#TheBachelor @benhiggi E5 – Cleaning House

The ladies arrive in Mexico City where once again Olivia is convinced the date card is for her.
 
Guess what???
 
It’s not LOL. 
ben and amanda.jpgIt was actually Amanda.
 
Oh, but Olivia had much to say about Amanda. She doesn’t believe Ben is the right person for her because she has children.
 
Really Olivia? You are a fucking child.
 
The next day, Ben wakes the girls up at 4:30 in the morning so he can see all of them in their element. Surprisingly, Cray Cray Jub had her hair in head while Olivia left pieces of her weave on the dresser. It was pretty funny to hear Ben ask, “who’s weave is this?” Definitely an LOL moment.
 
Ben finally did find Amanda and as they headed off on their date, Olivia, having a conversation with Lauren H. and telling her she completely disagrees Ben should keep her, especially since she’s been away from her kids for quite some time. She also doesn’t believe it would work out, if Ben wanted children, he would have had them.
 
Really Olivia? Are you a psychologist now? Perhaps you should be on the show, “Married At First Sight” and after a whole psychological work up, I’m sure none of the advisors on that show would pick her to be with someone. That marriage wouldn’t last more than a week.
 
During Ben and Amanda’s date, she expressed concerns on her interview regarding relationships and marriage because at her such youthful age, she’s already lived that life where Ben has not. In real life, relationships like this are truly a challenge. You can’t expect for someone to come into your life and adjust to your needs and your family without adjusting to his needs.
 
While Amanda seems to be on a “long extended date”, according to Jubilee (cray cray), she’s upset and jealous that Ben is spending more and more time with the other ladies and not her. If she thinks really hard about their one on one date, it wasn’t romantic at all, and the proceeding episodes he treats her as just one of the guys. You can take the ghetto out of the hood and the ghetto will always follow LOL. It just won’t jive with Ben’s family. Let’s not pretend here guys.
 
The group date card arrives and the names are read as follows (with Olivia begging not to want to be a part of the group date because she wants to spend more time with “her man”).
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Keeping My Options Open…

henotintoEver meet someone and think, wow this may be a person I can hang out with and see where it goes. Then you start talking and that statement comes out, “I’m not looking to be in a relationship”.

I’ve heard this before. I once dated a very sexy attorney who said the same thing and for eight months we spent a lot of time together. We went out to dinners, lunch, to his place of course.

I’ve spent weekends with him, but after eight months, the statement still stood, “I’m not looking to be in a relationship”.

And with that, after an argument we had, an emailed titled “Us”, before I opened it, I knew it was over. I didn’t cry. I expected it. He was a great man. I don’t have a bad thing to say about him. I really don’t. But he wanted to play the field and I wasn’t there in my life to be with someone I had to share, that is till a few months I met someone else, but that’s another story for another time.

Anyway, so back to the “new” guy. We met towards the end of summer, he was a “newbie” to our dog run and my neighbor noticed he was checking me out. To be quite honest, I wasn’t sure if he was, I wasn’t sure if he was straight but he is LOL.

After running into each other several times and talking, we both learned, we are single (good start), we have similar values and belief systems, we both like to laugh and joke a lot, however there a holes in this “developing relationship”.

For someone who says they are interested, the behavior doesn’t match up. Sure he knows about me and my magazine, interviews, etc but how does that affect how we interact with each other, it doesn’t seem to get in the way of who we are as individuals. And for someone who says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, doesn’t act like he’s attracted to me either, words, like “my hang out buddy”, isn’t something that leads to anything romantic, at least not in my book.

The awkward hugs, the let’s get together and meet up at the dog run and hang out isn’t my idea of getting to know one other while my dogs are freezing out in the cold (and me too), what about diner time, talking in a place where we won’t get thrown out right away. Nope, that’s not happening. Any phone calls during the day, no, but I get texts periodically. Some days are more than others when he’s talking about projects and skit writing he suddenly wants to do.

Anyone seeing a pattern here?

Other than someone I can relate to in writing scripts or books, there isn’t really anything else there other than wishful thinking.

Last night I asked him if he was attracted to me. His response was yes, but he’s reserved because he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. And he also said, “if I wasn’t attracted to you, I wouldn’t be here with you right now”.

Well I feel better already [sarcasm].

That feeling creeps over, “what is wrong with me”.

Disappointed? Yes.

However, I know what I’m looking for. It’s not to spend another eight months with someone and get hurt in the end.

When a man says he’s not looking to be in a relationship, believe him. The worst thing in the world is to know a man doesn’t feel you are deserving enough to spend time with.

Keep your self esteem because there’s someone out there who will appreciate you for it.

Moving on…

Until then.

Love and Hugs,
Marabelle Blue

#TheBachelor @benhiggi

Here we are~ A New Year has just begun and ABC wastes no time in premiering the Bachelor Ben Higgins from the Kaitlyn season. Surprisingly Ben was one of the last men standing (not sure why) there seemed to be a lack of personality there and with all the good looking men who were in her season, why choose Ben?

Anyway, I’m trying something new. I weaned myself off cable and no longer have the opportunity to watch live television. With an array of streaming applications where you can watch all of your favorite shows on your own time, I have to say, it sucks just a little bit.

I’m not able to catch up on the Housewives because Bravo hasn’t gotten with the programming of steaming unless you want to watch last season’s bullshit and who wants to blog about something that happened last year? Bye Felicia.

As always the intro starts off with shades of love on the water, in a boat, on some kind of a warm island, or on some kind of ride, followed by tears of women who barely know him or claiming they put their whole life on hold, yada yada yada. Oh lest not forget the “bitch” or “evil doer” of the show, “he’s my husband, he just hasn’t figure it out yet” type…..and the one who has a panic attack and guess what she won’t need the paramedics all she will need is Ben to sweep her off her feet. #Pathetic

Ben’s background, simple, from Warsaw, Indiana, small town where everyone knows each other, probably some Christian town…blah and on top of that he can’t find anyone from his own town?

Ben has this fake and mediocre conversation with his parents who have been together for the last thirty five years. One of the main topics discussed was Ben’s fears of being unlovable, which was something he bought up in the Kaitlyn season.

Hey Ben, try being my age and still not finding someone decent to have simple conversations with, without pulling teeth or begging for affection. Believe me you will find someone to love before I do. LOL.

Now with the Bachelor family growing, it seems they invite other Bachelors to “advise” on how to deal with this type of “reality” situation.

 Who do they bring back? Farmer Chris Soules (who broke up with his self centered girlfriend Whitney Bischoff), Jason Mesnick who at the end picked Melissa the one he really didn’t want over Molly but I guess to make the producers happy he gave them what they wanted. However in the reunion he told Melissa he was not the least bit interested in her and asked for Molly back. (What a happy reunion). Sean Lowe who married Catherine, discussed how he fell in love with her towards the end of the show (which was true). My question was why Farmer Chris was there. Clearly he picked the wrong woman. I don’t think their relationship lasted more than a week. (of course I’m being sarcastic) but if you recall, he had more of a relationship with Brit while the other girls were just hanging out watching this relationship flourish before them. #Confused

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This girl is cRaZY!

#TheBachelorette E9 – @kaitlynbristowe @haibon_jared @realrealitymag- Down to the Final Four

the-bachelorette-week-5_105The rose ceremony isn’t for an hour into the episode.

Kaitlyn was talking about how more difficult the week will become as she will need to say goodbye to two guys because the next round of dates will be the fantasy over night dates before any families are met.

Usually it’s the other way around. She will be left with four guys and those four guys would be the home town dates where she would meet their families. Why didn’t they do that?

The first date she had was with Ben H., who out of nowhere she had some attraction to him. Was this more than Nick and Shawn?

On a boat sailing the beautiful waters towards Innisfallen Island in Ireland – they spent time together playing hide and seek while back and forth interviews with Ben admitting that he has strong feeling for her but is afraid to share that because he doesn’t want to get hurt.

Understandable. It’s funny though how he had no issue calling her his girlfriend in an earlier episode.

Most guys have said that in past bachelor seasons and I think everyone is confused. No one is boyfriend and girlfriend until it’s just the both of you. And even then while engaged, you’re still boyfriend and girlfriend. Think of how many couple did NOT make it to the altar after making fools of themselves on television.

1436812163_kaitlyn-ben-donkey-zoomDuring their date, while Ben is talking about his last relationships and the ideal relationship and how he feels, Kaitlyn started to wonder if Ben was a virgin and asked him straight forward, his response…..No.

Now that Ben seems to be in the clear (no roses yet), the group date has officially begun, Shawn, Nick and Joe all meeting up with Kaitlyn to talk to her one on one. Kaitlyn, off camera admits there are discussions that need to be had and Shawn is the first one to pull her way.

Notice, Shawn is super possessive. Still unaware that she had sexual relations with Nick earlier in the week or week before. He’s still insecure due to the fact she told him he was it and he got stuck on that one.

Ladies, if you and guy are dating and it’s not serious for you, yet…and you tell him he’s it, he will HARP on that shit forever.

Notice how different she is with Nick than she is with Shawn. She is giddy, she’s vulnerable, and she talks to him like she’s known him her whole life, or is it just the Nick effect? Who knows.

What I think is so stupid, it seems she’s a wasted Bachelorette. If she had such a connection with Nick before this show, why even bother going through all this nonsense. We could have had someone much more fun and entertaining with Kelsey from Farmer Chris season.

UGH watching her and Joe was extremely difficult. He was talking about how he was falling in love with Kaitlyn, he’s kissing her and oh so passionate. Although Kaitlyn is kissing him back, it’s clear these are not kisses she wants to be returning, let alone be in locked in some intimate embrace. Maybe Nick should have interrupted and should have waited till after Joe so he can comfort her.

joe-kaitlyn-kiss-bachelorette-w352It was painfully clear we were reaching an end with her and Joe and after the kissing, Kaitlyn discusses honesty and where he was coming from and where she’s coming from and feeling as they are not on the same page.

While I remain, sometimes being honest means saying, I know you said you fell in love with me, but I’m not feeling the same way. Her round about behavior only seemed to infuriate Joe who copped an attitude really quick. He said things like, “it’s cool, It’s been fun”, very cold and unfeeling.

Kaitlyn asked for a hug goodbye and while he did comply, you can tell her was reeling in anger. He turned and looked at her and asked her, “what do I do now” and Kaitlyn responds, “I just wanted to give you a hug goodbye”, for which Joe replies, “I don’t want to say shit to you right now.”

Had to be the word shit.

Wow where the fuck did that come from?

Talk about pissed. The cameras didn’t even follow him to get feedback. LMAO If I was a camera person, I wouldn’t follow him either.

When Kaitlyn comes back she decides not to give the rose out, telling Nick that she will see him at the rose ceremony and told Shawn they need more time to talk. Shawn thinking this is a special one on one time, little does he know the only reason why she wants to talk to him to tell him that she and Nick had sex. LOL What a dummy.

After some small talk and flirting, she admits she and Nick had sex on their date. Of course now the mood changes and Shawn knows exactly why she called him out for more time. This wasn’t just a regular date. He asked her if she regrets, and she said she felt guilt. Not the answer he wanted to hear I’m sure.
the bachelorette - kaitlyn tells shawn b about nick sex

Why should she regret anything she’s done? If she really didn’t want to have sex with Nick, she wouldn’t have asked him back to her room. But she knew what she wanted. Period. The End!

Shawn, had to take a moment and go to the men’s room probably to punch the sink LOL. (I had to post this pic I found online just too damn funny)

Nick, who’s back in the hotel room, is completely perplexed as to why she didn’t give out a rose. And while he’s complaining about what the fuck is going on, Jared looks like he’s ready to fall asleep, while Ben is assured he will be flying high in the next rose ceremony.

I guess the question would be, was it wise to tell Shawn about her escapade with she and Nick or picking Shawn at the end, and then telling him in private before the show aired.

When Shawn, finally comes out of the bathroom, he admits that he’s upset but he cannot be mad at her, and that it happened, but he loves her and he wants to be with her.

His “not being angry” becomes short lived.

Shawn enters the room and puts his mask on not letting anyone know what transpired on the date and Nick sitting there clueless of the conversation that took place.

The next day is the rose ceremony, Kaitlyn choose not to have any cocktail hour. Her mind has been made up, according to Chris Harrison, who informs them it’s time for the rose ceremony.

Now down to the wire, Shawn still has questions as to what he wants to do. He’s still upset over the fact that she and Nick were intimate together. After her endearing speech on how important these three roses are, she picks up the first rose and calls Shawn and asked him will he accept this rose, his response,

the-bachelorette-shawn-rose-ceremony“I need to talk to you”

The look on her face was absolutely priceless. There was fear and anger all at the same time.

Shawn is upset that it’s Nick she had sex with. If it were anyone else, I don’t think he would be as upset. Why him? He asked and why she would do that to jeopardize them. Really Shawn? Ya got a big head there my friend.

Kaitlyn tells Shawn she’s here to explore other relationships, because after she chooses one, she will never have that opportunity again. And what she said to him a few weeks ago, that he was it, she had no business saying that. I think she realizes when you put your foot in your mouth; you give someone that unrealistic expectation “things will proceed according to plan.”

Kaitlyn left off asking Shawn if he questions her trust, and we never see the answer. They come out of the room and back to the rose ceremony, once again asking Shawn if he will accept her rose.

“Absolutely”

The last two roses she hands out to Ben H. and then Nick, leaving Jared hurt.

Screen-shot-2015-07-07-at-8.37.32-PMJared the next bachelor? Wouldn’t be surprised. He’s a cutie, in a fishy sort of way.

If anyone who cried more saying goodbye was Kaitlyn while Jared was comforting her telling her it was okay.

Gosh that was so hard to watch. Admittedly I had my own waterworks going on watching him in the limo.

Hard….just touch. Broken hearts suck. He left with his head up high. I think the only one who didn’t leave with a grandiose attitude. Despite of me calling him a fish kisser, Jared is a person who deserves a great woman, clearly Kaitlyn is not that woman, for him.

Now that Jared is gone, Kaitlyn proceeds with her overnight dates, first with Nick.

It is very apparent that Nick and Kaitlyn have a very strong connection together. They traveled throughout and exploring Ireland. They stopped at a Cathedral Church, a bar and some kind of castle jail. It comes up during their date, Nick begins discussing someone who he doesn’t respect, and has insecurities and admits he’s talking about Shawn and his concerns over him.

The minute they get into this deep conversation, a storm begins to brew.

Coincidence?

Was Nick right in saying anything about Shawn? Or is it about jealous emotions like Kaitlyn stated.

After taking Nick to a prank fantasy suite, they head over to the real suite, where Nick expresses more of his love to her.

I know people are not Nick fans because he disclosed his intimacy with Andi and quite honestly I’m not sure what is the big deal. I said this before and I’ll say it again. The fantasy suite, they are fucking, if anyone thinks any different, you’re stupid.

The next day, Kaitlyn and Nick are eating breakfast looking like a natural couple. I can only imagine Shawn watching this. He looks like he has anger issues.

And not wanting to let go what Kaitlyn shared with him, he calls the hotel concierge to find out where Nick’s room to confront him as to why he’s there. All throughout the interviews, he would refer to him as, “the other guy”.

I don’t’ know if I saw this for myself, I wouldn’t go with Shawn. There are a lot of control issues there.

Their confrontation turns into an argument.

To be continued….

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#TheBachelorette @kaitlynbristowe @chrisbharrison E6 – Queen Joshua against the Emperor Nick

kaitlyn and the bachelors citifieldThe episode opens with the anticipated rose ceremony since Nick is now part of the boys team and he didn’t garner a date but episode five showed us he didn’t need a date, he just should’ve gotten the rose on the group date he bombed. And yes, true though Justin got the rose that was the most meaningless rose in Bachelor/Bachelorette history.
In the meantime, The Bachelorette crew heads over to Citifields for the rose ceremony where JJ, grabbing Kailtyn, carrying her and running around Citifields like a fool while all the guys are in a “corner” expressing their concerns with Nick possibly getting a rose and taking away a rose from someone that has been there.
The one guy who Kaitlyn had major concerns with since having Nick as part of the crew was Shawn, which I still believe she will end up being with. And if I didn’t say it before, I will say it now, if it comes down to the two guys, it will be Shawn and Nick.
It was clear that Kailtyn was very upset with Shawn and the things he mentioned to her being their relationship has just taken a step back because of Nick made it all too real of the decision she just made.
Not seeing she spent any time with Nick, (probably landed on the cutting room floor) the following roses were handed out:
Ben H., Ben Z, Shawn, Tanner (why I’m not sure), Joe, Ian (no connection there and wasted a rose), JJ (another wasted rose), Joshua, and the final rose went to Nick.
And all dramatic music blaring before she handed the last rose to Nick, we all knew that was coming. Are you kidding me? Did we all believe she would have him there and not give him a rose.
We said goodbye to Jonathon, Corey, and two other guys…( I can’t remember their names nor did I bother to rewind or check the site to see because I’m behind and don’t want to spoil my sarcastic comments)
The crew now heads over to San Antonio, Texas, after freezing their asses off in Citifields, NYC. Why couldn’t they were coats during the rose ceremony. Nick was so cold his lips were turning blue.
Speaking of Nick….LOL Notice how all the guys favorite topic is Nick, Nick, Nick. It makes me wonder who’s obsessed more, Kaitlyn or the guys. They’re main concern should be is getting one on one time because some guys have not, someone like Ian, who we’re all left wondering why is he still there?
There’s absolutely no chemistry whatsoever, so it’s becoming like Unreal from Lifetime, let’s keep the black guy just for television and nothing more.
The date card arrives and the first one on one date is with Ben H. And while he heads to the date with her, all the guys press their sorry faces on the window staring down at her as she leaves with Ben H. – that is until they sit down and focus on Nick yet again questioning his motives and why is he there. Why are they focused on Nick? Why so concerned with Nick? What happened to thinking about how to establish a relationship with Kaitlyn? They sure like to point the finger.
Past experience has shown that when you point the finger at someone else, there are three pointing back at you. (Think about that one).

THE BACHELORETTE - "Episode 1105" - After the rose ceremony, the remaining men travel to San Antonio. Kaitlyn surprises one bachelor with a day of fun and fancy footwork. The couple spends the day with a professional dance coach, who teaches them the Texas two-step for a competition that night before a raucous audience and judges. Later, a cinematic sunset is the backdrop for the two to get closer. The man stuns Kaitlyn with a heartbreaking story about a past relationship gone wrong. Will that affect whether he gets a rose? - on "The Bachelorette," MONDAY, JUNE 15 (8:00-10:01 p.m., ET), on the ABC Television Network. (ABC/Felicia Graham) KAITLYN BRISTOWE, BEN H.

The date with Ben H. was absolutely boring. The two step dance put me to sleep, but I have to say, it has to be more fun to in real life instead of watching on television or maybe it was just Ben H. and Kaitlyn who made it so boring.  After all of the dancing it was almost expected that the date would end with a kiss.

Back at the room, everyone patiently awaits for the date card fearing that Nick will get the one on one date. So funny how pathetic most of these guys are, and the moment of truth comes for the group date:
Justin, Jared, Ian, Chris, Tanner, Joe, JJ, Ben Z., Joshua, Nick – which leaves Shawn getting the one on one time with Kaitlyn. No common sense needed here. Shawn should have know he was getting the one on one date. Kailtyn played strategically well, ensuring that her relationship with Shawn is on solid ground.
Joshua, in this particular episode has been capped at the Drama Queen. I never heard a man bitch and complain so much as he has throughout the whole episode.
kaitlyn and ben h.During the dinner portion of the one on one with Ben H., he seemed to have issues opening up to Kaitlyn about past relationships and what he’s learned. Makes me wonder was this one on one date the process of elimination for Kaitlyn to find out if this is person she wants to be with because I really didn’t see why she would have a one on one with him in the first place. She brings up the fact he’s 26 years old which she questions, is he ready to get down on one knee at the end of all this. Are these clues to say, he’s not getting a rose or getting a reprieve for one more episode. Of course not, listen to the music in the background change to a lighthearted tune tells you that he was getting a rose. Snoozer.
The next day, the group date crew is greeted by a Mexican mariachi band with a cute little boy singing a very old Spanish song. After the cute little boy serenades Katilyn, he goes on to tell them they have to invent their own lyrics and perform them in front of Kaitlyn. Another snoozer of group dates. WTF?
Someone….please bring back the stupid jumping off building dates…thank you.
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I can’t tell you how embarrassing it is to have to watch this, let alone how embarrassing it is for the guys who have to perform like a bunch of idiots. If any man had to do this on a date with me, I would walk away. Enough with the stupidity of having to invent lyrics and have them sing.  Of course when Nick took Kaitlyn up to the balcony to perform everyone had a hissy fit, especially for Joshua, who’s now more focused on Nick than he is on Kaitlyn.
The group now reconvenes at a lounge area where they get to have their one on one time (one at a time), with Joshua getting a hair cut by Kaitlyn (I thought she was a dancer? #sarcasm). Now I’m confused, what was the point of Kaitlyn giving Joshua a buzz cut/Mohawk?
When he got back all the guys laughed at him asking him what happened. Maybe he should be the court jester instead.
While the guys are laughing at Joshua and his poor buzz cut, Nick takes away Kaitlyn for some one on one kissy kissy time. I would like to know how Nick kisses. This man is so passionate it’s almost understandable as to why guys wouldn’t dig him. He’s like the jock of the crew.
Notice Joshua gets a fucked up haircut and Nick gets to make out with her.
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When he gets back, there’s silence in the room before Joshua decides to open up his mouth about how he does not trust Nick and his motives. I’m not sure why they keep holding what happened with him and Andi against him. Andi was not a victim. She wanted to have sex with Nick! It’s over, it happened; they had sex, period the end. For some reason all of these guys are acting like he did something bad. If any one of them landed in the top three with the option for the fantasy sweet, not only will they say yes, they all know deep down inside they would consummate that relationship and not think twice about it even if the relationship ends, they got some ass in the process. Please, let’s be real here….(“true love people, true love”)
Frustrated that his argument with Nick went no where, he runs over to Kaitlyn and has an unnerving conversation throwing Nick under the bus and saying everyone is lying to her face and when Kaitlyn confronted all the guys with Joshua in tow they all looked at Joshua like, “we don’t know what you’re talking about dude.” In the meantime, Joshua lied to the guys he was on an interview which he wasn’t, he was busy filling up Kaitlyn with BS so he can get that rose and thought the guys would back him up.
I’m not sure why Kaitlyn would entertain that BS. I mean really who cares if the guys like or don’t like Nick. This is about her quest for love, is it not? At the end of the day, I would think the most important people who should like Nick is her family and not a bunch of guys she will lose contact with after the final rose has been handed out. It’s not like they are going to be friends and be over for a BBQ. #UnReal 😉
With Joshua looking like a fool, lying to the guys he was doing an interview, and looking more like a fool after Kaitlyn confronted the guys and didn’t back Joshua up, Kaitlyn took the group date rose and gave it to Nick.
Good. Right in Queen Joshua’s face! I’m sure he’s going home.
Shawn, who now has the one on one date with Kaitlyn is super excited to have this time with her.
Clearly there’s some connection going on here because you can see her demeanor is different with him than she is with all of the other guys. I haven’t seen a connection like this with any of the other guys. Well, except for Nick.
kaitlyn and shawnOn their date, Shawn shared with her about a serious car accident he had and how a cop had told him that it was a miracle he survived a car accident like that. After he shares the story, there’s a silence and he tells her that he’s falling in love with her.
I noticed something replayed time and time again. It seems the ones who fall in love, doesn’t go out of their way to behave like they have something to prove. The connection will either be there or not. I think with Nick it’s like this forbidden exploration whereas Shawn is the rock that will keep her grounded and where they have a deep connection other than lust. This date proved that, but we’re only in episode five.
As for Ian, he’s just realizing that he won’t get a one on one date and this connection with Kaitlyn is merely he just going out on one group date after another. Surprisingly Ian confides in Nick, perhaps

because at this point, he has nothing to lose but to move on.
The cocktail party has now dawned upon in San  Antonio, Texas and Joshua the Queen is starting to realize he fucked up, especially when he just kept throwing Nick under the bus and left alone to his demise when he confronted all the guys in front of Kaitlyn, expecting for everyone to side with him and confess they all have been trash talking Nick.
JARED, KAITLYN BRISTOWEJared takes her aside and has his one on one time with her. He has a rose locked in, nothing to worry about there. I’m sure he will be at least the top six and probably will be on Bachelor in Paradise.
Ian has taken his opportunity on interviews to trash talk Kaitlyn because he hasn’t has any connection with her at all. The comment about her not being half as hot as his ex girlfriend makes me wonder why he’s not with his ex girlfriend. Furthermore, this whole innuendo about him being the bachelor and how he’s a gift women can unwrap was just fucking classless. Any woman that dates this guy has low self esteem.
When he pulled Kaitlyn aside for his one on one, it was clear, he was going to say all the things he said on his interview and the conversation turned bad from the moment he opened his mouth. Here’s one statement he made that should have gotten him a slap in the face:
“I came here expecting to meet the girl that had her heart broken and was devastated by Chris Soules, not the girl who that wanted to her field plowed by Chris and to me I feel like I found that there’s still that girl and I feel you are here to make out with a bunch of dudes on TV. “
WHAT THE FUCK…ian confronts kaitlyn

#TheBacholerette @kaitlynbristowe @chrisbharrison – E3 Kupah Stupah

abc_bachelor_katilyn_jc_150227_16x9_992In any of the seasons of the Bachelor or Bachelorette, you will find if not one but a few of the contenders not only seeking love but seeking camera time. In this case Kupah which I will discuss towards the end of his idiotic episode.

The episode started off with Chris Harrison catching up with Kaityln in being the new bachelorette.

Date Card: Daniel, Justin, Jarod, Cory, Tanner, Kupah, Ben H. and Ben Z. date card reads, “I see this ending with a ring” – makes me wonder who’s really writing these date cards, being they reflect the date and how much input does Kaitlyn have on the setting up of the dates.

So the first group date has to do with sparring. I’m sure that everyone has signed a disclosure that they don’t plan on suing the Bachelor Production people and ABC executives in the event they get hurt. I mean thankfully no one has ever been killed with their dumb dare devil stunts and kissing in the middle of the air, just to catch a fucking moment on camera.

Anyway…back to the show.

Before the group card arrived most of the men were discussing who they had initially chosen Britt. One of them of Jonathon, if you recall his intro he was gun-ho about meeting Britt and in his mind seemed to be shacking up with her and having her be a mom to his kid, in Detroit, no less. I can’t see anyone leaving sunny weather 365 for cold seasons.

Tony, was another one who picked Britt, but I think we can safely say that we can’t take Tony seriously. The man introduced himself to both Britt and Kaitlyn telling them the same exact thing. Words like that can’t be taken seriously by someone who behaves like a Guru. I don’t think a Guru behaves this way.

Kupah voted for Britt and we can see that he’s there just for camera time and not really for anything else.

Here’s my whole thing, how can a man have a connection with one woman, vote for her and then realize that she’s not the one he voted for, why would he stay? Well it’s the Bachelorette and if you get a chance to show face on television, why not? I highly doubt with Kupah’s ending that he would be the next Bachelor.

Cut to Britt at the hotel room, calling her mom and crying her eyes out, due to the fact that she was not chosen as the Bachelorette. As she ended her call, there’s knock on the door and there stands Brady, who left the night before after he told Kaitlyn that his heart left with the woman who left a few hours before. Curious to see where this goes….

So the group date begins what seems to be a destination of a boxing club where everyone would be getting a lesson from the one and only Laila Ali. Was that googaly eyes Kupah made at Laila?

While everyone was in their training zone, some guys took some time out to talk to Kaitlyn one and one while Kupah was out practicing his boxing because that was way more important.

After practice, Laila spills the beans that they will be boxing each other.

kaitlyn-2-2The boxing match begins with Ben Z. and Daniel and sadly after Ben Z. threw punch after punch at Daniel the towel gets thrown in and the fight it over. One point for Ben Z.

The next match was with Corey and Justin and Justin and then cut to Ben H. and Jared and Jared was not playing at all. He dropped Ben H. like a sack of candy.

When Tanner and Kupah got into the ring it lasted but all of thirty seconds before the towel was thrown in. I guess Kupah missed out on showing off all those moves he was working on before.

Since Ben Z. was the was the top contender he fought with Corey and won that round. Kupah who won, fought with Jared and surprisingly Jared won that round.

It came down to Jared and Ben Z. which left Jared not all together and as much as he wanted to savor his manhood and begging to see Kailtyn, his next stop was the hospital.

When they’re out lounging and having drinks, Kaitlyn mentions that her mind is more on Jared. Jared is kind of cute and Ben Z. even though he’s cute, he just seems to be a guy that a woman would have to worry about being faithful.

He did share about his mom’s passing when he was fourteen.

Justin shared about his son Aurelius….(“strong name”, Kaitlyn says), more like what kind of name is that for a child?

As she spoke to each one, the object of this segment of who’s getting the rose on the first date and while she’s having a conversation with Daniel, she gets a note that says, “come downstairs right now I need to see you”, we all know it’s Jared.

jarerd kissing kaitlynAfter taking a brief walk and he was telling her he was feeling really good, he steps in for a kiss. As cute as Jared is, he looks like he kisses like a fish.

As it was no surprise, Ben Z. gets the rose on the group date and gives him a kiss after her lips were just plastered all over Jared the fish. Kailtyn sure she saw fireworks? I have seen better kissing on Days of Our Lives.

The date card arrives for the one on one date and the first date goes to Clint.

Now this date was pretty cool. It was underwater shoots where they incorporated art in photography and the pictures came out flawless.

Tony who found out the group date had to do with sparring was disgusted and gave his analogy about love. It’s selfless, love is giving, being present, connection, discussions, possibilities, ideas and dreams, you should not fight for love. Really Tony? Then why are you there?

The next date card arrives and reads: JJ, Jonathon, Joshua, Chris, Ian, Joe and Tony and of course another horror of a group date where everyone makes asses of themselves trying to be a comedian. But this gives a chance for the ABC executives to invite celebrities to endorse themselves.

the-bachelorette-premiere-still-14While Tony is, elated, for lack of a better word to describe his demeanor, that Kaityln does know he exists, as he was talking to Justin he asked if Kaitlyn was supportive and Corey says yes and then Tony says,…”it’s great to know that Britt is supportive….”

Justin, “you said Britt”

Anyone watching this, did you roll your eyes at Tony’s stupidity?

Fast forward to the guys writing and practicing and insulting true comedians around the world, let’s get to Tony who spoke about….zzzzz

Certainly I won’t bore my readers with the details.

But yes the reason why Tony is here is to find love because he’s been training for this his whole life. The one on one was even creepier. Discussions about combination lock and she’s not a key turner and what they can create together….believe me when I tell you that conversation did not end with a kiss at all.

2912D20C00000578-3096907-image-m-25_1432616129357But her one on one with JJ seemed to have a stronger connection and he received the rose for the night.  Unfortunately, Joe’s make out session with throwing up Kaitlyn against the wall didn’t garner him a rose. However, it seems for JJ this is just a game and not much of anything else. It’s no wonder why he has a child and no woman by his side raising her.

And now for the rose ceremony and why Kupah is Stupah.

While everyone came a consensus to give the guys who didn’t have a date this week to get a chance to talk to Kaitlyn, JJ decided he was not going to join in and only out for himself, even while donning the rose on his jacket.

Shawn B, who didn’t get a date, to me, is one of the big contenders to be the last guy standing.  JJ definitely doesn’t have a chance. Sooner or later his true colors will come out.

Ian used the desperate card by begging for a rose in throwing some kisses over her way.

Kupah confronted JJ about his scandalous attitude, but he also questioned Kaitlyn on where she’s at and why he is there.

Their conversation didn’t start off well. I got the impression that Kaitlyn had no intention of giving Kupah a rose due to the fact at the boxing practice that he was more into Laila then he was into her. Let’s not forget Kupah voted for Britt, and he really had no intentions of really getting to know Kaitlyn. This was all about camera time for him.

Even after Kaitlyn told him before this talk she did feel a connection, their present conversation now has been a page turner, Kupah threw in compliments that were unnecessary trying to salvage himself, even after he made a fool of himself in front of the guys, even after Kaitlyn told him he needs to go…he takes a swig of his drink and then says he doesn’t want to go home.

So much for that camera time loss, Kupah takes it another notch because you know how they do their interview rejections, he took it up a few notches by screaming like an ass, making claims, how yes he was upset he didn’t get a rose, blah blah blah.

Of course now the rose ceremony will filter into the next week and my guess is that Tony will probably be salvaged and get a rose because Kupah basically assed himself out.

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To Be Continued…..

My Final Thoughts #TheBachelor #FarmerChris E-I-E-I-O @c_soules

Why Chris Soules picked the Producers Choice

While Bachelor Nation is brain washed into believing that The Bachelor/Bachelorette final picks are real, there are a small portion of us and probably includes Reality Steve who aren’t buying into the Bachelor love story so easily.

Anyone who has watched Season 19 intently wondered why Chris sent Britt packing, kept Carly all of this time, got rid of Kimberly after giving her a chance in the first episode and who seemed like a good potential of someone that Chris can really get to know, got rid of Samantha over Kelsey, the list goes on. Most importantly, choosing pushy Whitney over Becca, who seemed to have the most potential in a long lasting relationship and Becca who seems to have a good head on her shoulders was right in keeping the pace in what a relationship should be instead of rushing things.

Chris Soules was one of the final four from the Andi season. One of the most popular bachelors and I use that term loosely as we can only go by what Chris Harrison is being told to say on these shows, like “hashtag” BachelorNation.

Of course you can’t fault the marketing department, after all, they are just doing their job like any other company has the right to do so, however, why I don’t believe that Chris made the right choice is broken down as so:

carly and chrisCarly and Chris

From the moment that Carly stepped out of that limo with the karaoke machine was a sign that Chris should have sent her packing. Even when she went on further to talk about investing two years in a relationship with a man that did not touch her was a clear sign Carly had a lot to sort through. Forget Juelia who was bawling over the suicide of her husband, an obvious sign that Juelia was not ready to be in a relationship but Carly? Really? I mean what woman stays in a relationship with a man who refuses to be intimate with her. This creates all sorts of low self-esteem issues that would need to be resolved before moving on to another relationship. As the season droned on, the true colors of Carly emerged when she realized Britt had a better relationship with Chris than she did (I mean forget everyone else who had a better relationship with Chris too). If she had pulled the veil from her eyes, she would have seen she and Chris really didn’t have anything but a great friendship.

getty image chris and kimberlyKimberly and Chris

While Kimberly and Chris didn’t last but an episode, I had to include her as I felt some type of empathy there for her. Here is a woman, self-employed, a yoga teacher, spiritual, living in NYC and ready to make a move with her life and her love life. She was beautiful and well put together. So why didn’t Chris keep her? Simple. Why keep a woman that’s put together. #ProducersCut

bachelor-britt-week-6Britt and Chris

For a while during the episode, Britt looked like the clear cut winner. Even during group dates while not garnering the rose all the time, she did get the first rose, the first kiss and the episode when Chris whisked her away to the Big and Rich show was enough to put Britt on the hate list but enough for the audience watching to think, this was it. Chris found love and he found it with Britt. It didn’t end there when Carly realizing she’s watching love bloom and it wasn’t with her but with Britt decided to feed into a childlike tantrum and tell Chris that Britt is not really that into him and she lied about wanting to live in Arlington. Not a nice thing to do especially when it comes to game of love. I don’t know anyone with common sense that would want to be with anyone by deception instead of just having the person be with you because they want to. And look, you gotta have a lot of balls to want to live in a town filled with nothing but farm land. Tell me how many people want to make that type of move? You can’t fault people for that. But you can be truthful and say, I love you but I’m not sure about this life but I’m willing to give it a chance.

While there’s still a part of me that feels Britt was trying to, as they say in Real Housewives of Atlanta, she may have been on the ‘come up’, I really believe that outside of the farm life, Britt would have been the idea wife because she bought another side to Chris that he probably never realized he had inside himself, to have fun and enjoy life.

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Jade and Chris

While Chris’ sister’s thought that Jade was the ideal woman for Chris, I just didn’t see the connection. Had she told Chris in episode 2 or 3 that she was hottie nudie in Playboy he definitely wouldn’t have given her the rose and maybe keep Kelsey. LOL – Jade reminded me of Jen Scheft, a bit boring. Jen was chosen by Andrew Firestone and while that relationship lasted but a hot minute, he ended up marrying a woman that was similar to Jen Scheft. LOL

 

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Becca and Chris

Chris definitely let an opportunity of love and stability go when he choose Whitney over Becca. Becca had common sense; there wasn’t urgency for love and marriage. She’s preserved her virginity for someone who’s deserving of it and I totally get that. Relationships are tough, being with someone and making all sorts of compromises isn’t easy. Chris is not an old man and clearly having a relationship with Becca would have bought upon a foundation that not many have when seeking love in reality television. Sure she didn’t have that pushy attitude like Whitney did, desperate to be in a relationship, rushing to have children to fit into a timeline of what women think life should be. She tied in with his family very well and father knows best when he said that Chris really wanted Becca. Love is a funny thing. Becca seems more reserved and careful with her choices and while that may have cost her a relationship with Chris, I liked how she handled herself in the women tell all. She didn’t fall apart even though she was hurt. Clearly Becca knows Chris isn’t the last man on earth and I’m sure she will find someone worthy of her.

chris-soules-and-whitney-bischoffWhitney and Chris

Where do I begin? I didn’t like Whitney from the start for a variety of reasons. Pushy, desperate, annoying chatty voice, telling people what they want to hear, etc. etc.

What woman does that? A woman solely in interested in herself and no one else.

Any woman with self-esteem knows what she wants without forcing any relationship. Why didn’t she leave an impression with Chris’ sisters the first time around? Yet here she was as the final two and boy were his sister’s singing a different tune. Whitney gave them everything they wanted to hear. She was the lead singer, the choir and the back up singer.

It’s relationships like that that make me question when seeking love what does the ideal wife look like in America’s eyes?  Does she look like Whitney? Career minded, super charged and self-absorbed. Does she go around acting like the bell of the ball?

It seemed to Chris’ family based Whitney she as the guaranteed relationship” because Becca held back and wanted to build something before saying “I do”.

Hello? Doesn’t every one do that?

“Hi, nice to meet you, let’s get married” (wait that’s another show but they’re completely different)

(BTW notice this smirk pictures of Whitney when Chris escorted Kaitlyn out. What does that tell you? A woman definitely just as cattie as Carly. No different just in a sneaky way.)

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What the fuck is that all about? There’s a time and a place for every step of love. I truly believe that. And while Becca wanted to take her time, what did Whitney say when Chris Harrison asked her is she moving to Arlington. Did you catch that pause on how they are just taking it slow…. #contradiction – Was it because the family was so gun-ho that he put a ring on it. UGH! AND in #BachelorNation it’s all about the ratings. Hurry up and get married and make us look good.

I wonder how much longer does this show have to be on the air. I mean will it surpass my life? Is this the new way to meet people?

Furthermore, why does society frown upon someone like Britt but found Jillian to be acceptable? Britt is gorgeous and with that type of natural beauty that I believe people will envy (yes I do think that Britt is beautiful). People are such haters. They make you feel like you don’t deserve better because of it. #Jealousy

What about the career women? Does a career make or break the reputation of a woman? Will a man choose a woman who’s not as career minded out of fear that she won’t be there to take care of him?

As the owner of an Adult publication and working with people in the Adult sector, I have to tell you from early on, men who I was remotely interested would send me pictures of their ass and dick thinking this is what I am looking for. When I tell them (in my most kind voice), “look we’re not on the same page”, then I would be called uptight.

WTF? OH I’m sorry am I supposed to be a slut because I own a sex magazine? Who’s the close minded asshole?

Look, a person’s career should not define who they choose to love and HOW they choose to love that person. Anyone who works in the Adult sector are not just looking for sex [in their personal life] unless that’s exactly what they want and made it a point to say, yes I’m looking for sex and that’s it.

There’s not much common sense left in the world. Sad but true.

As for my final note on Chris Soules, I don’t believe this relationship with Whitney will last. It will go down in #BachelorNation history as a good season of crazy women, faux panic attacks, booty shorts, virgins, women who don’t shower, and a man who lives on a farm.

E-I-E-I-O

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,
MB~

The Bachelor @C_Soules Hometown Dates – Bye Britt :-( AND Carly (YAY)

021615-bachelorbecca1stdateContinuing from last weeks episode, Chris has a one on one date with Becca who I believe he will wind up with in the end. She still has not told Chris that she is a virgin and has never been intimate with any man whatsoever. She tells Chris that she was in a relationship that was on and off but that she had never been in love with him or in love with anyone else for that matter which seems to take Chris aback. Fear perhaps? This is a grown woman who has never felt love for any man. (Three cheers for Becca for not falling for BS and standing her ground.) Back at the hotel,

Britt sits with the girls and ask them what they’re chatting about and Whitney says that they’re talking about Becca and what could be going on on their date and about last night which clearly was not the starring role for Britt. Britt confesses to the girls that she believes in her heart that she is going home and that she’s not going to get a rose so she packed up her things in preparation to leave however if there is a chance that Chris will choose her then she will stay.

That leaves Carly asking a bunch of questions and making sarcastic and antagonizing statements which only upsets Britt even more because Carly feels if Britt is not in the picture that will put her one level up which I don’t believe it will. The evening has dawned upon them for the rose ceremony.

Chris Harrison comes into the room and tells the ladies that there will be no cocktail hour and will go straight to the rose ceremony. Britt has already packed up her things with the intention of telling Chris that she has no plans on staying feeling as though because he gave Kaitlyn the rose after she had put her heart out there. Feeling as though is he worthy of meeting her family coupled with her heart may not be in the right place, she stops the rose ceremony and asks Chris if she can talk to him.

Even though she knows that having put her foot in her mouth, I can understand why she did what she did. What is the point of standing around in a rose ceremony knowing that you’re not going to get a rose when you just might as will say goodbye and get it over with. I think Kaitlyn is an idiot for even making a statement that she made that Britt should just grin and bear it. Why? Perhaps this is the closure Britt wants so she can leave.

I’m surprised even Kaitlyn made it this far also. During their private time while Britt and Chris were talking over each other and nobody was really listening to each other instead of Britt just telling Chris that it was not going to work out for either of them, they come a silence.

43-bachelor-week-7bAnd in that silence it is mutual  that this relationship is over and he walks her out leaving her hysterical crying. All the other girls seem to be empathizing except for Carly, who’s smiling and gloating at Britt’s pain. Chris now heads back to the ladies for the rose ceremony before hometown dates and the ladies that are left standing are Becca, Carly, Whitney, Kaitlyn and Jade.

Before he hands out the roses, he makes a statement that he wants to thank those who have addressed that Britt was being a phony. Huh? If that is the case why did he spend so much time with her and even taking her away from the other ladies to the big and Rich concert for which they were gone for more than an hour while he left all of them waiting and gave Britt a rose that night. Why did he just say earlier in the episode that she was the one he can see being married and having children? Talk about can conflict.

The roses were disbursed as following: Whitney Becca Jade BWAAhAaaaHa. And Carly? Kicked to the curb. Just as she should have been from the moment she came out of the limo with her toy. Continuing on with the episode the first hometown date he has is with Becca who is extremely excited to see him and excited to meet her family as well as she is excited to have him meet her family.

Here are some pictures I took from my television of Carly in the limo clueless as to why Chris let her go. The part of “what’s wrong with me I always end up in the same exact place” got me…what is wrong with her? Where do I begin? Her nasty attitude, the lies she made up to make herself look good, the green eyed monster. Who would want to see her as the next Bachelorette, raise your hands? I thought so. As a woman no one likes to be around nasty, jealous women who will throw them under the bus at the first chance they act upon their insecurity.

pathetic carly2 pathetic carly3 carly pathetic1Speaking of throwing people under the bus, hometown dates are strange because family members will say things that will also throw that person under the bus and ruin potential relationships with the bachelor or bachelorette. Becca’s sister pulls Chris’s side (you know that “private” chat) to tell him that Becca has never been intimate with a guy as far as holding hands or being affectionate and that she had seen them holding hands and she didn’t pull away which was a first. After having a conversation with her mom I don’t think that Chris is deterred from how he feels towards Becca.

Their date ends on a ferris wheel right before he tells her,  “I’m going to take you home with me”. I don’t know if that meant the ferris wheel ride or Arlington. Understand my confusion as he just mentioned the day before how he wanted to ride under the sunset with Britt. On his hometown date with Whitney it was all about her and her career and herself and how fabulous she is.

I guess it’s okay to toot your own horn except when your desperate.  I think shows should show a red flag for Chris because why would she leave that life? Nope! Why would he see that? On their way to meet her family he says he wants to be able to talk to someone to get their blessing I don’t know why he told her that because I don’t believe that he will choose Whitney in the end. At the same time…wow.

Was a choice made already? He eventually asked Whitney’s sister for her blessing and she was very forward and telling him that until she is the last girl standing he should wait to ask that question. She will not give her blessing otherwise. Good point. Despite the situation that is created around the bachelor I don’t believe that Whitney has fallen in love with Chris.

I think it’s just the surroundings and the circumstances where you have a bunch of women pursuing one man that makes one believe that they are in love with them without having them live the realities of life outside of the cameras. But Whitney loves the cameras.

On the hometown date with Kaitlyn she meets him from what looks like a seedy part of Phoenix, Arizona but it was actually a place where there’s a studio and they decided to record a rap song which was pretty bad. I’m not sure who comes up with these strange date ideas. While the family settings seem to the usual boring scene, after dinner Kaitlyn takes Chris to an advertising street sign where she placed Kaitlyn loves Chris.

Which I think is pretty awesome nice way to tell somebody that you love them not that it’s never been done before. An advertisement sign that overlooks the whole street is a big deal. On his hometown date with Jade in Gering, Nebraska, while everything seems to be going fine on the outside, Jade still has concerns because she had pose nude for Playboy and still has not told Chris.

Chris makes inquiries through her family members about Jade and they’re all pretty much saying the same thing. They all seem to express concern that Jade is not ready to settle down, she’s a wild girl, etc. it’s stuff like that that maybe your family should not be sharing with a potential life partner. When Jade took him back to, I’m gathering, her hotel room where she was staying while in Nebraska, she shared with him her secret about posing for Playboy and while Chris seem to have taken it in stride I knew that was the last nail that locked the coffin and the rose ceremony proved it. Was anyone surprised?

I was surprised that, she too, lasted for as long as she did. I believe the only reason why she had surpassed rose ceremony after rose ceremony was because his sisters had chosen her for his one on one, probably thinking they see something he hasn’t seen in her.

Look, if your dick doesn’t get hard and your pussy doesn’t get wet, that should be enough to tell you they ain’t the one. While he made it a point to tell her that his decision was not based on what she told him but more based on the relationships that he has developed with the other women, begs the question how much of a relationship does he really have with Becca?

While I believe Becca is the ideal woman for him, how long did it take for him to establish a relationship with her. In the whole spectrum of looking at the last four ceremonies he has had more of a connection with Britt than any other girl including Whitney.

I really felt for Jade but again I cannot see her settling down on some farm with Chris.

All in all this episode was extremely boring. The hometown dates were just the usual family gatherings with a family member pulling Chris’s side saying  “let’s have some one-on-one time”.

Bye Jade. We all saw that one coming. Really? Could you see her family looking at her with the same eyes the day they were all in Arlington knowing that she was naked in a magazine. People are so hard up. If Chris had real feelings for her and tossed them aside for the sake of conservative modesty, he made a big mistake. Oh did you notice those tears that Chris shed when he said goodbye to Jade. I didn’t see him cry for anyone like that.

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

The Bachelor @C_Soules Bachelor @chrisbharrison Deadwood South Dakota E8

Deadwood, South Dakota  

britt-nilsson-madI was listening to Howard Stern the other day, where Robin Quivers was talking about how the episodes of the bachelor especially this season has been ending somewhat on a cliffhanger, i.e the Kelsey faux panic attack.

Where all of the episodes have always ended with the rose ceremony with previews of the upcoming weeks episode, it seems that some of the episodes the rose ceremony has filtered in to the next weeks episode.

In episode eight the show begins with the rose ceremony, since the day before Chris happy to on one date with Ashley and Kelsey and said goodbye to both of them.

Britt inquires as innocently as she can, regarding why he decided to let go of them. Whereas Carly was too much on the bandwagon to cheer both Kelsey and Ashley off, since she’s had her date with Chris she is convinced that she will be the last girl standing.

Before Chris begins the rose ceremony, he asked Megan if they can have a chat. I don’t care what anyone tells me, when someone says, “let’s have a chat”. It’s almost not a good thing. Apparently this short chat leads to the conclusion that Megan will no longer be a part of the rose ceremony as he said goodbye to her.

What I don’t understand is that Chris makes a comment on how brutal break ups are. And how sad he was to see her go and how it was tearing him apart. So if he felt such a strong connection with her why get rid of her if anything I think that Chris made a very big mistake in letting her go. Who he should’ve had that conversation with was Carly. I believe he has zero connection with her and for some reason she just keeps making the cut.

When Chris returns it is obvious that Megan was sent home. And the girls are thinking well since Megan is cut that she that there will be no rose ceremony. That’s when Chris Harrison comes in and chimes on the champagne glass that they will be a rose ceremony.

Now they’re all convinced that Carly will be the one to be cut because she seems to be the least likely candidate to wind up with Chris. And during her interview it is clear that she spazzing out with all the tears and the crying that he’s an easy person to love.

As Chris Harrison and Chris walk away, Chris informed him that he does not want to have a rose ceremony because he has feelings for all of the women therefore relieving all of them of a nightmare ceremony and guess where the next stop is on their journey for love….that’s right. In Carly’s words, “we’re going to Arlington”.

b83a7b20-97be-0132-447c-0ebc4eccb42fSo when Chris makes the announcement to the ladies there will be no rose ceremony because he has feelings for all of them, he announces they’re going to God’s country. Carly is the first one to jump and grab him on top of him. As far as I’m concerned this dumb bitch got a reprieve.

They land in Des Moines Iowa, and as they are hollering what a beautiful city it is, I don’t think they realize this is not the farm life Chris has talked about time and time again.

The date card comes in and Britt reads the card hoping she gets the one on one and instead it goes to Jade. Britt who has invested much of her emotions in her relationship with Chris is upset.

Carly,on the other hand, was gloating that Britt did not get the date card because she feels that Britt has had enough time with Chris. Stupid. It’s women like Carly that give good women a bad name.

Jade is in the car on her way to Arlington has concerned look as the road changes from city life to farmland on either side.

My question is is that when did Chris become attracted to Jade? If it were not for his sisters choosing her for the one on one, I think Jade would have gone home a long time ago. Also as a cosmetics vendor, unless she’s leaving her career behind, how much can she ‘vendor’ in Iowa.

You could see the discern growing in her face as she looks on either side of the road and realizes she’s in the in the middle of nowhere. Not for nothing if it was me I would be in the lead because I can’t stand being around people or having neighbors so for me this would be the ideal life.

jade-roper-elimination-thumbSo while Jade is stuck with the scenery of just farm, back at the hotel in Des Moines, Britt is talking about all of the stuff that Jade gets to see that she’s not getting to see and how important it is to her and Carly continues to gloat that Britt was not the one that was chosen for the date. When the second date card comes in and Whitney is called out Britt once again is let down. Now I’m confused. Wasn’t Britt the one that Chris whisked away to the Big and Rich show. When they’re together in a group setting you almost forget there are other women on the group date. So why Whitney? What made Whitney different? Was it because he was unsure of her being that she has this career as a fertility specialist? Not sure.

Back on the one to one, Chris meets up with Jade and shows her his place and then off sightseeing as they walk around the desolate town. Chris offers a nervous laughter as they stroll because there’s nothing there. Most small businesses are closed which was really sad.

As the day turned to night, Chris took her to a high school football game and to her surprise, Jade got to meet Chris’s parents. Although the conversation wasn’t long I’m almost sure if Britt knew what was going on with this date she would be none too happy.

Here are some of my questions as I was watching this episode.  Every girl chosen has a career in this season of the bachelor well except for Britt and Carly. In this situation considering that Chris lives on a farm, is he asking any of these women that they would possibly have to give up their career and take on a career of farming?

I’m not too sure.

Whitney who has a very big head about herself, is she willing to give up her career in being a fertility specialist for a living on a farm? I mean you’re living in a place where populations 400 I’m pretty sure that none of those people living there are having any babymaking problems.

While Jade had a successful time with Chris. It looks like she will be getting a rose especially since he already had plans on having Jade meet his parents while at the football game.

The next day, as Jade discusses her date with Chris and tells them that she met Chris’s parents, brings Britt to tears and Carly during her interview comments that Britt thinks is the bachelorette. I’m not sure what’s in Carly’s head but she also thinks it’s the bachelorette. Her over the top attitude definitely shined in this episode. Talk about a big head. Isn’t this the same woman that came in with a mini karaoke machine? The same one that didn’t win the singing contest? When did she start hating Britt? Oh when she realized that Chris is not that into her.

Moving onto the one on one date with Whitney who’s forcing this relationship for a variety of reasons one of them being that she’s 29 years old and women who are at that age feel like they are getting old rapidly and so are their eggs. I can see her giving up a lot to be with Chris, however, I don’t think that her feelings are sincere and at the end of the day she will not be happy.

carly-the-bachelorMeantime back at the “lab”. Carly suggest that they should go on a road trip to Arlington and Britt doesn’t think it’s a good idea. But instead of listening to her better judgement she goes on the expedition with them. They seemed really excited at first, screaming their heads off but once they started approaching Arlington and see on either side of them nothing but farmland was when the mood changed and all was quiet in that SUV.

The girls are arrive at Arlington and they find nothing in the town. All had the same discerning face Jade did when she arrived in Arlington.

Carly sees a Methodist church and convinces herself the picture of Jesus hanging on the wall inside the church was an exact replica of what her grandparents owned. Of course this was a sign she belongs there and she should be raising her children there. I don’t like disputing signs but in the case of Carly it just means this Jesus picture has been reprinted a number of times and you’ll probably find it in a number of homes.

Back on the Whitney date, she throws the comments to Chris’ friends on how she feels that she belongs there. What? It’s amazing how these women make assumptions that they visit a town that they are dating a guy on the bachelor so to speak and right away they feel that they belong in that town. Because Whitney has not experienced Arlington herself she speaking out of turn.

She also lives in Chicago, that is a big jump from living in Arlington. She seems to be a person who enjoys the spotlight and clearly she’s enjoying this spotlight a bit too much if you ask me. When his friends asked her if she had any hesitations, I think she lied through her teeth and said everything they all wanted to hear. This was not somebody that Chris’s sisters had chosen for his one on one when they had visited the house. I think that speaks volumes they had big Jade, But that doesn’t mean that she’s right for him too.

Britt, I’m on the fence with because she seems to be sincere but then there’s another part of her where she seems to be just acting like she really wants all of this but she doesn’t. Carly had made a comment that Britt did not like Arlington and could not see herself living there but when they were back at the hotel, Britt mention that she could see herself living in Arlington with Chris.*Carly rolls eyes*

Looking at the career that Britt is involved with is waitressing. That’s not to say that a waitress will take the first thing to get out of the job that she’s in clearly we all know that waitresses do not make a lot of money, however she is a bit overzealous of their relationship which makes me question the validity of her feelings towards Chris or his life style.

I like Britt a lot. But I’m not sure she is the right fit for Chris. Looking at Becca who has been the quiet one and cautious in her relationship with Chris she seemed to fit right  as I watched her walk around Arlington. She didn’t have that overwhelmed look.

Carly makes fun of Britt too much and she’s too overconfident that she will stick around. I don’t believe she will.

Whitney confides in Chris that her mom passed away from a routine procedure was she developed a blood clot clot and died instantly and that she has no relationship with her father so I’m not sure who he will be meeting on hometown dates considering that she’s chosen for one.  Some hidden issues in there, ya think.

Chris gives Whitney a surprise outside of the restaurant they were at, there was a mural of them looking like they were kissing similar to a picture that they took earlier with the whole crowd standing outside with cameras videoing the whole moment. I’m gathering with this permanent mural it would be funny if he picked Becca and that mural is stuck there until it’s painted over.

bachelor-whitneyThe next day Whitney is sharing the part of the date with the mural on the wall replicating one of the pictures that they took earlier and while Becca seemed genuinely happy for her Jade on the other hand has something that is weighing heavy on her mind which she shares with Carly that she did some nude modeling for Playboy.

On the ice skating date with Britt, Kaitlyn and Carly, Britt pulls Chris aside to let him know that they took a trip to Arlington and she tells him that at first she was concerned and then as the sun was setting when they were heading back and she looked into the cornfields she felt she could see herself there and she sounded beautiful.

So when Chris asked her can she see herself living there and she said yes I really can, as much as I like Britt, she was not coming from a sincere place. It was a very unsure, “yes I can be here with you”.  She was being completely phony. Now I don’t think that she is being phony about her feelings with Chris I think that her feelings for him are completely genuine, however, I think that she will lie that she is happy in Arlington just to be with him.

The end for her will be that she will want Chris to eventually move out of Arlington and probably move to Los Angeles to wish she lives and we all know how that would and if it came to that.

While Chris bought into Britt’s story, Chris seemed shocked to hear Britt say this, during his commentary interview that Britt is a woman he can see living in Arlington, marrying her and having children.

Carly, used her one on one time with Chris to tell him that Britt is a lair and mentioned she can never see herself living in Arlington which, of course, shocks Chris because Britt just told him she can see her life there with him. Hello Chris, wake up and smell the deception. Do you see a life with Carly? She should have been gone before the Arlington trip.

Now here is the deal, I don’t recall seeing anything on the show that she said those words. She could have but here’s my whole thing, if Britt really could not see herself living there, why would she tell the girls knowing that they can go back to Chris and tell him?

At dinner time, Chris pulls Britt aside to find out if she said the things Carly told him.

I think that Kaitlyn said it best, when she said that she believes that Britt is confused and that perhaps even though with best intentions she may not feel that this is the best decision for her that sooner or later Britt will wake up and smell the coffee and realize this is not the life that she wanted after all.

Even though Carly says the same thing, Carly is coming from a vindictive place because She is stuck in her fantasy that she is the best person for Chris.

I do not believe that Carly is the best person for Chris I think that Carly is a desperate woman who is also confused and probably needs therapy because no one that I know stays in a relationship for two years with somebody that doesn’t want anything to do with them physically.

After all his talks with the ladies Chris comes back and gives the rose to Kaitlyn. Britt, oh girl, this is the time where she needed to keep her mouth shut, goes on a tired of how she can understand why he gave Kaitlyn the rose…but why her?

screen-shot-2015-01-27-at-4-23-02-pmI also believe Kaitlyn is not a good fit for him either as a professional dancer I don’t know how long that of a career will last unless she’s willing to make that change. Yes could four hundred people have fun at the community center dancing…sure. But have any of these women thought anything through?

And I think that’s what this is about this is about Chris finding a woman who is willing to adapt and change her career all of the women left standing the only that I see this is within Becca. No one else.

Meanwhile when all are back at the hotel with Carly heading up the mean girls she makes a comment that Britt blew it opening up her mouth when Chris gave the rose to Kaitlyn and that she made an idiot out of herself.

And while Britt is crying her eyes out during her commentary interview, Carly is talking about how she’s gone and she’s gone   etc. etc.  too much gloating on Carly’s part.

Read more on my thoughts on The Bachelor (more like Match.com – no that’s not a good thing)

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The Sunday Special @C_Soules Bachelor @chrisbharrison Host E7

phoney kelseyThis Sunday special showed what happened behind the scenes of this season of the Bachelor.

Chris Harrison talks about something that has never happened in bachelor history when Kelsey was sent home how the girls cheered and broke out the champagne, which is true, something like that has never happened.  So Kelsey was interviewed in an early “hot seat” when Chris asked her why was she so disliked?

Kelsey was shocked when Chris Harrison said she was so controversial. She was called several things, condescending, that she faked the panic attack which we all know she did, she is narcissistic – and when the women found out that she snuck time with Chris to tell him about her husband dropping dead, they were all convinced this was an ulterior motive to stick around because she had no other cause to stay around.

While she claims that was her intention, we all know that she knew she was going home and that was the only reason why she went into Chris’ room, to lock in her “bid”, so to speak because she knew she was going home.

When Chris Harrison asked her if she faked the panic attack she said no. Did he really think that she would answer that question truthfully? He also mention how she recovered pretty quick as it seemed one minute she was on the floor and the next minute she’s “kee keeing” with the ladies on the couch like nothing happened.

Chris Harrison brings up the two on one date with Ashley I. who was gunning for her. Kelsey said she was shocked Ashley said those things about because Ashley was nice to her from the beginning and believes that because she was thrown under the bus because Ashley had no chance with Chris.

Then Chris Harrison sits with Farmer Chris to ask him what was going through his mind watching the playback of the shows especially in the Badlands with Ashley and Kelsey especially when he and Kelsey had their one on one time as he confronted her with the info that Ashley just shared. Chris said he was surprised what he heard about Kelsey. Shocked, maybe but really Farmer Chris, are you blind? If I can ask Chris, why did you keep Kelsey over Samantha? Did you feel sorry for her with her Sanderson story…? I don’t know given the situation, I would have questioned why she decided to share that story especially when it was clear that she wasn’t sticking around and then playing up a panic attack, I mean really?

The Bachelor Women Tell All Ashley S in hot seat onionMoving on to the comical Ashley S. who I believe that not only did they think she was cooky but she would be great humor for the show. Believe me if anyone thought she was right for Chris, at this point I think Ashley stole the show as crazy as she is.  She was having a lot more fun with the zombie paint ball game, I think more fun than anyone else was having, she made strange comments during her interviews about everything else but Chris. I like the scenes with Ashley walking around the property and just popping into places that the other women probably never thought to look like craft services, the accounting department, staring at walls and doors. What was funny was when she went back to the girls at the house and told them she found an office where there was a group of people betting on them. I would not be surprised if there’s side bets going on. While we all knew right then and there that Ashley would not be the one to wind up with Chris, clearly she would be unforgettable, for sure. Even though her audition tape displayed a women who seemed completely normal when it came to real Ashley all were left to wonder what exactly is she looking for.

Chris Harrison goes into Tara being drunk and the fact that being drunk almost cost her a rose but Chris decided to keep her any way. I think Chris gave a great answer, (I’m not being sarcastic) he said because he empathized and identified with the situation he decided to give her another chance.  But he didn’t give that chance to Jordan who he sent packing in episode two due to the same thing but when she came back to see him when they were out in Santa Fe and listened to her plea, he still sent her packing anyway.  And then there was Jillian who I think he liked the short shorts better than Jillian herself. Look we all know that Jillian would have been a terrible wife for Chris. Can anyway see this vivacious woman on a farm???? Not me. Plus she talked about sex a lot. My kind of girl, definitely not Chris’ kind of girl.

juelia crying over husbandThey go into Juelia who disclosed the story of her husband killing himself and still sent her home. Beautiful Juelia with that terrible spelling of her name and understood why Chris sent her home. This woman was still reelling over the death of her husband. This wasn’t a man who died of natural causes. This was a man who took his life and left a wife and a daughter to live with that for the rest of their lives. Before Juelia move on she has to find solace with the death of her husband and until then she will find someone who will truly love her and most importantly she will love them, without any guilt.

More of behind the scenes when Jimmy Kimmel joining in on the date with Kaitlyn, the love guru with Carly and how weird it became, the scene they didn’t show with him and Becca and Sully the donkey taking off with Chris Harrison calling the donkey a jackass for almost taking Farmer Chris off the path.

They go into Britt and their relationship and what happened at Deadwood when he took her to the Big and Rich concert while the other girls were waiting for more than an hour and return with Britt having the rose in her hand coming into a very tense moment.

While Farmer Chris has not handled all of the situations with common sense, I would agree he is doing the best that he can, given the situation.

For more on Andi, check out my next blog because we all know I have a lot to say about the farce of that stupid relationship.

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