#TheBachelor @benhiggi E5 – Cleaning House

The ladies arrive in Mexico City where once again Olivia is convinced the date card is for her.
 
Guess what???
 
It’s not LOL. 
ben and amanda.jpgIt was actually Amanda.
 
Oh, but Olivia had much to say about Amanda. She doesn’t believe Ben is the right person for her because she has children.
 
Really Olivia? You are a fucking child.
 
The next day, Ben wakes the girls up at 4:30 in the morning so he can see all of them in their element. Surprisingly, Cray Cray Jub had her hair in head while Olivia left pieces of her weave on the dresser. It was pretty funny to hear Ben ask, “who’s weave is this?” Definitely an LOL moment.
 
Ben finally did find Amanda and as they headed off on their date, Olivia, having a conversation with Lauren H. and telling her she completely disagrees Ben should keep her, especially since she’s been away from her kids for quite some time. She also doesn’t believe it would work out, if Ben wanted children, he would have had them.
 
Really Olivia? Are you a psychologist now? Perhaps you should be on the show, “Married At First Sight” and after a whole psychological work up, I’m sure none of the advisors on that show would pick her to be with someone. That marriage wouldn’t last more than a week.
 
During Ben and Amanda’s date, she expressed concerns on her interview regarding relationships and marriage because at her such youthful age, she’s already lived that life where Ben has not. In real life, relationships like this are truly a challenge. You can’t expect for someone to come into your life and adjust to your needs and your family without adjusting to his needs.
 
While Amanda seems to be on a “long extended date”, according to Jubilee (cray cray), she’s upset and jealous that Ben is spending more and more time with the other ladies and not her. If she thinks really hard about their one on one date, it wasn’t romantic at all, and the proceeding episodes he treats her as just one of the guys. You can take the ghetto out of the hood and the ghetto will always follow LOL. It just won’t jive with Ben’s family. Let’s not pretend here guys.
 
The group date card arrives and the names are read as follows (with Olivia begging not to want to be a part of the group date because she wants to spend more time with “her man”).
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I was all convinced at some point Olivia would be one of the top two but I think between episodes 1 and 2, I changed my mind. Now watching episode three, I’m would be surprised if Olivia receives a rose at the end of this.

Four weeks in and she’s calling Ben her husband and how she’s in love with him that’s “her man”, “Ben and Zen” I’m not sure how many more shit she can come up with, that is after Chris Harrison announces Ben is no long in Los Angels but rather in Las Vegas (my future home).

As soon as they realize they are going, she’s instigating she’s going to whisper to him, she wants to see Celine. She’s funny.

Needless to say, once the ladies arrive in Vegas, the first date card also arrives in their hotel room at the beautiful Aria Hotel (was there in 2014 truly beautiful hotel), and JoJo is on this particular one and one.

When Ben picked her up as they waited for the helicopter and the girls became jealous but then laughed when the helicopter landed and the force of the propellers knocked the table and champagne down from the table BUT walked away when Ben took advantage of the moment and kissed JoJo. Now that was pretty cool.

 

During the one on one, it seemed the conversation between Ben and JoJo was truncated. What exactly the story with JoJo and her last relationship. Why did it sound like she was having an affair? I mean no offense, we’re all grown here, aren’t we and shit happens, however, it would make sense she would discuss a relationship to make a conversation flow for the cameras and before you know it, Ben is offering a rose. Okay. Great.

The night ended with one more surprise after he gave the rose to JoJo, the fireworks above the Aria hotel began to spark when the girls inside their room heard the fireworks but could not see them (Ben and JoJo’s date were at the MGM Grand – great hotel too) of course had a clearest view of the fireworks.

JoJo one point, Olivia zero.

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#TheBachelor @benhiggi

Here we are~ A New Year has just begun and ABC wastes no time in premiering the Bachelor Ben Higgins from the Kaitlyn season. Surprisingly Ben was one of the last men standing (not sure why) there seemed to be a lack of personality there and with all the good looking men who were in her season, why choose Ben?

Anyway, I’m trying something new. I weaned myself off cable and no longer have the opportunity to watch live television. With an array of streaming applications where you can watch all of your favorite shows on your own time, I have to say, it sucks just a little bit.

I’m not able to catch up on the Housewives because Bravo hasn’t gotten with the programming of steaming unless you want to watch last season’s bullshit and who wants to blog about something that happened last year? Bye Felicia.

As always the intro starts off with shades of love on the water, in a boat, on some kind of a warm island, or on some kind of ride, followed by tears of women who barely know him or claiming they put their whole life on hold, yada yada yada. Oh lest not forget the “bitch” or “evil doer” of the show, “he’s my husband, he just hasn’t figure it out yet” type…..and the one who has a panic attack and guess what she won’t need the paramedics all she will need is Ben to sweep her off her feet. #Pathetic

Ben’s background, simple, from Warsaw, Indiana, small town where everyone knows each other, probably some Christian town…blah and on top of that he can’t find anyone from his own town?

Ben has this fake and mediocre conversation with his parents who have been together for the last thirty five years. One of the main topics discussed was Ben’s fears of being unlovable, which was something he bought up in the Kaitlyn season.

Hey Ben, try being my age and still not finding someone decent to have simple conversations with, without pulling teeth or begging for affection. Believe me you will find someone to love before I do. LOL.

Now with the Bachelor family growing, it seems they invite other Bachelors to “advise” on how to deal with this type of “reality” situation.

 Who do they bring back? Farmer Chris Soules (who broke up with his self centered girlfriend Whitney Bischoff), Jason Mesnick who at the end picked Melissa the one he really didn’t want over Molly but I guess to make the producers happy he gave them what they wanted. However in the reunion he told Melissa he was not the least bit interested in her and asked for Molly back. (What a happy reunion). Sean Lowe who married Catherine, discussed how he fell in love with her towards the end of the show (which was true). My question was why Farmer Chris was there. Clearly he picked the wrong woman. I don’t think their relationship lasted more than a week. (of course I’m being sarcastic) but if you recall, he had more of a relationship with Brit while the other girls were just hanging out watching this relationship flourish before them. #Confused

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What’s Real and What’s Not…

The week of November 16, minding my business, getting off the train to head home, I noticed someone from the corner of my eye as I walked down the stairs and they walking beside me. Now the first thought is, “who the fuck is this person”, then he speaks…

“boy does that chicken smell good.”

There’s a restaurant up the street from the train station and I will say this, if the chicken is more than a day old, and they’re cooking it, it smells pretty bad.

The conversation leads to me saying the food didn’t smell good and I can make better chicken than they can. I thought that was the end, until he walked with me to my destination.

Okay, aggressive maybe?

Approaching the ninety nine cents store, I tell him, “well I have to go in here” and he asked me for my number.

I asked him to give me his and I promised I would call him back.

“What’s your name?”, he asked.

“My name is Marabelle.”

Well I wasn’t going to tell him my birth name. LOL.

Needless to say, I did give him my number. My business number. And then the calls started maybe a two days later. I didn’t feel we had much in common. But after a few text exchanges and a few calls in between, he surprised me last Saturday meeting me at the very same area we first started talking and took to the diner where we spent about four more maybe a bit more hours talking about everything.

Then my view changed.

Wow, this guy is smart and we do have a lot in common.

But…(you know there’s always that damn ‘but’), due to privacy issues, I changed my phone number on my ‘whatsapp’ to my business number, not realizing anyone who had the app and my business number will pop up a notification like, “hey your friend just joined whatsapp” – the same number I gave to this guy, who looks at my profile pic, watermarked, “Property of Kink~E Magazine”.

I have struggled for many years with men who thought that me owning a sex magazine made me available for sex, or that I was some kind of freak fucking different guys every night. Or how can I be such a prude and own a sex magazine.

Umm well, people are dirty and disgusting and I don’t open my legs to anyone unless they are fucking worth it. And oh, my fetish life isn’t practiced with some fly by night asshole that doesn’t know what he’s doing.

The men I meet get it very twisted and very confused as to who I am, what I do, what is the purpose of the magazine and why I do it.

The mission statement on www.kinkemagazine.com is very clear and anyone who reads it knows exactly what my magazine is about, what my writers do and what we talk about. Most importantly, why it’s so important to educated people living or exploring alternative lifestyles.

Well now upon knowing this info he had on hand, I told him what I do, I’m a writer, I own a magazine and I have different writer who discuss different aspects of adult entertainment and alternative lifestyle and he seemed cool with it.

After our endless hours of talking, it was time for me to go home and get rest and figuring I would hear from him the next day, I did not.

Okay what the fuck is going on here. You like someone (remember we are not 25, I don’t have time for stupid mind games), you’re not going to waste time or say, “well, duh, gee, I’ll contact her three days from now. By then I would have lost interest.

Bothered by the fact he didn’t make much of an effort, but texting here and there, I said something and it seemed to wake up the senses and led to another all night conversation.

Now my head space is, “yeah I’m feeling this guy, we can hang out get to know each other.”

Today, not so much. Inconsistent. Not making much of an effort BUT definitely made an effort in exposing exactly what he wanted to do me, desires of feasting on certain parts of my body…(use your imagination, ya’ll know what I’m talking about).

Yeah…no, I wasn’t feeling it.

I go out with you ONE time and one week later you’re talking about eating me out. It’s one thing to flirt, yet another when you’re just horn dog asking for sex when I barely even know the guy.

No thank you.

Does he not think I’m already getting emails like that from someone who’s been chasing me since 2000. And OH what about the guy I connect with periodically. While he’s busy playing mind games, someone else (someone I know) texting me at the same time, asking when I’m coming over.

A friend with benefit understanding only works with me for ONE person. I don’t need an extra person for that especially if they are telling me how REAL they are, when in essence are just full of shit.

I have been “around the block” enough to know all the stories guys play just to get a girl into bed, instead of just being forthright in saying, “I’m not looking for anything serious right now, however, I would like a partner I can be intimate with and have fun.”

Last time I checked, there’s nothing wrong with that level of honesty, but that’s just me. Some women may find the whole statement repulsive and that’s okay too.

Look I’m not here to judge, far from it. But when you come in with lies about me being in your heart and saying all of these romantic things just to get me in bed, is where I lose all respect for a person who’s flat out lying.

After addressing said issue, not only does he block me on twitter (why I don’t know he’s not worth reading any tweets he puts out), he blocks my number on his phone (after last Saturday when he tells me I gave him my “heartline” after I gave him my personal cell number).

If these are the actions of a person who claims they are telling the truth, guess what…you’re not.

Liars will not defend their actions once they’ve been found out. If anything they run the other way to ensure their integrity is not found out by others so they can pull the same game on someone else who will buy the lie.

While no one knows who I’m talking about, the last thing I would do it tag him on tweets like an immature child and accuse him of being a liar. Sure I will say certain things, but I won’t tag a name on to it.

He could have taken a different approach had he been telling the TRUTH, maybe by picking up the phone and calling and defending himself.

Being truthful is painful, whether you’re on the receiving end of it or not, hearing it for yourself when the words are departing from your lips can be painful.

After tonight, I was hurt and disappointed because I really wanted him to be for real in everything he was saying, but in the back of my mind, something said, there’s something not right.

I have learned to follow my intuition instead of following my heart.

Sad when you can’t follow your heart.

I text a friend of mine and told her what barely began has pretty much ended. In this phone conversation, a lot was revealed to me saying the words out loud.

Even in my own personal truth, as the words left my lips, my tears streamed down my face, because this really wasn’t about this guy, it is about something in the past, yet to be closed and the actions I am taking, in my own personal journey to resolve it.

You will all get a chance to share in that, I promise you.

In the meantime, my tears lie on the disappointment more than the person himself. It sucks when a person doesn’t tell you the truth, it sucks even more when they feel they can get over on you and not care about the feelings you’re investing through their web of lies.

(Addition) I wanted to say this, there’s always a reason why everyone goes through certain paths in their lives. I believe there’s a reason why I am having these experiences. While these experiences may not be so pleasant I know at the end of this tunnel will flourish something beautiful.

The journey continues….because whoever my “one” is, will completely and totally love me for who I am and not what they think I’m supposed to be.

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

#TheBachelorette – Two Men Plus Ben @kaitlynbristowe @viallnicholas28 @chrisbharrison

Kaitlyn+Bachelorette cryingWatching The Bachelorette you almost forget one more guy is in this episode….

Since it’s down to the wire with three men left, instead of meeting the families first, the fantasy dates came first. Why they did that, I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s easier for Kaitlyn to have sex with the rest of the guys before she brings them home to families?

Last episode we left off with Shawn parading into Nick’s room accusing him of being a liar and full of shit about his feelings towards Kaitlyn. Furthermore, bringing up things that were said during Andi’s season which I think is a bit out of turn.

Shawn wasn’t there, so he will believe anything bad about Nick to justify his jealousy.

Nick in turn accused Shawn of meeting some girl and having sex with her the same night. That wouldn’t be any new news now….how many guys in the world have done the same thing.

While the boys are bickering, Kaitlyn has her overnight with Ben.

Let’s analyze Ben for a little bit. Cool looking guy, sexy in his own “country club” kind of a way. Definitely can see stability in the relationship BUT is Kaitlyn the right girl for him….nah.

Kaitlyn is a girl all over the place, this was the reason why I didn’t see her with Chris Soules at all and every time he gave her a rose, it was just a deeper of heart break. It’s almost as if he’s a “Chris” reincarnated and definitely not a match here.

Their date was beautiful though. Seeing the sights of Ireland, who wouldn’t fall in love?

During their conversation, you can tell Ben is fully invested in this relationship; unknowingly she had sex with Nick and she told Shawn he, “was it”, too soon the in the game to tell someone that, especially someone like Shawn who’s possessive and jealous all at the same time.

Kaitlyn says in her interview she can picture a life with Ben, but I think right now being with him it’s just the calming part of the insanity that’s brewing between Shawn and Nick, and mentioning being with Ben feels good, and she “feels” like she’s falling in love with Ben.

That’s code for those feelings are going to change once she’s in between Shawn and Nick.

It’s too bad because Ben is a great guy, or so it seems…..maybe he can be the next Bachelor, or maybe Nick? That would make an interesting season.

Ben and Kaitlyn have their intimate moment (I’m sure they had sex too since she mentions they only got a half hour of sleep).

the-bachelorette-shawn-strips-naked-on-golf-courseShe meets up with Shawn for their one on one for a golf date. Gifting him a bright pink shirt and blue pants, I have to say, Shawn can wear just about anything.

Their date was good in the beginning; they were golfing and having fun that is until Kaitlyn brings up an idea of a game of, “truth or dare”. Sometimes a game like Truth or Dare can go wrong.

The dare was to unclothe Shawn and have him golf naked. I think Kaitlyn will do anything to see a naked man!

During their date, later that evening, Kaitlyn brings up the topic of Shawn having this one night stand, and why he hates Nick, etc. etc.

Shawn admits he did have a conversation with Nick and believes Nick’s has ulterior motives which are not good for Kaitlyn. The Eskimo brother’s topic came up….and Kaitlyn mentions in her interview she needs security and assurance he’s going to be a loyal husband because of statement.

Ummm Kaitlyn, here’s a memo for you, you had sex with Nick. Can he question if you’re going to be a loyal wife or is this part of the exploration?

They decide to go to the fantasy suite which shows nothing, no kissing, nothing, just Kaitlyn putting the DND tag and closing the door.

The next day as Shawn leaves Kaitlyn’s room and Nick is waiting around and asks Shawn does he have a few minutes. Umm, WTF?

Nick felt as though he was blasted when Shawn decided to run into his room and he felt he needed to respond to Shawn.

Shawn believes the conversation they had proved Nick was a smooth talker. I missed that part, because I didn’t see proof other than two men who are fighting over a woman who’s not all that.

Nick questioned Kaitlyn’s motives after Shawn mentioned he and Kaitlyn spent the night together.

Now having a conversation with Chris Harrison who acts as the “advisor”, she admits Ben is a great guy next to  Shawn who exudes both of the “drama intensity” and humor where she doesn’t get the same with Ben. She believes though Ben will make a great husband…..she doesn’t say this but clearly it’s what’s on her mind, not just for her.

Nick, however, having feelings for him, she questions his loyalty towards being in a committed relationships whereas she doesn’t question that with Shawn because he’s a jealous freak. So she knows he wants to be with her but the jealousy can put a hurting on their relationships. (Any relationship for that matter)

I’m still stuck on why they didn’t do the hometown dates. Are they doing budget cuts?

When Kaitlyn stands before all three guys, she tells them she’s falling in love and how incredible how all the overnight dates have been. how much they have shared with her and she thanked them. Caught up in the moment of emotion, she walked away to gather herself, knowing who she was letting go. She comes back to them and reaffirms all she can do is follow her heart.

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She gives the first rose to Nick and then to Shawn which leaves Ben standing there with nothing.  After Ben says goodbye to Shawn and Nick, Kaitlyn asked if she can walk Ben out. She tells Ben how frustrating it is , he’s such a great guy but she doesn’t feel the same connection with him.

IMG_9620Before they say goodbye he tells her she looks great and he will miss her. In the car heading back to a hotel I guess, he said he wasn’t expecting to go home, but he’s a different person and was able to open up and have feelings again.

So perhaps this is a good thing. He learned how to open up I think it’s what you do afterwards when you fall in love and it doesn’t work out. Do you close yourself up? Is it harder to open up to someone new or do you hurry up and find a rebound who can give you that good feeling?

After the rose ceremony, Kaitlyn comes back to do a final salute to both of the men she chose. A very quiet drink, Nick hugs Kaitlyn in the anticipation she will see him at hometown dates and then hugs Shawn. She walks out, leaving them alone. Shawn finishes his drink and slams the glass on the table saying nothing to Nick. Nick then quietly puts his glass on the table saying nothing as the camera just pans on both of them like, what are we waiting for?

Kaitlyn heads to Utah and meets up with Nick. Nick admits he has no question he is in love with Kaitlyn and has no reservations whatsoever.  While all this exchange of love is being shared between Nick and Kaitlyn, back at the hotel, in a room, sits a group of people with uncomfortable anticipation…Nick’s family. Not happy at the fact he is going through this again, his tearful mom, makes his youngest sister cry, while one of his sister’s looks on not very happy.

After meeting Kaitlyn, they all sit and goof around until Maria pulls Kaitlyn aside to have a talk with her. She bought up the Andi season and her concerns with her feelings for Nick. After Maria, followed his brother and Bella, the youngest sibling who asked about Canada and does she really love Nick. Yeah, I would asking the same thing too, but she didn’t admit she loved him but told her she cares about Nick, “a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot”.

IMG_9631Having conversations with his Mom and Nick’s mom having a conversation with him, you can see there’s a big reluctance. While she can distinguish the difference between Kaitlyn and Andi, she’s hopeful, but still afraid for her son.

Nick assures his mother the difference between Kaitlyn and Andi, is during the Andi season he was over confident, not realizing where he and Andi where going in their relationship.

I can understand why his mother’s upsets; it’s not the ideal or conventional way to meet someone.

Kaitlyn couldn’t wait to get Nick back into her room after a successful meeting with his reluctant family.

The next day, Kaitlyn meets Shawn’s family and Shawn says in his interview , he’s excited to tell his , “wife” , he’s in love with her.

Pretty presumptuous if you ask me, I mean what if she didn’t pick him?

Shawn’s father mentioned something legible. Is this something where they are caught up in the moment or is it true love.

Just ask everyone who didn’t last in their relationships.

Like Nick’s family, they are a little bit more realistic in their goals of what they are looking for Shawn. And while Shawn is so love with Kaitlyn, he mentions if any of his family members have one doubt, it will not work out.

Look, while they are all in this position where Kaitlyn is talking about her googingly eyes and first impression rose, the fact is the reality will still happen when the cameras are off and they begin to live real life.

When Shawn gets the opinion of his sister’s apparently they gave rave reviews. I’m not sure how much you can review a person in just a few hours. Well maybe you can. I mean when I met my sister’s husband, I knew he was a piece of shit from the get go. So perhaps it is possible.

IMG_9634When Shawn’s father approaches him, he didn’t see to waste any time. The first thing out of his mouth was, “what the hell is going on”.

Hmm not a good question to start off with but I get it.

Shawn, still stuck on the, “you’re it” comment, he shares with his dad what Kaitlyn said when there was ten guys left. I guess this was his way of reassuring his father Kaitlyn is the girl for him.

Now that Kaitlyn has met the family and back in the room with Shawn, he tell her, there’s one more thing he needs to tell her,  he’s not falling for her but he IS in love with her.

Disappointed she didn’t tell him she loved him back (I think that’s supposed to happen at the end Shawn), Kaitlyn goes back to her room bawling her eyes out, now more confused than ever on who she plans on choosing.

Poor Nick.

OH well. Until the Final Rose.

I will be blogging on The Men Tell All after the season is over!

#TheBachelorette @kaitlynbristowe @chrisbharrison E6 – Queen Joshua against the Emperor Nick

kaitlyn and the bachelors citifieldThe episode opens with the anticipated rose ceremony since Nick is now part of the boys team and he didn’t garner a date but episode five showed us he didn’t need a date, he just should’ve gotten the rose on the group date he bombed. And yes, true though Justin got the rose that was the most meaningless rose in Bachelor/Bachelorette history.
In the meantime, The Bachelorette crew heads over to Citifields for the rose ceremony where JJ, grabbing Kailtyn, carrying her and running around Citifields like a fool while all the guys are in a “corner” expressing their concerns with Nick possibly getting a rose and taking away a rose from someone that has been there.
The one guy who Kaitlyn had major concerns with since having Nick as part of the crew was Shawn, which I still believe she will end up being with. And if I didn’t say it before, I will say it now, if it comes down to the two guys, it will be Shawn and Nick.
It was clear that Kailtyn was very upset with Shawn and the things he mentioned to her being their relationship has just taken a step back because of Nick made it all too real of the decision she just made.
Not seeing she spent any time with Nick, (probably landed on the cutting room floor) the following roses were handed out:
Ben H., Ben Z, Shawn, Tanner (why I’m not sure), Joe, Ian (no connection there and wasted a rose), JJ (another wasted rose), Joshua, and the final rose went to Nick.
And all dramatic music blaring before she handed the last rose to Nick, we all knew that was coming. Are you kidding me? Did we all believe she would have him there and not give him a rose.
We said goodbye to Jonathon, Corey, and two other guys…( I can’t remember their names nor did I bother to rewind or check the site to see because I’m behind and don’t want to spoil my sarcastic comments)
The crew now heads over to San Antonio, Texas, after freezing their asses off in Citifields, NYC. Why couldn’t they were coats during the rose ceremony. Nick was so cold his lips were turning blue.
Speaking of Nick….LOL Notice how all the guys favorite topic is Nick, Nick, Nick. It makes me wonder who’s obsessed more, Kaitlyn or the guys. They’re main concern should be is getting one on one time because some guys have not, someone like Ian, who we’re all left wondering why is he still there?
There’s absolutely no chemistry whatsoever, so it’s becoming like Unreal from Lifetime, let’s keep the black guy just for television and nothing more.
The date card arrives and the first one on one date is with Ben H. And while he heads to the date with her, all the guys press their sorry faces on the window staring down at her as she leaves with Ben H. – that is until they sit down and focus on Nick yet again questioning his motives and why is he there. Why are they focused on Nick? Why so concerned with Nick? What happened to thinking about how to establish a relationship with Kaitlyn? They sure like to point the finger.
Past experience has shown that when you point the finger at someone else, there are three pointing back at you. (Think about that one).

THE BACHELORETTE - "Episode 1105" - After the rose ceremony, the remaining men travel to San Antonio. Kaitlyn surprises one bachelor with a day of fun and fancy footwork. The couple spends the day with a professional dance coach, who teaches them the Texas two-step for a competition that night before a raucous audience and judges. Later, a cinematic sunset is the backdrop for the two to get closer. The man stuns Kaitlyn with a heartbreaking story about a past relationship gone wrong. Will that affect whether he gets a rose? - on "The Bachelorette," MONDAY, JUNE 15 (8:00-10:01 p.m., ET), on the ABC Television Network. (ABC/Felicia Graham) KAITLYN BRISTOWE, BEN H.

The date with Ben H. was absolutely boring. The two step dance put me to sleep, but I have to say, it has to be more fun to in real life instead of watching on television or maybe it was just Ben H. and Kaitlyn who made it so boring.  After all of the dancing it was almost expected that the date would end with a kiss.

Back at the room, everyone patiently awaits for the date card fearing that Nick will get the one on one date. So funny how pathetic most of these guys are, and the moment of truth comes for the group date:
Justin, Jared, Ian, Chris, Tanner, Joe, JJ, Ben Z., Joshua, Nick – which leaves Shawn getting the one on one time with Kaitlyn. No common sense needed here. Shawn should have know he was getting the one on one date. Kailtyn played strategically well, ensuring that her relationship with Shawn is on solid ground.
Joshua, in this particular episode has been capped at the Drama Queen. I never heard a man bitch and complain so much as he has throughout the whole episode.
kaitlyn and ben h.During the dinner portion of the one on one with Ben H., he seemed to have issues opening up to Kaitlyn about past relationships and what he’s learned. Makes me wonder was this one on one date the process of elimination for Kaitlyn to find out if this is person she wants to be with because I really didn’t see why she would have a one on one with him in the first place. She brings up the fact he’s 26 years old which she questions, is he ready to get down on one knee at the end of all this. Are these clues to say, he’s not getting a rose or getting a reprieve for one more episode. Of course not, listen to the music in the background change to a lighthearted tune tells you that he was getting a rose. Snoozer.
The next day, the group date crew is greeted by a Mexican mariachi band with a cute little boy singing a very old Spanish song. After the cute little boy serenades Katilyn, he goes on to tell them they have to invent their own lyrics and perform them in front of Kaitlyn. Another snoozer of group dates. WTF?
Someone….please bring back the stupid jumping off building dates…thank you.
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I can’t tell you how embarrassing it is to have to watch this, let alone how embarrassing it is for the guys who have to perform like a bunch of idiots. If any man had to do this on a date with me, I would walk away. Enough with the stupidity of having to invent lyrics and have them sing.  Of course when Nick took Kaitlyn up to the balcony to perform everyone had a hissy fit, especially for Joshua, who’s now more focused on Nick than he is on Kaitlyn.
The group now reconvenes at a lounge area where they get to have their one on one time (one at a time), with Joshua getting a hair cut by Kaitlyn (I thought she was a dancer? #sarcasm). Now I’m confused, what was the point of Kaitlyn giving Joshua a buzz cut/Mohawk?
When he got back all the guys laughed at him asking him what happened. Maybe he should be the court jester instead.
While the guys are laughing at Joshua and his poor buzz cut, Nick takes away Kaitlyn for some one on one kissy kissy time. I would like to know how Nick kisses. This man is so passionate it’s almost understandable as to why guys wouldn’t dig him. He’s like the jock of the crew.
Notice Joshua gets a fucked up haircut and Nick gets to make out with her.
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When he gets back, there’s silence in the room before Joshua decides to open up his mouth about how he does not trust Nick and his motives. I’m not sure why they keep holding what happened with him and Andi against him. Andi was not a victim. She wanted to have sex with Nick! It’s over, it happened; they had sex, period the end. For some reason all of these guys are acting like he did something bad. If any one of them landed in the top three with the option for the fantasy sweet, not only will they say yes, they all know deep down inside they would consummate that relationship and not think twice about it even if the relationship ends, they got some ass in the process. Please, let’s be real here….(“true love people, true love”)
Frustrated that his argument with Nick went no where, he runs over to Kaitlyn and has an unnerving conversation throwing Nick under the bus and saying everyone is lying to her face and when Kaitlyn confronted all the guys with Joshua in tow they all looked at Joshua like, “we don’t know what you’re talking about dude.” In the meantime, Joshua lied to the guys he was on an interview which he wasn’t, he was busy filling up Kaitlyn with BS so he can get that rose and thought the guys would back him up.
I’m not sure why Kaitlyn would entertain that BS. I mean really who cares if the guys like or don’t like Nick. This is about her quest for love, is it not? At the end of the day, I would think the most important people who should like Nick is her family and not a bunch of guys she will lose contact with after the final rose has been handed out. It’s not like they are going to be friends and be over for a BBQ. #UnReal 😉
With Joshua looking like a fool, lying to the guys he was doing an interview, and looking more like a fool after Kaitlyn confronted the guys and didn’t back Joshua up, Kaitlyn took the group date rose and gave it to Nick.
Good. Right in Queen Joshua’s face! I’m sure he’s going home.
Shawn, who now has the one on one date with Kaitlyn is super excited to have this time with her.
Clearly there’s some connection going on here because you can see her demeanor is different with him than she is with all of the other guys. I haven’t seen a connection like this with any of the other guys. Well, except for Nick.
kaitlyn and shawnOn their date, Shawn shared with her about a serious car accident he had and how a cop had told him that it was a miracle he survived a car accident like that. After he shares the story, there’s a silence and he tells her that he’s falling in love with her.
I noticed something replayed time and time again. It seems the ones who fall in love, doesn’t go out of their way to behave like they have something to prove. The connection will either be there or not. I think with Nick it’s like this forbidden exploration whereas Shawn is the rock that will keep her grounded and where they have a deep connection other than lust. This date proved that, but we’re only in episode five.
As for Ian, he’s just realizing that he won’t get a one on one date and this connection with Kaitlyn is merely he just going out on one group date after another. Surprisingly Ian confides in Nick, perhaps

because at this point, he has nothing to lose but to move on.
The cocktail party has now dawned upon in San  Antonio, Texas and Joshua the Queen is starting to realize he fucked up, especially when he just kept throwing Nick under the bus and left alone to his demise when he confronted all the guys in front of Kaitlyn, expecting for everyone to side with him and confess they all have been trash talking Nick.
JARED, KAITLYN BRISTOWEJared takes her aside and has his one on one time with her. He has a rose locked in, nothing to worry about there. I’m sure he will be at least the top six and probably will be on Bachelor in Paradise.
Ian has taken his opportunity on interviews to trash talk Kaitlyn because he hasn’t has any connection with her at all. The comment about her not being half as hot as his ex girlfriend makes me wonder why he’s not with his ex girlfriend. Furthermore, this whole innuendo about him being the bachelor and how he’s a gift women can unwrap was just fucking classless. Any woman that dates this guy has low self esteem.
When he pulled Kaitlyn aside for his one on one, it was clear, he was going to say all the things he said on his interview and the conversation turned bad from the moment he opened his mouth. Here’s one statement he made that should have gotten him a slap in the face:
“I came here expecting to meet the girl that had her heart broken and was devastated by Chris Soules, not the girl who that wanted to her field plowed by Chris and to me I feel like I found that there’s still that girl and I feel you are here to make out with a bunch of dudes on TV. “
WHAT THE FUCK…ian confronts kaitlyn

#TheBacholerette @kaitlynbristowe @chrisbharrison – E3 Kupah Stupah

abc_bachelor_katilyn_jc_150227_16x9_992In any of the seasons of the Bachelor or Bachelorette, you will find if not one but a few of the contenders not only seeking love but seeking camera time. In this case Kupah which I will discuss towards the end of his idiotic episode.

The episode started off with Chris Harrison catching up with Kaityln in being the new bachelorette.

Date Card: Daniel, Justin, Jarod, Cory, Tanner, Kupah, Ben H. and Ben Z. date card reads, “I see this ending with a ring” – makes me wonder who’s really writing these date cards, being they reflect the date and how much input does Kaitlyn have on the setting up of the dates.

So the first group date has to do with sparring. I’m sure that everyone has signed a disclosure that they don’t plan on suing the Bachelor Production people and ABC executives in the event they get hurt. I mean thankfully no one has ever been killed with their dumb dare devil stunts and kissing in the middle of the air, just to catch a fucking moment on camera.

Anyway…back to the show.

Before the group card arrived most of the men were discussing who they had initially chosen Britt. One of them of Jonathon, if you recall his intro he was gun-ho about meeting Britt and in his mind seemed to be shacking up with her and having her be a mom to his kid, in Detroit, no less. I can’t see anyone leaving sunny weather 365 for cold seasons.

Tony, was another one who picked Britt, but I think we can safely say that we can’t take Tony seriously. The man introduced himself to both Britt and Kaitlyn telling them the same exact thing. Words like that can’t be taken seriously by someone who behaves like a Guru. I don’t think a Guru behaves this way.

Kupah voted for Britt and we can see that he’s there just for camera time and not really for anything else.

Here’s my whole thing, how can a man have a connection with one woman, vote for her and then realize that she’s not the one he voted for, why would he stay? Well it’s the Bachelorette and if you get a chance to show face on television, why not? I highly doubt with Kupah’s ending that he would be the next Bachelor.

Cut to Britt at the hotel room, calling her mom and crying her eyes out, due to the fact that she was not chosen as the Bachelorette. As she ended her call, there’s knock on the door and there stands Brady, who left the night before after he told Kaitlyn that his heart left with the woman who left a few hours before. Curious to see where this goes….

So the group date begins what seems to be a destination of a boxing club where everyone would be getting a lesson from the one and only Laila Ali. Was that googaly eyes Kupah made at Laila?

While everyone was in their training zone, some guys took some time out to talk to Kaitlyn one and one while Kupah was out practicing his boxing because that was way more important.

After practice, Laila spills the beans that they will be boxing each other.

kaitlyn-2-2The boxing match begins with Ben Z. and Daniel and sadly after Ben Z. threw punch after punch at Daniel the towel gets thrown in and the fight it over. One point for Ben Z.

The next match was with Corey and Justin and Justin and then cut to Ben H. and Jared and Jared was not playing at all. He dropped Ben H. like a sack of candy.

When Tanner and Kupah got into the ring it lasted but all of thirty seconds before the towel was thrown in. I guess Kupah missed out on showing off all those moves he was working on before.

Since Ben Z. was the was the top contender he fought with Corey and won that round. Kupah who won, fought with Jared and surprisingly Jared won that round.

It came down to Jared and Ben Z. which left Jared not all together and as much as he wanted to savor his manhood and begging to see Kailtyn, his next stop was the hospital.

When they’re out lounging and having drinks, Kaitlyn mentions that her mind is more on Jared. Jared is kind of cute and Ben Z. even though he’s cute, he just seems to be a guy that a woman would have to worry about being faithful.

He did share about his mom’s passing when he was fourteen.

Justin shared about his son Aurelius….(“strong name”, Kaitlyn says), more like what kind of name is that for a child?

As she spoke to each one, the object of this segment of who’s getting the rose on the first date and while she’s having a conversation with Daniel, she gets a note that says, “come downstairs right now I need to see you”, we all know it’s Jared.

jarerd kissing kaitlynAfter taking a brief walk and he was telling her he was feeling really good, he steps in for a kiss. As cute as Jared is, he looks like he kisses like a fish.

As it was no surprise, Ben Z. gets the rose on the group date and gives him a kiss after her lips were just plastered all over Jared the fish. Kailtyn sure she saw fireworks? I have seen better kissing on Days of Our Lives.

The date card arrives for the one on one date and the first date goes to Clint.

Now this date was pretty cool. It was underwater shoots where they incorporated art in photography and the pictures came out flawless.

Tony who found out the group date had to do with sparring was disgusted and gave his analogy about love. It’s selfless, love is giving, being present, connection, discussions, possibilities, ideas and dreams, you should not fight for love. Really Tony? Then why are you there?

The next date card arrives and reads: JJ, Jonathon, Joshua, Chris, Ian, Joe and Tony and of course another horror of a group date where everyone makes asses of themselves trying to be a comedian. But this gives a chance for the ABC executives to invite celebrities to endorse themselves.

the-bachelorette-premiere-still-14While Tony is, elated, for lack of a better word to describe his demeanor, that Kaityln does know he exists, as he was talking to Justin he asked if Kaitlyn was supportive and Corey says yes and then Tony says,…”it’s great to know that Britt is supportive….”

Justin, “you said Britt”

Anyone watching this, did you roll your eyes at Tony’s stupidity?

Fast forward to the guys writing and practicing and insulting true comedians around the world, let’s get to Tony who spoke about….zzzzz

Certainly I won’t bore my readers with the details.

But yes the reason why Tony is here is to find love because he’s been training for this his whole life. The one on one was even creepier. Discussions about combination lock and she’s not a key turner and what they can create together….believe me when I tell you that conversation did not end with a kiss at all.

2912D20C00000578-3096907-image-m-25_1432616129357But her one on one with JJ seemed to have a stronger connection and he received the rose for the night.  Unfortunately, Joe’s make out session with throwing up Kaitlyn against the wall didn’t garner him a rose. However, it seems for JJ this is just a game and not much of anything else. It’s no wonder why he has a child and no woman by his side raising her.

And now for the rose ceremony and why Kupah is Stupah.

While everyone came a consensus to give the guys who didn’t have a date this week to get a chance to talk to Kaitlyn, JJ decided he was not going to join in and only out for himself, even while donning the rose on his jacket.

Shawn B, who didn’t get a date, to me, is one of the big contenders to be the last guy standing.  JJ definitely doesn’t have a chance. Sooner or later his true colors will come out.

Ian used the desperate card by begging for a rose in throwing some kisses over her way.

Kupah confronted JJ about his scandalous attitude, but he also questioned Kaitlyn on where she’s at and why he is there.

Their conversation didn’t start off well. I got the impression that Kaitlyn had no intention of giving Kupah a rose due to the fact at the boxing practice that he was more into Laila then he was into her. Let’s not forget Kupah voted for Britt, and he really had no intentions of really getting to know Kaitlyn. This was all about camera time for him.

Even after Kaitlyn told him before this talk she did feel a connection, their present conversation now has been a page turner, Kupah threw in compliments that were unnecessary trying to salvage himself, even after he made a fool of himself in front of the guys, even after Kaitlyn told him he needs to go…he takes a swig of his drink and then says he doesn’t want to go home.

So much for that camera time loss, Kupah takes it another notch because you know how they do their interview rejections, he took it up a few notches by screaming like an ass, making claims, how yes he was upset he didn’t get a rose, blah blah blah.

Of course now the rose ceremony will filter into the next week and my guess is that Tony will probably be salvaged and get a rose because Kupah basically assed himself out.

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To Be Continued…..

Married At First Sight – Cohabitation and Happy New Year

Ryan D. and Jaclyn

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After Ryan and Jaclyn were able to establish a living situation, they consummated their relationship. However, this relationship didn’t start off as a romantic one.

When those doors opened up it was similar reaction to Jamie when she married Doug. Not a very happy one. And even though Jaclyn said, “I do”, inside she was screaming, “I don’t”. Makes me wonder why women continue to just say yes to something where they really want to say no.

Anyway, getting back to this couple, because they are reality television, I’m sure they had to sign some kind of disclosure saying they would stick with this for the next six weeks and even though a honeymoon can make everything exciting, reality is what sets in when the vacation is over and real life steps in.

For this couple things seems to be getting off on a good foot, however, because of Jaclyn’s very possessive and strong attitude, it seems that she tries to castrate Ryan by playing the man role too, instead of just letting Ryan be the man in the relationship.

Behavior like this for me is when someone is really not that into you and will play the role of, “let’s be buddies and hang out and get to know each other.” I think they had a show like this on Bravo who followed couples that were best of friends but one of them was secretly into the other….I don’t know whatever happened to that show. Bravo goes through shows, like ATL Housewives go through hair weaves.

I’ve been known to go out on dates with guys that I was not interested in and would take over the conversation to ensure that this will not go any further and they will remain in the friend zone. Since I don’t like to play games, rest assured, it ended that night when the date was over.

Ryan lived with his family and extremely close to them. Due to the loss of his sister and then his brother in law, he was raising his niece, basically stepping in as the parents this little girl lost. Having to make a move and be away from his family, Ryan was definitely going through withdrawal but seemed ready to make the compromise and sacrifice to co-habitat with his new wife.

For Jaclyn, who seemed to struggle with the new man in her life, started to see a different side of Ryan once they began to get their house in order.

While I agree with Dr. Joseph, there is a side of yourself you have to let go in order to allow someone in your life, you also have to do it with common sense. Just because a doctor told you that this is your ideal mate it doesn’t mean that’s necessarily true.

I think what is lacking in this relationship like the rest of the cast is the courting which seemed to take place with Cortney, Jason, Doug and Jamie. They all were very committed to making their relationships work which included romance.

I’m not really seeing that with this couple…for now at least. Jaclyn is a very outspoken woman and you know sometimes, guys don’t like that. While they like women who exude strength they certainly don’t like to look like an idiot.

New Year’s day, visiting her family, she made it a point to share that under no circumstances she wants to have a child after 35. And not saying this in private but saying this in front of her family.

I think in relationships, there are certain conversations you should have in private and not in front of family members. This was definitely not topic of discussion saved for family and friends.

Davina and Sean

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The team of experts paired Davina and Sean on the main commonality that they were both bullied while growing up. Davina lives and owns an apartment in New York, which Sean owns a house in New Jersey. Both have agreed that for now living separate during certain days of the week while Sean goes to work, will just have to work for the time being. Even though Davina doesn’t like this idea, this is something that she’s temporarily dealing with only to appease Sean.

Here’s another couple with a situation where one loves living in New York while the other isn’t really having it. I think once someone lives in New Jersey and becomes accustomed to living a certain lifestyle, who really wants to live in the hustle of New York. If the man has to drive into work, who wants to drive back and spend an enormous amount of money for parking? Not ideal for New York City living.

Davina isn’t willing to make a compromise.

Sean made a private call from Dr. Joseph regarding their relationship how the chemistry was initially strong to now a friendship level of relationship.

While Dr. Joseph informs Sean to not be hard on himself on his feelings and anxiety, he should find understanding on himself and be accepting of what he’s feeling and find a solution through it.

I think Dr. Joseph is right, BUT, let’s be real here….I mean, this is reality television isn’t it?

Davina comes from a culture where most relationships are arranged, therefore there isn’t really a pursuit or courting. However, Davina who is Americanized and has exposure to American culture understands what is means to be courted or romanced. At least that is what we are taught. Just tune in to, “Say Yes to the Dress”, that’s all you hear and quite honestly that’s what women want. So what happens when you meet someone and marry them at first sight? Where is the romance? Sounds like a repeat of Ryan R. and Jaclyn.

Ryan D. and Jessica

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Now this couple, I questioned on every episode. They did have sex the first night and I’m sure they plenty of sex during the honeymoon, but after the honeymoon, everything changed and things got pretty serious and pretty nasty in a matter of three short weeks.

Jessica is not a girl who communicates her feelings at all. She says she cooks but she doesn’t cook, she says she wants closet space but she doesn’t express that, she says the kitchen will always be clean but gets a nasty response in return. He gets angry because she irons on the bed, she’s tired of sushi, she’s mad because he took their wedding money for himself, oh and let’s forget how he thinks pierces are nasty or tacky and she took out her Monroe piercing to “make a change” but yet he has a shit load of tattoos. What the fuck?

Ryan is very ghetto when he talks to her and Jessica seems to get shut out when she does. They continue to have big arguments and even after celebrating New Years Eve together as a couple, I didn’t see a loving couple at all.

It’s almost as if when everything is good, it’s really good, but just for the time being and when everything is bad, it’s really bad.

So far the last few episodes ending with Happy New Year so far isn’t happy for all of the couples.

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In #Business? Say Goodbye to your Personal #Facebook Page!

facebook_banEarlier today (since yesterday) I’ve been listening to Krishna Das, “Pilgrim in the Heart”. This CD is different because Krishna shares the stories of his trip to India many years ago and his experiences with his Guru. There’s one particular story that always brings tears to my eyes, when he talks about his Maharaj-Ji. (The way I envision it, they’re all sitting around this earthly man with garbs of material wrapped around him as all who were present with him were looking for some kind of spiritual answer that would tell you what is the meaning of life.)

It probably was like that….but anyway in his story they were asking the Maharaj-Ji how does one meditate and his response was, “meditate like Christ”, of course there the confusion lied because no one still knew the answer until someone asked, “how did Christ meditate?”, Krishna Das said, Maharaj-Ji stopped and stared, he looked up he saw a bird flying and it felt as though the bird stood still and when he looked back at Maharaj-Ji he saw a tear falling down his cheek. They were probably there for a while waiting and when Maharaj-Ji came out of his meditation, he said, “he lost himself in love”.

For anyone who’s into Alternative beliefs and religions this will make sense.

For those reading and saying, “huh, how does this tie in with business and facebook?”, let me explain. 😉 (you know I gotta set the stage)

I realize a long time ago I broke one of my biggest rules of thumb is not to disclose anything personal on facebook. Like the way I bashed my sister’s husband and her kids. Sure it’s no secret I don’t like her husband for a variety of reasons. One them being, he’s not a responsible man. Selfish at best, never able to keep a roof over his family’s head for a long period of time.

Sadly, because of the last two years, living in an uncomfortable situation, I have taken a lot of the focus off my business and focused on stupid and mindless things, like arguing with people who spend all day (literally) on facebook putting up every post known to man, like fake news (as I spoke about in this post).

Because of this, I’m feeling as though I’ve been put in the category of “complaints”. “There she goes again…”, or why doesn’t she do something about it instead of crying about it.”

Yes, for anyone who follows, I am taking care of this issue from a legal standpoint I will leave it at that.

I’m finding my personal facebook page useless. Every time I decide to log in, if it not someone bragging about their gigs, it’s someone talking about someone else’s posts making judgement claims and they’re doing the SAME EXACT THING!

Look aren’t we all doing the same fucking shit? Isn’t someone judging someone else’s posts? Isn’t someone posting offense things that someone else will find completely hilarious? Since when does one fucking person get to say, “oh you’re wrong.” With the trial of likes from the stupid people that follow along with the “words of wisdom”.

Facebook useless I found this post online that I find completely appropriate. This is the way most people that don’t have a business are living. They treat their personal page as a business and depend on the likes they receive to justify their own existence, online!!!! These are what we call internet trolls. And YES they can be “productive” members of society who probably go out and work (maybe), but these are the people that believe that facebook people are their friends, are on their side, the people that support them. Yeah, maybe on #IRT (Internet Real Time and I just made that up LOL) – but will these same people have the same respect for you up close?

There’s definitely a difference when you meet people in person. Can you carry on the same conversation in person or will you just sit together and text each other?

In the world of business, social media presence is the epidemy of your business existence and how you brand yourself. You have to be that “disease”, in a good way, and spread your ideas, your presence and content to the world. Not everyone will like it, not everyone will agree, however, business doesn’t stop for one person. You’re not going to worry if that one person didn’t like your post. Your focus will be to review your data, what had the most likes? What engaged people to your page this day and not the next day? How can you enhance that engagement, what words, what tags, etc. This is what a real business person thinks about. From marketing to branding, facebook may have it’s perks when it comes to having a business page. See the difference?

When you’re out at an event networking, usually a person will ask you if you have a business card. If you hand in a card with missing info, let’s say a website or a LinkedIn page (not everyone may use Twitter), what do you think that person will ask? “Do you have a website or a social network page?” People who are interested will want to follow and engage with your business activities, either as someone who can collaborate with you or someone who’s just merely interested in what you have to offer.

With all of this in mind, I’m finding less and less use of my personal page. The other day I changed my hootsuite to post via my like pages instead of going to my personal pages. How much I love to share my new litter  of baby yorkie puppy pictures, I too, am holding down that fort by curbing the share on those pictures. While it’s great to share every now and then, my focus is my brand. Kink~E Magazine, KEM TopTalk, Events by MBlue and Divine Sinsations, my new reality magazine. Plus I can put a little bit more risque pictures on my page. 😉

There isn’t a reason why I should continue to partake in the nonsense I’ve put myself in for the last several months of arguing with people, commenting on the “know it all” people statuses that feel the need to correct you, because you think differently, people that take a joke way too far to the point of seriousness and accusations. It’s too much of a waste of time.

The fact is, in personal facebook pages, no one really cares (okay maybe 5% do). If your facebook friends are people and family, maybe that’s a different story. That’s a great way to share on-goings with relatives that may not live in driving distance. Yes, that makes sense.

But in the business way, I don’t find that having a personal page defends the purpose to promote your brand set with people that just want to be your “friend” so they can bash you the minute you’re human and share something other than being perfect. As the saying goes, you can perform excellence for many years but the minute you fuck up, that’s what people will remember you for.

So the true thanks goes to Krishna Das this morning, for waking me up and making me realize that life is more than just about sitting in front of a computer complaining. 😉

BTW: here are my facebook pages. Can’t leave that important info out!

www.facebook.com/kinkemagazine

www.facebook.com/marabelleblue

www.facebook.com/eventsbymblue

www.facebook.com/divinesinsations

Until then.

Loves and Hugs

MB~

The Bachelor @C_Soules Bachelor @chrisbharrison Deadwood South Dakota E8

Deadwood, South Dakota  

britt-nilsson-madI was listening to Howard Stern the other day, where Robin Quivers was talking about how the episodes of the bachelor especially this season has been ending somewhat on a cliffhanger, i.e the Kelsey faux panic attack.

Where all of the episodes have always ended with the rose ceremony with previews of the upcoming weeks episode, it seems that some of the episodes the rose ceremony has filtered in to the next weeks episode.

In episode eight the show begins with the rose ceremony, since the day before Chris happy to on one date with Ashley and Kelsey and said goodbye to both of them.

Britt inquires as innocently as she can, regarding why he decided to let go of them. Whereas Carly was too much on the bandwagon to cheer both Kelsey and Ashley off, since she’s had her date with Chris she is convinced that she will be the last girl standing.

Before Chris begins the rose ceremony, he asked Megan if they can have a chat. I don’t care what anyone tells me, when someone says, “let’s have a chat”. It’s almost not a good thing. Apparently this short chat leads to the conclusion that Megan will no longer be a part of the rose ceremony as he said goodbye to her.

What I don’t understand is that Chris makes a comment on how brutal break ups are. And how sad he was to see her go and how it was tearing him apart. So if he felt such a strong connection with her why get rid of her if anything I think that Chris made a very big mistake in letting her go. Who he should’ve had that conversation with was Carly. I believe he has zero connection with her and for some reason she just keeps making the cut.

When Chris returns it is obvious that Megan was sent home. And the girls are thinking well since Megan is cut that she that there will be no rose ceremony. That’s when Chris Harrison comes in and chimes on the champagne glass that they will be a rose ceremony.

Now they’re all convinced that Carly will be the one to be cut because she seems to be the least likely candidate to wind up with Chris. And during her interview it is clear that she spazzing out with all the tears and the crying that he’s an easy person to love.

As Chris Harrison and Chris walk away, Chris informed him that he does not want to have a rose ceremony because he has feelings for all of the women therefore relieving all of them of a nightmare ceremony and guess where the next stop is on their journey for love….that’s right. In Carly’s words, “we’re going to Arlington”.

b83a7b20-97be-0132-447c-0ebc4eccb42fSo when Chris makes the announcement to the ladies there will be no rose ceremony because he has feelings for all of them, he announces they’re going to God’s country. Carly is the first one to jump and grab him on top of him. As far as I’m concerned this dumb bitch got a reprieve.

They land in Des Moines Iowa, and as they are hollering what a beautiful city it is, I don’t think they realize this is not the farm life Chris has talked about time and time again.

The date card comes in and Britt reads the card hoping she gets the one on one and instead it goes to Jade. Britt who has invested much of her emotions in her relationship with Chris is upset.

Carly,on the other hand, was gloating that Britt did not get the date card because she feels that Britt has had enough time with Chris. Stupid. It’s women like Carly that give good women a bad name.

Jade is in the car on her way to Arlington has concerned look as the road changes from city life to farmland on either side.

My question is is that when did Chris become attracted to Jade? If it were not for his sisters choosing her for the one on one, I think Jade would have gone home a long time ago. Also as a cosmetics vendor, unless she’s leaving her career behind, how much can she ‘vendor’ in Iowa.

You could see the discern growing in her face as she looks on either side of the road and realizes she’s in the in the middle of nowhere. Not for nothing if it was me I would be in the lead because I can’t stand being around people or having neighbors so for me this would be the ideal life.

jade-roper-elimination-thumbSo while Jade is stuck with the scenery of just farm, back at the hotel in Des Moines, Britt is talking about all of the stuff that Jade gets to see that she’s not getting to see and how important it is to her and Carly continues to gloat that Britt was not the one that was chosen for the date. When the second date card comes in and Whitney is called out Britt once again is let down. Now I’m confused. Wasn’t Britt the one that Chris whisked away to the Big and Rich show. When they’re together in a group setting you almost forget there are other women on the group date. So why Whitney? What made Whitney different? Was it because he was unsure of her being that she has this career as a fertility specialist? Not sure.

Back on the one to one, Chris meets up with Jade and shows her his place and then off sightseeing as they walk around the desolate town. Chris offers a nervous laughter as they stroll because there’s nothing there. Most small businesses are closed which was really sad.

As the day turned to night, Chris took her to a high school football game and to her surprise, Jade got to meet Chris’s parents. Although the conversation wasn’t long I’m almost sure if Britt knew what was going on with this date she would be none too happy.

Here are some of my questions as I was watching this episode.  Every girl chosen has a career in this season of the bachelor well except for Britt and Carly. In this situation considering that Chris lives on a farm, is he asking any of these women that they would possibly have to give up their career and take on a career of farming?

I’m not too sure.

Whitney who has a very big head about herself, is she willing to give up her career in being a fertility specialist for a living on a farm? I mean you’re living in a place where populations 400 I’m pretty sure that none of those people living there are having any babymaking problems.

While Jade had a successful time with Chris. It looks like she will be getting a rose especially since he already had plans on having Jade meet his parents while at the football game.

The next day, as Jade discusses her date with Chris and tells them that she met Chris’s parents, brings Britt to tears and Carly during her interview comments that Britt thinks is the bachelorette. I’m not sure what’s in Carly’s head but she also thinks it’s the bachelorette. Her over the top attitude definitely shined in this episode. Talk about a big head. Isn’t this the same woman that came in with a mini karaoke machine? The same one that didn’t win the singing contest? When did she start hating Britt? Oh when she realized that Chris is not that into her.

Moving onto the one on one date with Whitney who’s forcing this relationship for a variety of reasons one of them being that she’s 29 years old and women who are at that age feel like they are getting old rapidly and so are their eggs. I can see her giving up a lot to be with Chris, however, I don’t think that her feelings are sincere and at the end of the day she will not be happy.

carly-the-bachelorMeantime back at the “lab”. Carly suggest that they should go on a road trip to Arlington and Britt doesn’t think it’s a good idea. But instead of listening to her better judgement she goes on the expedition with them. They seemed really excited at first, screaming their heads off but once they started approaching Arlington and see on either side of them nothing but farmland was when the mood changed and all was quiet in that SUV.

The girls are arrive at Arlington and they find nothing in the town. All had the same discerning face Jade did when she arrived in Arlington.

Carly sees a Methodist church and convinces herself the picture of Jesus hanging on the wall inside the church was an exact replica of what her grandparents owned. Of course this was a sign she belongs there and she should be raising her children there. I don’t like disputing signs but in the case of Carly it just means this Jesus picture has been reprinted a number of times and you’ll probably find it in a number of homes.

Back on the Whitney date, she throws the comments to Chris’ friends on how she feels that she belongs there. What? It’s amazing how these women make assumptions that they visit a town that they are dating a guy on the bachelor so to speak and right away they feel that they belong in that town. Because Whitney has not experienced Arlington herself she speaking out of turn.

She also lives in Chicago, that is a big jump from living in Arlington. She seems to be a person who enjoys the spotlight and clearly she’s enjoying this spotlight a bit too much if you ask me. When his friends asked her if she had any hesitations, I think she lied through her teeth and said everything they all wanted to hear. This was not somebody that Chris’s sisters had chosen for his one on one when they had visited the house. I think that speaks volumes they had big Jade, But that doesn’t mean that she’s right for him too.

Britt, I’m on the fence with because she seems to be sincere but then there’s another part of her where she seems to be just acting like she really wants all of this but she doesn’t. Carly had made a comment that Britt did not like Arlington and could not see herself living there but when they were back at the hotel, Britt mention that she could see herself living in Arlington with Chris.*Carly rolls eyes*

Looking at the career that Britt is involved with is waitressing. That’s not to say that a waitress will take the first thing to get out of the job that she’s in clearly we all know that waitresses do not make a lot of money, however she is a bit overzealous of their relationship which makes me question the validity of her feelings towards Chris or his life style.

I like Britt a lot. But I’m not sure she is the right fit for Chris. Looking at Becca who has been the quiet one and cautious in her relationship with Chris she seemed to fit right  as I watched her walk around Arlington. She didn’t have that overwhelmed look.

Carly makes fun of Britt too much and she’s too overconfident that she will stick around. I don’t believe she will.

Whitney confides in Chris that her mom passed away from a routine procedure was she developed a blood clot clot and died instantly and that she has no relationship with her father so I’m not sure who he will be meeting on hometown dates considering that she’s chosen for one.  Some hidden issues in there, ya think.

Chris gives Whitney a surprise outside of the restaurant they were at, there was a mural of them looking like they were kissing similar to a picture that they took earlier with the whole crowd standing outside with cameras videoing the whole moment. I’m gathering with this permanent mural it would be funny if he picked Becca and that mural is stuck there until it’s painted over.

bachelor-whitneyThe next day Whitney is sharing the part of the date with the mural on the wall replicating one of the pictures that they took earlier and while Becca seemed genuinely happy for her Jade on the other hand has something that is weighing heavy on her mind which she shares with Carly that she did some nude modeling for Playboy.

On the ice skating date with Britt, Kaitlyn and Carly, Britt pulls Chris aside to let him know that they took a trip to Arlington and she tells him that at first she was concerned and then as the sun was setting when they were heading back and she looked into the cornfields she felt she could see herself there and she sounded beautiful.

So when Chris asked her can she see herself living there and she said yes I really can, as much as I like Britt, she was not coming from a sincere place. It was a very unsure, “yes I can be here with you”.  She was being completely phony. Now I don’t think that she is being phony about her feelings with Chris I think that her feelings for him are completely genuine, however, I think that she will lie that she is happy in Arlington just to be with him.

The end for her will be that she will want Chris to eventually move out of Arlington and probably move to Los Angeles to wish she lives and we all know how that would and if it came to that.

While Chris bought into Britt’s story, Chris seemed shocked to hear Britt say this, during his commentary interview that Britt is a woman he can see living in Arlington, marrying her and having children.

Carly, used her one on one time with Chris to tell him that Britt is a lair and mentioned she can never see herself living in Arlington which, of course, shocks Chris because Britt just told him she can see her life there with him. Hello Chris, wake up and smell the deception. Do you see a life with Carly? She should have been gone before the Arlington trip.

Now here is the deal, I don’t recall seeing anything on the show that she said those words. She could have but here’s my whole thing, if Britt really could not see herself living there, why would she tell the girls knowing that they can go back to Chris and tell him?

At dinner time, Chris pulls Britt aside to find out if she said the things Carly told him.

I think that Kaitlyn said it best, when she said that she believes that Britt is confused and that perhaps even though with best intentions she may not feel that this is the best decision for her that sooner or later Britt will wake up and smell the coffee and realize this is not the life that she wanted after all.

Even though Carly says the same thing, Carly is coming from a vindictive place because She is stuck in her fantasy that she is the best person for Chris.

I do not believe that Carly is the best person for Chris I think that Carly is a desperate woman who is also confused and probably needs therapy because no one that I know stays in a relationship for two years with somebody that doesn’t want anything to do with them physically.

After all his talks with the ladies Chris comes back and gives the rose to Kaitlyn. Britt, oh girl, this is the time where she needed to keep her mouth shut, goes on a tired of how she can understand why he gave Kaitlyn the rose…but why her?

screen-shot-2015-01-27-at-4-23-02-pmI also believe Kaitlyn is not a good fit for him either as a professional dancer I don’t know how long that of a career will last unless she’s willing to make that change. Yes could four hundred people have fun at the community center dancing…sure. But have any of these women thought anything through?

And I think that’s what this is about this is about Chris finding a woman who is willing to adapt and change her career all of the women left standing the only that I see this is within Becca. No one else.

Meanwhile when all are back at the hotel with Carly heading up the mean girls she makes a comment that Britt blew it opening up her mouth when Chris gave the rose to Kaitlyn and that she made an idiot out of herself.

And while Britt is crying her eyes out during her commentary interview, Carly is talking about how she’s gone and she’s gone   etc. etc.  too much gloating on Carly’s part.

Read more on my thoughts on The Bachelor (more like Match.com – no that’s not a good thing)

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