#TheBachelor @benhiggi E5 – Cleaning House

The ladies arrive in Mexico City where once again Olivia is convinced the date card is for her.
 
Guess what???
 
It’s not LOL. 
ben and amanda.jpgIt was actually Amanda.
 
Oh, but Olivia had much to say about Amanda. She doesn’t believe Ben is the right person for her because she has children.
 
Really Olivia? You are a fucking child.
 
The next day, Ben wakes the girls up at 4:30 in the morning so he can see all of them in their element. Surprisingly, Cray Cray Jub had her hair in head while Olivia left pieces of her weave on the dresser. It was pretty funny to hear Ben ask, “who’s weave is this?” Definitely an LOL moment.
 
Ben finally did find Amanda and as they headed off on their date, Olivia, having a conversation with Lauren H. and telling her she completely disagrees Ben should keep her, especially since she’s been away from her kids for quite some time. She also doesn’t believe it would work out, if Ben wanted children, he would have had them.
 
Really Olivia? Are you a psychologist now? Perhaps you should be on the show, “Married At First Sight” and after a whole psychological work up, I’m sure none of the advisors on that show would pick her to be with someone. That marriage wouldn’t last more than a week.
 
During Ben and Amanda’s date, she expressed concerns on her interview regarding relationships and marriage because at her such youthful age, she’s already lived that life where Ben has not. In real life, relationships like this are truly a challenge. You can’t expect for someone to come into your life and adjust to your needs and your family without adjusting to his needs.
 
While Amanda seems to be on a “long extended date”, according to Jubilee (cray cray), she’s upset and jealous that Ben is spending more and more time with the other ladies and not her. If she thinks really hard about their one on one date, it wasn’t romantic at all, and the proceeding episodes he treats her as just one of the guys. You can take the ghetto out of the hood and the ghetto will always follow LOL. It just won’t jive with Ben’s family. Let’s not pretend here guys.
 
The group date card arrives and the names are read as follows (with Olivia begging not to want to be a part of the group date because she wants to spend more time with “her man”).
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#TheBachelor @benhiggi

Here we are~ A New Year has just begun and ABC wastes no time in premiering the Bachelor Ben Higgins from the Kaitlyn season. Surprisingly Ben was one of the last men standing (not sure why) there seemed to be a lack of personality there and with all the good looking men who were in her season, why choose Ben?

Anyway, I’m trying something new. I weaned myself off cable and no longer have the opportunity to watch live television. With an array of streaming applications where you can watch all of your favorite shows on your own time, I have to say, it sucks just a little bit.

I’m not able to catch up on the Housewives because Bravo hasn’t gotten with the programming of steaming unless you want to watch last season’s bullshit and who wants to blog about something that happened last year? Bye Felicia.

As always the intro starts off with shades of love on the water, in a boat, on some kind of a warm island, or on some kind of ride, followed by tears of women who barely know him or claiming they put their whole life on hold, yada yada yada. Oh lest not forget the “bitch” or “evil doer” of the show, “he’s my husband, he just hasn’t figure it out yet” type…..and the one who has a panic attack and guess what she won’t need the paramedics all she will need is Ben to sweep her off her feet. #Pathetic

Ben’s background, simple, from Warsaw, Indiana, small town where everyone knows each other, probably some Christian town…blah and on top of that he can’t find anyone from his own town?

Ben has this fake and mediocre conversation with his parents who have been together for the last thirty five years. One of the main topics discussed was Ben’s fears of being unlovable, which was something he bought up in the Kaitlyn season.

Hey Ben, try being my age and still not finding someone decent to have simple conversations with, without pulling teeth or begging for affection. Believe me you will find someone to love before I do. LOL.

Now with the Bachelor family growing, it seems they invite other Bachelors to “advise” on how to deal with this type of “reality” situation.

 Who do they bring back? Farmer Chris Soules (who broke up with his self centered girlfriend Whitney Bischoff), Jason Mesnick who at the end picked Melissa the one he really didn’t want over Molly but I guess to make the producers happy he gave them what they wanted. However in the reunion he told Melissa he was not the least bit interested in her and asked for Molly back. (What a happy reunion). Sean Lowe who married Catherine, discussed how he fell in love with her towards the end of the show (which was true). My question was why Farmer Chris was there. Clearly he picked the wrong woman. I don’t think their relationship lasted more than a week. (of course I’m being sarcastic) but if you recall, he had more of a relationship with Brit while the other girls were just hanging out watching this relationship flourish before them. #Confused

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This girl is cRaZY!

What’s Real and What’s Not…

The week of November 16, minding my business, getting off the train to head home, I noticed someone from the corner of my eye as I walked down the stairs and they walking beside me. Now the first thought is, “who the fuck is this person”, then he speaks…

“boy does that chicken smell good.”

There’s a restaurant up the street from the train station and I will say this, if the chicken is more than a day old, and they’re cooking it, it smells pretty bad.

The conversation leads to me saying the food didn’t smell good and I can make better chicken than they can. I thought that was the end, until he walked with me to my destination.

Okay, aggressive maybe?

Approaching the ninety nine cents store, I tell him, “well I have to go in here” and he asked me for my number.

I asked him to give me his and I promised I would call him back.

“What’s your name?”, he asked.

“My name is Marabelle.”

Well I wasn’t going to tell him my birth name. LOL.

Needless to say, I did give him my number. My business number. And then the calls started maybe a two days later. I didn’t feel we had much in common. But after a few text exchanges and a few calls in between, he surprised me last Saturday meeting me at the very same area we first started talking and took to the diner where we spent about four more maybe a bit more hours talking about everything.

Then my view changed.

Wow, this guy is smart and we do have a lot in common.

But…(you know there’s always that damn ‘but’), due to privacy issues, I changed my phone number on my ‘whatsapp’ to my business number, not realizing anyone who had the app and my business number will pop up a notification like, “hey your friend just joined whatsapp” – the same number I gave to this guy, who looks at my profile pic, watermarked, “Property of Kink~E Magazine”.

I have struggled for many years with men who thought that me owning a sex magazine made me available for sex, or that I was some kind of freak fucking different guys every night. Or how can I be such a prude and own a sex magazine.

Umm well, people are dirty and disgusting and I don’t open my legs to anyone unless they are fucking worth it. And oh, my fetish life isn’t practiced with some fly by night asshole that doesn’t know what he’s doing.

The men I meet get it very twisted and very confused as to who I am, what I do, what is the purpose of the magazine and why I do it.

The mission statement on www.kinkemagazine.com is very clear and anyone who reads it knows exactly what my magazine is about, what my writers do and what we talk about. Most importantly, why it’s so important to educated people living or exploring alternative lifestyles.

Well now upon knowing this info he had on hand, I told him what I do, I’m a writer, I own a magazine and I have different writer who discuss different aspects of adult entertainment and alternative lifestyle and he seemed cool with it.

After our endless hours of talking, it was time for me to go home and get rest and figuring I would hear from him the next day, I did not.

Okay what the fuck is going on here. You like someone (remember we are not 25, I don’t have time for stupid mind games), you’re not going to waste time or say, “well, duh, gee, I’ll contact her three days from now. By then I would have lost interest.

Bothered by the fact he didn’t make much of an effort, but texting here and there, I said something and it seemed to wake up the senses and led to another all night conversation.

Now my head space is, “yeah I’m feeling this guy, we can hang out get to know each other.”

Today, not so much. Inconsistent. Not making much of an effort BUT definitely made an effort in exposing exactly what he wanted to do me, desires of feasting on certain parts of my body…(use your imagination, ya’ll know what I’m talking about).

Yeah…no, I wasn’t feeling it.

I go out with you ONE time and one week later you’re talking about eating me out. It’s one thing to flirt, yet another when you’re just horn dog asking for sex when I barely even know the guy.

No thank you.

Does he not think I’m already getting emails like that from someone who’s been chasing me since 2000. And OH what about the guy I connect with periodically. While he’s busy playing mind games, someone else (someone I know) texting me at the same time, asking when I’m coming over.

A friend with benefit understanding only works with me for ONE person. I don’t need an extra person for that especially if they are telling me how REAL they are, when in essence are just full of shit.

I have been “around the block” enough to know all the stories guys play just to get a girl into bed, instead of just being forthright in saying, “I’m not looking for anything serious right now, however, I would like a partner I can be intimate with and have fun.”

Last time I checked, there’s nothing wrong with that level of honesty, but that’s just me. Some women may find the whole statement repulsive and that’s okay too.

Look I’m not here to judge, far from it. But when you come in with lies about me being in your heart and saying all of these romantic things just to get me in bed, is where I lose all respect for a person who’s flat out lying.

After addressing said issue, not only does he block me on twitter (why I don’t know he’s not worth reading any tweets he puts out), he blocks my number on his phone (after last Saturday when he tells me I gave him my “heartline” after I gave him my personal cell number).

If these are the actions of a person who claims they are telling the truth, guess what…you’re not.

Liars will not defend their actions once they’ve been found out. If anything they run the other way to ensure their integrity is not found out by others so they can pull the same game on someone else who will buy the lie.

While no one knows who I’m talking about, the last thing I would do it tag him on tweets like an immature child and accuse him of being a liar. Sure I will say certain things, but I won’t tag a name on to it.

He could have taken a different approach had he been telling the TRUTH, maybe by picking up the phone and calling and defending himself.

Being truthful is painful, whether you’re on the receiving end of it or not, hearing it for yourself when the words are departing from your lips can be painful.

After tonight, I was hurt and disappointed because I really wanted him to be for real in everything he was saying, but in the back of my mind, something said, there’s something not right.

I have learned to follow my intuition instead of following my heart.

Sad when you can’t follow your heart.

I text a friend of mine and told her what barely began has pretty much ended. In this phone conversation, a lot was revealed to me saying the words out loud.

Even in my own personal truth, as the words left my lips, my tears streamed down my face, because this really wasn’t about this guy, it is about something in the past, yet to be closed and the actions I am taking, in my own personal journey to resolve it.

You will all get a chance to share in that, I promise you.

In the meantime, my tears lie on the disappointment more than the person himself. It sucks when a person doesn’t tell you the truth, it sucks even more when they feel they can get over on you and not care about the feelings you’re investing through their web of lies.

(Addition) I wanted to say this, there’s always a reason why everyone goes through certain paths in their lives. I believe there’s a reason why I am having these experiences. While these experiences may not be so pleasant I know at the end of this tunnel will flourish something beautiful.

The journey continues….because whoever my “one” is, will completely and totally love me for who I am and not what they think I’m supposed to be.

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

#TheBachelorette – Two Men Plus Ben @kaitlynbristowe @viallnicholas28 @chrisbharrison

Kaitlyn+Bachelorette cryingWatching The Bachelorette you almost forget one more guy is in this episode….

Since it’s down to the wire with three men left, instead of meeting the families first, the fantasy dates came first. Why they did that, I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s easier for Kaitlyn to have sex with the rest of the guys before she brings them home to families?

Last episode we left off with Shawn parading into Nick’s room accusing him of being a liar and full of shit about his feelings towards Kaitlyn. Furthermore, bringing up things that were said during Andi’s season which I think is a bit out of turn.

Shawn wasn’t there, so he will believe anything bad about Nick to justify his jealousy.

Nick in turn accused Shawn of meeting some girl and having sex with her the same night. That wouldn’t be any new news now….how many guys in the world have done the same thing.

While the boys are bickering, Kaitlyn has her overnight with Ben.

Let’s analyze Ben for a little bit. Cool looking guy, sexy in his own “country club” kind of a way. Definitely can see stability in the relationship BUT is Kaitlyn the right girl for him….nah.

Kaitlyn is a girl all over the place, this was the reason why I didn’t see her with Chris Soules at all and every time he gave her a rose, it was just a deeper of heart break. It’s almost as if he’s a “Chris” reincarnated and definitely not a match here.

Their date was beautiful though. Seeing the sights of Ireland, who wouldn’t fall in love?

During their conversation, you can tell Ben is fully invested in this relationship; unknowingly she had sex with Nick and she told Shawn he, “was it”, too soon the in the game to tell someone that, especially someone like Shawn who’s possessive and jealous all at the same time.

Kaitlyn says in her interview she can picture a life with Ben, but I think right now being with him it’s just the calming part of the insanity that’s brewing between Shawn and Nick, and mentioning being with Ben feels good, and she “feels” like she’s falling in love with Ben.

That’s code for those feelings are going to change once she’s in between Shawn and Nick.

It’s too bad because Ben is a great guy, or so it seems…..maybe he can be the next Bachelor, or maybe Nick? That would make an interesting season.

Ben and Kaitlyn have their intimate moment (I’m sure they had sex too since she mentions they only got a half hour of sleep).

the-bachelorette-shawn-strips-naked-on-golf-courseShe meets up with Shawn for their one on one for a golf date. Gifting him a bright pink shirt and blue pants, I have to say, Shawn can wear just about anything.

Their date was good in the beginning; they were golfing and having fun that is until Kaitlyn brings up an idea of a game of, “truth or dare”. Sometimes a game like Truth or Dare can go wrong.

The dare was to unclothe Shawn and have him golf naked. I think Kaitlyn will do anything to see a naked man!

During their date, later that evening, Kaitlyn brings up the topic of Shawn having this one night stand, and why he hates Nick, etc. etc.

Shawn admits he did have a conversation with Nick and believes Nick’s has ulterior motives which are not good for Kaitlyn. The Eskimo brother’s topic came up….and Kaitlyn mentions in her interview she needs security and assurance he’s going to be a loyal husband because of statement.

Ummm Kaitlyn, here’s a memo for you, you had sex with Nick. Can he question if you’re going to be a loyal wife or is this part of the exploration?

They decide to go to the fantasy suite which shows nothing, no kissing, nothing, just Kaitlyn putting the DND tag and closing the door.

The next day as Shawn leaves Kaitlyn’s room and Nick is waiting around and asks Shawn does he have a few minutes. Umm, WTF?

Nick felt as though he was blasted when Shawn decided to run into his room and he felt he needed to respond to Shawn.

Shawn believes the conversation they had proved Nick was a smooth talker. I missed that part, because I didn’t see proof other than two men who are fighting over a woman who’s not all that.

Nick questioned Kaitlyn’s motives after Shawn mentioned he and Kaitlyn spent the night together.

Now having a conversation with Chris Harrison who acts as the “advisor”, she admits Ben is a great guy next to  Shawn who exudes both of the “drama intensity” and humor where she doesn’t get the same with Ben. She believes though Ben will make a great husband…..she doesn’t say this but clearly it’s what’s on her mind, not just for her.

Nick, however, having feelings for him, she questions his loyalty towards being in a committed relationships whereas she doesn’t question that with Shawn because he’s a jealous freak. So she knows he wants to be with her but the jealousy can put a hurting on their relationships. (Any relationship for that matter)

I’m still stuck on why they didn’t do the hometown dates. Are they doing budget cuts?

When Kaitlyn stands before all three guys, she tells them she’s falling in love and how incredible how all the overnight dates have been. how much they have shared with her and she thanked them. Caught up in the moment of emotion, she walked away to gather herself, knowing who she was letting go. She comes back to them and reaffirms all she can do is follow her heart.

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She gives the first rose to Nick and then to Shawn which leaves Ben standing there with nothing.  After Ben says goodbye to Shawn and Nick, Kaitlyn asked if she can walk Ben out. She tells Ben how frustrating it is , he’s such a great guy but she doesn’t feel the same connection with him.

IMG_9620Before they say goodbye he tells her she looks great and he will miss her. In the car heading back to a hotel I guess, he said he wasn’t expecting to go home, but he’s a different person and was able to open up and have feelings again.

So perhaps this is a good thing. He learned how to open up I think it’s what you do afterwards when you fall in love and it doesn’t work out. Do you close yourself up? Is it harder to open up to someone new or do you hurry up and find a rebound who can give you that good feeling?

After the rose ceremony, Kaitlyn comes back to do a final salute to both of the men she chose. A very quiet drink, Nick hugs Kaitlyn in the anticipation she will see him at hometown dates and then hugs Shawn. She walks out, leaving them alone. Shawn finishes his drink and slams the glass on the table saying nothing to Nick. Nick then quietly puts his glass on the table saying nothing as the camera just pans on both of them like, what are we waiting for?

Kaitlyn heads to Utah and meets up with Nick. Nick admits he has no question he is in love with Kaitlyn and has no reservations whatsoever.  While all this exchange of love is being shared between Nick and Kaitlyn, back at the hotel, in a room, sits a group of people with uncomfortable anticipation…Nick’s family. Not happy at the fact he is going through this again, his tearful mom, makes his youngest sister cry, while one of his sister’s looks on not very happy.

After meeting Kaitlyn, they all sit and goof around until Maria pulls Kaitlyn aside to have a talk with her. She bought up the Andi season and her concerns with her feelings for Nick. After Maria, followed his brother and Bella, the youngest sibling who asked about Canada and does she really love Nick. Yeah, I would asking the same thing too, but she didn’t admit she loved him but told her she cares about Nick, “a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot”.

IMG_9631Having conversations with his Mom and Nick’s mom having a conversation with him, you can see there’s a big reluctance. While she can distinguish the difference between Kaitlyn and Andi, she’s hopeful, but still afraid for her son.

Nick assures his mother the difference between Kaitlyn and Andi, is during the Andi season he was over confident, not realizing where he and Andi where going in their relationship.

I can understand why his mother’s upsets; it’s not the ideal or conventional way to meet someone.

Kaitlyn couldn’t wait to get Nick back into her room after a successful meeting with his reluctant family.

The next day, Kaitlyn meets Shawn’s family and Shawn says in his interview , he’s excited to tell his , “wife” , he’s in love with her.

Pretty presumptuous if you ask me, I mean what if she didn’t pick him?

Shawn’s father mentioned something legible. Is this something where they are caught up in the moment or is it true love.

Just ask everyone who didn’t last in their relationships.

Like Nick’s family, they are a little bit more realistic in their goals of what they are looking for Shawn. And while Shawn is so love with Kaitlyn, he mentions if any of his family members have one doubt, it will not work out.

Look, while they are all in this position where Kaitlyn is talking about her googingly eyes and first impression rose, the fact is the reality will still happen when the cameras are off and they begin to live real life.

When Shawn gets the opinion of his sister’s apparently they gave rave reviews. I’m not sure how much you can review a person in just a few hours. Well maybe you can. I mean when I met my sister’s husband, I knew he was a piece of shit from the get go. So perhaps it is possible.

IMG_9634When Shawn’s father approaches him, he didn’t see to waste any time. The first thing out of his mouth was, “what the hell is going on”.

Hmm not a good question to start off with but I get it.

Shawn, still stuck on the, “you’re it” comment, he shares with his dad what Kaitlyn said when there was ten guys left. I guess this was his way of reassuring his father Kaitlyn is the girl for him.

Now that Kaitlyn has met the family and back in the room with Shawn, he tell her, there’s one more thing he needs to tell her,  he’s not falling for her but he IS in love with her.

Disappointed she didn’t tell him she loved him back (I think that’s supposed to happen at the end Shawn), Kaitlyn goes back to her room bawling her eyes out, now more confused than ever on who she plans on choosing.

Poor Nick.

OH well. Until the Final Rose.

I will be blogging on The Men Tell All after the season is over!

#TheBachelorette E9 – @kaitlynbristowe @haibon_jared @realrealitymag- Down to the Final Four

the-bachelorette-week-5_105The rose ceremony isn’t for an hour into the episode.

Kaitlyn was talking about how more difficult the week will become as she will need to say goodbye to two guys because the next round of dates will be the fantasy over night dates before any families are met.

Usually it’s the other way around. She will be left with four guys and those four guys would be the home town dates where she would meet their families. Why didn’t they do that?

The first date she had was with Ben H., who out of nowhere she had some attraction to him. Was this more than Nick and Shawn?

On a boat sailing the beautiful waters towards Innisfallen Island in Ireland – they spent time together playing hide and seek while back and forth interviews with Ben admitting that he has strong feeling for her but is afraid to share that because he doesn’t want to get hurt.

Understandable. It’s funny though how he had no issue calling her his girlfriend in an earlier episode.

Most guys have said that in past bachelor seasons and I think everyone is confused. No one is boyfriend and girlfriend until it’s just the both of you. And even then while engaged, you’re still boyfriend and girlfriend. Think of how many couple did NOT make it to the altar after making fools of themselves on television.

1436812163_kaitlyn-ben-donkey-zoomDuring their date, while Ben is talking about his last relationships and the ideal relationship and how he feels, Kaitlyn started to wonder if Ben was a virgin and asked him straight forward, his response…..No.

Now that Ben seems to be in the clear (no roses yet), the group date has officially begun, Shawn, Nick and Joe all meeting up with Kaitlyn to talk to her one on one. Kaitlyn, off camera admits there are discussions that need to be had and Shawn is the first one to pull her way.

Notice, Shawn is super possessive. Still unaware that she had sexual relations with Nick earlier in the week or week before. He’s still insecure due to the fact she told him he was it and he got stuck on that one.

Ladies, if you and guy are dating and it’s not serious for you, yet…and you tell him he’s it, he will HARP on that shit forever.

Notice how different she is with Nick than she is with Shawn. She is giddy, she’s vulnerable, and she talks to him like she’s known him her whole life, or is it just the Nick effect? Who knows.

What I think is so stupid, it seems she’s a wasted Bachelorette. If she had such a connection with Nick before this show, why even bother going through all this nonsense. We could have had someone much more fun and entertaining with Kelsey from Farmer Chris season.

UGH watching her and Joe was extremely difficult. He was talking about how he was falling in love with Kaitlyn, he’s kissing her and oh so passionate. Although Kaitlyn is kissing him back, it’s clear these are not kisses she wants to be returning, let alone be in locked in some intimate embrace. Maybe Nick should have interrupted and should have waited till after Joe so he can comfort her.

joe-kaitlyn-kiss-bachelorette-w352It was painfully clear we were reaching an end with her and Joe and after the kissing, Kaitlyn discusses honesty and where he was coming from and where she’s coming from and feeling as they are not on the same page.

While I remain, sometimes being honest means saying, I know you said you fell in love with me, but I’m not feeling the same way. Her round about behavior only seemed to infuriate Joe who copped an attitude really quick. He said things like, “it’s cool, It’s been fun”, very cold and unfeeling.

Kaitlyn asked for a hug goodbye and while he did comply, you can tell her was reeling in anger. He turned and looked at her and asked her, “what do I do now” and Kaitlyn responds, “I just wanted to give you a hug goodbye”, for which Joe replies, “I don’t want to say shit to you right now.”

Had to be the word shit.

Wow where the fuck did that come from?

Talk about pissed. The cameras didn’t even follow him to get feedback. LMAO If I was a camera person, I wouldn’t follow him either.

When Kaitlyn comes back she decides not to give the rose out, telling Nick that she will see him at the rose ceremony and told Shawn they need more time to talk. Shawn thinking this is a special one on one time, little does he know the only reason why she wants to talk to him to tell him that she and Nick had sex. LOL What a dummy.

After some small talk and flirting, she admits she and Nick had sex on their date. Of course now the mood changes and Shawn knows exactly why she called him out for more time. This wasn’t just a regular date. He asked her if she regrets, and she said she felt guilt. Not the answer he wanted to hear I’m sure.
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Why should she regret anything she’s done? If she really didn’t want to have sex with Nick, she wouldn’t have asked him back to her room. But she knew what she wanted. Period. The End!

Shawn, had to take a moment and go to the men’s room probably to punch the sink LOL. (I had to post this pic I found online just too damn funny)

Nick, who’s back in the hotel room, is completely perplexed as to why she didn’t give out a rose. And while he’s complaining about what the fuck is going on, Jared looks like he’s ready to fall asleep, while Ben is assured he will be flying high in the next rose ceremony.

I guess the question would be, was it wise to tell Shawn about her escapade with she and Nick or picking Shawn at the end, and then telling him in private before the show aired.

When Shawn, finally comes out of the bathroom, he admits that he’s upset but he cannot be mad at her, and that it happened, but he loves her and he wants to be with her.

His “not being angry” becomes short lived.

Shawn enters the room and puts his mask on not letting anyone know what transpired on the date and Nick sitting there clueless of the conversation that took place.

The next day is the rose ceremony, Kaitlyn choose not to have any cocktail hour. Her mind has been made up, according to Chris Harrison, who informs them it’s time for the rose ceremony.

Now down to the wire, Shawn still has questions as to what he wants to do. He’s still upset over the fact that she and Nick were intimate together. After her endearing speech on how important these three roses are, she picks up the first rose and calls Shawn and asked him will he accept this rose, his response,

the-bachelorette-shawn-rose-ceremony“I need to talk to you”

The look on her face was absolutely priceless. There was fear and anger all at the same time.

Shawn is upset that it’s Nick she had sex with. If it were anyone else, I don’t think he would be as upset. Why him? He asked and why she would do that to jeopardize them. Really Shawn? Ya got a big head there my friend.

Kaitlyn tells Shawn she’s here to explore other relationships, because after she chooses one, she will never have that opportunity again. And what she said to him a few weeks ago, that he was it, she had no business saying that. I think she realizes when you put your foot in your mouth; you give someone that unrealistic expectation “things will proceed according to plan.”

Kaitlyn left off asking Shawn if he questions her trust, and we never see the answer. They come out of the room and back to the rose ceremony, once again asking Shawn if he will accept her rose.

“Absolutely”

The last two roses she hands out to Ben H. and then Nick, leaving Jared hurt.

Screen-shot-2015-07-07-at-8.37.32-PMJared the next bachelor? Wouldn’t be surprised. He’s a cutie, in a fishy sort of way.

If anyone who cried more saying goodbye was Kaitlyn while Jared was comforting her telling her it was okay.

Gosh that was so hard to watch. Admittedly I had my own waterworks going on watching him in the limo.

Hard….just touch. Broken hearts suck. He left with his head up high. I think the only one who didn’t leave with a grandiose attitude. Despite of me calling him a fish kisser, Jared is a person who deserves a great woman, clearly Kaitlyn is not that woman, for him.

Now that Jared is gone, Kaitlyn proceeds with her overnight dates, first with Nick.

It is very apparent that Nick and Kaitlyn have a very strong connection together. They traveled throughout and exploring Ireland. They stopped at a Cathedral Church, a bar and some kind of castle jail. It comes up during their date, Nick begins discussing someone who he doesn’t respect, and has insecurities and admits he’s talking about Shawn and his concerns over him.

The minute they get into this deep conversation, a storm begins to brew.

Coincidence?

Was Nick right in saying anything about Shawn? Or is it about jealous emotions like Kaitlyn stated.

After taking Nick to a prank fantasy suite, they head over to the real suite, where Nick expresses more of his love to her.

I know people are not Nick fans because he disclosed his intimacy with Andi and quite honestly I’m not sure what is the big deal. I said this before and I’ll say it again. The fantasy suite, they are fucking, if anyone thinks any different, you’re stupid.

The next day, Kaitlyn and Nick are eating breakfast looking like a natural couple. I can only imagine Shawn watching this. He looks like he has anger issues.

And not wanting to let go what Kaitlyn shared with him, he calls the hotel concierge to find out where Nick’s room to confront him as to why he’s there. All throughout the interviews, he would refer to him as, “the other guy”.

I don’t’ know if I saw this for myself, I wouldn’t go with Shawn. There are a lot of control issues there.

Their confrontation turns into an argument.

To be continued….

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#TheBachelorette Most Dramatic Season…so says @ChrisBHarrison Season 11 Episode 1

The Bachelorette Season 11 Episode 1

kaitlyn bacheloretteAs we venture into another dramatic season of the Bachelorette – the producers who had trouble picking between Kaitlyn and Britt decided to do a repeat of what they did with Byron Velvick and the “other guy” who didn’t get chosen to be the Bachelor way back when the Bachelor was in it’s early stages.

If you recall, later in that episode they bought two women back from the previous season one of the being Mary Delgado. Everyone was rooting for them even though the women that were already vying for his love early on were furious that two women came in with Byron having lost interest in them and pursued Mary.

Unfortunately, the great love of Mary and Byron was all lost when Mary appeared in the news, having been arrested for abusing Byron.

Probably THE MOST DRAMATIC after the final rose yet. We all know Chris Harrison, everything is the most dramatic.

Hello!!! Anyone that’s watching this, the idea of the show is supposed to be dramatic.

So here we are with two Bachelorettes, (BTW I cheated months ago and already knew who the Bachelorette was going to be). Without delaying it, Kaitlyn became the next Bachelorette and my first initial thought was, “ugh another Jen Scheft boring season.” But after seeing the previews and Nick V. making out with Kaitlyn and the heavy breathing, I quickly changed my mind. I felt like

Before the women met the men, we had a chance to see the edited version of the men they chose to spotlight on.

One of them was Jonathon who he works in the automotive industry from Detroit who was interested in Britt and he has a child. Really? I mean come on. Britt is a free spirited woman. I cannot see her tied down, living in Detroit taking care of someone else’s kid. Next….

Joe from Kentucky, (small town once again), expressed interest in Kaitlyn. I think after the whole Farmer Chris thing, we’re done with farming.

Josh, who lives in Chicago and studying for the bar exam, has an interesting job to pay the bills as a male dancer. He doesn’t look that tall, however, the little bit of clip they showed stripping, looks like the third leg has a stand of its own. Oh he didn’t express in any bachelorette in particular.

Brady, from Nashville and a musician expressed a big interest with Britt.

The small town country boy, Joshua, from Idaho (another farmer in the middle of nowhere), would like to see Kaitlyn as the next Bachelorette.

Ian from Venice Beach, is an Executive Recruiter and he’s a runner. He shared he was hit by a car and essentially left for dead. Through surgeries and therapy, he was able to run again. With no ifs, ands or but’s, his pick would be Kaityln.

Nerdy but cuite, Jared from Rhode Island and superhero, “Love Man”, has very strong interest in Kaitlyn.

Meditative and Healer, Tony, who’s soft spoken and has a relationship with his plants, ready for love with Britt. I’m not sure where they found this guy but he reminds me of the male version of Ashley, really loopy and doesn’t make any sense.

Ben Z., sports player, already disclosed his mother’s passing at the age of 14. I’m sure we will be hearing a lot about his mom throughout the season. He was also open to the opportunity for both Britt and Kaitlyn.

As each man came out of the limo and introduced themselves, the ones that were interested in Britt went to her first and then greeted Kaitlyn like she was secondary. What was funny is that Jared who had so much interested in Kaitlyn, came out of the limo and went running to Britt first. Even as each man went inside the mansion they were all rooting for Britt, oh so it seemed. It was funny on how many people were into Britt, and I’m not sure how people were taken by Kaitlyn.

Of course one of the most memorable entrances out of the limo was Josh…he didn’t have to say a thing LOL.

Shawn who came out of the limo practically sweeping Britt off her feet, actually was there for Kaitlyn. A perfect example of how deceptive men can be.

Speaking of deception, Kaitlyn decides to run into the mansion to say hi to the guys, which probably garnered her some votes.

Tony who finally met Britt and spoke this romantic poetry walks over to Kaitlyn and tells her the same thing to Britt that he said to Kaitlyn. He believes in love and he hopes the Universe provides….*barf*

Before the ladies got to the guys to get to know them, Ryan was already plastered and acting like a fucking idiot. Is he going to do another Jordan and come back and apologize for being a drunken idiot? Next….

I don’t want to get into the semantics of gifts, etc but after the intros and it came down to the wire when the men realized that they had to vote who was going to be the next Bachelorette is when the game began and all the men started inquiring who was going to vote for whom.

Many of the men that came out of the limo went to Britt first. She seemed to have a big following of men but then some of them who spoke to Kaitlyn started to change their minds about who they really wanted to get to know.

The yoga guy who was into Britt in the beginning and then said later he was here for Kaitlyn, put his hands on the voting box and said Britt’s box was pulsating. I’m confused. I thought he was there for Britt from the get go….

Seems hid deep connection with Britt didn’t hold weight since he didn’t have a problem accepting a rose from Kaitlyn.

The nerdy guy who’s a restaurant manager did the same thing. He was back and forth between Kaitlyn and Britt but I think in the end he chose Kaitlyn.

The highlight of the evening was Ryan M. who decided getting wasted and acting like an ass was going to get him far. Enter the new character in the Bachelor camp fetches Ryan to tell him that Chris Harrison would like to speak to him. We all know where this was going. In short, bye bye Ryan M. Chris Harrison sent him packing in a van LOL.

The stragglers left who hadn’t voted, Britt and Kaitlyn spent talking with them. It was clear from the beginning that Brady was not budging from Britt. Not within the least. He came there with the intention of being with Britt and he proved that in the rose ceremony when he pulled Kaitlyn aside and told her that his heart was with Britt and not with her and he needed to respond to that.

When Chris Harrison did finalize that the votes were in….to be continued.

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The Bachelor @C_Soules Hometown Dates – Bye Britt :-( AND Carly (YAY)

021615-bachelorbecca1stdateContinuing from last weeks episode, Chris has a one on one date with Becca who I believe he will wind up with in the end. She still has not told Chris that she is a virgin and has never been intimate with any man whatsoever. She tells Chris that she was in a relationship that was on and off but that she had never been in love with him or in love with anyone else for that matter which seems to take Chris aback. Fear perhaps? This is a grown woman who has never felt love for any man. (Three cheers for Becca for not falling for BS and standing her ground.) Back at the hotel,

Britt sits with the girls and ask them what they’re chatting about and Whitney says that they’re talking about Becca and what could be going on on their date and about last night which clearly was not the starring role for Britt. Britt confesses to the girls that she believes in her heart that she is going home and that she’s not going to get a rose so she packed up her things in preparation to leave however if there is a chance that Chris will choose her then she will stay.

That leaves Carly asking a bunch of questions and making sarcastic and antagonizing statements which only upsets Britt even more because Carly feels if Britt is not in the picture that will put her one level up which I don’t believe it will. The evening has dawned upon them for the rose ceremony.

Chris Harrison comes into the room and tells the ladies that there will be no cocktail hour and will go straight to the rose ceremony. Britt has already packed up her things with the intention of telling Chris that she has no plans on staying feeling as though because he gave Kaitlyn the rose after she had put her heart out there. Feeling as though is he worthy of meeting her family coupled with her heart may not be in the right place, she stops the rose ceremony and asks Chris if she can talk to him.

Even though she knows that having put her foot in her mouth, I can understand why she did what she did. What is the point of standing around in a rose ceremony knowing that you’re not going to get a rose when you just might as will say goodbye and get it over with. I think Kaitlyn is an idiot for even making a statement that she made that Britt should just grin and bear it. Why? Perhaps this is the closure Britt wants so she can leave.

I’m surprised even Kaitlyn made it this far also. During their private time while Britt and Chris were talking over each other and nobody was really listening to each other instead of Britt just telling Chris that it was not going to work out for either of them, they come a silence.

43-bachelor-week-7bAnd in that silence it is mutual  that this relationship is over and he walks her out leaving her hysterical crying. All the other girls seem to be empathizing except for Carly, who’s smiling and gloating at Britt’s pain. Chris now heads back to the ladies for the rose ceremony before hometown dates and the ladies that are left standing are Becca, Carly, Whitney, Kaitlyn and Jade.

Before he hands out the roses, he makes a statement that he wants to thank those who have addressed that Britt was being a phony. Huh? If that is the case why did he spend so much time with her and even taking her away from the other ladies to the big and Rich concert for which they were gone for more than an hour while he left all of them waiting and gave Britt a rose that night. Why did he just say earlier in the episode that she was the one he can see being married and having children? Talk about can conflict.

The roses were disbursed as following: Whitney Becca Jade BWAAhAaaaHa. And Carly? Kicked to the curb. Just as she should have been from the moment she came out of the limo with her toy. Continuing on with the episode the first hometown date he has is with Becca who is extremely excited to see him and excited to meet her family as well as she is excited to have him meet her family.

Here are some pictures I took from my television of Carly in the limo clueless as to why Chris let her go. The part of “what’s wrong with me I always end up in the same exact place” got me…what is wrong with her? Where do I begin? Her nasty attitude, the lies she made up to make herself look good, the green eyed monster. Who would want to see her as the next Bachelorette, raise your hands? I thought so. As a woman no one likes to be around nasty, jealous women who will throw them under the bus at the first chance they act upon their insecurity.

pathetic carly2 pathetic carly3 carly pathetic1Speaking of throwing people under the bus, hometown dates are strange because family members will say things that will also throw that person under the bus and ruin potential relationships with the bachelor or bachelorette. Becca’s sister pulls Chris’s side (you know that “private” chat) to tell him that Becca has never been intimate with a guy as far as holding hands or being affectionate and that she had seen them holding hands and she didn’t pull away which was a first. After having a conversation with her mom I don’t think that Chris is deterred from how he feels towards Becca.

Their date ends on a ferris wheel right before he tells her,  “I’m going to take you home with me”. I don’t know if that meant the ferris wheel ride or Arlington. Understand my confusion as he just mentioned the day before how he wanted to ride under the sunset with Britt. On his hometown date with Whitney it was all about her and her career and herself and how fabulous she is.

I guess it’s okay to toot your own horn except when your desperate.  I think shows should show a red flag for Chris because why would she leave that life? Nope! Why would he see that? On their way to meet her family he says he wants to be able to talk to someone to get their blessing I don’t know why he told her that because I don’t believe that he will choose Whitney in the end. At the same time…wow.

Was a choice made already? He eventually asked Whitney’s sister for her blessing and she was very forward and telling him that until she is the last girl standing he should wait to ask that question. She will not give her blessing otherwise. Good point. Despite the situation that is created around the bachelor I don’t believe that Whitney has fallen in love with Chris.

I think it’s just the surroundings and the circumstances where you have a bunch of women pursuing one man that makes one believe that they are in love with them without having them live the realities of life outside of the cameras. But Whitney loves the cameras.

On the hometown date with Kaitlyn she meets him from what looks like a seedy part of Phoenix, Arizona but it was actually a place where there’s a studio and they decided to record a rap song which was pretty bad. I’m not sure who comes up with these strange date ideas. While the family settings seem to the usual boring scene, after dinner Kaitlyn takes Chris to an advertising street sign where she placed Kaitlyn loves Chris.

Which I think is pretty awesome nice way to tell somebody that you love them not that it’s never been done before. An advertisement sign that overlooks the whole street is a big deal. On his hometown date with Jade in Gering, Nebraska, while everything seems to be going fine on the outside, Jade still has concerns because she had pose nude for Playboy and still has not told Chris.

Chris makes inquiries through her family members about Jade and they’re all pretty much saying the same thing. They all seem to express concern that Jade is not ready to settle down, she’s a wild girl, etc. it’s stuff like that that maybe your family should not be sharing with a potential life partner. When Jade took him back to, I’m gathering, her hotel room where she was staying while in Nebraska, she shared with him her secret about posing for Playboy and while Chris seem to have taken it in stride I knew that was the last nail that locked the coffin and the rose ceremony proved it. Was anyone surprised?

I was surprised that, she too, lasted for as long as she did. I believe the only reason why she had surpassed rose ceremony after rose ceremony was because his sisters had chosen her for his one on one, probably thinking they see something he hasn’t seen in her.

Look, if your dick doesn’t get hard and your pussy doesn’t get wet, that should be enough to tell you they ain’t the one. While he made it a point to tell her that his decision was not based on what she told him but more based on the relationships that he has developed with the other women, begs the question how much of a relationship does he really have with Becca?

While I believe Becca is the ideal woman for him, how long did it take for him to establish a relationship with her. In the whole spectrum of looking at the last four ceremonies he has had more of a connection with Britt than any other girl including Whitney.

I really felt for Jade but again I cannot see her settling down on some farm with Chris.

All in all this episode was extremely boring. The hometown dates were just the usual family gatherings with a family member pulling Chris’s side saying  “let’s have some one-on-one time”.

Bye Jade. We all saw that one coming. Really? Could you see her family looking at her with the same eyes the day they were all in Arlington knowing that she was naked in a magazine. People are so hard up. If Chris had real feelings for her and tossed them aside for the sake of conservative modesty, he made a big mistake. Oh did you notice those tears that Chris shed when he said goodbye to Jade. I didn’t see him cry for anyone like that.

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

The Bachelor @C_Soules Bachelor @chrisbharrison Deadwood South Dakota E8

Deadwood, South Dakota  

britt-nilsson-madI was listening to Howard Stern the other day, where Robin Quivers was talking about how the episodes of the bachelor especially this season has been ending somewhat on a cliffhanger, i.e the Kelsey faux panic attack.

Where all of the episodes have always ended with the rose ceremony with previews of the upcoming weeks episode, it seems that some of the episodes the rose ceremony has filtered in to the next weeks episode.

In episode eight the show begins with the rose ceremony, since the day before Chris happy to on one date with Ashley and Kelsey and said goodbye to both of them.

Britt inquires as innocently as she can, regarding why he decided to let go of them. Whereas Carly was too much on the bandwagon to cheer both Kelsey and Ashley off, since she’s had her date with Chris she is convinced that she will be the last girl standing.

Before Chris begins the rose ceremony, he asked Megan if they can have a chat. I don’t care what anyone tells me, when someone says, “let’s have a chat”. It’s almost not a good thing. Apparently this short chat leads to the conclusion that Megan will no longer be a part of the rose ceremony as he said goodbye to her.

What I don’t understand is that Chris makes a comment on how brutal break ups are. And how sad he was to see her go and how it was tearing him apart. So if he felt such a strong connection with her why get rid of her if anything I think that Chris made a very big mistake in letting her go. Who he should’ve had that conversation with was Carly. I believe he has zero connection with her and for some reason she just keeps making the cut.

When Chris returns it is obvious that Megan was sent home. And the girls are thinking well since Megan is cut that she that there will be no rose ceremony. That’s when Chris Harrison comes in and chimes on the champagne glass that they will be a rose ceremony.

Now they’re all convinced that Carly will be the one to be cut because she seems to be the least likely candidate to wind up with Chris. And during her interview it is clear that she spazzing out with all the tears and the crying that he’s an easy person to love.

As Chris Harrison and Chris walk away, Chris informed him that he does not want to have a rose ceremony because he has feelings for all of the women therefore relieving all of them of a nightmare ceremony and guess where the next stop is on their journey for love….that’s right. In Carly’s words, “we’re going to Arlington”.

b83a7b20-97be-0132-447c-0ebc4eccb42fSo when Chris makes the announcement to the ladies there will be no rose ceremony because he has feelings for all of them, he announces they’re going to God’s country. Carly is the first one to jump and grab him on top of him. As far as I’m concerned this dumb bitch got a reprieve.

They land in Des Moines Iowa, and as they are hollering what a beautiful city it is, I don’t think they realize this is not the farm life Chris has talked about time and time again.

The date card comes in and Britt reads the card hoping she gets the one on one and instead it goes to Jade. Britt who has invested much of her emotions in her relationship with Chris is upset.

Carly,on the other hand, was gloating that Britt did not get the date card because she feels that Britt has had enough time with Chris. Stupid. It’s women like Carly that give good women a bad name.

Jade is in the car on her way to Arlington has concerned look as the road changes from city life to farmland on either side.

My question is is that when did Chris become attracted to Jade? If it were not for his sisters choosing her for the one on one, I think Jade would have gone home a long time ago. Also as a cosmetics vendor, unless she’s leaving her career behind, how much can she ‘vendor’ in Iowa.

You could see the discern growing in her face as she looks on either side of the road and realizes she’s in the in the middle of nowhere. Not for nothing if it was me I would be in the lead because I can’t stand being around people or having neighbors so for me this would be the ideal life.

jade-roper-elimination-thumbSo while Jade is stuck with the scenery of just farm, back at the hotel in Des Moines, Britt is talking about all of the stuff that Jade gets to see that she’s not getting to see and how important it is to her and Carly continues to gloat that Britt was not the one that was chosen for the date. When the second date card comes in and Whitney is called out Britt once again is let down. Now I’m confused. Wasn’t Britt the one that Chris whisked away to the Big and Rich show. When they’re together in a group setting you almost forget there are other women on the group date. So why Whitney? What made Whitney different? Was it because he was unsure of her being that she has this career as a fertility specialist? Not sure.

Back on the one to one, Chris meets up with Jade and shows her his place and then off sightseeing as they walk around the desolate town. Chris offers a nervous laughter as they stroll because there’s nothing there. Most small businesses are closed which was really sad.

As the day turned to night, Chris took her to a high school football game and to her surprise, Jade got to meet Chris’s parents. Although the conversation wasn’t long I’m almost sure if Britt knew what was going on with this date she would be none too happy.

Here are some of my questions as I was watching this episode.  Every girl chosen has a career in this season of the bachelor well except for Britt and Carly. In this situation considering that Chris lives on a farm, is he asking any of these women that they would possibly have to give up their career and take on a career of farming?

I’m not too sure.

Whitney who has a very big head about herself, is she willing to give up her career in being a fertility specialist for a living on a farm? I mean you’re living in a place where populations 400 I’m pretty sure that none of those people living there are having any babymaking problems.

While Jade had a successful time with Chris. It looks like she will be getting a rose especially since he already had plans on having Jade meet his parents while at the football game.

The next day, as Jade discusses her date with Chris and tells them that she met Chris’s parents, brings Britt to tears and Carly during her interview comments that Britt thinks is the bachelorette. I’m not sure what’s in Carly’s head but she also thinks it’s the bachelorette. Her over the top attitude definitely shined in this episode. Talk about a big head. Isn’t this the same woman that came in with a mini karaoke machine? The same one that didn’t win the singing contest? When did she start hating Britt? Oh when she realized that Chris is not that into her.

Moving onto the one on one date with Whitney who’s forcing this relationship for a variety of reasons one of them being that she’s 29 years old and women who are at that age feel like they are getting old rapidly and so are their eggs. I can see her giving up a lot to be with Chris, however, I don’t think that her feelings are sincere and at the end of the day she will not be happy.

carly-the-bachelorMeantime back at the “lab”. Carly suggest that they should go on a road trip to Arlington and Britt doesn’t think it’s a good idea. But instead of listening to her better judgement she goes on the expedition with them. They seemed really excited at first, screaming their heads off but once they started approaching Arlington and see on either side of them nothing but farmland was when the mood changed and all was quiet in that SUV.

The girls are arrive at Arlington and they find nothing in the town. All had the same discerning face Jade did when she arrived in Arlington.

Carly sees a Methodist church and convinces herself the picture of Jesus hanging on the wall inside the church was an exact replica of what her grandparents owned. Of course this was a sign she belongs there and she should be raising her children there. I don’t like disputing signs but in the case of Carly it just means this Jesus picture has been reprinted a number of times and you’ll probably find it in a number of homes.

Back on the Whitney date, she throws the comments to Chris’ friends on how she feels that she belongs there. What? It’s amazing how these women make assumptions that they visit a town that they are dating a guy on the bachelor so to speak and right away they feel that they belong in that town. Because Whitney has not experienced Arlington herself she speaking out of turn.

She also lives in Chicago, that is a big jump from living in Arlington. She seems to be a person who enjoys the spotlight and clearly she’s enjoying this spotlight a bit too much if you ask me. When his friends asked her if she had any hesitations, I think she lied through her teeth and said everything they all wanted to hear. This was not somebody that Chris’s sisters had chosen for his one on one when they had visited the house. I think that speaks volumes they had big Jade, But that doesn’t mean that she’s right for him too.

Britt, I’m on the fence with because she seems to be sincere but then there’s another part of her where she seems to be just acting like she really wants all of this but she doesn’t. Carly had made a comment that Britt did not like Arlington and could not see herself living there but when they were back at the hotel, Britt mention that she could see herself living in Arlington with Chris.*Carly rolls eyes*

Looking at the career that Britt is involved with is waitressing. That’s not to say that a waitress will take the first thing to get out of the job that she’s in clearly we all know that waitresses do not make a lot of money, however she is a bit overzealous of their relationship which makes me question the validity of her feelings towards Chris or his life style.

I like Britt a lot. But I’m not sure she is the right fit for Chris. Looking at Becca who has been the quiet one and cautious in her relationship with Chris she seemed to fit right  as I watched her walk around Arlington. She didn’t have that overwhelmed look.

Carly makes fun of Britt too much and she’s too overconfident that she will stick around. I don’t believe she will.

Whitney confides in Chris that her mom passed away from a routine procedure was she developed a blood clot clot and died instantly and that she has no relationship with her father so I’m not sure who he will be meeting on hometown dates considering that she’s chosen for one.  Some hidden issues in there, ya think.

Chris gives Whitney a surprise outside of the restaurant they were at, there was a mural of them looking like they were kissing similar to a picture that they took earlier with the whole crowd standing outside with cameras videoing the whole moment. I’m gathering with this permanent mural it would be funny if he picked Becca and that mural is stuck there until it’s painted over.

bachelor-whitneyThe next day Whitney is sharing the part of the date with the mural on the wall replicating one of the pictures that they took earlier and while Becca seemed genuinely happy for her Jade on the other hand has something that is weighing heavy on her mind which she shares with Carly that she did some nude modeling for Playboy.

On the ice skating date with Britt, Kaitlyn and Carly, Britt pulls Chris aside to let him know that they took a trip to Arlington and she tells him that at first she was concerned and then as the sun was setting when they were heading back and she looked into the cornfields she felt she could see herself there and she sounded beautiful.

So when Chris asked her can she see herself living there and she said yes I really can, as much as I like Britt, she was not coming from a sincere place. It was a very unsure, “yes I can be here with you”.  She was being completely phony. Now I don’t think that she is being phony about her feelings with Chris I think that her feelings for him are completely genuine, however, I think that she will lie that she is happy in Arlington just to be with him.

The end for her will be that she will want Chris to eventually move out of Arlington and probably move to Los Angeles to wish she lives and we all know how that would and if it came to that.

While Chris bought into Britt’s story, Chris seemed shocked to hear Britt say this, during his commentary interview that Britt is a woman he can see living in Arlington, marrying her and having children.

Carly, used her one on one time with Chris to tell him that Britt is a lair and mentioned she can never see herself living in Arlington which, of course, shocks Chris because Britt just told him she can see her life there with him. Hello Chris, wake up and smell the deception. Do you see a life with Carly? She should have been gone before the Arlington trip.

Now here is the deal, I don’t recall seeing anything on the show that she said those words. She could have but here’s my whole thing, if Britt really could not see herself living there, why would she tell the girls knowing that they can go back to Chris and tell him?

At dinner time, Chris pulls Britt aside to find out if she said the things Carly told him.

I think that Kaitlyn said it best, when she said that she believes that Britt is confused and that perhaps even though with best intentions she may not feel that this is the best decision for her that sooner or later Britt will wake up and smell the coffee and realize this is not the life that she wanted after all.

Even though Carly says the same thing, Carly is coming from a vindictive place because She is stuck in her fantasy that she is the best person for Chris.

I do not believe that Carly is the best person for Chris I think that Carly is a desperate woman who is also confused and probably needs therapy because no one that I know stays in a relationship for two years with somebody that doesn’t want anything to do with them physically.

After all his talks with the ladies Chris comes back and gives the rose to Kaitlyn. Britt, oh girl, this is the time where she needed to keep her mouth shut, goes on a tired of how she can understand why he gave Kaitlyn the rose…but why her?

screen-shot-2015-01-27-at-4-23-02-pmI also believe Kaitlyn is not a good fit for him either as a professional dancer I don’t know how long that of a career will last unless she’s willing to make that change. Yes could four hundred people have fun at the community center dancing…sure. But have any of these women thought anything through?

And I think that’s what this is about this is about Chris finding a woman who is willing to adapt and change her career all of the women left standing the only that I see this is within Becca. No one else.

Meanwhile when all are back at the hotel with Carly heading up the mean girls she makes a comment that Britt blew it opening up her mouth when Chris gave the rose to Kaitlyn and that she made an idiot out of herself.

And while Britt is crying her eyes out during her commentary interview, Carly is talking about how she’s gone and she’s gone   etc. etc.  too much gloating on Carly’s part.

Read more on my thoughts on The Bachelor (more like Match.com – no that’s not a good thing)

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The Bachelor Farmer Chris Soules E6 @c_soules

screen-shot-2015-01-27-at-7-39-32-pmAs we continue on with Kelsey on the floor crying her eyes out all the girls are looking around like what the fuck is going on.

It was time for Kelsey to turn up the notch by play acting a panic attack and it was poor acting let me tell you. I think women will do anything to get a man even going as far as faking a panic attack. I mean since there was no cocktail hour, why not?

As the blurred face woman was administering the oxygen mask, she proceeds talking to her and asking her questions and one of the questions was, “is there anybody I can get for you”, well we all know that answer to that question… “Please get me Chris, I need him here”….ugh!. And while she’s on the floor asking for him she says I’m going to get a rose tonight for sure he might as will give me the bunch.

Even though I am not a Carly fan, she made good points on the faux panic attack and Kelsey using this as a means to get Chris to feel sorry for her so that she can get a rose. Gee, Chris didn’t feel sorry for Amber when he pretended fake music dance with her, made out with her and sent her home all in the same night…

As the rose ceremony begins Chris begins the elimination process by handing out said roses: Jade, Kaitlyn, Megan, Becca, Ashley, and unfortunately the final Rose goes to Kelsey which means that Samantha and McKenzie did not get roses. Now even though McKenzie was way too young, I think that Samantha was a great contender over Kelsey. WTF?

Now that Santa Fe has come to an end, the bachelor family of ladies now takes their journey to Deadwood, South Dakota.

This is the episode where they will be a one on one date, a group date, and a two on one date where most times the women that get this date always believes that one of them will get the rose while the other goes home. Not necessarily true.

Past episodes of the bachelor, have featured that on these two on one dates one stays and one goes. However, things have changed due to that sometimes the bachelor or bachelorette not have a connection with either one and will let both of them go, which I believe is the purpose of these two on one dates. So if there’s anyone thinking that if they get a two on one date that one will be salvaged half of the times they are not.

the-bachelor-recap-chris-beccaThe first one on one date is with Becca, who is also a virgin hasn’t told Chris yet that she is. They go on a horseback riding date, which is pretty boring because all the drama is back in the house and so much more entertaining.  All the girls are convinced that Kelsey is a liar and a drama queen and that she made up this whole story about having a panic attack just so that she could get a rose from Chris, which, sadly worked.

Kelsey walks into the room and Whitney takes the floor to address the fact that she feels and so does everybody else that Kelsey is a liar and faked the panic attack because at some point they heard her laughing. In Kelsey’s defense she claims that she does not remember laughing. FYI Kelsey is a counselor, which means she’s good at talking her way out of her emotions so that they make sense to others.  I think Kelsey is a great actress, she knows how to play those emotions really well. I have not been reading the tabloids but if there’s anything that I’m sure that any of these rags would say that probably her in-laws did not like her and she was probably the cause of his death. Would not be surprised about that

I also have to commend the casting people who continue to have success in picking out the craziest women (and men) who would add the drama effect to the show.

On the date with Becca and Chris, I was sitting and thinking as I was watching, how boring Becca must be. She reminded me of Jen Scheft, when Andrew Firestone was in the mist of picking his “bride” to be. Which is probably a perfect scenario  because it wouldn’t be a surprise if he picked her. She doesn’t really have a real career that can take her away from living a farm life.

And while she’s also fearful of rejection in relationships, back at the house the date card comes in for the group date. No one wants the two on one except for Ashley who is very excited to get the two on one date because she is convinced that she will be the one that Chris will walk off with on that date especially if the two on one is Kelsey.

The group date card it reads as follows: Whitney, Jade, Britt, Kaitlyn, Carly and Megan which leaves Kelsey and Ashley on the two on one.

Now that Ashley knows that she’s going to be on the two on one date she is purely convinced that she will be walking off with the rose and Kelsey will be sent home. Kelsey on the other hand is laughing her butt off exclaiming that it might as well be a one on one date as he and Ashley have nothing together.

Back to Becca and Chris where she gets the rose and kisses Chris for the first time.

Now that that’s over.

On the group date all the girls are challenged to write a song and sing it to Chris. They will all take turns and they are inspired by Big and Rich, duo country musicians.  Carly, the boat entertainer singer was so happy, this was her element and positive that she would win this contest and get one on one time with him. She sang beautifully but the one who ended up winning was…Britt. Being that the song had bought him to tears, Carly’s wonderful singing voice did nothing for Chris.

The two on one date card comes in and of course it reads one stay one goes let’s have fun in the Badlands which seems to have become tradition where the two on one dates are held in the middle of nowhere and when the one is chosen flies off with the bachelor/bachelorette the other one is just left behind.

I’m glad that Ashley has a lot of self-esteem for herself.

Back at the group date Chris is talking with all of the girls and trying to comfort their insecurities, now the group is getting smaller and feelings are getting more intense. And that doesn’t seem to matter because even though it’s a group date, it seems it’s a Britt and Chris date. And during his one on one with Britt outside where the group was they were sitting at a table when Chris takes Britt’s hand and tells her he has something to show her. He grabs her hand and they go running outside.

the-bachelor-recap-chris-soules-britt-big-rich-concertHe takes her to a Big and Rich show where they’re dancing and kissing and in their own world. In her interview she expressed excitement in how much she loves country music and these are her favorite guys, and the other girls have made comments that Britt does not like country music that she does not want to live on a farm, she doesn’t want children and she loves being single. But I have not seen yet Britt say these things and it certainly didn’t land in the final edit, perhaps on the cutting room floor.

On the stage with Big and Rich, Chris and Britt are dancing and kissing without a care in the world (as love should be) but back at the restaurant are a group of bitter ladies wondering where did they go. And in front of the large crowd, Chris offers the rose to Britt on stage which leads to a large cheer and two people who seem really in love.

When they get back they see Britt with the rose and they are all extremely and visably upset and it changes the entire mood of the what was the group date.

I was laughing at this part because Chris is dripping with sweat as they were dancing at the concert and having fun and then having to go back to these disgruntle looking ladies while Britt is with a smile on her face with the rose was just completely priceless.

Whitney was very upset that he took her to the Big and Rich show. Why would he do that, Britt doesn’t like country music and she doesn’t appreciate that type of music like she does.

Carly is extremely upset because she feels that she has laid out her feelings and once again she feels they’re not being reciprocated.

And although Whitney says that her heart is pure, she’s also 29 years old. And women who are at that age start freaking out. It’s now a race against time, to get married and have children before their eggs dry up.

And now on to the good part of the show, the two on one date with Kelsey and Ashley.

They have both packed up their suitcases with the anticipation that one of them is going to come back.  As Chris is waiting for them he doesn’t seem that he’s very excited about this date, while delusional Kelsey is acting like she has a real relationship with him and can’t wait to finally have some time with him. A helicopter flies them over to the Badlands where there is a makeshift bed with wine and fruit waiting for them.

ashley and chris at the badlandsThe first thing Ashley does is grab Chris so she can throw herself at him and tell him what a faux Kelsey really is. But first she has to plant her mouth on him to ensure that she gets a rose at the end of this date.

Ashley tells Chris that Kelsey is not a good person, she’s a fake and she does not gel in a group situation. Ashley reminds me of that man in the Pauletta All Fruit commercial where everyone is at the table all proper asking to pass the Pauletta All Fruit and she would yell out “could you please pass the jelly”.

Having a real concern with Kesley, he brings back Ashley and tells Kelsey to come with him for a chat asked her point-blank how she is getting along with everybody in the house. Because Kelsey is a counselor, she knows how to talk her way out of uncomfortable situations and not deal with herself but turn the tables around on other people and blatantly lies to him how well she’s getting along with everyone at the house. At that point he sells Ashley out by telling her exactly what she said. By far a priceless moment! The fake waterworks turn on as Kelsey plays victim and wonders why anyone would say that about her. If anyone was watching this episode, trust when I say, you have got to be a fool if you missed the phony in this woman.

When she comes back, visibly angry, Ashley is sitting on the bed, and there’s a silence for about a minute as Kelsey is staring Ashley down and Ashley not returning the stare back until she turns around and Kelsey says to her, “I know what you did”.

stare down

Notice that Kelsey’s eyes were completely dry. What happened to those tears of victim? Kelsey-And-Ashley i know

And as Kelsey brags on how she’s smarter than everyone else she conveniently forgets that Ashley also has her Masters because she is a journalist and you can’t be a journalist without a fucking masters degree.

After Kelsey confronts Ashley about what she said Kelsey goes running back to Chris crying her eyes out, asking why she told him.

On what was supposed to be a two on one date, Chris did not really make an effort to get to know either one of these women. If anything he was on another side of the Badlands deciphering on whether or not these two women should be kept around.

With all of Ashley efforts and confrontation and the boo hooing, Chris finally grew some balls and told her this is not going to work out and he cannot see her meshing with his life. The minute he tells her this, the next thing she does is throw Britt under the bus accusing her of not wanting the same thing that Chris is looking for in a relationship. Not a good look Ashley.

ashley crying at the badlands

When Kelsey sees Ashley coming from the hill crying her eyes out she is purely convinced that she is going to get the rose. Finally the “unsmart” girl is gone. (BTW unsmart is not a real word)

Back at the hotel room, someone comes in to fetch a suitcase and as the girls are watching they see that she takes Ashley’s suitcase and not Kelsey and this leaves them completely perplexed because they can’t understand what he sees in Kelsey. Little do they know that while this is going on Chris is going back to tell Kelsey, she too must go home.

Ashley was a complete basket case. She did not see any of this coming and was completely delusional of what she thought was a relationship with Chris.

It’s funny when Chris told Kelsey that he had sent Ashley home and she proceeded to comfort him telling him that it was a loss. I don’t think that she saw coming that Chris would be sending her home too and when he did, she put her game face on and pretended to agreed with him.

chris telling kelsey goodbye

Chris gets back on the helicopter to go back to his hotel room, leaving both Ashley who’s hysterical crying and Kelsey at the Badlands alone and back at the girls room another person comes in to fetch Kelsey’s suitcase and from there the party begins. Not only does it make them excited but they broke out the champagne and celebrated the end of Kelsey.

I can’t wait for the women tell all because I know that Chris Harrison is going to ask her the questions that I’m sure everybody is asking while they’re watching this what the fuck is on Kelsey’s mind and what planet does she live on.

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

The Bachelor Farmer Chris Soules E5 @c_soules

In this episode the girls are now leaving the house to go to Santa Fe, New Mexico where all of their dates will be.

Chris Harrison informs them that there will be two one-on-one dates and one group date.

Now that there are 11 girls left farmer Chris feels that they’ve passed the “getting to know you” stage and they should be all at a place where real and true relationships are forming.

Kelsey expressed the desperation that she really needed the one on one as well as Ashley while Whitney claims that she is falling for him (already?).

And surprise (and why?) Carly gets the first one on one date.

While Chris is waiting for Carly he says that he feels that she’s the perfect person for this date and feels they have a great friendship, but do they have anything more than that?

Carly and Chris’ date was guided by a spiritual guru who focuses on love and relationship through meditation.

The sessions consisted of playing a game of trust and Chris was blindfolded while Carly fed him an assortment of food and fruit, which instead of being sensual, turned out to a be sloppy mess and lacked a lot of chemistry.

carly being fakeI’m not sure why this date occurred, meaning the type of date. I really don’t think that this date was not appropriate and it was not a real way for anyone to get to know each other considering that this was a first one on one with Carly. They would’ve been better off having dinner and talking and getting to know each other. I don’t see Carly with him at all and had they had dinner and talked, probably Chris would have found out that no only does she have serious issues but she’s also not a very nice person. Hmmm no wonder her boyfriend of two years didn’t want to touch her.

And this love guru, if she’s such an expert she would have had them do a different type of exercise. Is this how she handles a couple on their first date? I don’t think I would want to strip with someone that I may not be interested in.

Cutting back to the ladies back at the house, Kelsey shares with the girls about her husband dropping dead on his way to work and Ashley I. found that it was strange that she decided to share the story and how nonchalant she was as she was telling the story.

I can sort of agree only because when Juelia was talking about her husband killed himself she was literally falling apart.

The group date card comes in and the names are read as follows Jade, Megan, Kaitlyn, Whitney, McKenzie, Becca, Samantha, Ashley and Kelsey.

Now this makes Britt excited because she has the one on one date with Chris and leaves Kelsey annoyed that again she’s stuck on another group date.

After the intimacy date Carly and Chris head back and have a dinner and she begins to discuss her past relationship. Apparently she spent two years with a man that she wasn’t physical with and how this affected her deeply. She wasn’t sure where the relationship was going and why wasn’t this man interested in taking the relationship a step further. First off, this is a major red flag. Hello Chris, wake up and smell the issues. Any woman that’s sharing this clearly has something going on. Really? Why would anyone stay with a man that’s not interested in her physically? What is the point of staying in that type of relationship? Carly clearly has some low self esteem issues going on and with all that being said, what does Chris do…he gives her the “blah blah” speech on how beautiful she is and gives her a rose.

Hashtag: Confusion.

On the group date all of the girls figured out that they were going white water rafting for which of course does not please Kelsey as she is focused on having that one on one time with him.

Chris expressed how important it is that a woman enjoys the outdoors because most of his life is spent outdoors and listening to Ashley I. who has clearly convinced herself that she is the one for him.

It’s so funny when something happens to someone on a group date and other girls start to make fun of what the situation, as per Jade, who fell in the water, so now everyone thinks she’s playing helpless victim so Chris can come to her rescue.

Whitney, who was on this group date expressing how important time is with Chris and how she really needs to have that one on one time with him now that the rafting date is over. As they are in the lounge waiting for Chris, he’s intercepted by Jordan who was eliminated in week two and for some reason she look completely different I didn’t even recognize who she was when she stepped over to Chris.

jordan and chris

She seemed very humbled as she expressed how important second chances were and apologized for her behavior. Blaming the wine she drank, she told Chris that it wasn’t really who she was and she didn’t get a chance to represent herself appropriately. Against the better judgment of himself, he decided to do that and bought Jordan right into the lion’s nest when the group of ladies were waiting for him and were none too pleased when he walked in with Jordan.

After some discontent from the ladies as each went on their one on one, Chris pulls her out from the group and sends her packing yet again. I’m not sure why Jordan came back in the first place, I mean is Chris that much of a contender that she drove all the way from Colorado to see if she can win his heart? I don’t know thinking back on the ladies that Chris got rid of, he definitely let go some good women that should have been there.

Of course Ashley had much to say on Jordan’s short return because she really thinks that her make out sessions locks in a rose for her. Apparently she believes she is the right person for Chris when she’s not. She also wasted her one to one time to compare herself to everyone else and failing to use that time to get to know one another…okay okay we all know that’s a waste of time. Ashley won’t even last to the top four.

chris and britt on hot air balloon The date card arrives for Britt. The card reads “the skies the limit”. Uh oh is this another jump off a high rise building moment? And Britt who would do anything for Chris spills the water works because she’s afraid of heights and she just cannot do anything that will involve jumping off anything.  Seriously who can blame her? How many dates have lasted with someone jumping off the building, making out (because it’s a romantic moment) and never getting to a top four?  Absolutely pointless!

Getting back to Jordan, (afterthought) even though Jordan seemed sincere, I was still feeling as I was watching that Farmer Chris is getting rid of some good women so why are Ashley and Kelsey there? Clearly these are two women who aren’t for him.

The priceless moment is when Chris gives his speech before handing the rose out how this particular woman makes him feel special and that he thinks that they have a lot of potential together. I know that Ashley didn’t think he was talking about her and why so shocked when Whitney got the rose. No one at that date looked happy after he gave her the rose.

Here are my thoughts on Whitney which I touched upon when she was talking to his sisters. She seems forced not a force to be reckoned with. And I also understand Ashley’s point about Whitney being a fake. I think it’s just coming to a point where she works as a fertility nurse seeing and working with all of these couples who are looking to have children. It’s kind of like if you’re hanging out at the barbershop where women with long hair would get short hair cuts, after you made it a point you would never chop off your hair.  Sooner or later, the short hair would look so appealing that you leave the barber shop with short hair.  Whitney is a career woman. Who will need a fertility specialist in a town of population 427?

The next day, Chris sneaks into Britt’s room to surprise her for their one on one date. As she’s getting up I’m back in what Carly said about Britt not bathing and goes to sleep with makeup. I think if women do that sooner or later they will care about their face and wash it and not worry that their husband will judge them for a natural look. However I did notice she wore those red sneakers quite often.

Terrified that she may have to jump off a building with Chris, she’s pleasantly surprised that it’s a hot air balloon ride.

While Britt and Chris were out on their date, Ashley gossiping that Britt had confided in her how Britt was happy being single she doesn’t understand why anyone would want to have kids. So in other words Ashley is insinuating that Britt is a liar and not here for the right reasons.

Carly,  who’s now emotionally invested, is worried that Chris’ relationship with Britt is a stronger connection than hers which leave her overly emotional. This is her first “relationship” where someone actually reciprocated their feelings towards her. So now she’s afraid in the time that she’s invested with Chris that it will fall through because of Britt.

Kelsey also chimes in with her comments about Chris and ruining her relationship with him. Um Kelsey, what relationship with Chris? Upon Chris’ return on his date with Britt (or it could have been the next day), Kelsey takes matters into her own hands and runs to Chris’ hotel room because the story must be told about her husband dying.

I’m pretty sure that Kelsey was going home this episode and from the looks of things she may have saved herself with her crocodile tears referring to her husband’s death.

At the rose ceremony nobody looked happy. They are all looking forward to having that extra one on one time with him for the cocktail rose ceremony because right now the only women who have roses are Whitney, Britt and Carly.

Tensions are running high as the women with no roses all express concern that they didn’t get enough time with Chris and while everyone is genuinely worried, Kelsey chimes in that she feels very comfortable that she will be getting a rose. Hmm talk about being overly overconfident and arrogant. And then she has a weird friendship with Britt because she seems to be hanging all over her but yet wasn’t she talking about her while Britt was on her one on one.

Chris comes in and makes a speech about a conversation he had with Kelsey that put things into perspective and in the middle of that speech he was overcome with emotion and walked out of the room. Up until then no one knew Kelsey had a conversation with him in private, in his hotel room. Now Kelsey had no choice but to disclose that she had this conversation with him and basically took advantage of the situation because she knew she wasn’t getting a rose.

Carly made a good point (surprisingly), saying that before Kelsey had this conversation with Chris he was fine, but then because she went behind everyone’s back, having this conversation, there’s a strong possibility that somebody else is going home because of what she did.

While Chris was talking with Chris Harrison, Kelsey tells the girls she knows what Chris is going to do and what decisions he’s going to make, and how time is precious, blah blah blah, going off on this weird tirade like she knows what the fuck she’s talking about.

Kelsey has barely had any kind of relationship with Chris and for her to say the things that she saying and talking about how she has to say goodbye to people because she knows what choices he made what the fuck is wrong with this woman. How do you sit there and cry your eyes out and in the midst of that start laughing like some kind of fucking weirdo.

Chris Harrison walks into let the girls know that farmer Chris has made up his mind and there will be no cocktail hour. Chris had made up his mind and he did not want to delay the inevitable, leaving now all the ladies uncertain about their future with Chris.

Ashley who relied on a make out session, was in hysteric of tears and Kelsey who was super duper confident, seems to be shitting in her pants as she gets up to use the ladies room where all of the sudden screams start  blaring from the other room and what looks like a paramedic helping none other than Kelsey who’s now on the floor, crying her eyes out…WTF?

kelsey on the floor crying

To be continued…

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