Let’s Make it Clear

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It’s been a while since I’ve posted on my WordPress blog so here we go. I think it’s about time for a post like this, long overdue.

So, for the last few months, I’ve been trolling and watching the social medialites blab on their soliloquies, wondering if anyone is really listening or reading for that matter.

A few months ago, one of the automated paper.li tweets mentioned a person (who shall remain nameless), who became upset at the fact they were mentioned.

What the fuck, I thought to myself. Why is this person getting a hair up their ass over being mentioned by paper.li – when the paper is actually promoting their stupid shit.

I’m not one to argue with people on Twitter. The back and forth banter just doesn’t look good and at the end of the day, I’m running a business. I’m not here to throw mud at idiots (maybe once in a while LOL).

So I ended up blocking this person. Funny this person has noted in their profile they’re a coach or expert on some sort of fetish thing.

Right….and I’m an expert on building the Brooklyn Bridge.

Yet again, a similar incident happened with another person, who shall remain nameless. Bear in mind, some of these people are not even worth putting on blast and I’ll get to that “why” in a minute.

I see a response from the paper.li tweet, “Please take me off this or I will have you all blocked”, something to that effect. This time I didn’t hold back.  My response was pretty clear about this automated tweet and if you don’t like it we’ll just block you.  #stuckup

I mean really? What the fuck is wrong with people? Yet here’s another one who owns something similar to Kink~E Magazine #WeOpenTheDoor – all of these sites mind you are the same as my magazine.

Now I’m not saying Kink~E Magazine was the first fetish magazine ever. Back in the day, newspapers and personals were used in order to connect with kink communities. The only logical way back then was connecting via newspapers and personals through letter writing and perhaps phone contact.

When I began establishing my presence online was in mid 2000, when AOL gave you your own webpage as part of your subscription and I began keeping an online diary of my blind dates.  My friends thought I was insane to put my life out there, but at the time, and still now, I didn’t care. It was a great way for me to share exactly what was going on in my life, what I felt about blind dating and the blind dating itself. This was sort of a release for me. Life wasn’t good for me back then. I made a terrible choice that ended up saving my life. I did’t see it then but I see it now. Anyway as part of my restoration of self progress I was keeping these online dairies and it helped me put a lot of things into perspective with my life, myself and my needs of what I wanted in a relationship.

Even when guys got wind of my blogging, I realized they were only dating me so I can blog about them, even when they knew there was a bigger possibility of me writing not so good things about them. Maybe they were learning themselves how to be better on the next date. Who knows?

I did discover this. Because of my blogging, I was able to connect with women who related to the horrors of blind dating and it gave me an idea on how to expand on that and incorporating fetish lifestyle, one I personally life and enjoy. It was important for me to connect some type of alternative lifestyle because it wasn’t good for women to secretly keep ideas of fetish to themselves or feel shame to express something they really liked and wanted to explore. So there’s your bit of history of Kink~E Magazine.

The Internet was just booming by then and other than your local newspapers, how many fetish magazine sites did you find in 2002 as oppose to now? Today we are saturated with endless means of fetish advice, domination along with the fakers looking to rake in fast cash without having to honor what they say they are offering.

I’m not going to put down my magazine by any means.  I really believe that having this opportunity, I opened the door along with others who are still around today who believe in promoting the alternative lifestyle correctly.

I’m sure anyone that looks at the magazine thinks to themselves, “Oh I can do this better”.  I’m sure you can.

On the other hand, thanks to my business management courses and communication courses (yes unlike most I’m actually getting a real degree), I continue to transition the magazine and once again it will be seeing another transition. So while people are taking a back seat stealing ideas, they have yet to see what my pretty little head is putting together.

One thing I’ve learned about all of these social medialites and their sites sites, everyone is a “shark” waiting for their hater to disclose what they are doing so they can copy it. Don’t think I even noticed one site who conveniently copied the same last four digits of my business phone number. (Yeah I caught that).

Now back to my “why” point about not putting people on blast. First and foremost they aren’t worth it. Second and most importantly, why bother give these assholes any type of notoriety?

If you’re paying attention to your social media feed, really read what people are writing. If you’re following someone who’s apparently some coach of sorts, why is it they become easily offended over a tweet that’s actually promoting them? Wouldn’t that defeat the purpose of someone who claims they are here to enhance your self esteem but catch an attitude at the mere fact they are being mentioned in a positive way? Also, think about this, why aren’t people looking up what paper.li is?

It’s super easy. All you have to do is go on google and type in paper.li…wow how simple is that?

Here’s another thing about me. I’m not one to pitch a fucking fit if someone tags me on something. Actually, I’m grateful that other people in supporting communities think of me or my magazine to tag us and help them not only promote but inform.

Wow…let’s read that word again….”Inform”.

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I mean I would think so….unless I missed the memo of the weekly stupidity report. (I always seem to miss those.)

Oh this is a good example. Recently, the President and his wife went on a venture trip and part of that trip was to visit the Pope. According to protocol, the first lady is supposed to dress in black with a veil. The next day I get up and there are hash tags going around she’s dressing for her future.

Look, motherfuckers, it’s shit like this that pisses me off. I think to myself how other countries must look at us and how stupid we are. Does anyone do their homework or research or are you taking things at face value.  I go and look up as to why Melania Trump is dressed like this and find out when Michelle Obama when to visit the pope with her husband she was also dressed in the same get up. So where was the hashtag for her? Not…right? Protocol dummies. #DoYourHomework

I never thought I would see such a level of stupidity and on a daily basis.

Am I pissed off? Hell yeah? Please people wake up and read. Take a history course. If you don’t know something or a term in social media, look the shit up before flying off on the deep end making all sorts of unrealistic threats, especially over a mention on paper.li. There is too much shit going on in this world to solely focus on hate that’s not going to change.  Hello Manchester fucking assholes. While everyone is diluted in their own hate look at the shit going on around you!

I mean, really?

And then here we are back at the lab where you have some of these bitches talking about they’re a coach? An advisor? A sexpert (now there’s a recent term for the last few years).

All of these are great names while most aren’t backed up with a degree. #Sad.

What’s even sadder is no one is evolving. People spend more time copying and not really make a real name for themselves other than social media. Whoever their followers are, they make a star for themselves but let me tell you ladies, once you step out the door of you apartment, you are like everyone else. No one is stopping you in the street for an autograph. You’re not getting nominated for Person of the Year in Time Magazine or a star in the Hollywood Walk of Fame.

I’m not sure what we are coming to. Almost frightening when I think about it.  I try to stay in my own lane and focus on finishing my book An Illegal Affair (which is in its final stages before proofreading), but at times I veer off course and see stupid shit like, (in valley girl voice), “you betta take me off that tweet or I’m going to block you”.

Really, fuck you bitch. No one has time for such meagerness.

Good luck being 60 and thinking you’re going to get some man to pay you for a BDSM session.

That’s the funny part. Some of these women are forgetting day by day they are getting older.

Better think about your future princesses.

Until then.

Marabelle Blue~

The Jesus Rant

religious-fanatic-1024x571Here we go.

Time for a rant.

I’m confused. Someone clarify. I’m being serious.

You’re a bible thumper. You decent the words of the “scripture” or what you believe to be and yet you sit there and judge others, their choices and how they live.

Jesus is supposed to be God but then he’s the son of God???? Then he dies, comes back from the dead, people say, “he is risen” while others call him Zombie.

There are people who spend time dissecting the bible for the sole purpose to discredit what is in there.

I honestly don’t have time for that but I will say this, I’m not a believer. I will always respect my grandmother in her beliefs when I speak with her other than that, don’t expect me to open the door to Jehovah Witnesses any time soon unless they want me to break out my witches bible which I have done before. It was funny to see them run the other way.

The one thing about me is my beliefs are personal and private. What I do in my own home is my business and my business alone. It’s not my authority to go and spread the “word” of my beliefs and my convictions.

The other day I had the displeasure of listening to two women talk about their bible courses. The same women who sit all day long doing absolutely no work and gossip. Not for nothing but I think gossiping is far worse than sitting there and judging a person. People make money off from gossiping (The Star Magazine, Us Weekly, to name a few).

This to me these people the worst of humanity (yeah I’m judging). These are the same people who hate animals. But yet they love Jesus. Really? Do you think Jesus went off kicking a dog or eating a cat because he got hungry. Love man kind but look at this child being taught, “God hates fags, but yet he’s ever loving of all man.” #Contradiction – Great way to raise your child ain’t it. SMH.

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I grew up Catholic. I was the family member who lived in the church, I sang in the choir and taught religion instruction. True story.

But then one day, something happened. I had questions, a lot of questions. Why were we born sinners? Why were we not worthy of God? Why was Jesus exactly killed? Why did the Catholics have a white Jesus and the Baptist version had him a tad bit darker?

Guess what? Yep. No one had an answer.

As I grew up and discovered the world around me, I began my journey in other religions and spiritual faiths. I stopped believing in the Jesus concept when I was 16 years old. Quite a long time for anyone to try and convince me otherwise. Which leads to someone recently who tried and told me I couldn’t just banter back and forth if I had a friend who believed in Jesus and she prayed for me. I had to go with one or the other.

“Really”, I said, “and who made up this rule?”

People who are real accept their defects and remember they are human with human emotions. Things happen in their lives because they make it happen. They’re not waiting for a God to make it happen. That’s like frying an egg on a hot summer day. Chances are the shit won’t fry.

e15a6467182c8b0596e6b2b70e24a47cThe flip side to these type of religious fanatics is they don’t know how to live and let live. So what if you have haters, so what if this person thinks they are better. So what? Do they pay your rent? Nope. Not a damn dime. But they want to sit there and infiltrate on your life with religious bullshit about being saved. Saved from what?

In my experience, people who are on a religious zeal will be your friend only to convert you and when you do or say something they don’t agree with, they cut you off because you’re evil and they can’t be influenced to the “dark side”.

The funny thing is, they are on the dark side. They are doing exactly what evil suggest. Gossipy, whiny and judgmental. Guess we all know where you’re going. LOL!

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Until then.

Take care of you!

Marabelle Blue~

@KEMTopTalk Highlights Social Media Censorship

IMG_5241Well today is my birthday and I have to say what a great show but what a shitty birthday. Sorry but that’s just the way I feel.

Needless to say, my guest Coach Crystal was an excellent guest and definitely bought enlightenment to the show. Our discussions today with social media in the present, and the possibility of Twitter purging more then 10 million users according to The Daily Beast where the Adult Community may be shut out of promoting their business when it comes to social media.

Now while I can completely understand the “sensitive media”, in my post http://kinkemagazine.com/blog/open-forum/twitter-about-to-purge-10-million-users – frightening to think that my business can be affected as a result of this.

Why would something like this happen? Crystal bought up very good points on the show in regards to what to say and what not to say, how there isn’t an “undo” button like you would in MS Word and no one will see that error. Such a case as mention was Anthony Wiener who literally shared his wiener for the whole world to see on Twitter when he thought he was sharing a private message to whomever it was he was cheating on his wife with at the time.

We also talked about the unspoken demon of buying followers and how people making themselves out to be something they’re really not. The operative word of the show was definitely deceptive marketing.  Check out any account you may follow on Twitter where a random person has over 100K followers as opposed to a celebrity who has the same, how many retweets are they getting next to the celebrity. If that person didn’t get one retweet within a ten minute span, trust they have bought their dead followers.

Social media, censorship, what to say and what not to say is important on the branding of your company. Buying followers reflects your brand and how you represent yourself.

I want to thank Crystal for coming on the show. Check out her show:

SMALL CHANGES ARE HUGE!!  The motto is: Take one small action every day … watch what happens!  Listen to her on her Google Hangout on Wednesdays at 8 PM ET.

I want to thank piece of shit Optimum for fucking up my connection and having to me to start my show late. (SMH)

Announcements!

Please note that the deadline for buying Vegas tickets is June 30th. You must purchase your tickets before then or you will not get in the day of. Please do not assume if you have booked your room that you will be able to come in an buy tickets. You will need your receipt as proof of purchase.

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Catch replays of the show here http://www.blogtalkradio.com/kinkemagazine/2015/05/20/marabelleblue-birthday-show or at www.kemtoptalk.com where you have access to all the shows!

Enjoy the holiday weekend. We will be back in June with all new shows. Thanks for listening.

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@KEMTopTalk Guest @Master_Vyle Horror Writer

MV Author 017Master Vyle joined me tonight for a very funny episode of @KEMTopTalk.

In this episode we discussed the various sites that were around (and probably still are) back in the early 2000’s when the internet was really born and people started utilizing it more than actually going out and communicating with people LOL.

Now tucked into our online world, Master Vyle discusses the trolls of the internet and how plagiarizing is an easy access for “writers” who take writings from other people’s works and incorporate it as their own.

We also discussed the calamity of clicks and why for business it may not be good to attach yourself to those who are not the right audience for your business or in the end will support your business/cause.

Master Vyle took the liberty of sharing his book which he’s actually rewriting and then read us some fun porn stories which left me wondering, “did someone really write this”

Of course we must share the story but not before a bit of promos that were mentioned during the show!

For more on Master Vyle check him out at the follow social networks:

Master Vyle on Twitter @Master_Vyle and his blogs www.houseofmastervyle.blogspot.com and mastervylepresents.blogspot.com

Professor Gillman who was also mentioned on the show has a Livestream show Saturday The Peninsula Of Horror and you can link up with him here: www.livestream.com/tpoh and the convention he will be attending http://oasfis.org/oasis/events.php

kemtoptalk-logoLG600Next week on @KEMTopTalk guest Adult Entrepreneur Gia Moore! You can follow Gia on Twitter @GiaMoore69 and @GiaMoorePerfume

We’re looking forward to having her on the show next week LIVE at 9PM EST!

Stay tuned for show updates by following us on www.blogtalkradio.com/kinkemagazine where you can download and listen via podcast apps and all shows can now be found on www.kemtoptalk.com

Honorable mentions to Robert Ropars (@robertropars) and you can pick up his book here called The Vengeance on Amazon http://www.amazon.com/Vengeance-Robert-Ropars-ebook/dp/B007KWELJW/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1429674881&sr=1-1&keywords=the+vengeance+robert+ropars

Of course here are the links to the Las Vegas Event celebrating the milestones of Kink~E Magazine www.eventsbymblue.com and www.kinkemagazine.com

You must sign up with the hotel Rumor Vegas before July or you will not get the discounted rate. Don’t wait till the last minute as rooms are running out fast!

Thanks for listening the show and replays are up right now! 🙂

Until then. Take care of you!

Loves and Hugs,
MB~

And here is the expert Master Vyle read:

Mom Needs It Too by Ron Taylor 

Leanne exploded with a scream. Her pussy muscles contracted, and she literally fucked the vibrator out of her rippling hole, expelling it like an asshole might squirt a fresh turd.  She heard the pop, and then Rosie’s mouth covered her cunt and resumed the hot sucking that had helped Leanne get to this point. Rosie’s finger was buried up Leanne’s shitter, and the tip wiggled madly deep inside. 

Leanne kept on eating. She wasn’t sure how she managed. It must have been instinct alone that drove her tongue and finger in and out of Rosie’s cunt and asshole. Leanne’s orgasm raged and she moaned and licked and licked and moaned, and she squirmed like a beached fish atop her hot-bodied friend. 

And… 

The big cock probed the interior of her shit-chute. The cock knob was the size of an apple, buried in her ass-guts, stirring her shit, and she writhed upon the impaling fucker like an insect pinned to a board.

@VenusLux Interview via @KEMTopTalk on #BlogTalkRadio

venus_lux_purple_corset_1Venus Lux was a hit tonight on @KEMTopTalk radio! Wow! I love it when Adult Entertainers get in depth and real when it comes to discussing their lives, personal choices and struggles to become the beautiful people they are today.

I really loved Venus’ take on how she mentors people, reminding them that coming out and presenting yourself to the world in the eyes you see yourself is okay and there’s nothing wrong with that. Coming from the Asian culture and having to endure that the beliefs that were instilled in her growing up were not what she felt about herself and how she viewed the journey of her life and what she wished to acquire.

Master Vyle called at the beginning to the show as I opened up the show talking about Married at First Sight and the dealings with “arranged marriages” and why this has become the new phenomena. Whether it’s good or bad or different, at the end of the day, we both agree that relationships take work and commitment. If you’re not committed, relationships generally fail…don’t they? For more on Master Vyle you can follow him on http://www.twitter.com/master_vyle and follow his blogs houseofmastervyle.blogspot.com

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If you missed the show you can now listen here www.kemtoptalk.com

For more on Venus Lux you can connect with her here:

http://www.starfactorypr.com/venus-lux-bio.html

http://wwww.starfactorypr.com/venus-lux

http://www.Venus-Lux.com

http://www.VenusLux.cammodels.com

http://facebook.com/TheRealVenusLux

http://twitter.com/VenusLux

http://instagram.com/VenusLux

I want to thank everyone who listened to the show and tune in next week for more show!

In #Business? Say Goodbye to your Personal #Facebook Page!

facebook_banEarlier today (since yesterday) I’ve been listening to Krishna Das, “Pilgrim in the Heart”. This CD is different because Krishna shares the stories of his trip to India many years ago and his experiences with his Guru. There’s one particular story that always brings tears to my eyes, when he talks about his Maharaj-Ji. (The way I envision it, they’re all sitting around this earthly man with garbs of material wrapped around him as all who were present with him were looking for some kind of spiritual answer that would tell you what is the meaning of life.)

It probably was like that….but anyway in his story they were asking the Maharaj-Ji how does one meditate and his response was, “meditate like Christ”, of course there the confusion lied because no one still knew the answer until someone asked, “how did Christ meditate?”, Krishna Das said, Maharaj-Ji stopped and stared, he looked up he saw a bird flying and it felt as though the bird stood still and when he looked back at Maharaj-Ji he saw a tear falling down his cheek. They were probably there for a while waiting and when Maharaj-Ji came out of his meditation, he said, “he lost himself in love”.

For anyone who’s into Alternative beliefs and religions this will make sense.

For those reading and saying, “huh, how does this tie in with business and facebook?”, let me explain. 😉 (you know I gotta set the stage)

I realize a long time ago I broke one of my biggest rules of thumb is not to disclose anything personal on facebook. Like the way I bashed my sister’s husband and her kids. Sure it’s no secret I don’t like her husband for a variety of reasons. One them being, he’s not a responsible man. Selfish at best, never able to keep a roof over his family’s head for a long period of time.

Sadly, because of the last two years, living in an uncomfortable situation, I have taken a lot of the focus off my business and focused on stupid and mindless things, like arguing with people who spend all day (literally) on facebook putting up every post known to man, like fake news (as I spoke about in this post).

Because of this, I’m feeling as though I’ve been put in the category of “complaints”. “There she goes again…”, or why doesn’t she do something about it instead of crying about it.”

Yes, for anyone who follows, I am taking care of this issue from a legal standpoint I will leave it at that.

I’m finding my personal facebook page useless. Every time I decide to log in, if it not someone bragging about their gigs, it’s someone talking about someone else’s posts making judgement claims and they’re doing the SAME EXACT THING!

Look aren’t we all doing the same fucking shit? Isn’t someone judging someone else’s posts? Isn’t someone posting offense things that someone else will find completely hilarious? Since when does one fucking person get to say, “oh you’re wrong.” With the trial of likes from the stupid people that follow along with the “words of wisdom”.

Facebook useless I found this post online that I find completely appropriate. This is the way most people that don’t have a business are living. They treat their personal page as a business and depend on the likes they receive to justify their own existence, online!!!! These are what we call internet trolls. And YES they can be “productive” members of society who probably go out and work (maybe), but these are the people that believe that facebook people are their friends, are on their side, the people that support them. Yeah, maybe on #IRT (Internet Real Time and I just made that up LOL) – but will these same people have the same respect for you up close?

There’s definitely a difference when you meet people in person. Can you carry on the same conversation in person or will you just sit together and text each other?

In the world of business, social media presence is the epidemy of your business existence and how you brand yourself. You have to be that “disease”, in a good way, and spread your ideas, your presence and content to the world. Not everyone will like it, not everyone will agree, however, business doesn’t stop for one person. You’re not going to worry if that one person didn’t like your post. Your focus will be to review your data, what had the most likes? What engaged people to your page this day and not the next day? How can you enhance that engagement, what words, what tags, etc. This is what a real business person thinks about. From marketing to branding, facebook may have it’s perks when it comes to having a business page. See the difference?

When you’re out at an event networking, usually a person will ask you if you have a business card. If you hand in a card with missing info, let’s say a website or a LinkedIn page (not everyone may use Twitter), what do you think that person will ask? “Do you have a website or a social network page?” People who are interested will want to follow and engage with your business activities, either as someone who can collaborate with you or someone who’s just merely interested in what you have to offer.

With all of this in mind, I’m finding less and less use of my personal page. The other day I changed my hootsuite to post via my like pages instead of going to my personal pages. How much I love to share my new litter  of baby yorkie puppy pictures, I too, am holding down that fort by curbing the share on those pictures. While it’s great to share every now and then, my focus is my brand. Kink~E Magazine, KEM TopTalk, Events by MBlue and Divine Sinsations, my new reality magazine. Plus I can put a little bit more risque pictures on my page. 😉

There isn’t a reason why I should continue to partake in the nonsense I’ve put myself in for the last several months of arguing with people, commenting on the “know it all” people statuses that feel the need to correct you, because you think differently, people that take a joke way too far to the point of seriousness and accusations. It’s too much of a waste of time.

The fact is, in personal facebook pages, no one really cares (okay maybe 5% do). If your facebook friends are people and family, maybe that’s a different story. That’s a great way to share on-goings with relatives that may not live in driving distance. Yes, that makes sense.

But in the business way, I don’t find that having a personal page defends the purpose to promote your brand set with people that just want to be your “friend” so they can bash you the minute you’re human and share something other than being perfect. As the saying goes, you can perform excellence for many years but the minute you fuck up, that’s what people will remember you for.

So the true thanks goes to Krishna Das this morning, for waking me up and making me realize that life is more than just about sitting in front of a computer complaining. 😉

BTW: here are my facebook pages. Can’t leave that important info out!

www.facebook.com/kinkemagazine

www.facebook.com/marabelleblue

www.facebook.com/eventsbymblue

www.facebook.com/divinesinsations

Until then.

Loves and Hugs

MB~

@KEMTopTalk guest @planet12Law Getting Down and Dirty Hightlights

kemtoptalk-logoLG600I have to say I am really pleased with this show. I find myself daring to ask questions that maybe no one will ever ask and Planet 12 L*A*W nailed all of my questions with his honesty to dare to say what people are thinking. The phones started to come in one by one by one, before I knew it there were four people on the line and more people were calling in. Bronwye from Australia and a big Planet L*A*W fan, called in and not only did she call in but she stayed on for the whole entire two hour show. Discussions went from Michael Jackson to Stevie Wonder, The Temptation, DeBarge, the music industry today and Jay Z proposing TIDAL, the new online streaming service that the artist controls (someone’s been watching Empire) and the craziness of Kanye West. Danny Blaq even joined the chat room asking L*A*W if anyone has thrown panties on stage…I can only image how Vegas is going to be when L*A*W takes the stage. It was a great show!

I closed the show with the disturbing “trend” that took place after the fire in the East Village which made me question where are the priorities of people today. For more on this blog you can read here https://marabelleblue.wordpress.com/2015/03/29/step-2-of-the-12-steps-came-to-believe-restored-to-sanity-nyc-fire-selfie-post/

Honorable mentions: @dannyblaqvideos @sybianmaker Rumor Hotel in Vegas Join our Vegas Milestone event www.eventsbymblue.com Read our latest issue www.kinkemagazine.com Note: http://www.kemtoptalk.com will be updated later this week.

Follow L*A*W on twitter: @planet12law and @Planet12Nation

Follow Marabelle Blue: @MarabelleBlue @KinkEMagazine @KEMTopTalk and coming soon @DivineSinsation

Thank you so much for your support! See you in Vegas! http://www.blogtalkradio.com/kinkemagazine/2015/04/01/marabelleblue-gets-down-and-dirty-with-planet12law-kemtoptalk-show

Bored but Keeping the Mind Occupied

Occupy! The word that became famous this summer when everyone who lost a job got fed up and rounded up the people to Occupy Wall Street, thus blaming the “financiers” of wall street shitting on the working class by stealing.

Funny….as in strange okay.

So while I occupy my own mind in the fantasies of my own riches, I slave away working on my site, revising and revising, I’m really bored right now. 

Even as I watch Liz and Dick, there isn’t anything right now that makes me excited or anything to look forward to other than the waiting game of everything coming together. 

And then when everything does come together and I’m rich, will I be bored, again…

Learning the Values in buidling Business Relationships

It sucks that there isn’t enough time in the day for me to blog. While I keep my tumblr account on a more sensual level – this blog is based more on my day to day life and dealings with others, especially in the name of business.

I recently had the unpleasant experience of having to deal with very inexperienced people trying to break into the adult industry.

Having a deep discussion with a confident, I made a reference to one of them as a little worker ant. While anyone may find this offense, think of how hard a worker ant works.

Haven’t we been all there? Working our way up to the “top”, wherever that top may be?

Being a little worker ant signifies that we try every day to be better, to learn our craft, manage our business and most important, respect others.

Then of course you have those that think that by sticking by you will help them work their way up faster.

I have yet to learn of any short cuts when it comes to business unless you’re a thief or a good talker. Both will get you no where fast and while I’m happy to help by supporting and advising, none of these come for free after a while.

While I may be alone in most of my decision making in my business, I certainly don’t make decisions out of my own accord. I reach out to people who are just as effective in their own business. People that I respect!

While all of my decisions about people I tend to deal with haven’t been the best, I can safely say that the time span of finding out how full of shit they are has gotten shorter so in the positive light of this lesson that I’ve learned, no major time was invested, therefore there was no major loss.

I hope that as I approach 2013 – the choices of business associates will only get better.

Until then.

MB~