Kink~E Magazine – Fourteen Years In the Making….

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I can’t believe how much time has passed.

If you ask me back then in 2000 after my break up and finding myself in how to exist in this world, “would you ever imagined owning a popular magazine where you would feature and interview people in the entertainment industry?” – I would have simply answered, “Nope”.

To understand who I was in 2000, I started writing my autobiography several years ago and has been a pain staking process. It’s not fun to have to relive certain shit but in the matter of helping someone else is part of the reason why I’m writing my book. In the interim, I’m also in the midst of writing several erotica books, including three self help books.

“To write about pain is to understand where that pain stems from.” (From “How I View the World with Me In It”, author, Marabelle Blue ©2016).

It’s not an easy feat to contend with because as humans we are so used to blaming the other person or circumstances for our choices. I’ve seen it happen and I myself have privy to that type of behavior.

I couldn’t see all of this when I started my magazine. All I saw was a group of people who lived (including myself) in an Alternative world that didn’t have a place to share their voice. Sure we have other types of periodicals where alternative voices were heard, but that seemed to slowly die out once people became aware of this thing called the Internet.

Through blogging my own personal journeys, I did two years of research and spoke with many different people from local NYC underground communities.

At first I wanted the magazine to be this dark place, almost like a dungeon, where fetish became alive and the voices behind the fetish underground were free to speak and share why they enjoyed this lifestyle.

While the magazine was making it’s rounds online, I remember attending a party at Mother with Master Steelow, my real first exposure of seeing the BDSM lifestyle at work (trust you won’t find it in 50 Shades) and talking to him about the magazine, but at the time it was so new, I don’t think he took me seriously. At least that was the way I took it.

The first few years was rough. I was learning how to maintain a website, let alone create one from scratch and decipher the content. The magazine went through phases, what worked and what didn’t work. When Myspace rolled along, this was my starting point of using social media and getting people to read the magazine which was great and good exposure to not only reach those within the U.S. but also outside of the United States.

People began referring to me as Miss Kink but I wanted something more relevant, a personality which was true to my reflection. Being I was calling myself  Marabelle Blue, I decided to the name and market myself myself an individual who was also part of Kink~E Magazine.

One of the things I learned about social media and exposing yourself to the public is someone coming along thinking they can snatch your shit and make it better. That’s when the evil old lady from Australia came in and plagiarized my magazine. After going through the proper channels on how to address her bullshit the battle ended with one winner. Did she really think she was going to win?

Here’s the deal, when you create something, people will always come in and try to mimic you and ride your band wagon. It happens every time to everyone. One of the most important things I’ve learned within the social media spectrum, don’t brag and don’t expose your shit until it’s good and ready. Sure we all want to brag and there’s nothing wrong with healthy sharing about your progress and confidence, however, yet another when you spend all day tweeting or facebooking on how fabulous you are. The only ones who are the ones who don’t feel good about themselves. It becomes cult like after a while.

Over time with the good things and the not so good things, Kink~E Magazine finally found a place in people’s lives and hearts and that has to do with many of the writers who have come and joined the fold realizing this was a place to share thoughts, opinions and/or grievances. A place where we feature people in the entertainment industry in the sincerest of light and not just making sex the number one topic.

Behind the life of every performer is a sincere, empathetic person who loves what they do and isn’t afraid to show it.  Behind every authors are people who share their most intimate thoughts in story telling and behind every opinion is a person who stands strong in their plight.

The internet has grown a lot. And with that growth, we all continue to keep KinkE on top with interesting notes and topics, discussing current issues and trends.

I still keep up with my good Kink’s Korner (remember how Charlie Sheen copied me with Sheen’s Corner), discussing relationships and life in NYC.

A lot will change within Kink~E Magazine, all good things. I won’t disclose yet what those changes are (we still have the copy haters watching), but I will say this, this past year has been the best. I enjoyed every issue and what we feature to you.

For all the times I wanted to give up, I would get an email from someone telling me how much they enjoyed reading the articles in the magazine, how much they found they weren’t alone in what they were feeling, there was no way I would give this up.

When BBW came along, we found a whole new audience lovers of Big Beautiful woman. Thank you @theKimmieKaboom for the enticing interviews she brings.

Thanks to my girl Dr. Sue (@DoctorSue) and her expert field in cuckolding (among other topics) and Christine who has been hitting the hardcore topics of hate in America and just America itself. And for Dirk who keeps the fetish articles alive in offering advice and tips in how to play it safe.

To all the past writers who have shared their thoughts and advice on topics we seem to discuss behind closed doors when it shouldn’t be that way.

Most importantly I need to thank every person who has contributed and supported Kink~E Magazine for all of these years.

We stand united in our alternative beliefs and lifestyle. This isn’t just about sex or porn or fetish life and gender roles, this is about life and respecting each other’s values and belief system whatever that may be and for as long as you’re not hurting anyone deliberately. (I need to make that clear.)

There is not one person living who is a “God” who can tell us who to love or not to love, how to have sex and why certain behaviors are “wrong”, that’s just unrealistic.

With that being said, Happy Birthday to Kink~E Magazine and thank you to each and every person who continues to support us.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

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Does Success Derive from Humility?

Seems to be the question of the moment for me after watching Robin Meade this morning report in the news on Kanye’s rant at SNL. Was this before or after the “sweet” Taylor Swift not only accepted her award but reminded everyone when you work hard, accept the rewards [awards] with gratitude and never let anyone tell you different.

Well she didn’t put it in those exact words but you get the message right?

When Ms. Swift made her speech I didn’t feel she was just speaking to Mr. West (y’all) but speaking with anyone and everyone who aspires to be something great, whatever that greatness may be in a positive light.

Yes, there are many who believe because they arrived at a certain point in their lives, they believe they can be the misfit of society, “I want what I want and I want it now”, type of attitude that generates the group of haters and the obnoxious individuals that will not only support said behavior but also continue to make themselves broke supporting said behavior.

Kinda dumb isn’t it?

Look, I’m not a Kayne hater. I don’t sit back trolling the internet saying, “what am I going to say bad about him today”. A true hater does everything they can to continue to rise the hate within themselves over someone else’s successes (I thought I should point that out because there are many delusional people out there who have limited vocabulary and understand the meaning of true hate). Scary to know in this day and age we have more of those than we do people supporting one another in their good causes.

2005_Penny_Rev_Unc_D.pngSpeaking of causes, can someone confirm Kanye actually has a go fund me page, so I can chip in my penny.

But seriously. The thing that irks me the post is when Mr. West compares himself of great artists of our time. I cannot sit here and say, I write like the great Jackie Collins or Stephen King. I write like I know how to write and express myself. However, I always remember there’s always room to learn and grow from my writing habits and styles in expressing not only for me but for whomever decides to read my material.

I’m in the process of writing a very personal love story and rewriting another book I actually finished but now must make major changes. I think when you have a gift, you find a way to channel that gift so you can share with the world (if you choose), or help other people. We’re not dummies to take those gifts and make money from them, especially if they are the choice for career. It’s what happens when you become recognized for your work and the money comes flowing in.

bedroom setHow does anyone handle that only remains to be seen with each individual person. If there’s one thing I don’t talk about much is my interview with 50 Cent. One thing he mentioned in his interview about obtaining money, buying the mansion with a bunch of rooms but you can only sleep in one bed (my apologies not verbatim).

I have been broke and broker than broke. I have set up go fund me pages to help start up a studio for KEM TopTalk in the past and guess what…. no one gave a shit even while people do enjoy the show. By the way, my show will be coming back soon. My life was at a standstill and now I’m building my own studio in my apartment. 🙂

Sometimes there are things we don’t like doing to get where we are going. When I got clean and sober in 1991 I remember people telling me ‘it will get better’. I wanted to believe in my head, if I took a break from drinking I can regroup and drink again.

Almost 25 years later. (Hang tight June 16th I’ll have 25 years of sobriety).

So, does humility have something to do with getting somewhere in life and/or meeting your goals. Yes.

But once you’ve met your successes and goals, what happens next?

Success, fame, entertaining is a hard pill to swallow. Every day I ask myself what kind of person will I be once I’ve attained the status I am looking to gain? Am I afraid? Of course, who wouldn’t be? My belief system has always been, “with good intent”.

I have seen people acquire their statuses through fake story telling or fake positions they tell people they’ve had and when they didn’t. I have had people say things about my magazine and where are they now? Once you put yourself in line to say you have something better, you better be prepared to live up to your words.

“Comparing is never a winning concept. Individuality is.” (as quoted by Marabelle Blue~)

Stay humble Kanye. Stay humble.giphy

Until then.

Loves and Hugs and Take Care of You!

Marabelle Blue~

 

 

Step 2 of the 12 Steps “Came to believe…restored to sanity…” NYC Fire Selfie Post

I’ve been up most of the night with one of my dogs who had her first (and last) liter of yorkies. All five are doing great!

With that good news being said, I have to talk about something that seem to be going viral for ALL the wrong reasons.

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While I don’t dispute the fact that it’s rather tasteless to take pictures in front of a devastating incident that should not have occurred, what I’m flabbergasted is how people are not only spreading around this photo BUT believing that they were taking a selfie while the fire was consuming the building.

Now I live in NYC. I was sitting in front of my computer working when my #Headline app sent me a notification about a fire in the East Village. Not too long after that I tuned to the news and was astonished at the blaze and how the water was not only putting out the fire but taking down the building as it was happening. My thoughts ran as I wondered who was trapped in there, people’s belongings and memories now part of a burning dust. I cannot even imagine nor do I want to. It’s very painful.

That being said, here comes this picture of the selfie where now people have the opportunity to express their hate towards a group of people they don’t even know. Let alone passing hate, but check out the picture clearly. The fire was put out by 6PM there were no flames. This picture clearly taken in the early eve is still showing flames that were not present at that time. And it there were flames they certainly weren’t shooting out at this time.

Second, why was this picture posted? No one begs that question. Lets take the focus off Con Edison for a bit and let’s focus on our hate and anger at people we will probably never see in this lifetime for I”m sure they are most likely foreigners on their journey to NYC probably thinking lets take a picture in front of an ambulance and nothing more of it.

Con Edison people were at the 121 Second Avenue, apparently doing an inspection on a contractors work in the basement. No sooner did they leave the building, the owner and contractor were at the building because someone said it smelled like gas and then the gas explosion occurred.

Where does Con Edison stand in all of this? Why didn’t they smell gas? I mean wouldn’t the smell be present at the time they were inspecting the building. NO one is asking these questions. Instead lets focus on this selfie.

Here’s my post on FB:

“Everyone is sharing this ‪#‎selfie‬ ‪#‎nyc‬ ‪#‎fire‬ post. It’s not real. If anyone watching the news knows the fire was put out at daylight. Smh wow people will spread lies faster than good things.”

Once I put up the picture calling it a fake, one of my friends responds (a real friend, someone I know) talking about how the lights of the fire trucks among other forms of EMS on the scene created a light that may have looked like a fire. To follow someone chimes in on my comment saying “good things, people are missing, etc. etc.”

This reminds me of when you apply your own emotions to what you’re reading.

Example:

“how are you”
“oh I’m good, just busy here studying for a test”
“oh sorry I bothered you sheesh”
“oh you’re not bothering me, just studying, I really need to pass this test”
“Well let me delete your number and never bother you again”

OH wait this was a similar conversation I had with the SAME person that accused me of saying that good things happened in this fire.

Ummmm do I know you? More importantly, do I want to know you? That answer would be a quick no.

Yes I have been at fault for putting up things that weren’t real but lesson learned not to be so quick to share unless it’s something comical.

Second step, coming to believe that something greater than ourselves COULD restore us to sanity.

It wasn’t until maybe my third year of sobriety, someone had shared and pointed out the word “could”.

Could being the operative word, as in a choice. People make choices (people of sound mind) to be restored to sanity. Which simply means, repeating the same mistakes and expecting different results.

The internet is filled with tons of shit, fake sites with fake news that people just hop on the wagon to believe. “Oh it’s on the internet, it’s real.”

Granted there are truths on the internet. This is the way most people do research accompanied with the library. If anyone is doing an important paper for school and studying for their masters degree, how stupid would it be if they solely relied on the internet.

Here’s another thing that applies to the second step, (note to self) stop arguing with mindless assholes that spend all day posting these fake news site and believing that’s it real.

To them, it is real. Perhaps it’s a need they have internally to satisfy some form of level of insanity they have in their lives in order for them to feel sane.

I don’t know what goes on in anyone’s brain and quite honestly I really don’t care. I’ve got my own brain and ideas to work with I think that’s enough LOL. On top of that I can’t even concern myself with people who might “hate” me, too much to incur in my wonderful life. I have bigger fish to fry.

The insane part is arguing with said type of people who are overly sensitive over postings and then feel the need to argue with those that may find something false or something that’s humorous that’s not humorous in their eyes. Just the other day a similar argument occurred when a good author friend of mine, his wife, posted a funny on his wall. While I totally got the joke, this sparked an argument with a woman who was offended, because of self image.

The picture wasn’t about self image it was about a feeling that the pictured depicted in the person’s face.

Over her head and way over the top. Instead of something being funny, it became an unnecessary argument.

Look I don’t proclaim to have all the answer, shit, if that were the case it would be brain overload. However, I do have some form of sense of self, of humor and not to take anything to literal when it comes to online bullshit. Do I see things I don’t agree with or like, sure. But does that give me the right to attack the person that put it up. I can simply said, I don’t agree or better yet say nothing. Moving on. #ByeGirl #ByeFelicia #GirlBye

The trolls have their own outlet in creating fictitious stories to appease their own insanity. That doesn’t mean we need to participate an help them.

But again, second step….”A power greater than ourselves COULD restore us to sanity.”

The power greater than yourself is your choice too.

My prayers go out to those who have been affected by the fire in the East Village. Lets not forget them either while spreading that stupid selfie picture.

Carry on my friends.

Until then.

MB~