Kink~E Magazine – Fourteen Years In the Making….

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I can’t believe how much time has passed.

If you ask me back then in 2000 after my break up and finding myself in how to exist in this world, “would you ever imagined owning a popular magazine where you would feature and interview people in the entertainment industry?” – I would have simply answered, “Nope”.

To understand who I was in 2000, I started writing my autobiography several years ago and has been a pain staking process. It’s not fun to have to relive certain shit but in the matter of helping someone else is part of the reason why I’m writing my book. In the interim, I’m also in the midst of writing several erotica books, including three self help books.

“To write about pain is to understand where that pain stems from.” (From “How I View the World with Me In It”, author, Marabelle Blue ©2016).

It’s not an easy feat to contend with because as humans we are so used to blaming the other person or circumstances for our choices. I’ve seen it happen and I myself have privy to that type of behavior.

I couldn’t see all of this when I started my magazine. All I saw was a group of people who lived (including myself) in an Alternative world that didn’t have a place to share their voice. Sure we have other types of periodicals where alternative voices were heard, but that seemed to slowly die out once people became aware of this thing called the Internet.

Through blogging my own personal journeys, I did two years of research and spoke with many different people from local NYC underground communities.

At first I wanted the magazine to be this dark place, almost like a dungeon, where fetish became alive and the voices behind the fetish underground were free to speak and share why they enjoyed this lifestyle.

While the magazine was making it’s rounds online, I remember attending a party at Mother with Master Steelow, my real first exposure of seeing the BDSM lifestyle at work (trust you won’t find it in 50 Shades) and talking to him about the magazine, but at the time it was so new, I don’t think he took me seriously. At least that was the way I took it.

The first few years was rough. I was learning how to maintain a website, let alone create one from scratch and decipher the content. The magazine went through phases, what worked and what didn’t work. When Myspace rolled along, this was my starting point of using social media and getting people to read the magazine which was great and good exposure to not only reach those within the U.S. but also outside of the United States.

People began referring to me as Miss Kink but I wanted something more relevant, a personality which was true to my reflection. Being I was calling myself  Marabelle Blue, I decided to the name and market myself myself an individual who was also part of Kink~E Magazine.

One of the things I learned about social media and exposing yourself to the public is someone coming along thinking they can snatch your shit and make it better. That’s when the evil old lady from Australia came in and plagiarized my magazine. After going through the proper channels on how to address her bullshit the battle ended with one winner. Did she really think she was going to win?

Here’s the deal, when you create something, people will always come in and try to mimic you and ride your band wagon. It happens every time to everyone. One of the most important things I’ve learned within the social media spectrum, don’t brag and don’t expose your shit until it’s good and ready. Sure we all want to brag and there’s nothing wrong with healthy sharing about your progress and confidence, however, yet another when you spend all day tweeting or facebooking on how fabulous you are. The only ones who are the ones who don’t feel good about themselves. It becomes cult like after a while.

Over time with the good things and the not so good things, Kink~E Magazine finally found a place in people’s lives and hearts and that has to do with many of the writers who have come and joined the fold realizing this was a place to share thoughts, opinions and/or grievances. A place where we feature people in the entertainment industry in the sincerest of light and not just making sex the number one topic.

Behind the life of every performer is a sincere, empathetic person who loves what they do and isn’t afraid to show it.  Behind every authors are people who share their most intimate thoughts in story telling and behind every opinion is a person who stands strong in their plight.

The internet has grown a lot. And with that growth, we all continue to keep KinkE on top with interesting notes and topics, discussing current issues and trends.

I still keep up with my good Kink’s Korner (remember how Charlie Sheen copied me with Sheen’s Corner), discussing relationships and life in NYC.

A lot will change within Kink~E Magazine, all good things. I won’t disclose yet what those changes are (we still have the copy haters watching), but I will say this, this past year has been the best. I enjoyed every issue and what we feature to you.

For all the times I wanted to give up, I would get an email from someone telling me how much they enjoyed reading the articles in the magazine, how much they found they weren’t alone in what they were feeling, there was no way I would give this up.

When BBW came along, we found a whole new audience lovers of Big Beautiful woman. Thank you @theKimmieKaboom for the enticing interviews she brings.

Thanks to my girl Dr. Sue (@DoctorSue) and her expert field in cuckolding (among other topics) and Christine who has been hitting the hardcore topics of hate in America and just America itself. And for Dirk who keeps the fetish articles alive in offering advice and tips in how to play it safe.

To all the past writers who have shared their thoughts and advice on topics we seem to discuss behind closed doors when it shouldn’t be that way.

Most importantly I need to thank every person who has contributed and supported Kink~E Magazine for all of these years.

We stand united in our alternative beliefs and lifestyle. This isn’t just about sex or porn or fetish life and gender roles, this is about life and respecting each other’s values and belief system whatever that may be and for as long as you’re not hurting anyone deliberately. (I need to make that clear.)

There is not one person living who is a “God” who can tell us who to love or not to love, how to have sex and why certain behaviors are “wrong”, that’s just unrealistic.

With that being said, Happy Birthday to Kink~E Magazine and thank you to each and every person who continues to support us.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

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What’s Real and What’s Not…

The week of November 16, minding my business, getting off the train to head home, I noticed someone from the corner of my eye as I walked down the stairs and they walking beside me. Now the first thought is, “who the fuck is this person”, then he speaks…

“boy does that chicken smell good.”

There’s a restaurant up the street from the train station and I will say this, if the chicken is more than a day old, and they’re cooking it, it smells pretty bad.

The conversation leads to me saying the food didn’t smell good and I can make better chicken than they can. I thought that was the end, until he walked with me to my destination.

Okay, aggressive maybe?

Approaching the ninety nine cents store, I tell him, “well I have to go in here” and he asked me for my number.

I asked him to give me his and I promised I would call him back.

“What’s your name?”, he asked.

“My name is Marabelle.”

Well I wasn’t going to tell him my birth name. LOL.

Needless to say, I did give him my number. My business number. And then the calls started maybe a two days later. I didn’t feel we had much in common. But after a few text exchanges and a few calls in between, he surprised me last Saturday meeting me at the very same area we first started talking and took to the diner where we spent about four more maybe a bit more hours talking about everything.

Then my view changed.

Wow, this guy is smart and we do have a lot in common.

But…(you know there’s always that damn ‘but’), due to privacy issues, I changed my phone number on my ‘whatsapp’ to my business number, not realizing anyone who had the app and my business number will pop up a notification like, “hey your friend just joined whatsapp” – the same number I gave to this guy, who looks at my profile pic, watermarked, “Property of Kink~E Magazine”.

I have struggled for many years with men who thought that me owning a sex magazine made me available for sex, or that I was some kind of freak fucking different guys every night. Or how can I be such a prude and own a sex magazine.

Umm well, people are dirty and disgusting and I don’t open my legs to anyone unless they are fucking worth it. And oh, my fetish life isn’t practiced with some fly by night asshole that doesn’t know what he’s doing.

The men I meet get it very twisted and very confused as to who I am, what I do, what is the purpose of the magazine and why I do it.

The mission statement on www.kinkemagazine.com is very clear and anyone who reads it knows exactly what my magazine is about, what my writers do and what we talk about. Most importantly, why it’s so important to educated people living or exploring alternative lifestyles.

Well now upon knowing this info he had on hand, I told him what I do, I’m a writer, I own a magazine and I have different writer who discuss different aspects of adult entertainment and alternative lifestyle and he seemed cool with it.

After our endless hours of talking, it was time for me to go home and get rest and figuring I would hear from him the next day, I did not.

Okay what the fuck is going on here. You like someone (remember we are not 25, I don’t have time for stupid mind games), you’re not going to waste time or say, “well, duh, gee, I’ll contact her three days from now. By then I would have lost interest.

Bothered by the fact he didn’t make much of an effort, but texting here and there, I said something and it seemed to wake up the senses and led to another all night conversation.

Now my head space is, “yeah I’m feeling this guy, we can hang out get to know each other.”

Today, not so much. Inconsistent. Not making much of an effort BUT definitely made an effort in exposing exactly what he wanted to do me, desires of feasting on certain parts of my body…(use your imagination, ya’ll know what I’m talking about).

Yeah…no, I wasn’t feeling it.

I go out with you ONE time and one week later you’re talking about eating me out. It’s one thing to flirt, yet another when you’re just horn dog asking for sex when I barely even know the guy.

No thank you.

Does he not think I’m already getting emails like that from someone who’s been chasing me since 2000. And OH what about the guy I connect with periodically. While he’s busy playing mind games, someone else (someone I know) texting me at the same time, asking when I’m coming over.

A friend with benefit understanding only works with me for ONE person. I don’t need an extra person for that especially if they are telling me how REAL they are, when in essence are just full of shit.

I have been “around the block” enough to know all the stories guys play just to get a girl into bed, instead of just being forthright in saying, “I’m not looking for anything serious right now, however, I would like a partner I can be intimate with and have fun.”

Last time I checked, there’s nothing wrong with that level of honesty, but that’s just me. Some women may find the whole statement repulsive and that’s okay too.

Look I’m not here to judge, far from it. But when you come in with lies about me being in your heart and saying all of these romantic things just to get me in bed, is where I lose all respect for a person who’s flat out lying.

After addressing said issue, not only does he block me on twitter (why I don’t know he’s not worth reading any tweets he puts out), he blocks my number on his phone (after last Saturday when he tells me I gave him my “heartline” after I gave him my personal cell number).

If these are the actions of a person who claims they are telling the truth, guess what…you’re not.

Liars will not defend their actions once they’ve been found out. If anything they run the other way to ensure their integrity is not found out by others so they can pull the same game on someone else who will buy the lie.

While no one knows who I’m talking about, the last thing I would do it tag him on tweets like an immature child and accuse him of being a liar. Sure I will say certain things, but I won’t tag a name on to it.

He could have taken a different approach had he been telling the TRUTH, maybe by picking up the phone and calling and defending himself.

Being truthful is painful, whether you’re on the receiving end of it or not, hearing it for yourself when the words are departing from your lips can be painful.

After tonight, I was hurt and disappointed because I really wanted him to be for real in everything he was saying, but in the back of my mind, something said, there’s something not right.

I have learned to follow my intuition instead of following my heart.

Sad when you can’t follow your heart.

I text a friend of mine and told her what barely began has pretty much ended. In this phone conversation, a lot was revealed to me saying the words out loud.

Even in my own personal truth, as the words left my lips, my tears streamed down my face, because this really wasn’t about this guy, it is about something in the past, yet to be closed and the actions I am taking, in my own personal journey to resolve it.

You will all get a chance to share in that, I promise you.

In the meantime, my tears lie on the disappointment more than the person himself. It sucks when a person doesn’t tell you the truth, it sucks even more when they feel they can get over on you and not care about the feelings you’re investing through their web of lies.

(Addition) I wanted to say this, there’s always a reason why everyone goes through certain paths in their lives. I believe there’s a reason why I am having these experiences. While these experiences may not be so pleasant I know at the end of this tunnel will flourish something beautiful.

The journey continues….because whoever my “one” is, will completely and totally love me for who I am and not what they think I’m supposed to be.

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

Ohh Those School Girl Memories

Just a little tidbit…earlier I was at the supermarket, having come back from a consultation for a dreaded procedure thanks to some stomach issues I’ve been having the last week.

Playing on their #Sirius radio was REO Speedwagon, “Keep on Loving you” – boy that bought back so many good memories, it made me smile from ear to ear.

The other song they sing which is near and dear to me which, “Can’t Fight this Feeling”.

It reminds me of a time in high school where I realized Alternative lifestyle was real through a guy who was gay but kept it hidden from all of us. I never knew he was gay until one day he shared with me during a charms blow pop lesson on how to give blow jobs (yes this story is true)

It was a pivotal moment in his life when he realized he liked someone so much and was struggling with this song came about when he repeated the lyrics to me and how true they felt for him.

REO Speedwagon may have been talking about a fallen love in this song but to this guy, the words represented something so different and so real. The struggle of being a teenager in the 80s and having feelings for a guy when the world was dictating to him normal relationships were with woman.

Times have changed and the lyrics still stand.

Every time I hear this song, it always leaves me wondering what happened to my friend. Did he ever find love? Was he able to finally able to express those feelings and not fight them anymore.

Sometimes the world is a cruel place. Especially when the internal struggle is in a world that tells you loving a person who has the same anatomy as you is wrong.

I’m glad that song gave him solace to know he wasn’t alone in what he felt.

I may have not known it then, but the paths were leading me to a magazine I would create, a platform for people to sound their voices. Even if people don’t stay in your lives forever, their journey will always leave an impression on you.

Long live the lyrics of REO Speedwagon!

 

Loves and Hugs,
MB~

@KEMTopTalk Welcomes @BettanyHalle aka Cassandre Dayne

CDayneAfter a bout with sickness and recovering last week I’m  back with a great show featuring Cassandre Dayne, erotic and thriller author of more than one hundred and seventy books. Her bio below:

Cassandre Dayne is the award winning, best selling author of over one hundred and seventy books She is also a blog talk radio host of ‘The Edge’, highlighting authors, publishers and other artists who take their creative pieces to a raw and unconventional precipice. Her works as Cassandre have delved into various aspects of BDSM, D/s, edge play, domestic discipline, LGBT, poems and dark thrillers in books as well as her widely read blog. She also has a love of all things terrifying and pens horror and paranormal pieces. Cassandre is an advocate for education and continued understanding of a true D/s lifestyle, one widely mistaken as a form of abuse.

Cassandre and I talked about a wide range of topics from where her inspiration drives from, a woman’s preservative on serial killers, spanking fictions, BDSM and lots more. Master_Vyle joined in the chat room. Lots of good points were bought up on the show especially when we talked about the lack of sex education and the choices that any woman or man can make to protect themselves from STD and parenthood, which sadly is still a trending problem.

Honorable mentions and shout outs where made throughout the show:

Ray Sostre (@anarchy0029), Robert Ropars (@robertropars), Planet L*A*W (@planet12law), Danny Blaq (@dannyblaqvideos), Sin City 411 (@SinCity_411), Sybian (@sybianmaker), Galen Fous (@FetishSexExpert), Master Vyle (@Master_Vyle), Kimmie Kaboom (@TheKimmieKaboom)

Remember there’s still time to sign up for our Vegas event but don’t wait too long! Book your rooms directly with Rumor Vegas using offer code “Kink Entertainment” to get the discounted room rate 877-997-8667 all other info purchasing packages which include a gift bag with lots of great stuff should sign up www.eventsbymblue.com

Look out for our new issue coming out soon www.kinkemagazine.com and of course replays of the show can be found here http://www.blogtalkradio.com/kinkemagazine or here www.kemtoptalk.com

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Thanks for listening!

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

@KEMTopTalk Welcomes @GiaMoore69 @GiaMoorePerfume

Gia_Fine_ChocolatesGia Moore our sexy guest tonight shared her history growing up in South America and making her journey here to the states. Learning how to speak English, Ms. Moore driving personality had her become the entrepreneur, investing her life in the sexuality products of perfume, scented candles and chocolate.

She promotes her products in a mask and never displays what she looks like because it was important for her clients to focus on the products than focusing on the face of the creator of the products.

Having this great attitude has afford Gia to be successful in branding her products as sensual, sexy and high class but made for everyone. Couples should feel good about their togetherness and that’s what Gia’s goals are about.

I’m pleased to announce that Gia, who initially was going to donate one bottle of perfume for our Vegas Event will actually be donating TWO bottles! Gia_Moore_Perfume_9660

We can’t say thank you enough to Gia!!!!!

To purchase her products please visit: www.GiaMooreGifts.com

If you’re interested in being a part of her affiliate program you can also find information on her site.

Follow Gia here:

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Get in on the raffle frenzy in VEGAS and we have A LOT MORE COMING!

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Thank you for your support.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

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@VenusLux Interview via @KEMTopTalk on #BlogTalkRadio

venus_lux_purple_corset_1Venus Lux was a hit tonight on @KEMTopTalk radio! Wow! I love it when Adult Entertainers get in depth and real when it comes to discussing their lives, personal choices and struggles to become the beautiful people they are today.

I really loved Venus’ take on how she mentors people, reminding them that coming out and presenting yourself to the world in the eyes you see yourself is okay and there’s nothing wrong with that. Coming from the Asian culture and having to endure that the beliefs that were instilled in her growing up were not what she felt about herself and how she viewed the journey of her life and what she wished to acquire.

Master Vyle called at the beginning to the show as I opened up the show talking about Married at First Sight and the dealings with “arranged marriages” and why this has become the new phenomena. Whether it’s good or bad or different, at the end of the day, we both agree that relationships take work and commitment. If you’re not committed, relationships generally fail…don’t they? For more on Master Vyle you can follow him on http://www.twitter.com/master_vyle and follow his blogs houseofmastervyle.blogspot.com

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If you missed the show you can now listen here www.kemtoptalk.com

For more on Venus Lux you can connect with her here:

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http://www.Venus-Lux.com

http://www.VenusLux.cammodels.com

http://facebook.com/TheRealVenusLux

http://twitter.com/VenusLux

http://instagram.com/VenusLux

I want to thank everyone who listened to the show and tune in next week for more show!

@KEMTopTalk guest Steve Santini Escape Artist, Collector and Author Highlight Show

kemtoptalk-logoLG600Tonight’s show was very special. Steve Santini shared with us many of the relics he has collected over time. One of the main topics of the show was definitely the witches collections and how they were tortured. Steve, who is open about his Pagan lifestyle has a sensitivity to the witches that were tortured back in the days of Salem. Feeling an honor to be the voice of those who we will never know, during the show I read him one of his answers to his interview on KinkEMagazine (http://kinkemagazine.com/issue/october-november-kink-e-magazine-special-halloween-issue-2014/article/escape-with-steve-santini) about his favorite find. After sharing with him, his own answer, I asked him if he still felt the same way about this find? Not only was the answer yes, but there was a change in his voice that made me understand that level of sensitivity when it comes to his dark collection.

steve santini master of escapeMany topics were discussed on this show. Definitely one of the best next to the best of the past few weeks. KEMTopTalk is definitely back and here to stay!

Honorable mentions for the show and promotions via @EventsByMBlue http://www.eventsbymblue.com

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Follow me @Marabelleblue @KEMTopTalk @KinkEMagazine and @DivineSinsation

Interested in having your name mentioned on the show, contact marabelleblue@kinkemagazine.com for our sales kit. There is sponsorship still avialalbe for our Vegas event you don’t want to miss out on that!

See you next week when @VenusLux joins us on the radio airwaves! http://www.blogtalkradio.com/kinkemagazine/2015/04/15/kemtoptalk-guest-venuslux-ts-pornstarproducerdirector

#50Shades…good for #BDSM or Not? Highlights from last night’s @KEMTopTalk Show w/host @MarabelleBlue

50-shades-funny-photo-6As you may or may not know, I have bought my talk show back to the radio airwaves where everything originally started and I have to say I’m glad to be back.

Last night, the topic was on #50Shades, phenomena or not?

My panel last night consisted of whom I call experts in the BDSM industry. I love and respect them all. My first guest was @DirkHooper who’s a writer, mentor and host his own show The Fetish Show Radio Program, along with Dirk was @MClarissa who has appeared on our KEMTopTalk show when held at a secondary location in the Bronx. Mistress Clarissa does not only live by the BDSM Lifestyle but she’s also a political Dominatrix, DOMMEunist Feminist eco peace warrior,geek, twitter prophet – one of the smartest women I know and finally Mistress Ann Domi who recently came into my life and currently featured in our @DominatnNation section on @KinkEMagazine which you can find right here: http://kinkemagazine.com/issue/february-march-jungle-love-kinkemagazine-issue-2015/article/domination-nation-mistress-ann

All who are definitely high in their standards when it comes to BDSM and all have an extreme wealth of knowledge.

Points that were bought up on the show, Dirk mentioned the Christian Grey character was a piece of shit and from the male perspective of Domination, no man would treat his sub in such a capacity unless you are watching the ID Network. Also, as a mentor, Dirk treats everyone as individuals and not just as a flock of people looking for advice or guidance into the lifestyle. Knowledge and understanding are key points when Dirk advises anyone coming into this lifestyle for personal or professional reasons. Good point.

Mistress Ann also made points that it’s bad enough the BDSM  community is frowned upon, especially where she practices her lifestyle in Alabama. Not exactly open to “that type of behavior”, a lot of what she calls hate crimes against the BDSM Community. Mistress Ann favorite specialty is Corporal Punishment which she prides on studying and working with Dominas in European countries.

Mistress Clarissa also bought up good points in regards to the book, the way it was written and believing that it comes from a male view instead of a female point of view. All agreed that BDSM is a life filled with education. The education doesn’t cease because you have arrived at some point or some level in your life. With Mistress Clarissa, one of her many specialties is Mummification and suffocation, breathing exercises. How many people can say they can do that without harming another person.

Without giving too much away of the show, it’s definitely a must listen. While I was listening to my panel of experts, questions were swirling in my head of everything I wanted to ask.

Caller CJ Cassidy called in, author of A Tortured Soul Trilogy which you can find on Amazon http://www.amazon.com/The-Tortured-Soul-Trilogy-Pleasure/dp/146093430X a must read book! I read Living La Vida Puta which is part  of the trilogy and I will tell you this is one book I won’t even loan out to anyone. There are just some books that need to be part of your library and this is definitely one of them.

All in all the two hour show was put to great use and feeling rejuvanated to have my show back on the air.

Please take a listen here: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/kinkemagazine/2015/03/11/50-shades-making-the-bdsm-community-look-goodor-is-it

And you can also go to www.kinkemagazine.com where the show is displayed right on our front page.

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

As the 50 Shades Nightmare Draws Upon Us….

The other night I rented Secretary. I had to. It was a way to remind myself set upon film that BDSM is a mindset, a mind fuck, if you will. James Spader played an excellent Dom while Maggie Gyllenhaal played the submissive women who found her BDSM side through Edward E. Grey. Grey….what a coincidence?

E.J. James, the supposed author who wrote this badly written book, had housewives losing their minds in to believing what what Fetish life is. I never read the book but I have read the comments about the book and I trust the comments. There’s no way that a “million” different people are wrong when they say this book is terrible. But yet somehow this poorly written book has been converted to a movie.

While I cannot judge the book for myself, I can only speak from my personal experience on both sides and the experience of those I interview. Recently. I added a section in my magazine called Domination Nation. The section features exclusively people in the BDSM industry where women work as professional Dominatrixes.

These women travel worldwide meeting subs around the world that will not only worship them but the subs get to live the lifestyle of having their personal desires met, whatever that may be.

I’ll give you a bit of an insight. There are those who have as fetish of being humiliated. Humiliation tactics may include, dressing up as a maid or being naked. Being dressed as a woman and collard while the mistress walks them around dressed like this.  Other humiliation tactics can be brutal, from spankings to pain and torture techniques that can include nipple clamps, chastity devices, electronic. butt plugs, caning, whippings and spankings, toilet training, eating cigarette ashes…possibly more. I’m sure. Please read what I just wrote. Can anyone honestly say they can partake in this type of scenario and be okay with it?

Probably not.

What did I start off by saying. BDSM is a mind set. a mind fuck.

Do you think that if they showed the true BDSM lifestyle on 50 Shades would it get an R rating. Absolutely not. People would be watching rated X at it’s best!

Is there such thing as light BDSM…sure, I guess. Blind folds, handcuffs, swing sets but if that’s all you’ve done you can’t honestly say you’ve experience BDSM in it’s purest and tortuous forms.

Recently the star of 50 Shades said he visited a Dungeon to gain inspiration for his role and instead ended up bashing those in the lifestyle by exclaiming he had to run and get in the shower before he touched his wife and child.

Actions such as these tells me that a person like this actor does not have an inkling of respect for this lifestyle. If that’s the mindset, then he can maintain his vanilla lifestyle and go fuck himself.

That tells me that you think BDSM is dirty and that the people that choose this lifestyle are dirty too.

Obviously there is no perfection in BDSM. One of the recurring themes you see at the request of any authentic Domina’s website one of the requirement is hygiene. No one wants to work with a smelly or dirty person. People that are in BDSM are not filthy people who live in filthy and have dirty dungeons filled with residue of cum.

Let’s get a fucking clue. BDSM is a lifestyle where the top requirements should be adhered to that any professional Domina will know to ask or even have up posted on their site.

Know CPR
Does the sub has any health issues that should be disclosed (i.e. heart problems)
A Safe Word
What are the limits if any
Does the Domina herself have any limitations – yes believe it or not she can say no
What kind of training has the Domina received?
Is anyone allergic to latex?

Just as it is important for the Domina to pose questions it’s just as important to the sub that they take their scenes in safety.

I had an interesting conversation with a Professional Dominatrix last night who comes from a superior lineage of those who live the BDSM lifestyle and extremely well trained. We both agree, going into your local sex shop, buying a latex dress and a whip does not make you a Dominatrix in any way shape or form.

I think the internet has bought many of those that noticed they can score quick money buy building a site, creating an Amazon wish list and make money without doing much of anything. While I don’t knock on how anyone makes their money, the fact remains. BDSM is a mind set and should be respected to it’s highest degree. In the same note, we also have many male subs who would rather play games and not tribute to a Dominatrix because they feel they can get over and get whatever it is they think they can get for free.  Male subs who are true to the lifestyle do not play games.

Mistress Christianna who resides in Florida has been in the BDSM life since the 70’s. Now in her sixties, she still practices the lifestyle.  You can only imagine how she felt when she found her list of rules in E.L. James’ book. Also note Christian Grey…..

I’ve also been told that a man wrote this book. Would not surprise me within the least. I mean Christian Grey…..

Sounds like this man who wrote this book did very little research on what BDSM is and wrote a fantasy of his desires without probably proofreading and then asked his friend to be the face of this book so that housewives could feel good about their mundane lives.

I know this sounds cruel. I’m sure housewives reading this are saying. what is that bitch talking about, my life isn’t mundane.

Okay so if it’s not, and you really want to explore true BDSM don’t support this stupid movie.

Until then,

MB~

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Duck Dynasty vs. Free Speech

Reality television has afforded us to see how other people live in their personal lives and thoughts, all played out in front of the camera.

Having studied acting and being in front of the camera my questions has always been (when it came to reality TV) when do they say action and when do they say cut?

I guess it’s going to be as real as it can get, right?

So the big news in the media today is Phil Robertson and the disparaging comments he has made about gay people.

GLAAD as well as many other Gay and Lesbian Communities are in an outrage and rightly so.

I can’t say enough of, “In our day and age of technology”, either people sit and hide behind their computer to assassinate anyone they feel “entitled” to or you have these make-believe “celebrity” television personalities that open their mouth and speak without thinking. Just because you’re in reality television it doesn’t give anyone permission to run their mouths off on how other people live.

BUT they do!

Welcome to the real world darlings!

Someone made a comment today about how come no one came to Paula Dean’s defense because she used the “N” word.

Look there’s a double edge sword in everything we say and everything we do. Bottom line.

While I don’t agree with Paula, the fact remains that in New York City where our communities are working class and/or no class, the conversations among the young disgusts me to no end.

Just the other day I heard a woman yelling at her child and her exact words were, “What’s the matter with you my n***a, pay attention when I’m talking to you.”

Other conversations I’ve heard in and out of the Bronx, “yo my n***a, she was like….” or “yo my n****a, that play was hot”

My point being if you haven’t gotten it already, how can anyone be in an uproar over a word that is used time and time again. WHO GIVES A FUCK IF IT ENDS WITH AN “A” IT’S WRONG! PERIOD!

In all my years and my friends that I grew up with which were all black, I have never heard them speak this way and I’m sure I never will. Why? Because they respect themselves, as humans, as a community!

You can’t expect for people to respect you if you can’t respect yourself, in how you speak and how you carry yourself.

I’m a woman with a very strong Puerto Rican heritage. My father instilled in me to learn English correctly if not no one will respect you. He remains correct! And while people ask me where is my “accent” from, am I from California (no I’m not) but learning proper English was just as important to me as my first language, Spanish.

We can’t stop people from thinking a certain way and “Lord” knows what stigmas I get because I say I’m Puerto Rican. But I don’t care. Because those stigmas do not make me the woman that I am. I’m Human. A Woman. A Business Owner. A Writer. A Thinker. A Dreamer. A Sarcastic Bitch. Get it?

Now that I’ve made my point, lets get back to Mr. Phil Robertson and WHY WE SHOULD BE UPSET!

The Gay and Lesbian Community has come such a long way. In a time of the sexual revolution where everything was undercover and secretive, there weren’t so many outlets where someone who had “different” feelings can go and seek help or just even someone to talk to that can relate and say, it’s okay.

Who the fuck made us perfect? The Bible is packed with a bunch of lies that man has written to make society believe that if you do something out of the “norm” you will be damned to hell. Such words are away to get people to conform and that’s not what society is about.

We always keep forgetting why the Middle East is at war and probably will always be, #RELIGION

People use Religion to justify their own outrages sort of nonsense, to judge and to say “I am right and YOU are wrong.”

The Gay and Lesbian Community are tightly knit, they respect one another and have built an alliance within their own space where one can go and seek advice, guidance to find the freedom to live with their hearts and to accept who they are as humans and that not everyone will think or agree with what how they live.

When I first got clean and sober more than 22 years ago, I used to hear the term in meetings, lets agree to disagree.

Getting off drugs and alcohol was enough now people wanted to confuse the shit out of me with these terms.

Eventually I got it.

We will not always agree. We will always digress, we will always get better, think differently or maybe not. But what a concept it is when we just allow people to live their own lives and others can mind their own business.

I don’t know when this became such a difficult task.

Until then.

Marabelle Blue~

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