Married at First Site Season Two – New Couples New Problems

married-at-first-sight-season-2-weddingsThe season starts with three new couples who are paired once again by the experts, Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Joe Cilona, Dr. Logan Levkoff, and spiritualist Greg Epstein.

The couples are Sean and Davina, Ryan R and Jaclyn and Ryan D and Jessica

How the experts paired these couples it seemed were based on past experiences.

For Sean and Davina, both experienced bullying in their childhood lives. Davina who is Indian and beautiful, I must add, was bullied as a child for being different. Her father had abandoned their family when she was growing up so she lacked that experience of having a man figure in her life, however, it seems it doesn’t affect who she is as a woman. Davina reminds me of me in some ways. Yes as a child I was bullied but I did have a present father growing up who never abandoned our family. She, like me, also prefers Caucasian men. Not sure if it’s a thing where she has the same reasons as to why she doesn’t like Indian men as the way I’m not attracted to Latin men.

Both she and Sean worked in the medical field, Davina in pharmaceuticals and Sean in trauma.

Ryan R and Jaclyn both said their “I do’s”, however Jaclyn who hasn’t had sex in more than two years has big reservations on Ryan R who’s really not attractive but not overly ugly. I can understand when she said that there’s something about his face that didn’t sit right with her. If you’re blind you would see it too. Definitely something going on with the front teeth, veneers of some sort so I get it. Sure I think it’s important to date someone with nice teeth, however it’s not a total deal breaker for me. If the man is good, makes money and can take care of you, she should give him a chance. I noticed though she does things that I normally would do when I’m not attracted to someone when I would go on a blind date and be a bit rambunctious – for example the way she threw his drink and told him he needs to drink this or in the next episode on their honey moon when she ordered the steaks for them instead of letting him order his own meal.

Ryan D and Jessica were both paired due to the same commonalities. They are both independent and have been single for a long time and family is very important. The stability of life is what’s important to the both of them.

The only couples that are immediately attracted to each other right now are Ryan D. and Jessica, Sean and Davina.  For Ryan R. and Jaclyn it seems that Ryan R. right now is not seeing that Jaclyn is really not that into him.

After the wedding, it was picture time and while all the couples seem happy in their pictures, it looks like Jaclyn’s brave face it starting to fail her as she’s becoming impatient and irritable. What I find strange is what Dr. Pepper Schwartz says physical match is not that important but trust in the experiment because they share essential values.

Really?

Why do people connect in the first place? Why is it that the other couples are getting along well? They are having that physical attraction. I believe, without that, tell me where the relationship is going. Granted he does not have to look like what women think Brad Pitt is, for me it’s Kyle Secor and Peter Coyote in his younger days, if there isn’t a physical attraction how can one move past that and fall in love with the other important qualities if you can’t see them on top of you.

For me I just can’t get past that. I have met the nicest of guys but if I was not psychically attracted to them, the men remained as friends and not anything more.

This season seems to also focus more on the family, along with their thoughts and feelings on the whole scenario on a blind arranged marriage.

While the couples are off after their husband/wife announcements and celebrating their nuptials at the reception, it’s now the time for the couples to be on their own in the hotel room.

Jaclyn is positive she will not be having sex with her husband Ryan, who’s mom mentioned earlier that she knows Jaclyn loves him as much as he loves her….? Um what?

Davina and Sean look like they are hitting it off very well, and Ryan D. and Jessica were sure not letting religion interfere with their relationship while Jaclyn struggles playing, “as if”, and wanting the experience to end.

Relationships take sacrifice, commitment, compromises and hard work. I can’t see someone making sacrifices for someone they barely know. Most people will chalk it up and say, “no love lost”, but will they ever learn anything from that experience by just taking the shortcut.

This is what people look for day in and day out. I have one person on my Facebook page that does nothing all day but bash women and talk about how he will only use them for sex. That’s the underlying notion that he really wants someone sincere and instead of putting himself out there and being honest, he’d rather sound like a scumbag.

Now while I can relate with is brutal honesty, the fact remains that what you put out there is what you will get.

For these couples, it’s just the beginning. And while some of them may be feeling the physical attraction, the question is will this outlive the reality of what it takes for a relationship to work and the one couple feeling the opposite, will they be the ones that will make a sacrifice to commit?

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The Bachelor @JimmyKimmel Special @c_soules

The Bachelor E3 – The Jimmy Kimmel Special

Jimmy Kimmel looking very intent on making sure he hits every spot on Chris Soules (lol)

Comedian and talk show host Jimmy Kimmel takes over week three of the bachelor which is almost appropriate because Jimmy has a lot to say about what happens the show and making predictions although I think he gets his predictions from reality Steve.
While making priceless jokes, the girls were actually happy to see him and took over Chris Harrison’s job which was also pretty funny. You know if for any reason Chris Harrison couldn’t do a season, Jimmy Kimmel would be a great replacement as he will keep the humor steady in this already comedic show.
Before the date card is given to the ladies, Jimmy pulls out a swear jar explaining the word ‘amazing’ is used quite often so in lieu of keeping count of the word, everyone that uses it has to put a dollar in the jar.
The date card is disbursed with dancer Kaitlyn to start things off with the first one on one date.
Amazing…
Unbeknownst to Farmer Chris and Kaitlyn, Jimmy Kimmel would be in control of their date and upon arrival at Costco’s, Jimmy supplied them with a grocery list of things they must pick up for their date.

Although a highly unconventional date for the Bachelor since most of all the dates are based on glamour, Kaitlyn did make valid points regarding their date, bringing the reality aspect to what they may be doing in real life which would be shopping….?
When they arrived back at the house, and engaged in conversation, Jimmy shows up and becomes part of the date. Of course one of the first things he asks is about the fantasy suite and the unspoken rule that no one is to disclosed if the couples have sex. Come on….we all know they do. Look at Andi – she had sex with Nick but picked Josh because she was convinced at some point he was going to be into her. Jimmy, in his “manly show” ways, made a lot of jokes to Chris that he should have sex with all of the women before he picks one.
Back at the house, the new date card comes in for the group date as follows:
Britt, Jillian, Becca, Tracy, Mackenzie, Kelsey, Amber, Ashley S., Juelia, Samantha, Nikki, and Carly.
…And on the date with Kaitlyn, Chris and Jimmy, Chris (during his interview) talked about how attracted he is to Kaitlyn and the qualities she possesses. While in the pool in their intimate setting and kissing, the camera pans the camera over to the right and there’s Jimmy Kimmel is on the other side of the pool having his champagne and enjoying the view.

Now it’s time for the group date which Jimmy Kimmel informs the ladies that this date will consist of farm work more like an obstacle course of farming. He gave specific instructions to the girls on what they need to do the first thing they need to do is milk a goat and drink some of the milk (which I’m not sure that’s even kosher or safe to drink), after that they had to shovel manure and chase a pig. Carly who didn’t get a date last week was on this group date and mentioned that she was allergic to goats milk but she was still going to drink it anyway I don’t know if that’s a stupid move but if you’re allergic to something chances are you shouldn’t be eating or drinking it. I guess when you come in with your toy karaoke machine, anything is to be expected from Carly.
Carly ends up winning the race and they take photos as the Farmer and wife American Gothic picture. The picture couldn’t be complete without Jimmy Kimmel and Chris Soules as the American Gothic couple part two.
By this point I’ve lost count on how many ‘amazing’ were said, but I do know they missed one with Becca which was later down the line.
After the group festivities, the girls are all dressed and ready to compete for Chris’ time and make out.
Carly grabs him first, now feeling confident that she’s in the game as a result of not having time with him on the episode before and she makes his speech I’m a man you’re a woman blah blah blah and makes out with him.
Amber who’s also feeling super confident has her time with Chris and plays, “let’s pretend to slow dance without music” and they kiss, and it suddenly becomes the repeat of Juan Pablo when his tongue was in everyone’s mouth too. As a matter of fact, they should have had JP for this season to help Farmer Chris decide who the better kisser is.
McKenzie’s, the youngest out of all the ladies, was noticeably upset at all the kissing, as she’s still in her head that she got the first kiss. When she gets her time with him she confronts him and asks why was he kissing everyone on this group date. The look on the farmer’s face was priceless. Yes, why was he kissing everyone? In the past seasons, (except for JP) I can’t recall where everyone was kissing everyone so early on, well maybe Bob Guiny.
When Becca had her one-on-one time with Chris, Becca mentions that their conversations seem effortless. She also confides with him by telling him she would have not done the Bachelor if it were anyone else but him. Watching him last season, she saw he would be the ideal person to bring home to her family. (She did say amazing twice). And while the music is heightening and the scenery is to perfection, they are locked eyes, holding hands, and as they draw closer, they….hug. Were you waiting for a kiss? My thoughts on Becca, I like her. She turned the tables when she said that she would have not come on to the show if it were not him as the Bachelor. Yes while Chris does hand out the roses and it’s about who stays and who goes, just as Andi didn’t feel that Juan Pablo was a good choice for her, she chose to leave, any one of these women can do that. But you know in reality television every woman wants their spotlight. Right now I’m placing my bet on Becca to be one of the top contenders.
While all is well on the group date, back at the house, fertility nurse, Whitney was complaining that she hadn’t gotten one on one time with Chris and when the date card arrives, guess who’s name is read…of course Whiney, I mean Whitney.
Now back at the group date, Chris tells the ladies how he had a good time with everybody, but he gives the rose to someone that he said he wanted to have a further connection with and he gave the rose to Becca, probably the only girl that he didn’t make out with that he had one on one time with.
Whitney who spent most of her time complaining she didn’t get any one on one time with him finally has her date with Chris. There’s something about Whitney where her conversations seems forced and phony. While they are talking Chris mentions how important it is to him that he is with someone who is spontaneous, who can work a crowd or be comfortable in a party or casual setting.
And then….how convenient because here’s a wedding party that strolls down from the hill they are sitting from. Whitney who immediately notices that it’s a wedding party suggest they crash the party. Really? Really….
 At the wedding, Whitney suggests that if anyone recognizes him they should pretend they are engaged so no one suspects anything and to let the guests know the must keep top secret. My thoughts on Whitney, I’m not a fan and here’s why. This is a woman whose meeting couples day in and day out helping them have babies. She’s 29 years old and this is about the age where women start to freak out thinking if they don’t hurry up and get married, their eggs will dry up and they will die an old lady with cats.
I really hate this concept. I would like to believe as women we are allowed to make out own choices. And if a woman decides that she does not want to marry nor have children, why is she looked up as a reject? Very stupid thinking if you ask me.
What’s even more stupid is Whitney not really looking as she’s thinking anything through. More like, I will do whatever he wants just so I can get that ring.
After they crash the wedding and walk away he comes back with the rose exclaiming that Whitney absolutely made his day and he asked her if she will accept the rose. Of course she will. Time is of the essence for Whitney. SMH

On the flip side Juelia confides with the other ladies about the incident that happened with her husband committing suicide. I have a lot of issues with this. First, I’m not sure why casting felt the need to choose her. The woman clearly is still reeling from the loss of her husband. Not only the loss but how it happened still plagues her. It’s not right that a woman with so much pain give herself to a guy who will basically spend most of his time comforting her loss instead of being an equal partner.  (note: Apparently, Chris had found out through one or more the women gossiping about her)
I have to say while I empathize with her story, the fact of the matter is, while I was sitting here watching, my eyes were rolling around because it’s so dramatic and so unnecessary. It was just over-the-top and furthermore with the way she was crying, there is no way I can see any kind of relationship developing with Chris. This is this kind of stuff that you see in soap operas for pure entertainment and nothing more. Sad to see that The Bachelor continues to use women’s pain as the, “coming up next”, for their features on this show.
Britt continues to hang out all him and making out with him every chance that she gets, because she wants to feel some sense of security. Jade, the cosmetics girl runs and take him inside his house to make with out with him. Ashley I. is completely losing her mind and Jillian is walking around half naked looking for him. Sounds like a naked retreat if you ask me.
When Jade and Chris get back out of the room Jillian is in the hot tub like waiting for them and Ashley I. still running around like a chicken without a head because she needs that one on one time STAT! While the rest of the girls are looking for him they don’t realized that he’s with Jade making out on the bed and when they finally emerge, Chris goes in the hottub where Jillian monopolizes the whole time as she refused to leave when the girls started to gather around trying to get that one on one time.
A little bit about Ashley I…she’s a virgin. That’s not to say that she doesn’t have experience in relationships but in her mind, she seems to be stuck that if her tongue is not in Chris’ mouth she doesn’t stand a chance being with him and this gives her some distorted confidence that it does. She too is highly emotional and over the top. Have you noticed when she does kiss Chris, it’s almost awkward and unnatural.
And the roses goes to:
Jade
Samantha
Juelia
McKenzie
Kelsey
Britt
Megan
Carly
Ashley S. the lunatic
Nikki
Jillian
Ashley I.
The ladies who received roses on dates: Becca, Whitney and Kaitlyn

The most notable that didn’t get a rose was Amber – fake music, fake dancing, maybe the kissing was fake on Chris’ part too, a perfect example of why kissing doesn’t guarantee a rose. There was clearly no romantic connection but that didn’t stop Chris from putting his tongue in her mouth. Amber’s rejection on interview was visible without her saying a word and kudos to her that she choose not to talk and walk away and savor those tears in private. I felt really bad for her. Rejection is never the greatest feeling in the world and even worse when exposed on national television. I’m glad she walked away.
But there was one that went away “crying” in the limo and that was Jimmy Kimmel’s as Chris Harrison informed him that he was no longer needed. Chris Harrison definitely has a great sense of comedic humor and I thought this was a very good episode definitely bought something different into the show even though the one thing that wasn’t different was a new set of pathetic women.

A Month Later

So I have to say this first. My trip to Boston was the best. After more than a year long courtship Robert was everything and more in what I was looking for in a man.

I think the first mistake I made was posting our pic on Facebook. The demon of the demise of relationship.

When I left we were not stop talking to each other….on Facebook.

I wasn’t too happy about our form of communication. I have had better communication with married men. Needless to say I did my best until it got the better of me.

One day missing him terribly I wrote a note in a card and mailed it to him. The next day or so lingering around FB I noticed there was activity on his page. Thinking at some point I would hear from him I didn’t and exploded.

Why the fuck….

Of course the day he gets the lovey dovey card is the day he decides to log in and sees my explosive email, which leads into this argument and then the “demise” of our relationship. Why did I put demise in quotation marks….because I don’t believe our relationship is over. We’ve had this argument before and he didn’t talk to me for months and this was before we met.

How many times did I explain that FB is not the place to maintain any form of communication in a relationship.

How many times I made suggestions on different ways to contact me.

How many times have we gotten into someone writing on my wall I have no interest in but I make on inquiry about someone on his page and I’m dead wrong all the way with no way of redeeming myself.

Yes if you’re reading this and thinking, ” this is immature”, you’re right….it is.

Robert is younger than me. While people try to rectify his behavior by his age I just find that certain things don’t rely on age but the level of maturity one has.

I would have never ran out of patience because I loved him and yes he loved me too.

So while it sucks that we are in this cycle of immature tactics and behavior I’m feeling bitter, unhappy and depressed.

I was so happy with Robert and without him I am not. Is this what love is? I forgot. The last time I was in love was in 2008. And who I called Mountain Man in my Bravenet blog that was a deep love that took years to recover from. I wonder at times if I have.

My life is different since I broke up with Mountain Man. There’s no going back although I have had visions of running into him what would happen. Would those feelings creep back. God I hope not. Maybe it’s a good thing that after all of this time that I don’t ever see him again.

However with Robert I feel completely different. I feel like I’m one half. I am still a whole woman but I’m missing my partner. The one that made me believe in love again. His kisses right now are just a memory hoping that one day soon I get to kiss him again.

The last email I sent Robert I poured my heart out. He read it 4/20 with no response….

So…what else is there to say other than I’m not interested in any man. No one stands up. If anyone thinks its so easy to find someone it’s not. There are plenty of men that try to talk to me. None of which hold any candle to what I’m looking for in a man. There’s only one.

I’m sad, depressed and all those negative feelings that come with missing someone.

I’m not perfect. I know that. But I also know I don’t deserve the I love you one day and let’s be friends the next day.

I deserve better. Always.

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Why Men are Threatened by Women?

If you think you’re going to read this blog looking for the answer, forget it. I can say a variety of sarcastic things like I did this morning.

Which leads to why I’m writing this in the first place.

This morning I was reading something about the Terms of Service regarding Instagram. As most know, Mark (S)Zuckerberg bought Instagram and to NOT my surprise, he’s fucking it up just as I predicted this summer.

While the filters are all fun, if anyone has noticed I haven’t been utilizing instagram as much as I did this summer. Not because of the TOS but because I get bored easily. And while it was fun for me, it’s kind of played out it’s course.

Again, I’m just speaking for me.

After reading @CynicalLongkat sarcastically and humorous comments, I wrote something funny along the same lines as he when some asshole chimed in the conversation calling me a hater.

A Hater?

Why?

Since when is expressing greed of another is being a hater?

If I choose to make any comments about Mark Zuckerberg it has to do with the mere fact of what the media is discussing, take this article for example from the #NYTimes.http://bits.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/12/17/what-instagrams-new-terms-of-service-mean-for-you/

So now I have someone calling me mindless names and telling me that I need to be fucked with a hard cock because he started a “debate” that I was losing.

Wow….

Lets get the record straight. I like to be fucked with a hard cock because if it’s soft nothing really happens there.

Second, calling someone a hater isn’t starting a debate, you’re name calling.

Third, you’re a life coach? I never heard of any life coaches responding in this manner. He will actually begin a trend where authentic life coaches will call themselves another name so they won’t be associated with stupidity.

Forth, you most likely have a small dick.

ANY MAN who attacks a woman in an open forum clearly has issues within himself.

Men that I encounter on a daily basis, even the sexual pervs have respect.

Why is that? Because the sexual pervs want more and they know how to work there way around getting more so they can get off. It would be pointless to curse you out.

Men who troll find an opening where they can attack women because of their own inability to cope with women who are empowerment, business savvy and possess inner strength. That type of man, ladies, is someone to stay far way from.

They are the ones I watch on Investigation Discovery Channel.

While I don’t have one answer to my questions, I do have another answer that may help. See a psychiatric and for your small penis problem, you just have to live with that.

And I just need to clarify that this is not an attack on all men because most men are pretty good guys, it’s just these mindless assholes that are not even worthy to be regarded as human is the point I hope everyone can understand.

I had to apologize to my Twitter followers because for me, seeing banters of mindless arguments on Twitter is just stupid. Debate, yes, but name calling, no. Twitter is a social network, but a lot of people still haven’t figured that out.

As for Instagram, if you have an account read the TOS, you can delete your account before January 16th without being affected if you chose to.

Thank you for reading. Keep it #KinkE

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

 

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