#TheBachelor @benhiggi E5 – Cleaning House

The ladies arrive in Mexico City where once again Olivia is convinced the date card is for her.
 
Guess what???
 
It’s not LOL. 
ben and amanda.jpgIt was actually Amanda.
 
Oh, but Olivia had much to say about Amanda. She doesn’t believe Ben is the right person for her because she has children.
 
Really Olivia? You are a fucking child.
 
The next day, Ben wakes the girls up at 4:30 in the morning so he can see all of them in their element. Surprisingly, Cray Cray Jub had her hair in head while Olivia left pieces of her weave on the dresser. It was pretty funny to hear Ben ask, “who’s weave is this?” Definitely an LOL moment.
 
Ben finally did find Amanda and as they headed off on their date, Olivia, having a conversation with Lauren H. and telling her she completely disagrees Ben should keep her, especially since she’s been away from her kids for quite some time. She also doesn’t believe it would work out, if Ben wanted children, he would have had them.
 
Really Olivia? Are you a psychologist now? Perhaps you should be on the show, “Married At First Sight” and after a whole psychological work up, I’m sure none of the advisors on that show would pick her to be with someone. That marriage wouldn’t last more than a week.
 
During Ben and Amanda’s date, she expressed concerns on her interview regarding relationships and marriage because at her such youthful age, she’s already lived that life where Ben has not. In real life, relationships like this are truly a challenge. You can’t expect for someone to come into your life and adjust to your needs and your family without adjusting to his needs.
 
While Amanda seems to be on a “long extended date”, according to Jubilee (cray cray), she’s upset and jealous that Ben is spending more and more time with the other ladies and not her. If she thinks really hard about their one on one date, it wasn’t romantic at all, and the proceeding episodes he treats her as just one of the guys. You can take the ghetto out of the hood and the ghetto will always follow LOL. It just won’t jive with Ben’s family. Let’s not pretend here guys.
 
The group date card arrives and the names are read as follows (with Olivia begging not to want to be a part of the group date because she wants to spend more time with “her man”).
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I was all convinced at some point Olivia would be one of the top two but I think between episodes 1 and 2, I changed my mind. Now watching episode three, I’m would be surprised if Olivia receives a rose at the end of this.

Four weeks in and she’s calling Ben her husband and how she’s in love with him that’s “her man”, “Ben and Zen” I’m not sure how many more shit she can come up with, that is after Chris Harrison announces Ben is no long in Los Angels but rather in Las Vegas (my future home).

As soon as they realize they are going, she’s instigating she’s going to whisper to him, she wants to see Celine. She’s funny.

Needless to say, once the ladies arrive in Vegas, the first date card also arrives in their hotel room at the beautiful Aria Hotel (was there in 2014 truly beautiful hotel), and JoJo is on this particular one and one.

When Ben picked her up as they waited for the helicopter and the girls became jealous but then laughed when the helicopter landed and the force of the propellers knocked the table and champagne down from the table BUT walked away when Ben took advantage of the moment and kissed JoJo. Now that was pretty cool.

 

During the one on one, it seemed the conversation between Ben and JoJo was truncated. What exactly the story with JoJo and her last relationship. Why did it sound like she was having an affair? I mean no offense, we’re all grown here, aren’t we and shit happens, however, it would make sense she would discuss a relationship to make a conversation flow for the cameras and before you know it, Ben is offering a rose. Okay. Great.

The night ended with one more surprise after he gave the rose to JoJo, the fireworks above the Aria hotel began to spark when the girls inside their room heard the fireworks but could not see them (Ben and JoJo’s date were at the MGM Grand – great hotel too) of course had a clearest view of the fireworks.

JoJo one point, Olivia zero.

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#TheBachelorette – Two Men Plus Ben @kaitlynbristowe @viallnicholas28 @chrisbharrison

Kaitlyn+Bachelorette cryingWatching The Bachelorette you almost forget one more guy is in this episode….

Since it’s down to the wire with three men left, instead of meeting the families first, the fantasy dates came first. Why they did that, I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s easier for Kaitlyn to have sex with the rest of the guys before she brings them home to families?

Last episode we left off with Shawn parading into Nick’s room accusing him of being a liar and full of shit about his feelings towards Kaitlyn. Furthermore, bringing up things that were said during Andi’s season which I think is a bit out of turn.

Shawn wasn’t there, so he will believe anything bad about Nick to justify his jealousy.

Nick in turn accused Shawn of meeting some girl and having sex with her the same night. That wouldn’t be any new news now….how many guys in the world have done the same thing.

While the boys are bickering, Kaitlyn has her overnight with Ben.

Let’s analyze Ben for a little bit. Cool looking guy, sexy in his own “country club” kind of a way. Definitely can see stability in the relationship BUT is Kaitlyn the right girl for him….nah.

Kaitlyn is a girl all over the place, this was the reason why I didn’t see her with Chris Soules at all and every time he gave her a rose, it was just a deeper of heart break. It’s almost as if he’s a “Chris” reincarnated and definitely not a match here.

Their date was beautiful though. Seeing the sights of Ireland, who wouldn’t fall in love?

During their conversation, you can tell Ben is fully invested in this relationship; unknowingly she had sex with Nick and she told Shawn he, “was it”, too soon the in the game to tell someone that, especially someone like Shawn who’s possessive and jealous all at the same time.

Kaitlyn says in her interview she can picture a life with Ben, but I think right now being with him it’s just the calming part of the insanity that’s brewing between Shawn and Nick, and mentioning being with Ben feels good, and she “feels” like she’s falling in love with Ben.

That’s code for those feelings are going to change once she’s in between Shawn and Nick.

It’s too bad because Ben is a great guy, or so it seems…..maybe he can be the next Bachelor, or maybe Nick? That would make an interesting season.

Ben and Kaitlyn have their intimate moment (I’m sure they had sex too since she mentions they only got a half hour of sleep).

the-bachelorette-shawn-strips-naked-on-golf-courseShe meets up with Shawn for their one on one for a golf date. Gifting him a bright pink shirt and blue pants, I have to say, Shawn can wear just about anything.

Their date was good in the beginning; they were golfing and having fun that is until Kaitlyn brings up an idea of a game of, “truth or dare”. Sometimes a game like Truth or Dare can go wrong.

The dare was to unclothe Shawn and have him golf naked. I think Kaitlyn will do anything to see a naked man!

During their date, later that evening, Kaitlyn brings up the topic of Shawn having this one night stand, and why he hates Nick, etc. etc.

Shawn admits he did have a conversation with Nick and believes Nick’s has ulterior motives which are not good for Kaitlyn. The Eskimo brother’s topic came up….and Kaitlyn mentions in her interview she needs security and assurance he’s going to be a loyal husband because of statement.

Ummm Kaitlyn, here’s a memo for you, you had sex with Nick. Can he question if you’re going to be a loyal wife or is this part of the exploration?

They decide to go to the fantasy suite which shows nothing, no kissing, nothing, just Kaitlyn putting the DND tag and closing the door.

The next day as Shawn leaves Kaitlyn’s room and Nick is waiting around and asks Shawn does he have a few minutes. Umm, WTF?

Nick felt as though he was blasted when Shawn decided to run into his room and he felt he needed to respond to Shawn.

Shawn believes the conversation they had proved Nick was a smooth talker. I missed that part, because I didn’t see proof other than two men who are fighting over a woman who’s not all that.

Nick questioned Kaitlyn’s motives after Shawn mentioned he and Kaitlyn spent the night together.

Now having a conversation with Chris Harrison who acts as the “advisor”, she admits Ben is a great guy next to  Shawn who exudes both of the “drama intensity” and humor where she doesn’t get the same with Ben. She believes though Ben will make a great husband…..she doesn’t say this but clearly it’s what’s on her mind, not just for her.

Nick, however, having feelings for him, she questions his loyalty towards being in a committed relationships whereas she doesn’t question that with Shawn because he’s a jealous freak. So she knows he wants to be with her but the jealousy can put a hurting on their relationships. (Any relationship for that matter)

I’m still stuck on why they didn’t do the hometown dates. Are they doing budget cuts?

When Kaitlyn stands before all three guys, she tells them she’s falling in love and how incredible how all the overnight dates have been. how much they have shared with her and she thanked them. Caught up in the moment of emotion, she walked away to gather herself, knowing who she was letting go. She comes back to them and reaffirms all she can do is follow her heart.

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She gives the first rose to Nick and then to Shawn which leaves Ben standing there with nothing.  After Ben says goodbye to Shawn and Nick, Kaitlyn asked if she can walk Ben out. She tells Ben how frustrating it is , he’s such a great guy but she doesn’t feel the same connection with him.

IMG_9620Before they say goodbye he tells her she looks great and he will miss her. In the car heading back to a hotel I guess, he said he wasn’t expecting to go home, but he’s a different person and was able to open up and have feelings again.

So perhaps this is a good thing. He learned how to open up I think it’s what you do afterwards when you fall in love and it doesn’t work out. Do you close yourself up? Is it harder to open up to someone new or do you hurry up and find a rebound who can give you that good feeling?

After the rose ceremony, Kaitlyn comes back to do a final salute to both of the men she chose. A very quiet drink, Nick hugs Kaitlyn in the anticipation she will see him at hometown dates and then hugs Shawn. She walks out, leaving them alone. Shawn finishes his drink and slams the glass on the table saying nothing to Nick. Nick then quietly puts his glass on the table saying nothing as the camera just pans on both of them like, what are we waiting for?

Kaitlyn heads to Utah and meets up with Nick. Nick admits he has no question he is in love with Kaitlyn and has no reservations whatsoever.  While all this exchange of love is being shared between Nick and Kaitlyn, back at the hotel, in a room, sits a group of people with uncomfortable anticipation…Nick’s family. Not happy at the fact he is going through this again, his tearful mom, makes his youngest sister cry, while one of his sister’s looks on not very happy.

After meeting Kaitlyn, they all sit and goof around until Maria pulls Kaitlyn aside to have a talk with her. She bought up the Andi season and her concerns with her feelings for Nick. After Maria, followed his brother and Bella, the youngest sibling who asked about Canada and does she really love Nick. Yeah, I would asking the same thing too, but she didn’t admit she loved him but told her she cares about Nick, “a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot”.

IMG_9631Having conversations with his Mom and Nick’s mom having a conversation with him, you can see there’s a big reluctance. While she can distinguish the difference between Kaitlyn and Andi, she’s hopeful, but still afraid for her son.

Nick assures his mother the difference between Kaitlyn and Andi, is during the Andi season he was over confident, not realizing where he and Andi where going in their relationship.

I can understand why his mother’s upsets; it’s not the ideal or conventional way to meet someone.

Kaitlyn couldn’t wait to get Nick back into her room after a successful meeting with his reluctant family.

The next day, Kaitlyn meets Shawn’s family and Shawn says in his interview , he’s excited to tell his , “wife” , he’s in love with her.

Pretty presumptuous if you ask me, I mean what if she didn’t pick him?

Shawn’s father mentioned something legible. Is this something where they are caught up in the moment or is it true love.

Just ask everyone who didn’t last in their relationships.

Like Nick’s family, they are a little bit more realistic in their goals of what they are looking for Shawn. And while Shawn is so love with Kaitlyn, he mentions if any of his family members have one doubt, it will not work out.

Look, while they are all in this position where Kaitlyn is talking about her googingly eyes and first impression rose, the fact is the reality will still happen when the cameras are off and they begin to live real life.

When Shawn gets the opinion of his sister’s apparently they gave rave reviews. I’m not sure how much you can review a person in just a few hours. Well maybe you can. I mean when I met my sister’s husband, I knew he was a piece of shit from the get go. So perhaps it is possible.

IMG_9634When Shawn’s father approaches him, he didn’t see to waste any time. The first thing out of his mouth was, “what the hell is going on”.

Hmm not a good question to start off with but I get it.

Shawn, still stuck on the, “you’re it” comment, he shares with his dad what Kaitlyn said when there was ten guys left. I guess this was his way of reassuring his father Kaitlyn is the girl for him.

Now that Kaitlyn has met the family and back in the room with Shawn, he tell her, there’s one more thing he needs to tell her,  he’s not falling for her but he IS in love with her.

Disappointed she didn’t tell him she loved him back (I think that’s supposed to happen at the end Shawn), Kaitlyn goes back to her room bawling her eyes out, now more confused than ever on who she plans on choosing.

Poor Nick.

OH well. Until the Final Rose.

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#TheBachelorette – E7 – Sex in Ireland @kaitlynbristowe @viallnicholas28 @chrisbharrison

ian confronting kaitlynWe left off on E6 with arrogant Ian calling Kaitlyn all sorts of names in his “monotone” voice calling her shallow and a surface person, all because there was no connection between them.

Ian seems very confused on what he saw on television with Kaitlyn and what he met he met in real life because she’s making out with other guys and not with him. I mean let’s call it what it is…the man is upset because Kaitlyn is not into him.

Using terms like, “surface level’, and wanting to be “plowed by Chris Soules”, is just fucking low class. So if he wanted to leave he should have just said look it’s not working out for me, see you later, instead he went on the attack.

“Ian, my friend, take the hit like a man and walk off with your head up high instead of up your ass.”

Ian left on a very sour note and made it worse for himself when he made the comment in the limo how he was going to have sex. Well good for him. Seems he needs a dick up in his ass to follow. Don’t let the door hit you on the way out. BTW the last thing ABC wants to do is have Ian as the Bachelor. This would be a BIG mistake and any woman who would want a man like this is suffering from some serious low self esteem issues. Stay far away from this one.

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I think this whole scenario left Kaitlyn speechless because her looks said it all and if she defended herself honestly to Ian, there would have been more bleeping in Bachelor history next to the insignificant rose to Justin when Nick came on to the scene.

After Ian’s departure, Nick was there to comfort her and while Shawn was looking for her, he just happened to catch them in a making out session, just as earlier he saw her making out with Joe. While the process is shitty, the fact of the matter is, in real life, would anyone see another person making out with them…no. This just happens to be an open dating scene where everyone gets to see and know everything that’s going on in the other relationships. That’s why it’s The Bachelor.

So with Ian being gone does that mean that Joshua was spared?

062215-kaitlynroseceremony the alamoThe guys and Kaitlyn head over to The Alamo for the rose ceremony which goes as follows:

Jared, Cupcake Chris, JJ (Why????), Joe, Ben Z., Tanner. The guys that went home were Justin and Joshua which was to be expected. So Joshua was not saved from the Ian departure; however I’m not sure why she kept JJ or even Tanner for that matter. The times of Bachelor sure have changed and while the rules still apply about waiting till the end to disclose any feelings, sometimes not all the roses will be given out.

The last of the guys standing now for the next round of dates: Shawn, Nick, Ben H., Jared, Cupcake, JJ, Joe, Ben Z. and Tanner.

I was happy to see the Queen off.

Their next stop Chris Harrison announces is Dublin, Ireland and while they’re cheering, outside of the mansion shows and upset and hurt Joshua listening to the  cheers coming from inside. Boo hoo.

Now in Dublin, Kaitlyn walks in to greet the guys and she’s the date card to tell the guys who’s going on the first one on one date with her…I’m sure it’s Nick.

Surprise….

kaitlyn and nick in dublinOn the date with Nick they walked around the town of Dublin, taking in the sites. Just seeing how Nick is with Kaitlyn, he seems the ideal guy, almost too good to be true kind of a guy. (I may have said the same exact for the Andi season.) Can a guy be really that sweet and loving? Thinking back in the Andy season he’s definitely different but he still has that swag. Quite honestly I can watch him all day. It makes me forget there are other guys waiting at the hotel for a date card. I also think their relationship is right where it’s supposed to be like any new relationship you should be making out and grinding all the time!

Back at the hotel, the date card arrives, with a riddle from Chris Harrison and the attendees as follows:  Tanner, Ben Z., Shawn, Jared, Ben H. and Cupcake Chris, which leave the two on one date with Joe and JJ. Now this can go either way. Either Kaitlyn will pick Joe and can JJ OR they both leave. Either way, one of them is going and I believe Kaitlyn will be saying goodbye to JJ and then he can be free to be with Clint.

Back on the date with Kaitlyn and Nick, it’s now nightfall in Dublin, dinner time was spent with a lot of kissing and of course no hesitation on Nick accepting the rose and no long speeches from Kaitlyn before she gave it to him. Not wanting the date to end, she asks him if he wants to come back to her room, “yeah”. Why would Nick say no to that? Realizing this is the episode she has sex with Nick being all of the promos gave you the heads up about that. We just wasn’t sure it happened with Nick and where it would happen.

kaitlyn and nick in hotel room dublinAnd no time is wasted when they go into her room and you hear the sheets rustling, the heaving breathing and the kissing. The rest was left to our imagination as the camera person in the room was picking up the sound from behind the door.

I think Chris Harrison was right, this is the most dramatic season of the Bachelorette. What I thought was going to be boring, Nick just bought it home. Reminds me so much of Andi season. It would have been such a snoozefest without Nick being there and making women feel like women. Yum yum!

And while Shawn is upset by the mere fact that Nick is with Kaitlyn and that he didn’t get a one on one date, I don’t think anyone noticed Nick didn’t come back to his room. Not quite sure how the set up was with the room stay, I’m sure all the guys had their own room (not like ABC can’t afford it). Usually the guys are still up waiting to hear what happened on the date, so they should have noticed when he didn’t come back, even with separate rooms.

kaitlyn on balcony in dublinThe next day, while Kaitlyn doesn’t blatantly admit that she had sex with him (could it be the glow on her face gave it away), she did mention in her interview it wasn’t the act that made her feel guilty it was more feeling guilty about the other guys who are there and she doesn’t want them to know what happened. While she was on the balcony talking to one of the producers, her attitude changed from glowing to sheer terror at the fear of any of the guys finding out what she did, most likely Shawn only because she has a connection with him that noticeably is not with the other guys.

The next day while Nick was sharing his date, I’m watching the intense scene play out in the hopes that Nick doesn’t open up his big mouth and Joe didn’t help when he mentioned how Shawn has extra time with Kaitlyn recently. That comment only seemed to make Nick talk more so he can throw jabs at Shawn.

For the group date, here was something that’s been never done before. Kaitlyn played dead for an Irish wake so the guys can each share their moments and/or experience in remembrance of Kaitlyn – the only one who took it seriously was Ben Z. due to his mom passing when he was a teenager. He asked the guys to give them a moment and left them both alone so he can share his feelings, vividly upset and when he wanted to make it light hearted as he mentioned in his interview. His feelings superseded the jokes and he said exactly how he felt.

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After the Irish wake they meet at the Guinness Storehouse where she greets all the guys with a rose on the table waiting to be handed out for the group date. Poor Ben Z, he seems so lost in the shuffle right now. He pulled Kaitlyn aside to talk more about the whole Irish wake thing but I think this is just a relationship lost. I don’t see anything happening here. It’s pretty much done and it’s sad because he seems like such a great guy but this is not a couple that should be together.

As for Kaitlyn and Jared, I almost feel like every time he’s with her, he has his face in hers. Like give the girl some air dude. I feel like when I’m watching him I’m left wondering, when was the last time he had a girlfriend.  Kaitlyn mentions in her interview that the last time she saw Jared he mentioned he was falling in love with her which she thought was really nice….if that’s not an indicator that she’s not feeling the same way, I’m not sure what is. I can’t even watch him kissing her. He reminds me of a fish.

kaitlyn_shawn jealousShawn is still harping on her date with Nick showing clear jealousy looming over his head like a halo looming over a saint. I’m not sure at this point if anyone suspects Kaitlyn had sex with Nick but I have a feeling it will come out somehow. And he takes full advantage of his one on one time, instead of focusing on Nick with his one on one time with her, he shares pictures of his family and shares a little bit of his life with her, which is the right thing to do. The last thing anyone wants on a date is to talk about another person which is what Queen Joshua did that’s why he’s not there anymore.

With the rose on the table, Kaitlyn decides to give Jared the rose….huh? After all that Shawn share with her?

Really she wants to spend the rest of the evening with Fish? I can’t.

Now here’s where she wasted a good rose after giving the rose to Jared the Fish they share a moment with none other than The Cranberries!!!!!! Having Shawn miss out on the perfect moment????? So wrong, wrong, wrong!

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It’s crazy how the guys are sitting there wondering what the fuck did Jared do that they didn’t do. Believe me, I’m wondering the same damn thing.

Shawn is clearly having a hard time with the whole process, pulls one of the producers aside and says to him that he can’t do it anymore. It’s become too much for him and he goes to her hotel room to confront her and find out what is going on….

The drama continues next week.

PS: I need a Nick in my life who will kiss me just like that! LOL

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