#TheBachelor @benhiggi

Here we are~ A New Year has just begun and ABC wastes no time in premiering the Bachelor Ben Higgins from the Kaitlyn season. Surprisingly Ben was one of the last men standing (not sure why) there seemed to be a lack of personality there and with all the good looking men who were in her season, why choose Ben?

Anyway, I’m trying something new. I weaned myself off cable and no longer have the opportunity to watch live television. With an array of streaming applications where you can watch all of your favorite shows on your own time, I have to say, it sucks just a little bit.

I’m not able to catch up on the Housewives because Bravo hasn’t gotten with the programming of steaming unless you want to watch last season’s bullshit and who wants to blog about something that happened last year? Bye Felicia.

As always the intro starts off with shades of love on the water, in a boat, on some kind of a warm island, or on some kind of ride, followed by tears of women who barely know him or claiming they put their whole life on hold, yada yada yada. Oh lest not forget the “bitch” or “evil doer” of the show, “he’s my husband, he just hasn’t figure it out yet” type…..and the one who has a panic attack and guess what she won’t need the paramedics all she will need is Ben to sweep her off her feet. #Pathetic

Ben’s background, simple, from Warsaw, Indiana, small town where everyone knows each other, probably some Christian town…blah and on top of that he can’t find anyone from his own town?

Ben has this fake and mediocre conversation with his parents who have been together for the last thirty five years. One of the main topics discussed was Ben’s fears of being unlovable, which was something he bought up in the Kaitlyn season.

Hey Ben, try being my age and still not finding someone decent to have simple conversations with, without pulling teeth or begging for affection. Believe me you will find someone to love before I do. LOL.

Now with the Bachelor family growing, it seems they invite other Bachelors to “advise” on how to deal with this type of “reality” situation.

 Who do they bring back? Farmer Chris Soules (who broke up with his self centered girlfriend Whitney Bischoff), Jason Mesnick who at the end picked Melissa the one he really didn’t want over Molly but I guess to make the producers happy he gave them what they wanted. However in the reunion he told Melissa he was not the least bit interested in her and asked for Molly back. (What a happy reunion). Sean Lowe who married Catherine, discussed how he fell in love with her towards the end of the show (which was true). My question was why Farmer Chris was there. Clearly he picked the wrong woman. I don’t think their relationship lasted more than a week. (of course I’m being sarcastic) but if you recall, he had more of a relationship with Brit while the other girls were just hanging out watching this relationship flourish before them. #Confused

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This girl is cRaZY!

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Duck Dynasty vs. Free Speech

Reality television has afforded us to see how other people live in their personal lives and thoughts, all played out in front of the camera.

Having studied acting and being in front of the camera my questions has always been (when it came to reality TV) when do they say action and when do they say cut?

I guess it’s going to be as real as it can get, right?

So the big news in the media today is Phil Robertson and the disparaging comments he has made about gay people.

GLAAD as well as many other Gay and Lesbian Communities are in an outrage and rightly so.

I can’t say enough of, “In our day and age of technology”, either people sit and hide behind their computer to assassinate anyone they feel “entitled” to or you have these make-believe “celebrity” television personalities that open their mouth and speak without thinking. Just because you’re in reality television it doesn’t give anyone permission to run their mouths off on how other people live.

BUT they do!

Welcome to the real world darlings!

Someone made a comment today about how come no one came to Paula Dean’s defense because she used the “N” word.

Look there’s a double edge sword in everything we say and everything we do. Bottom line.

While I don’t agree with Paula, the fact remains that in New York City where our communities are working class and/or no class, the conversations among the young disgusts me to no end.

Just the other day I heard a woman yelling at her child and her exact words were, “What’s the matter with you my n***a, pay attention when I’m talking to you.”

Other conversations I’ve heard in and out of the Bronx, “yo my n***a, she was like….” or “yo my n****a, that play was hot”

My point being if you haven’t gotten it already, how can anyone be in an uproar over a word that is used time and time again. WHO GIVES A FUCK IF IT ENDS WITH AN “A” IT’S WRONG! PERIOD!

In all my years and my friends that I grew up with which were all black, I have never heard them speak this way and I’m sure I never will. Why? Because they respect themselves, as humans, as a community!

You can’t expect for people to respect you if you can’t respect yourself, in how you speak and how you carry yourself.

I’m a woman with a very strong Puerto Rican heritage. My father instilled in me to learn English correctly if not no one will respect you. He remains correct! And while people ask me where is my “accent” from, am I from California (no I’m not) but learning proper English was just as important to me as my first language, Spanish.

We can’t stop people from thinking a certain way and “Lord” knows what stigmas I get because I say I’m Puerto Rican. But I don’t care. Because those stigmas do not make me the woman that I am. I’m Human. A Woman. A Business Owner. A Writer. A Thinker. A Dreamer. A Sarcastic Bitch. Get it?

Now that I’ve made my point, lets get back to Mr. Phil Robertson and WHY WE SHOULD BE UPSET!

The Gay and Lesbian Community has come such a long way. In a time of the sexual revolution where everything was undercover and secretive, there weren’t so many outlets where someone who had “different” feelings can go and seek help or just even someone to talk to that can relate and say, it’s okay.

Who the fuck made us perfect? The Bible is packed with a bunch of lies that man has written to make society believe that if you do something out of the “norm” you will be damned to hell. Such words are away to get people to conform and that’s not what society is about.

We always keep forgetting why the Middle East is at war and probably will always be, #RELIGION

People use Religion to justify their own outrages sort of nonsense, to judge and to say “I am right and YOU are wrong.”

The Gay and Lesbian Community are tightly knit, they respect one another and have built an alliance within their own space where one can go and seek advice, guidance to find the freedom to live with their hearts and to accept who they are as humans and that not everyone will think or agree with what how they live.

When I first got clean and sober more than 22 years ago, I used to hear the term in meetings, lets agree to disagree.

Getting off drugs and alcohol was enough now people wanted to confuse the shit out of me with these terms.

Eventually I got it.

We will not always agree. We will always digress, we will always get better, think differently or maybe not. But what a concept it is when we just allow people to live their own lives and others can mind their own business.

I don’t know when this became such a difficult task.

Until then.

Marabelle Blue~

Breaking Amish LA

I just happened to catch some of the last episodes in a Breaking Amish LA marathon.

Interesting how television has evolved by taking people out of their element and watching what happens by dropping them into a big city.

Such as Breaking Amish LA.

While I’m not all too familiar with the Amish life, my basic understanding is they are highly religious, they have their own laws and they only stay with their own kind. Any participation outside of their world would probably get them shunned.

So why would anyone agree to this?

The answer is simple. In the world that we live in, we are meant to experience life in every aspect and the words in a book called a bible should never dictate anyone life’s choice.

Lets be clear, this is my personal opinion and believe, because I do not believe in the bible. While some passage inside are very nice and can help with affirmations, it’s not the book of the law for me. Therefore it does not dictate who I am as a person, as a woman, it does not define my career, what I choose to write about and how I express that.

I think it’s very important that we learn the errors of our ways without feeling as though we are going to be punished for every mistake. Lust is a natural human emotion as long as you do not push your lust on someone who does not want it.

Women have a choice on who they decide to share their bodies with.  Men get upset when women choose not to share their bodies with them. I can go to a whole list of reason but the point is simply respect other’s wishes on how they choose to live.

It’s so sad that something so simple has become so complicated in this day and age of our technology. But as our technology grows our human behavior becomes more complex. People still try to exert their control and/or their belief system in someone else’s throat refusing to learn and accept that it doesn’t work.

Other than watching the roundtable discussion after the show with a very horrible talk show host (right next to Andy Cohen), it seems that this group is still conflicted in the Amish lifestyle and having to venture out.

See what happens in cases like this and in most cases, we grow up with a foundation. A foundation that our family teaches us that we can rely on, namely them. As we grow up, depending on our upbringing, etc, sometimes, resentment, lack of tolerance towards certain family values can lead to rebellion and exploring what life has to offer.

While I can get into the statistics of crime and murders this is not what’s relevant to this article. What is important is that some of these people chose a life outside of being Amish while instilling a practice of some form of religion.

While I personally don’t believe that religion should define a relationship (I’ve said this before) I can’t understand why people still believe that living this “holy life” in the name of a fictitious “God” gives them a right to believe they are better than everyone else.

A contradiction to their bible thumping beliefs.

Good luck to those people who were on this show and may all their dreams come true, whatever that may be.

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~