#TheBachelorette – Two Men Plus Ben @kaitlynbristowe @viallnicholas28 @chrisbharrison

Kaitlyn+Bachelorette cryingWatching The Bachelorette you almost forget one more guy is in this episode….

Since it’s down to the wire with three men left, instead of meeting the families first, the fantasy dates came first. Why they did that, I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s easier for Kaitlyn to have sex with the rest of the guys before she brings them home to families?

Last episode we left off with Shawn parading into Nick’s room accusing him of being a liar and full of shit about his feelings towards Kaitlyn. Furthermore, bringing up things that were said during Andi’s season which I think is a bit out of turn.

Shawn wasn’t there, so he will believe anything bad about Nick to justify his jealousy.

Nick in turn accused Shawn of meeting some girl and having sex with her the same night. That wouldn’t be any new news now….how many guys in the world have done the same thing.

While the boys are bickering, Kaitlyn has her overnight with Ben.

Let’s analyze Ben for a little bit. Cool looking guy, sexy in his own “country club” kind of a way. Definitely can see stability in the relationship BUT is Kaitlyn the right girl for him….nah.

Kaitlyn is a girl all over the place, this was the reason why I didn’t see her with Chris Soules at all and every time he gave her a rose, it was just a deeper of heart break. It’s almost as if he’s a “Chris” reincarnated and definitely not a match here.

Their date was beautiful though. Seeing the sights of Ireland, who wouldn’t fall in love?

During their conversation, you can tell Ben is fully invested in this relationship; unknowingly she had sex with Nick and she told Shawn he, “was it”, too soon the in the game to tell someone that, especially someone like Shawn who’s possessive and jealous all at the same time.

Kaitlyn says in her interview she can picture a life with Ben, but I think right now being with him it’s just the calming part of the insanity that’s brewing between Shawn and Nick, and mentioning being with Ben feels good, and she “feels” like she’s falling in love with Ben.

That’s code for those feelings are going to change once she’s in between Shawn and Nick.

It’s too bad because Ben is a great guy, or so it seems…..maybe he can be the next Bachelor, or maybe Nick? That would make an interesting season.

Ben and Kaitlyn have their intimate moment (I’m sure they had sex too since she mentions they only got a half hour of sleep).

the-bachelorette-shawn-strips-naked-on-golf-courseShe meets up with Shawn for their one on one for a golf date. Gifting him a bright pink shirt and blue pants, I have to say, Shawn can wear just about anything.

Their date was good in the beginning; they were golfing and having fun that is until Kaitlyn brings up an idea of a game of, “truth or dare”. Sometimes a game like Truth or Dare can go wrong.

The dare was to unclothe Shawn and have him golf naked. I think Kaitlyn will do anything to see a naked man!

During their date, later that evening, Kaitlyn brings up the topic of Shawn having this one night stand, and why he hates Nick, etc. etc.

Shawn admits he did have a conversation with Nick and believes Nick’s has ulterior motives which are not good for Kaitlyn. The Eskimo brother’s topic came up….and Kaitlyn mentions in her interview she needs security and assurance he’s going to be a loyal husband because of statement.

Ummm Kaitlyn, here’s a memo for you, you had sex with Nick. Can he question if you’re going to be a loyal wife or is this part of the exploration?

They decide to go to the fantasy suite which shows nothing, no kissing, nothing, just Kaitlyn putting the DND tag and closing the door.

The next day as Shawn leaves Kaitlyn’s room and Nick is waiting around and asks Shawn does he have a few minutes. Umm, WTF?

Nick felt as though he was blasted when Shawn decided to run into his room and he felt he needed to respond to Shawn.

Shawn believes the conversation they had proved Nick was a smooth talker. I missed that part, because I didn’t see proof other than two men who are fighting over a woman who’s not all that.

Nick questioned Kaitlyn’s motives after Shawn mentioned he and Kaitlyn spent the night together.

Now having a conversation with Chris Harrison who acts as the “advisor”, she admits Ben is a great guy next to  Shawn who exudes both of the “drama intensity” and humor where she doesn’t get the same with Ben. She believes though Ben will make a great husband…..she doesn’t say this but clearly it’s what’s on her mind, not just for her.

Nick, however, having feelings for him, she questions his loyalty towards being in a committed relationships whereas she doesn’t question that with Shawn because he’s a jealous freak. So she knows he wants to be with her but the jealousy can put a hurting on their relationships. (Any relationship for that matter)

I’m still stuck on why they didn’t do the hometown dates. Are they doing budget cuts?

When Kaitlyn stands before all three guys, she tells them she’s falling in love and how incredible how all the overnight dates have been. how much they have shared with her and she thanked them. Caught up in the moment of emotion, she walked away to gather herself, knowing who she was letting go. She comes back to them and reaffirms all she can do is follow her heart.

IMG_9614

IMG_9608

She gives the first rose to Nick and then to Shawn which leaves Ben standing there with nothing.  After Ben says goodbye to Shawn and Nick, Kaitlyn asked if she can walk Ben out. She tells Ben how frustrating it is , he’s such a great guy but she doesn’t feel the same connection with him.

IMG_9620Before they say goodbye he tells her she looks great and he will miss her. In the car heading back to a hotel I guess, he said he wasn’t expecting to go home, but he’s a different person and was able to open up and have feelings again.

So perhaps this is a good thing. He learned how to open up I think it’s what you do afterwards when you fall in love and it doesn’t work out. Do you close yourself up? Is it harder to open up to someone new or do you hurry up and find a rebound who can give you that good feeling?

After the rose ceremony, Kaitlyn comes back to do a final salute to both of the men she chose. A very quiet drink, Nick hugs Kaitlyn in the anticipation she will see him at hometown dates and then hugs Shawn. She walks out, leaving them alone. Shawn finishes his drink and slams the glass on the table saying nothing to Nick. Nick then quietly puts his glass on the table saying nothing as the camera just pans on both of them like, what are we waiting for?

Kaitlyn heads to Utah and meets up with Nick. Nick admits he has no question he is in love with Kaitlyn and has no reservations whatsoever.  While all this exchange of love is being shared between Nick and Kaitlyn, back at the hotel, in a room, sits a group of people with uncomfortable anticipation…Nick’s family. Not happy at the fact he is going through this again, his tearful mom, makes his youngest sister cry, while one of his sister’s looks on not very happy.

After meeting Kaitlyn, they all sit and goof around until Maria pulls Kaitlyn aside to have a talk with her. She bought up the Andi season and her concerns with her feelings for Nick. After Maria, followed his brother and Bella, the youngest sibling who asked about Canada and does she really love Nick. Yeah, I would asking the same thing too, but she didn’t admit she loved him but told her she cares about Nick, “a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot”.

IMG_9631Having conversations with his Mom and Nick’s mom having a conversation with him, you can see there’s a big reluctance. While she can distinguish the difference between Kaitlyn and Andi, she’s hopeful, but still afraid for her son.

Nick assures his mother the difference between Kaitlyn and Andi, is during the Andi season he was over confident, not realizing where he and Andi where going in their relationship.

I can understand why his mother’s upsets; it’s not the ideal or conventional way to meet someone.

Kaitlyn couldn’t wait to get Nick back into her room after a successful meeting with his reluctant family.

The next day, Kaitlyn meets Shawn’s family and Shawn says in his interview , he’s excited to tell his , “wife” , he’s in love with her.

Pretty presumptuous if you ask me, I mean what if she didn’t pick him?

Shawn’s father mentioned something legible. Is this something where they are caught up in the moment or is it true love.

Just ask everyone who didn’t last in their relationships.

Like Nick’s family, they are a little bit more realistic in their goals of what they are looking for Shawn. And while Shawn is so love with Kaitlyn, he mentions if any of his family members have one doubt, it will not work out.

Look, while they are all in this position where Kaitlyn is talking about her googingly eyes and first impression rose, the fact is the reality will still happen when the cameras are off and they begin to live real life.

When Shawn gets the opinion of his sister’s apparently they gave rave reviews. I’m not sure how much you can review a person in just a few hours. Well maybe you can. I mean when I met my sister’s husband, I knew he was a piece of shit from the get go. So perhaps it is possible.

IMG_9634When Shawn’s father approaches him, he didn’t see to waste any time. The first thing out of his mouth was, “what the hell is going on”.

Hmm not a good question to start off with but I get it.

Shawn, still stuck on the, “you’re it” comment, he shares with his dad what Kaitlyn said when there was ten guys left. I guess this was his way of reassuring his father Kaitlyn is the girl for him.

Now that Kaitlyn has met the family and back in the room with Shawn, he tell her, there’s one more thing he needs to tell her,  he’s not falling for her but he IS in love with her.

Disappointed she didn’t tell him she loved him back (I think that’s supposed to happen at the end Shawn), Kaitlyn goes back to her room bawling her eyes out, now more confused than ever on who she plans on choosing.

Poor Nick.

OH well. Until the Final Rose.

I will be blogging on The Men Tell All after the season is over!

Advertisements

The Bachelor @JimmyKimmel Special @c_soules

The Bachelor E3 – The Jimmy Kimmel Special

Jimmy Kimmel looking very intent on making sure he hits every spot on Chris Soules (lol)

Comedian and talk show host Jimmy Kimmel takes over week three of the bachelor which is almost appropriate because Jimmy has a lot to say about what happens the show and making predictions although I think he gets his predictions from reality Steve.
While making priceless jokes, the girls were actually happy to see him and took over Chris Harrison’s job which was also pretty funny. You know if for any reason Chris Harrison couldn’t do a season, Jimmy Kimmel would be a great replacement as he will keep the humor steady in this already comedic show.
Before the date card is given to the ladies, Jimmy pulls out a swear jar explaining the word ‘amazing’ is used quite often so in lieu of keeping count of the word, everyone that uses it has to put a dollar in the jar.
The date card is disbursed with dancer Kaitlyn to start things off with the first one on one date.
Amazing…
Unbeknownst to Farmer Chris and Kaitlyn, Jimmy Kimmel would be in control of their date and upon arrival at Costco’s, Jimmy supplied them with a grocery list of things they must pick up for their date.

Although a highly unconventional date for the Bachelor since most of all the dates are based on glamour, Kaitlyn did make valid points regarding their date, bringing the reality aspect to what they may be doing in real life which would be shopping….?
When they arrived back at the house, and engaged in conversation, Jimmy shows up and becomes part of the date. Of course one of the first things he asks is about the fantasy suite and the unspoken rule that no one is to disclosed if the couples have sex. Come on….we all know they do. Look at Andi – she had sex with Nick but picked Josh because she was convinced at some point he was going to be into her. Jimmy, in his “manly show” ways, made a lot of jokes to Chris that he should have sex with all of the women before he picks one.
Back at the house, the new date card comes in for the group date as follows:
Britt, Jillian, Becca, Tracy, Mackenzie, Kelsey, Amber, Ashley S., Juelia, Samantha, Nikki, and Carly.
…And on the date with Kaitlyn, Chris and Jimmy, Chris (during his interview) talked about how attracted he is to Kaitlyn and the qualities she possesses. While in the pool in their intimate setting and kissing, the camera pans the camera over to the right and there’s Jimmy Kimmel is on the other side of the pool having his champagne and enjoying the view.

Now it’s time for the group date which Jimmy Kimmel informs the ladies that this date will consist of farm work more like an obstacle course of farming. He gave specific instructions to the girls on what they need to do the first thing they need to do is milk a goat and drink some of the milk (which I’m not sure that’s even kosher or safe to drink), after that they had to shovel manure and chase a pig. Carly who didn’t get a date last week was on this group date and mentioned that she was allergic to goats milk but she was still going to drink it anyway I don’t know if that’s a stupid move but if you’re allergic to something chances are you shouldn’t be eating or drinking it. I guess when you come in with your toy karaoke machine, anything is to be expected from Carly.
Carly ends up winning the race and they take photos as the Farmer and wife American Gothic picture. The picture couldn’t be complete without Jimmy Kimmel and Chris Soules as the American Gothic couple part two.
By this point I’ve lost count on how many ‘amazing’ were said, but I do know they missed one with Becca which was later down the line.
After the group festivities, the girls are all dressed and ready to compete for Chris’ time and make out.
Carly grabs him first, now feeling confident that she’s in the game as a result of not having time with him on the episode before and she makes his speech I’m a man you’re a woman blah blah blah and makes out with him.
Amber who’s also feeling super confident has her time with Chris and plays, “let’s pretend to slow dance without music” and they kiss, and it suddenly becomes the repeat of Juan Pablo when his tongue was in everyone’s mouth too. As a matter of fact, they should have had JP for this season to help Farmer Chris decide who the better kisser is.
McKenzie’s, the youngest out of all the ladies, was noticeably upset at all the kissing, as she’s still in her head that she got the first kiss. When she gets her time with him she confronts him and asks why was he kissing everyone on this group date. The look on the farmer’s face was priceless. Yes, why was he kissing everyone? In the past seasons, (except for JP) I can’t recall where everyone was kissing everyone so early on, well maybe Bob Guiny.
When Becca had her one-on-one time with Chris, Becca mentions that their conversations seem effortless. She also confides with him by telling him she would have not done the Bachelor if it were anyone else but him. Watching him last season, she saw he would be the ideal person to bring home to her family. (She did say amazing twice). And while the music is heightening and the scenery is to perfection, they are locked eyes, holding hands, and as they draw closer, they….hug. Were you waiting for a kiss? My thoughts on Becca, I like her. She turned the tables when she said that she would have not come on to the show if it were not him as the Bachelor. Yes while Chris does hand out the roses and it’s about who stays and who goes, just as Andi didn’t feel that Juan Pablo was a good choice for her, she chose to leave, any one of these women can do that. But you know in reality television every woman wants their spotlight. Right now I’m placing my bet on Becca to be one of the top contenders.
While all is well on the group date, back at the house, fertility nurse, Whitney was complaining that she hadn’t gotten one on one time with Chris and when the date card arrives, guess who’s name is read…of course Whiney, I mean Whitney.
Now back at the group date, Chris tells the ladies how he had a good time with everybody, but he gives the rose to someone that he said he wanted to have a further connection with and he gave the rose to Becca, probably the only girl that he didn’t make out with that he had one on one time with.
Whitney who spent most of her time complaining she didn’t get any one on one time with him finally has her date with Chris. There’s something about Whitney where her conversations seems forced and phony. While they are talking Chris mentions how important it is to him that he is with someone who is spontaneous, who can work a crowd or be comfortable in a party or casual setting.
And then….how convenient because here’s a wedding party that strolls down from the hill they are sitting from. Whitney who immediately notices that it’s a wedding party suggest they crash the party. Really? Really….
 At the wedding, Whitney suggests that if anyone recognizes him they should pretend they are engaged so no one suspects anything and to let the guests know the must keep top secret. My thoughts on Whitney, I’m not a fan and here’s why. This is a woman whose meeting couples day in and day out helping them have babies. She’s 29 years old and this is about the age where women start to freak out thinking if they don’t hurry up and get married, their eggs will dry up and they will die an old lady with cats.
I really hate this concept. I would like to believe as women we are allowed to make out own choices. And if a woman decides that she does not want to marry nor have children, why is she looked up as a reject? Very stupid thinking if you ask me.
What’s even more stupid is Whitney not really looking as she’s thinking anything through. More like, I will do whatever he wants just so I can get that ring.
After they crash the wedding and walk away he comes back with the rose exclaiming that Whitney absolutely made his day and he asked her if she will accept the rose. Of course she will. Time is of the essence for Whitney. SMH

On the flip side Juelia confides with the other ladies about the incident that happened with her husband committing suicide. I have a lot of issues with this. First, I’m not sure why casting felt the need to choose her. The woman clearly is still reeling from the loss of her husband. Not only the loss but how it happened still plagues her. It’s not right that a woman with so much pain give herself to a guy who will basically spend most of his time comforting her loss instead of being an equal partner.  (note: Apparently, Chris had found out through one or more the women gossiping about her)
I have to say while I empathize with her story, the fact of the matter is, while I was sitting here watching, my eyes were rolling around because it’s so dramatic and so unnecessary. It was just over-the-top and furthermore with the way she was crying, there is no way I can see any kind of relationship developing with Chris. This is this kind of stuff that you see in soap operas for pure entertainment and nothing more. Sad to see that The Bachelor continues to use women’s pain as the, “coming up next”, for their features on this show.
Britt continues to hang out all him and making out with him every chance that she gets, because she wants to feel some sense of security. Jade, the cosmetics girl runs and take him inside his house to make with out with him. Ashley I. is completely losing her mind and Jillian is walking around half naked looking for him. Sounds like a naked retreat if you ask me.
When Jade and Chris get back out of the room Jillian is in the hot tub like waiting for them and Ashley I. still running around like a chicken without a head because she needs that one on one time STAT! While the rest of the girls are looking for him they don’t realized that he’s with Jade making out on the bed and when they finally emerge, Chris goes in the hottub where Jillian monopolizes the whole time as she refused to leave when the girls started to gather around trying to get that one on one time.
A little bit about Ashley I…she’s a virgin. That’s not to say that she doesn’t have experience in relationships but in her mind, she seems to be stuck that if her tongue is not in Chris’ mouth she doesn’t stand a chance being with him and this gives her some distorted confidence that it does. She too is highly emotional and over the top. Have you noticed when she does kiss Chris, it’s almost awkward and unnatural.
And the roses goes to:
Jade
Samantha
Juelia
McKenzie
Kelsey
Britt
Megan
Carly
Ashley S. the lunatic
Nikki
Jillian
Ashley I.
The ladies who received roses on dates: Becca, Whitney and Kaitlyn

The most notable that didn’t get a rose was Amber – fake music, fake dancing, maybe the kissing was fake on Chris’ part too, a perfect example of why kissing doesn’t guarantee a rose. There was clearly no romantic connection but that didn’t stop Chris from putting his tongue in her mouth. Amber’s rejection on interview was visible without her saying a word and kudos to her that she choose not to talk and walk away and savor those tears in private. I felt really bad for her. Rejection is never the greatest feeling in the world and even worse when exposed on national television. I’m glad she walked away.
But there was one that went away “crying” in the limo and that was Jimmy Kimmel’s as Chris Harrison informed him that he was no longer needed. Chris Harrison definitely has a great sense of comedic humor and I thought this was a very good episode definitely bought something different into the show even though the one thing that wasn’t different was a new set of pathetic women.

The Bachelor Juan Pablo Season 18

Now that the Bachelor is a sensationalized dating show with more babbling women crying to find love, the man that Desiree kept on (when we all know she really wasn’t interested in him) has been crowned the new bachelor and believe me when I tell you everyone is eating this up.

The season kicks off with the introduction to JP and the relationship he has with his daughter, because of course, we just never see enough dad’s with their kids, we see the total opposite of dad’s trying to get away from their kids.

Now that the Bachelor is a sensationalized dating show with more babbling women crying to find love, the man that Desiree kept on (when we all know she really wasn’t interested in him) has been crowned the new bachelor and believe me when I tell you everyone is eating this up.

For more on this blog refer to http://kinkemagazine.com/blog/the-bachelor-juan-pablo/the-bachelor-juan-pablo-episode-1

Sign up for free and leave your comments here www.kinkemagazine.com/subscribe

Here’s to Ronnie – a Perfect song for a NOT so perfect love

Still miss him like crazy. His kisses and his touches left me breathless. It was true love and for some reason I am in love with this man as I was in love with him in 2008.  This song truly expresses my feelings. Thanks to the group Gotye for coming out with such a fantastic song!

 

Lyrics to Somebody that  I used to know

Now and then I think of when we were together
Like when you said you felt so happy you could die
Told myself that you were right for me
But felt so lonely in your company
But that was love and it’s an ache I still remember

You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness
Like resignation to the end, always the end
So when we found that we could not make sense
Well you said that we would still be friends
But I’ll admit that I was glad that it was over

But you didn’t have to cut me off
Make out like it never happened and that we were nothing
And I don’t even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger and that feels so rough
No you didn’t have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records and then change your number
I guess that I don’t need that though
Now you’re just somebody that I used to know

Now you’re just somebody that I used to know
Now you’re just somebody that I used to know

[Kimbra:]
Now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over
But had me believing it was always something that I’d done
And I don’t wanna live that way
Reading into every word you say
You said that you could let it go
And I wouldn’t catch you hung up on somebody that you used to know

[Gotye:]
But you didn’t have to cut me off
Make out like it never happened and that we were nothing
And I don’t even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger and that feels so rough
And you didn’t have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records and then change your number
I guess that I don’t need that though
Now you’re just somebody that I used to know

Somebody
(I used to know)
Somebody
(Now you’re just somebody that I used to know) [x2]