gotten with the programming of steaming unless you want to watch last season’s bullshit and who wants to blog about something that happened last year? Bye Felicia.

As always the intro starts off with shades of love on the water, in a boat, on some kind of a warm island, or on some kind of ride, followed by tears of women who barely know him or claiming they put their whole life on hold, yada yada yada. Oh lest not forget the “bitch” or “evil doer” of the show, “he’s my husband, he just hasn’t figure it out yet” type…..and the one who has a panic attack and guess what she won’t need the paramedics all she will need is Ben to sweep her off her feet. #Pathetic

Ben’s background, simple, from Warsaw, Indiana, small town where everyone knows each other, probably some Christian town…blah and on top of that he can’t find anyone from his own town?

Ben has this fake and mediocre conversation with his parents who have been together for the last thirty five years. One of the main topics discussed was Ben’s fears of being unlovable, which was something he bought up in the Kaitlyn season.

Hey Ben, try being my age and still not finding someone decent to have simple conversations with, without pulling teeth or begging for affection. Believe me you will find someone to love before I do. LOL.

Now with the Bachelor family growing, it seems they invite other Bachelors to “advise” on how to deal with this type of “reality” situation.

 Who do they bring back? Farmer Chris Soules (who broke up with his self centered girlfriend Whitney Bischoff), Jason Mesnick who at the end picked Melissa the one he really didn’t want over Molly but I guess to make the producers happy he gave them what they wanted. However in the reunion he told Melissa he was not the least bit interested in her and asked for Molly back. (What a happy reunion). Sean Lowe who married Catherine, discussed how he fell in love with her towards the end of the show (which was true). My question was why Farmer Chris was there. Clearly he picked the wrong woman. I don’t think their relationship lasted more than a week. (of course I’m being sarcastic) but if you recall, he had more of a relationship with Brit while the other girls were just hanging out watching this relationship flourish before them. #Confused

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What’s Real and What’s Not…

The week of November 16, minding my business, getting off the train to head home, I noticed someone from the corner of my eye as I walked down the stairs and they walking beside me. Now the first thought is, “who the fuck is this person”, then he speaks…

“boy does that chicken smell good.”

There’s a restaurant up the street from the train station and I will say this, if the chicken is more than a day old, and they’re cooking it, it smells pretty bad.

The conversation leads to me saying the food didn’t smell good and I can make better chicken than they can. I thought that was the end, until he walked with me to my destination.

Okay, aggressive maybe?

Approaching the ninety nine cents store, I tell him, “well I have to go in here” and he asked me for my number.

I asked him to give me his and I promised I would call him back.

“What’s your name?”, he asked.

“My name is Marabelle.”

Well I wasn’t going to tell him my birth name. LOL.

Needless to say, I did give him my number. My business number. And then the calls started maybe a two days later. I didn’t feel we had much in common. But after a few text exchanges and a few calls in between, he surprised me last Saturday meeting me at the very same area we first started talking and took to the diner where we spent about four more maybe a bit more hours talking about everything.

Then my view changed.

Wow, this guy is smart and we do have a lot in common.

But…(you know there’s always that damn ‘but’), due to privacy issues, I changed my phone number on my ‘whatsapp’ to my business number, not realizing anyone who had the app and my business number will pop up a notification like, “hey your friend just joined whatsapp” – the same number I gave to this guy, who looks at my profile pic, watermarked, “Property of Kink~E Magazine”.

I have struggled for many years with men who thought that me owning a sex magazine made me available for sex, or that I was some kind of freak fucking different guys every night. Or how can I be such a prude and own a sex magazine.

Umm well, people are dirty and disgusting and I don’t open my legs to anyone unless they are fucking worth it. And oh, my fetish life isn’t practiced with some fly by night asshole that doesn’t know what he’s doing.

The men I meet get it very twisted and very confused as to who I am, what I do, what is the purpose of the magazine and why I do it.

The mission statement on www.kinkemagazine.com is very clear and anyone who reads it knows exactly what my magazine is about, what my writers do and what we talk about. Most importantly, why it’s so important to educated people living or exploring alternative lifestyles.

Well now upon knowing this info he had on hand, I told him what I do, I’m a writer, I own a magazine and I have different writer who discuss different aspects of adult entertainment and alternative lifestyle and he seemed cool with it.

After our endless hours of talking, it was time for me to go home and get rest and figuring I would hear from him the next day, I did not.

Okay what the fuck is going on here. You like someone (remember we are not 25, I don’t have time for stupid mind games), you’re not going to waste time or say, “well, duh, gee, I’ll contact her three days from now. By then I would have lost interest.

Bothered by the fact he didn’t make much of an effort, but texting here and there, I said something and it seemed to wake up the senses and led to another all night conversation.

Now my head space is, “yeah I’m feeling this guy, we can hang out get to know each other.”

Today, not so much. Inconsistent. Not making much of an effort BUT definitely made an effort in exposing exactly what he wanted to do me, desires of feasting on certain parts of my body…(use your imagination, ya’ll know what I’m talking about).

Yeah…no, I wasn’t feeling it.

I go out with you ONE time and one week later you’re talking about eating me out. It’s one thing to flirt, yet another when you’re just horn dog asking for sex when I barely even know the guy.

No thank you.

Does he not think I’m already getting emails like that from someone who’s been chasing me since 2000. And OH what about the guy I connect with periodically. While he’s busy playing mind games, someone else (someone I know) texting me at the same time, asking when I’m coming over.

A friend with benefit understanding only works with me for ONE person. I don’t need an extra person for that especially if they are telling me how REAL they are, when in essence are just full of shit.

I have been “around the block” enough to know all the stories guys play just to get a girl into bed, instead of just being forthright in saying, “I’m not looking for anything serious right now, however, I would like a partner I can be intimate with and have fun.”

Last time I checked, there’s nothing wrong with that level of honesty, but that’s just me. Some women may find the whole statement repulsive and that’s okay too.

Look I’m not here to judge, far from it. But when you come in with lies about me being in your heart and saying all of these romantic things just to get me in bed, is where I lose all respect for a person who’s flat out lying.

After addressing said issue, not only does he block me on twitter (why I don’t know he’s not worth reading any tweets he puts out), he blocks my number on his phone (after last Saturday when he tells me I gave him my “heartline” after I gave him my personal cell number).

If these are the actions of a person who claims they are telling the truth, guess what…you’re not.

Liars will not defend their actions once they’ve been found out. If anything they run the other way to ensure their integrity is not found out by others so they can pull the same game on someone else who will buy the lie.

While no one knows who I’m talking about, the last thing I would do it tag him on tweets like an immature child and accuse him of being a liar. Sure I will say certain things, but I won’t tag a name on to it.

He could have taken a different approach had he been telling the TRUTH, maybe by picking up the phone and calling and defending himself.

Being truthful is painful, whether you’re on the receiving end of it or not, hearing it for yourself when the words are departing from your lips can be painful.

After tonight, I was hurt and disappointed because I really wanted him to be for real in everything he was saying, but in the back of my mind, something said, there’s something not right.

I have learned to follow my intuition instead of following my heart.

Sad when you can’t follow your heart.

I text a friend of mine and told her what barely began has pretty much ended. In this phone conversation, a lot was revealed to me saying the words out loud.

Even in my own personal truth, as the words left my lips, my tears streamed down my face, because this really wasn’t about this guy, it is about something in the past, yet to be closed and the actions I am taking, in my own personal journey to resolve it.

You will all get a chance to share in that, I promise you.

In the meantime, my tears lie on the disappointment more than the person himself. It sucks when a person doesn’t tell you the truth, it sucks even more when they feel they can get over on you and not care about the feelings you’re investing through their web of lies.

(Addition) I wanted to say this, there’s always a reason why everyone goes through certain paths in their lives. I believe there’s a reason why I am having these experiences. While these experiences may not be so pleasant I know at the end of this tunnel will flourish something beautiful.

The journey continues….because whoever my “one” is, will completely and totally love me for who I am and not what they think I’m supposed to be.

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

Ohh Those School Girl Memories

Just a little tidbit…earlier I was at the supermarket, having come back from a consultation for a dreaded procedure thanks to some stomach issues I’ve been having the last week.

Playing on their #Sirius radio was REO Speedwagon, “Keep on Loving you” – boy that bought back so many good memories, it made me smile from ear to ear.

The other song they sing which is near and dear to me which, “Can’t Fight this Feeling”.

It reminds me of a time in high school where I realized Alternative lifestyle was real through a guy who was gay but kept it hidden from all of us. I never knew he was gay until one day he shared with me during a charms blow pop lesson on how to give blow jobs (yes this story is true)

It was a pivotal moment in his life when he realized he liked someone so much and was struggling with this song came about when he repeated the lyrics to me and how true they felt for him.

REO Speedwagon may have been talking about a fallen love in this song but to this guy, the words represented something so different and so real. The struggle of being a teenager in the 80s and having feelings for a guy when the world was dictating to him normal relationships were with woman.

Times have changed and the lyrics still stand.

Every time I hear this song, it always leaves me wondering what happened to my friend. Did he ever find love? Was he able to finally able to express those feelings and not fight them anymore.

Sometimes the world is a cruel place. Especially when the internal struggle is in a world that tells you loving a person who has the same anatomy as you is wrong.

I’m glad that song gave him solace to know he wasn’t alone in what he felt.

I may have not known it then, but the paths were leading me to a magazine I would create, a platform for people to sound their voices. Even if people don’t stay in your lives forever, their journey will always leave an impression on you.

Long live the lyrics of REO Speedwagon!

 

Loves and Hugs,
MB~

#TheBachelorette – Two Men Plus Ben @kaitlynbristowe @viallnicholas28 @chrisbharrison

Kaitlyn+Bachelorette cryingWatching The Bachelorette you almost forget one more guy is in this episode….

Since it’s down to the wire with three men left, instead of meeting the families first, the fantasy dates came first. Why they did that, I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s easier for Kaitlyn to have sex with the rest of the guys before she brings them home to families?

Last episode we left off with Shawn parading into Nick’s room accusing him of being a liar and full of shit about his feelings towards Kaitlyn. Furthermore, bringing up things that were said during Andi’s season which I think is a bit out of turn.

Shawn wasn’t there, so he will believe anything bad about Nick to justify his jealousy.

Nick in turn accused Shawn of meeting some girl and having sex with her the same night. That wouldn’t be any new news now….how many guys in the world have done the same thing.

While the boys are bickering, Kaitlyn has her overnight with Ben.

Let’s analyze Ben for a little bit. Cool looking guy, sexy in his own “country club” kind of a way. Definitely can see stability in the relationship BUT is Kaitlyn the right girl for him….nah.

Kaitlyn is a girl all over the place, this was the reason why I didn’t see her with Chris Soules at all and every time he gave her a rose, it was just a deeper of heart break. It’s almost as if he’s a “Chris” reincarnated and definitely not a match here.

Their date was beautiful though. Seeing the sights of Ireland, who wouldn’t fall in love?

During their conversation, you can tell Ben is fully invested in this relationship; unknowingly she had sex with Nick and she told Shawn he, “was it”, too soon the in the game to tell someone that, especially someone like Shawn who’s possessive and jealous all at the same time.

Kaitlyn says in her interview she can picture a life with Ben, but I think right now being with him it’s just the calming part of the insanity that’s brewing between Shawn and Nick, and mentioning being with Ben feels good, and she “feels” like she’s falling in love with Ben.

That’s code for those feelings are going to change once she’s in between Shawn and Nick.

It’s too bad because Ben is a great guy, or so it seems…..maybe he can be the next Bachelor, or maybe Nick? That would make an interesting season.

Ben and Kaitlyn have their intimate moment (I’m sure they had sex too since she mentions they only got a half hour of sleep).

the-bachelorette-shawn-strips-naked-on-golf-courseShe meets up with Shawn for their one on one for a golf date. Gifting him a bright pink shirt and blue pants, I have to say, Shawn can wear just about anything.

Their date was good in the beginning; they were golfing and having fun that is until Kaitlyn brings up an idea of a game of, “truth or dare”. Sometimes a game like Truth or Dare can go wrong.

The dare was to unclothe Shawn and have him golf naked. I think Kaitlyn will do anything to see a naked man!

During their date, later that evening, Kaitlyn brings up the topic of Shawn having this one night stand, and why he hates Nick, etc. etc.

Shawn admits he did have a conversation with Nick and believes Nick’s has ulterior motives which are not good for Kaitlyn. The Eskimo brother’s topic came up….and Kaitlyn mentions in her interview she needs security and assurance he’s going to be a loyal husband because of statement.

Ummm Kaitlyn, here’s a memo for you, you had sex with Nick. Can he question if you’re going to be a loyal wife or is this part of the exploration?

They decide to go to the fantasy suite which shows nothing, no kissing, nothing, just Kaitlyn putting the DND tag and closing the door.

The next day as Shawn leaves Kaitlyn’s room and Nick is waiting around and asks Shawn does he have a few minutes. Umm, WTF?

Nick felt as though he was blasted when Shawn decided to run into his room and he felt he needed to respond to Shawn.

Shawn believes the conversation they had proved Nick was a smooth talker. I missed that part, because I didn’t see proof other than two men who are fighting over a woman who’s not all that.

Nick questioned Kaitlyn’s motives after Shawn mentioned he and Kaitlyn spent the night together.

Now having a conversation with Chris Harrison who acts as the “advisor”, she admits Ben is a great guy next to  Shawn who exudes both of the “drama intensity” and humor where she doesn’t get the same with Ben. She believes though Ben will make a great husband…..she doesn’t say this but clearly it’s what’s on her mind, not just for her.

Nick, however, having feelings for him, she questions his loyalty towards being in a committed relationships whereas she doesn’t question that with Shawn because he’s a jealous freak. So she knows he wants to be with her but the jealousy can put a hurting on their relationships. (Any relationship for that matter)

I’m still stuck on why they didn’t do the hometown dates. Are they doing budget cuts?

When Kaitlyn stands before all three guys, she tells them she’s falling in love and how incredible how all the overnight dates have been. how much they have shared with her and she thanked them. Caught up in the moment of emotion, she walked away to gather herself, knowing who she was letting go. She comes back to them and reaffirms all she can do is follow her heart.

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She gives the first rose to Nick and then to Shawn which leaves Ben standing there with nothing.  After Ben says goodbye to Shawn and Nick, Kaitlyn asked if she can walk Ben out. She tells Ben how frustrating it is , he’s such a great guy but she doesn’t feel the same connection with him.

IMG_9620Before they say goodbye he tells her she looks great and he will miss her. In the car heading back to a hotel I guess, he said he wasn’t expecting to go home, but he’s a different person and was able to open up and have feelings again.

So perhaps this is a good thing. He learned how to open up I think it’s what you do afterwards when you fall in love and it doesn’t work out. Do you close yourself up? Is it harder to open up to someone new or do you hurry up and find a rebound who can give you that good feeling?

After the rose ceremony, Kaitlyn comes back to do a final salute to both of the men she chose. A very quiet drink, Nick hugs Kaitlyn in the anticipation she will see him at hometown dates and then hugs Shawn. She walks out, leaving them alone. Shawn finishes his drink and slams the glass on the table saying nothing to Nick. Nick then quietly puts his glass on the table saying nothing as the camera just pans on both of them like, what are we waiting for?

Kaitlyn heads to Utah and meets up with Nick. Nick admits he has no question he is in love with Kaitlyn and has no reservations whatsoever.  While all this exchange of love is being shared between Nick and Kaitlyn, back at the hotel, in a room, sits a group of people with uncomfortable anticipation…Nick’s family. Not happy at the fact he is going through this again, his tearful mom, makes his youngest sister cry, while one of his sister’s looks on not very happy.

After meeting Kaitlyn, they all sit and goof around until Maria pulls Kaitlyn aside to have a talk with her. She bought up the Andi season and her concerns with her feelings for Nick. After Maria, followed his brother and Bella, the youngest sibling who asked about Canada and does she really love Nick. Yeah, I would asking the same thing too, but she didn’t admit she loved him but told her she cares about Nick, “a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot”.

IMG_9631Having conversations with his Mom and Nick’s mom having a conversation with him, you can see there’s a big reluctance. While she can distinguish the difference between Kaitlyn and Andi, she’s hopeful, but still afraid for her son.

Nick assures his mother the difference between Kaitlyn and Andi, is during the Andi season he was over confident, not realizing where he and Andi where going in their relationship.

I can understand why his mother’s upsets; it’s not the ideal or conventional way to meet someone.

Kaitlyn couldn’t wait to get Nick back into her room after a successful meeting with his reluctant family.

The next day, Kaitlyn meets Shawn’s family and Shawn says in his interview , he’s excited to tell his , “wife” , he’s in love with her.

Pretty presumptuous if you ask me, I mean what if she didn’t pick him?

Shawn’s father mentioned something legible. Is this something where they are caught up in the moment or is it true love.

Just ask everyone who didn’t last in their relationships.

Like Nick’s family, they are a little bit more realistic in their goals of what they are looking for Shawn. And while Shawn is so love with Kaitlyn, he mentions if any of his family members have one doubt, it will not work out.

Look, while they are all in this position where Kaitlyn is talking about her googingly eyes and first impression rose, the fact is the reality will still happen when the cameras are off and they begin to live real life.

When Shawn gets the opinion of his sister’s apparently they gave rave reviews. I’m not sure how much you can review a person in just a few hours. Well maybe you can. I mean when I met my sister’s husband, I knew he was a piece of shit from the get go. So perhaps it is possible.

IMG_9634When Shawn’s father approaches him, he didn’t see to waste any time. The first thing out of his mouth was, “what the hell is going on”.

Hmm not a good question to start off with but I get it.

Shawn, still stuck on the, “you’re it” comment, he shares with his dad what Kaitlyn said when there was ten guys left. I guess this was his way of reassuring his father Kaitlyn is the girl for him.

Now that Kaitlyn has met the family and back in the room with Shawn, he tell her, there’s one more thing he needs to tell her,  he’s not falling for her but he IS in love with her.

Disappointed she didn’t tell him she loved him back (I think that’s supposed to happen at the end Shawn), Kaitlyn goes back to her room bawling her eyes out, now more confused than ever on who she plans on choosing.

Poor Nick.

OH well. Until the Final Rose.

I will be blogging on The Men Tell All after the season is over!

The Bachelorette E4 Bye Bye Kupah and Broke Back Clint @KaitlynBristowe @ChrisBHarrison

kaitlyn bKupah which the episode ended previous last week was the joke of the episode as he yelled like an idiot instead of just taking the rejection in stride.

As I had predicted the week before, now that Kupah was eliminated before the rose ceremony, that gave Tony another chance at what he believes to be a universal love.

Jared, who was beaten at the boxing match in the last episode was now concerned whether or not he was going to receive a rose, because he did admit that he voted for Britt to be the next Bachelorette.

Following in the tradition with farmer Chris and his season the rose ceremony now filters over to the next episode and the rose ceremony is as follows:  Jared, Ben H., Shawn, Jonathan, Tanner, Cupcake Chris, Ryan, Justin, Ian, Joshua, Joe, Corey, Tony

Anyone paying attention to all of the slobber that Tony was talking about how he has the eyes of a child and how he gave up everything and all of that he’s invested. Did anyone forget that he initially voted for Britt.  Also when he was talking with one of the guys in the last episode when he was talking to one of the other guys he “mistakenly” called Kaitlyn, Britt.

I’m not quite sure what commitment or investment he has made when it seems that his mind has been somewhere else.

The next morning the guys are awakened by to sumo wrestlers with a gone and screaming in Japanese. Apparently this was the preparation for what the next group date will be.

During JJ’s interview he mentioned how much he loved Japanese culture. I’m starting to think coupled with last weeks episode that JJ is very much full of shit. The six guys chosen for this sumo wrestler and group date were as follows:

Tony, JJ, Clint, Joe, Shawn, Cupcake

Tony took the sumo wrestling very seriously and when Kaitlyn approached him to talk to him, he kept walking because he is not into anything aggressive. Clearly this isn’t a guy who’s into fun.

sumo date bacheloretteJJ then comes in trying to play hero in his big ass diaper wear.  Not necessary because Kaitlyn isn’t really that dumb to figure out that Tony is a child, period.

But then again it makes you wonder because Kaitlyn is trying to adhere to his sensitivity and if that’s the case why didn’t she give Kupah another chance even though he was acting just as an idiot just in a form of aggression.

You would think by now with all of his speeches about being sensitive that she would realize that they have nothing in common and maybe she should be questioning why is he still single. I cannot say enough how ridiculous the guys looked in these over sized diapers but Clint proved his manhood and ended it with a selfie with a bunch of fans watching.

Meanwhile back at the mansion, Tony was yet again complaining about the purpose of why he was there in the first place. It didn’t surprise me that he would pack his bags and leave instead of staying for the rose ceremony and not getting a rose. For a person who says that he sees the universe in a child’s eyes sure had the potty mouth of a truck driver. Last not forget that Tony voted for Britt. Why all of a sudden there was this passion for Kaitlyn?

(Note to the editors on how Tony was packing during the day, but yet left at night.) He said his goodbyes, said it was not her fault, and he was out like deuces.

While Cupcake stole some time with Kaitlyn, Clint confessed to JJ that he had no plans to pursue her and that if she had an interest in him she would pursue him. Lmao. Really? She’s the bachelorette….

Shawn, who I think Kaitlyn will wind up with got the rose for the group date.

The next day, Chris Harrison set up the one on one date with Ben Z. No surprise that the date would be a marketing promo for a movie and not really about trust and protection. I guess the dates of hanging off buildings are long over.

While the date was “suspenseful”, I have to say that Ben Z. was pretty much in control of the date in figuring out the pieces to the puzzle of this thriller escape.

IMG_8934Having shared the story of the death of his mom and want transpired, it pretty much explained his demeanor and his need to control. And while that’s all well and good, it begs the question of how well would he handle any relationship where a woman is emotional and needy?

And while Ben and Kaitlyn are getting to know each other better, the date card arrives and Tanner, who hasn’t had much of a connection with Kaitlyn is hoping to get some kind of one on one time with her.

The follows are chosen for the group date:  Jonathan, Ben H., Joshua, Ryan, Jared, Tanner

And cut back to Ben and Kaitlyn, who are now in the hot tub sipping on champagne, she excused herself to retrieve the rose, gave him the, “you’re the greatest guy” speech and offered him the rose and of course he accepted.

For the group date, another round of major embarrassments, the guys have to teach children about sex education. Personally, highly inappropriate and not to mention, tasteless. I’m sure the parents to these poor children who were subjected to have to hear this kind of shit from a show that displays in order for you to find love is to ensure you fuck the other person over.

Back at the mansion, Justin observed a deep love going on with Clint and JJ and if anyone watched Unreal, we all know there are cameras all around the mansion and outside of the mansion, trust that while we all like to believe that Clint and JJ have some “thing” going on, as Quinn (the character on UnReal) says, give me something for the camera.

IMG_8922I thought it was kinda cute. But we all know that there isn’t a gay thing going on. I mean after all, men do take the time out to squeeze another man’s back zits. (More on this at the end of my blog)

Back at school, Ryan was first up describing the female anatomy. While he did a terrible job, boy was he cute up there!

While all the guys took turns, Kaitlyn lets out of the bag that the school thing was a prank but the guys don’t it yet.

Thank goodness because if this was real, it would have been in POOR taste of the Bachelorette. The only guy who actually showed any kind of romance in describing love was Ben who mixed in the personal experience of being there.

When Kaitlyn had her one on one with Joshua, she commented on why he’s a bit slower in the romance department because he didn’t get his first kiss till college. And while she admits he needs to step it up the fact is in real life, relationships are not a race and quite honestly, Joshua is too good for Kaitlyn.

Kaitlyn and Jared. Where to begin? Zero chemistry. If anyone believes that Kaitlyn is into the fish kisser, I’m at a loss. But we all know he’s getting a rose, for sure. It’s episode 4 and Jared is already falling in love, however, Ben received the rose, leaving Jared questioning WTF?

IMG_8932Are you believing Kaitlyn loves kissing Jared?

Now for the rose ceremony. JJ, who’s super confident in getting a rose actually spent more time with Clint. If it were between Clint and JJ they would both offer each other a rose and accept.

Kaitlyn mentions that she heard there was friction in the house. What friction? Did she hear the rumor right? Lol…. UnReal.

Clint wasted no time grabbing Kaitlyn and feeding her a bunch of lies and she fell for it, the other guys were none to ready to rat Clint out for his lies. Even admitting on camera to JJ that he’s not into her at all he just wanted a rose.

Of course this raises the drama on the set and Kaitlyn pulls Clint aside to confront him and the rumors and once again the rose ceremony filters to next week’s episode. (No surprise there seems to be a habit now)

Until then.

Marabelle Blue~

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@KEMTopTalk Welcomes @BettanyHalle aka Cassandre Dayne

CDayneAfter a bout with sickness and recovering last week I’m  back with a great show featuring Cassandre Dayne, erotic and thriller author of more than one hundred and seventy books. Her bio below:

Cassandre Dayne is the award winning, best selling author of over one hundred and seventy books She is also a blog talk radio host of ‘The Edge’, highlighting authors, publishers and other artists who take their creative pieces to a raw and unconventional precipice. Her works as Cassandre have delved into various aspects of BDSM, D/s, edge play, domestic discipline, LGBT, poems and dark thrillers in books as well as her widely read blog. She also has a love of all things terrifying and pens horror and paranormal pieces. Cassandre is an advocate for education and continued understanding of a true D/s lifestyle, one widely mistaken as a form of abuse.

Cassandre and I talked about a wide range of topics from where her inspiration drives from, a woman’s preservative on serial killers, spanking fictions, BDSM and lots more. Master_Vyle joined in the chat room. Lots of good points were bought up on the show especially when we talked about the lack of sex education and the choices that any woman or man can make to protect themselves from STD and parenthood, which sadly is still a trending problem.

Honorable mentions and shout outs where made throughout the show:

Ray Sostre (@anarchy0029), Robert Ropars (@robertropars), Planet L*A*W (@planet12law), Danny Blaq (@dannyblaqvideos), Sin City 411 (@SinCity_411), Sybian (@sybianmaker), Galen Fous (@FetishSexExpert), Master Vyle (@Master_Vyle), Kimmie Kaboom (@TheKimmieKaboom)

Remember there’s still time to sign up for our Vegas event but don’t wait too long! Book your rooms directly with Rumor Vegas using offer code “Kink Entertainment” to get the discounted room rate 877-997-8667 all other info purchasing packages which include a gift bag with lots of great stuff should sign up www.eventsbymblue.com

Look out for our new issue coming out soon www.kinkemagazine.com and of course replays of the show can be found here http://www.blogtalkradio.com/kinkemagazine or here www.kemtoptalk.com

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Thanks for listening!

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

The Bachelor @C_Soules Hometown Dates – Bye Britt :-( AND Carly (YAY)

021615-bachelorbecca1stdateContinuing from last weeks episode, Chris has a one on one date with Becca who I believe he will wind up with in the end. She still has not told Chris that she is a virgin and has never been intimate with any man whatsoever. She tells Chris that she was in a relationship that was on and off but that she had never been in love with him or in love with anyone else for that matter which seems to take Chris aback. Fear perhaps? This is a grown woman who has never felt love for any man. (Three cheers for Becca for not falling for BS and standing her ground.) Back at the hotel,

Britt sits with the girls and ask them what they’re chatting about and Whitney says that they’re talking about Becca and what could be going on on their date and about last night which clearly was not the starring role for Britt. Britt confesses to the girls that she believes in her heart that she is going home and that she’s not going to get a rose so she packed up her things in preparation to leave however if there is a chance that Chris will choose her then she will stay.

That leaves Carly asking a bunch of questions and making sarcastic and antagonizing statements which only upsets Britt even more because Carly feels if Britt is not in the picture that will put her one level up which I don’t believe it will. The evening has dawned upon them for the rose ceremony.

Chris Harrison comes into the room and tells the ladies that there will be no cocktail hour and will go straight to the rose ceremony. Britt has already packed up her things with the intention of telling Chris that she has no plans on staying feeling as though because he gave Kaitlyn the rose after she had put her heart out there. Feeling as though is he worthy of meeting her family coupled with her heart may not be in the right place, she stops the rose ceremony and asks Chris if she can talk to him.

Even though she knows that having put her foot in her mouth, I can understand why she did what she did. What is the point of standing around in a rose ceremony knowing that you’re not going to get a rose when you just might as will say goodbye and get it over with. I think Kaitlyn is an idiot for even making a statement that she made that Britt should just grin and bear it. Why? Perhaps this is the closure Britt wants so she can leave.

I’m surprised even Kaitlyn made it this far also. During their private time while Britt and Chris were talking over each other and nobody was really listening to each other instead of Britt just telling Chris that it was not going to work out for either of them, they come a silence.

43-bachelor-week-7bAnd in that silence it is mutual  that this relationship is over and he walks her out leaving her hysterical crying. All the other girls seem to be empathizing except for Carly, who’s smiling and gloating at Britt’s pain. Chris now heads back to the ladies for the rose ceremony before hometown dates and the ladies that are left standing are Becca, Carly, Whitney, Kaitlyn and Jade.

Before he hands out the roses, he makes a statement that he wants to thank those who have addressed that Britt was being a phony. Huh? If that is the case why did he spend so much time with her and even taking her away from the other ladies to the big and Rich concert for which they were gone for more than an hour while he left all of them waiting and gave Britt a rose that night. Why did he just say earlier in the episode that she was the one he can see being married and having children? Talk about can conflict.

The roses were disbursed as following: Whitney Becca Jade BWAAhAaaaHa. And Carly? Kicked to the curb. Just as she should have been from the moment she came out of the limo with her toy. Continuing on with the episode the first hometown date he has is with Becca who is extremely excited to see him and excited to meet her family as well as she is excited to have him meet her family.

Here are some pictures I took from my television of Carly in the limo clueless as to why Chris let her go. The part of “what’s wrong with me I always end up in the same exact place” got me…what is wrong with her? Where do I begin? Her nasty attitude, the lies she made up to make herself look good, the green eyed monster. Who would want to see her as the next Bachelorette, raise your hands? I thought so. As a woman no one likes to be around nasty, jealous women who will throw them under the bus at the first chance they act upon their insecurity.

pathetic carly2 pathetic carly3 carly pathetic1Speaking of throwing people under the bus, hometown dates are strange because family members will say things that will also throw that person under the bus and ruin potential relationships with the bachelor or bachelorette. Becca’s sister pulls Chris’s side (you know that “private” chat) to tell him that Becca has never been intimate with a guy as far as holding hands or being affectionate and that she had seen them holding hands and she didn’t pull away which was a first. After having a conversation with her mom I don’t think that Chris is deterred from how he feels towards Becca.

Their date ends on a ferris wheel right before he tells her,  “I’m going to take you home with me”. I don’t know if that meant the ferris wheel ride or Arlington. Understand my confusion as he just mentioned the day before how he wanted to ride under the sunset with Britt. On his hometown date with Whitney it was all about her and her career and herself and how fabulous she is.

I guess it’s okay to toot your own horn except when your desperate.  I think shows should show a red flag for Chris because why would she leave that life? Nope! Why would he see that? On their way to meet her family he says he wants to be able to talk to someone to get their blessing I don’t know why he told her that because I don’t believe that he will choose Whitney in the end. At the same time…wow.

Was a choice made already? He eventually asked Whitney’s sister for her blessing and she was very forward and telling him that until she is the last girl standing he should wait to ask that question. She will not give her blessing otherwise. Good point. Despite the situation that is created around the bachelor I don’t believe that Whitney has fallen in love with Chris.

I think it’s just the surroundings and the circumstances where you have a bunch of women pursuing one man that makes one believe that they are in love with them without having them live the realities of life outside of the cameras. But Whitney loves the cameras.

On the hometown date with Kaitlyn she meets him from what looks like a seedy part of Phoenix, Arizona but it was actually a place where there’s a studio and they decided to record a rap song which was pretty bad. I’m not sure who comes up with these strange date ideas. While the family settings seem to the usual boring scene, after dinner Kaitlyn takes Chris to an advertising street sign where she placed Kaitlyn loves Chris.

Which I think is pretty awesome nice way to tell somebody that you love them not that it’s never been done before. An advertisement sign that overlooks the whole street is a big deal. On his hometown date with Jade in Gering, Nebraska, while everything seems to be going fine on the outside, Jade still has concerns because she had pose nude for Playboy and still has not told Chris.

Chris makes inquiries through her family members about Jade and they’re all pretty much saying the same thing. They all seem to express concern that Jade is not ready to settle down, she’s a wild girl, etc. it’s stuff like that that maybe your family should not be sharing with a potential life partner. When Jade took him back to, I’m gathering, her hotel room where she was staying while in Nebraska, she shared with him her secret about posing for Playboy and while Chris seem to have taken it in stride I knew that was the last nail that locked the coffin and the rose ceremony proved it. Was anyone surprised?

I was surprised that, she too, lasted for as long as she did. I believe the only reason why she had surpassed rose ceremony after rose ceremony was because his sisters had chosen her for his one on one, probably thinking they see something he hasn’t seen in her.

Look, if your dick doesn’t get hard and your pussy doesn’t get wet, that should be enough to tell you they ain’t the one. While he made it a point to tell her that his decision was not based on what she told him but more based on the relationships that he has developed with the other women, begs the question how much of a relationship does he really have with Becca?

While I believe Becca is the ideal woman for him, how long did it take for him to establish a relationship with her. In the whole spectrum of looking at the last four ceremonies he has had more of a connection with Britt than any other girl including Whitney.

I really felt for Jade but again I cannot see her settling down on some farm with Chris.

All in all this episode was extremely boring. The hometown dates were just the usual family gatherings with a family member pulling Chris’s side saying  “let’s have some one-on-one time”.

Bye Jade. We all saw that one coming. Really? Could you see her family looking at her with the same eyes the day they were all in Arlington knowing that she was naked in a magazine. People are so hard up. If Chris had real feelings for her and tossed them aside for the sake of conservative modesty, he made a big mistake. Oh did you notice those tears that Chris shed when he said goodbye to Jade. I didn’t see him cry for anyone like that.

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

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