Self centeredness 

  Due to the inability to see past themselves most people will blame their problems on others. They call them names like bitch or evil. They accuse them of unrealistic torture and expect or even demand apologies. They walk with an air of arrogance and know it “alls”. 

Without a pot to piss in they lack humility. Owning nothing but the clothes on their back they hold their mighty invisible sword and still exclaim, “I’m right and you’re wrong”. 

Such an atrocity. It’s almost like a hoarder living among garbage and you think it’s a palace. Until you have your own palace, you are nothing more than an unwanted guest. 

And even then, after a while a hoarder will get tired of the garbage and eventually throw it out. 

Or…you can hold on to the garbage and stop dragging everyone else in. No one wants to be around twenty year old stinking garbage. 

  

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Viewing my World…A Little Bit Of Me…..

IMG_0798So most times, if not all the time, I use my WordPress to write my sarcastic thoughts about the Bachelor/Bachelorette like most people will that blog about this show.

But at times, I give a little of me almost as a therapeutic way of getting in touch with my own feelings as I continue to write my autobiography, which I have to say has been extremely difficult and for specific reasons, specifically on something I shared with my neighbor earlier today.

Last night as my phone chimes off from my news apps of the lunatic who shot up people at a bible class in church in South Carolina, I opt out of sharing breaking news I normally would. I needed to disconnect.

It was no surprise that everyone started blowing up social media timelines of their opinions on this person, as stated above, lunatic.

My neighbor and I were talking earlier as Friday is usually a day that we walk our dogs longer than usual and discuss life.  I needed the time to get away and unwind due to my current living situation which for some, I’ve made no secret of my disdain when it comes to my sister and her husband.

My sister has been living with me for the last two years due to a irresponsible husband that cannot keep a roof over her head. He is married who likes to play the field (allegedly).

He is not welcomed in my home.

He is the main reason why my family has much disconnect.

Why, is the question we give this piece of shit so much power.

Why my sister loves this man is the question that no one can answer.

He is well loathed (yes well loathed) in my family.

No matter what anyone says, at the end of the day, he’s a piece of shit in the present, to the past and eternity. Period. The End.

With that being said, while my neighbor and I were talking, I shared with her a story about my father. When I was a young girl, my father went out and worked every day to keep a roof over out head and have food on the table. I never, ever, saw a day of not having to eat, having clothes on my back and shoes on my feet. My father always ensured our well being.

While things weren’t all roses growing up with my father, I know he always had our best interests, even if at times we didn’t feel that way.

Being a grown woman, I can definitely understand why my father made the choices he made for us and you know back in the day, upbringing was different than they are these days. Our technology has changed the way in how we communicate and how we interact with one another.

So back when I was little. My father owned his own business. From my understanding, there was internal theft going on with one of his family members that caused him to lose his business which led to my father having to search out for a job. While typing the cover letter, every time he made a mistake he had to throw away the paper and start all over again which only infuriated him.

Thinking back on how he typed from throwing out letter after letter, to avoid sending a letter with a typeo, made me really emotional sharing this story. It was painful to see my father having to humble himself looking for a job after losing a business. Of course as a child you cannot equate the words with the feelings but today, I have a better understanding of what I was feeling.

There’s a saying uses in 12 step meetings, “by any means necessary” – which means that no matter what is going on in our lives, we must stay clean in order to ensure our integrity of our clean time. Without having a clear mind, you cannot make clear choices.

While my father was not using drugs, the concept is the same.

Not once did we feel a stress that our home was threaten. I never saw a housing court growing up.

Looking at my sister’s life and her poor choice of a husband, I’ve sarcastically asked, “we did grow up in the same household?”

I know she’s not the only one who’s in a place where she sees the good in someone who’s just a low down dirty piece of shit that contributes nothing to his wife and his children. He’s has not made one single effort to take responsibility to say, “this is my family and I will find us a place to live so we can be together as one unit.” He doesn’t care. He only cares about himself. Someone who clearly didn’t look up the meaning of marriage.

The word marriage is another form of emancipation. “Who gives this girl away….” (hint hint)

My father never gave away my sister for marriage. She did it in secret. Running to the court house to do a quick wedding and guess what, we were all supposed to be happy.

I have learned when you do things in secret, there’s a guilty part of you that knows it’s wrong. Why get any advice from friends and family that will tell you the truth when you can listen to a man who will lie to you and tell you everything you want to hear and give you a fantasy that will never come true.

Back in the nineties they called it champagne taste with beer pockets.

After more than twenty years, and about seven roofs over their heads and now mine, where does this all go? After two years of her living rent free (oh she pays the cable bill) when does it all end where I get my life back and my living situation back to normalcy?

I would have never thought my sister would do the same thing to me what she has done to every other homeowner where she’s rented an apartment and they’re good with paying their rent for about three months, when all of the sudden, they just decide, “well if we’re late, so what or we don’t feel like paying rent because we don’t like you…”

Responsibility is a big word. Sometimes it’s too of a big word for some people like my sister’s husband who enjoys having his cake and eating it too. Not once has her children with him said anything to me like, “thank you for keeping a roof over our head.” His older son has already taken the lead like his father. The apple does not fall too far from this tree.

I mean we did live in the same household….right?

For me, my father signified a pillar of strength and consistency. I have always told my friends when advising them, consistency will tell you a lot about another person. In this case, my sister’s husband has been completely consistent about being an irresponsible father and husband for the last twenty years.

Yes, consistency can tell you a lot about a person.

BTW the image is a tee shirt I bought when I was at Cannon Beach in Oregon.

Oh! On a side note, I went to my ex’s place to write (yes the one I broke up with in 2000 and thus created a magazine called Kink~E Magazine after discovering my voice) 😉 – He has a new girlfriend and you know that you’ve grown up when you can see two people being affectionate with each other and be happy for a person that you were not happy with. Sometimes it takes a while for people to figure that out. It’s called co-dependency (that’s a whole other topic for a whole other blog).

Until then.

Loves and Hugs,

MB~

The Bachelorette E4 Bye Bye Kupah and Broke Back Clint @KaitlynBristowe @ChrisBHarrison

kaitlyn bKupah which the episode ended previous last week was the joke of the episode as he yelled like an idiot instead of just taking the rejection in stride.

As I had predicted the week before, now that Kupah was eliminated before the rose ceremony, that gave Tony another chance at what he believes to be a universal love.

Jared, who was beaten at the boxing match in the last episode was now concerned whether or not he was going to receive a rose, because he did admit that he voted for Britt to be the next Bachelorette.

Following in the tradition with farmer Chris and his season the rose ceremony now filters over to the next episode and the rose ceremony is as follows:  Jared, Ben H., Shawn, Jonathan, Tanner, Cupcake Chris, Ryan, Justin, Ian, Joshua, Joe, Corey, Tony

Anyone paying attention to all of the slobber that Tony was talking about how he has the eyes of a child and how he gave up everything and all of that he’s invested. Did anyone forget that he initially voted for Britt.  Also when he was talking with one of the guys in the last episode when he was talking to one of the other guys he “mistakenly” called Kaitlyn, Britt.

I’m not quite sure what commitment or investment he has made when it seems that his mind has been somewhere else.

The next morning the guys are awakened by to sumo wrestlers with a gone and screaming in Japanese. Apparently this was the preparation for what the next group date will be.

During JJ’s interview he mentioned how much he loved Japanese culture. I’m starting to think coupled with last weeks episode that JJ is very much full of shit. The six guys chosen for this sumo wrestler and group date were as follows:

Tony, JJ, Clint, Joe, Shawn, Cupcake

Tony took the sumo wrestling very seriously and when Kaitlyn approached him to talk to him, he kept walking because he is not into anything aggressive. Clearly this isn’t a guy who’s into fun.

sumo date bacheloretteJJ then comes in trying to play hero in his big ass diaper wear.  Not necessary because Kaitlyn isn’t really that dumb to figure out that Tony is a child, period.

But then again it makes you wonder because Kaitlyn is trying to adhere to his sensitivity and if that’s the case why didn’t she give Kupah another chance even though he was acting just as an idiot just in a form of aggression.

You would think by now with all of his speeches about being sensitive that she would realize that they have nothing in common and maybe she should be questioning why is he still single. I cannot say enough how ridiculous the guys looked in these over sized diapers but Clint proved his manhood and ended it with a selfie with a bunch of fans watching.

Meanwhile back at the mansion, Tony was yet again complaining about the purpose of why he was there in the first place. It didn’t surprise me that he would pack his bags and leave instead of staying for the rose ceremony and not getting a rose. For a person who says that he sees the universe in a child’s eyes sure had the potty mouth of a truck driver. Last not forget that Tony voted for Britt. Why all of a sudden there was this passion for Kaitlyn?

(Note to the editors on how Tony was packing during the day, but yet left at night.) He said his goodbyes, said it was not her fault, and he was out like deuces.

While Cupcake stole some time with Kaitlyn, Clint confessed to JJ that he had no plans to pursue her and that if she had an interest in him she would pursue him. Lmao. Really? She’s the bachelorette….

Shawn, who I think Kaitlyn will wind up with got the rose for the group date.

The next day, Chris Harrison set up the one on one date with Ben Z. No surprise that the date would be a marketing promo for a movie and not really about trust and protection. I guess the dates of hanging off buildings are long over.

While the date was “suspenseful”, I have to say that Ben Z. was pretty much in control of the date in figuring out the pieces to the puzzle of this thriller escape.

IMG_8934Having shared the story of the death of his mom and want transpired, it pretty much explained his demeanor and his need to control. And while that’s all well and good, it begs the question of how well would he handle any relationship where a woman is emotional and needy?

And while Ben and Kaitlyn are getting to know each other better, the date card arrives and Tanner, who hasn’t had much of a connection with Kaitlyn is hoping to get some kind of one on one time with her.

The follows are chosen for the group date:  Jonathan, Ben H., Joshua, Ryan, Jared, Tanner

And cut back to Ben and Kaitlyn, who are now in the hot tub sipping on champagne, she excused herself to retrieve the rose, gave him the, “you’re the greatest guy” speech and offered him the rose and of course he accepted.

For the group date, another round of major embarrassments, the guys have to teach children about sex education. Personally, highly inappropriate and not to mention, tasteless. I’m sure the parents to these poor children who were subjected to have to hear this kind of shit from a show that displays in order for you to find love is to ensure you fuck the other person over.

Back at the mansion, Justin observed a deep love going on with Clint and JJ and if anyone watched Unreal, we all know there are cameras all around the mansion and outside of the mansion, trust that while we all like to believe that Clint and JJ have some “thing” going on, as Quinn (the character on UnReal) says, give me something for the camera.

IMG_8922I thought it was kinda cute. But we all know that there isn’t a gay thing going on. I mean after all, men do take the time out to squeeze another man’s back zits. (More on this at the end of my blog)

Back at school, Ryan was first up describing the female anatomy. While he did a terrible job, boy was he cute up there!

While all the guys took turns, Kaitlyn lets out of the bag that the school thing was a prank but the guys don’t it yet.

Thank goodness because if this was real, it would have been in POOR taste of the Bachelorette. The only guy who actually showed any kind of romance in describing love was Ben who mixed in the personal experience of being there.

When Kaitlyn had her one on one with Joshua, she commented on why he’s a bit slower in the romance department because he didn’t get his first kiss till college. And while she admits he needs to step it up the fact is in real life, relationships are not a race and quite honestly, Joshua is too good for Kaitlyn.

Kaitlyn and Jared. Where to begin? Zero chemistry. If anyone believes that Kaitlyn is into the fish kisser, I’m at a loss. But we all know he’s getting a rose, for sure. It’s episode 4 and Jared is already falling in love, however, Ben received the rose, leaving Jared questioning WTF?

IMG_8932Are you believing Kaitlyn loves kissing Jared?

Now for the rose ceremony. JJ, who’s super confident in getting a rose actually spent more time with Clint. If it were between Clint and JJ they would both offer each other a rose and accept.

Kaitlyn mentions that she heard there was friction in the house. What friction? Did she hear the rumor right? Lol…. UnReal.

Clint wasted no time grabbing Kaitlyn and feeding her a bunch of lies and she fell for it, the other guys were none to ready to rat Clint out for his lies. Even admitting on camera to JJ that he’s not into her at all he just wanted a rose.

Of course this raises the drama on the set and Kaitlyn pulls Clint aside to confront him and the rumors and once again the rose ceremony filters to next week’s episode. (No surprise there seems to be a habit now)

Until then.

Marabelle Blue~

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#TheBacholerette @kaitlynbristowe @chrisbharrison – E3 Kupah Stupah

abc_bachelor_katilyn_jc_150227_16x9_992In any of the seasons of the Bachelor or Bachelorette, you will find if not one but a few of the contenders not only seeking love but seeking camera time. In this case Kupah which I will discuss towards the end of his idiotic episode.

The episode started off with Chris Harrison catching up with Kaityln in being the new bachelorette.

Date Card: Daniel, Justin, Jarod, Cory, Tanner, Kupah, Ben H. and Ben Z. date card reads, “I see this ending with a ring” – makes me wonder who’s really writing these date cards, being they reflect the date and how much input does Kaitlyn have on the setting up of the dates.

So the first group date has to do with sparring. I’m sure that everyone has signed a disclosure that they don’t plan on suing the Bachelor Production people and ABC executives in the event they get hurt. I mean thankfully no one has ever been killed with their dumb dare devil stunts and kissing in the middle of the air, just to catch a fucking moment on camera.

Anyway…back to the show.

Before the group card arrived most of the men were discussing who they had initially chosen Britt. One of them of Jonathon, if you recall his intro he was gun-ho about meeting Britt and in his mind seemed to be shacking up with her and having her be a mom to his kid, in Detroit, no less. I can’t see anyone leaving sunny weather 365 for cold seasons.

Tony, was another one who picked Britt, but I think we can safely say that we can’t take Tony seriously. The man introduced himself to both Britt and Kaitlyn telling them the same exact thing. Words like that can’t be taken seriously by someone who behaves like a Guru. I don’t think a Guru behaves this way.

Kupah voted for Britt and we can see that he’s there just for camera time and not really for anything else.

Here’s my whole thing, how can a man have a connection with one woman, vote for her and then realize that she’s not the one he voted for, why would he stay? Well it’s the Bachelorette and if you get a chance to show face on television, why not? I highly doubt with Kupah’s ending that he would be the next Bachelor.

Cut to Britt at the hotel room, calling her mom and crying her eyes out, due to the fact that she was not chosen as the Bachelorette. As she ended her call, there’s knock on the door and there stands Brady, who left the night before after he told Kaitlyn that his heart left with the woman who left a few hours before. Curious to see where this goes….

So the group date begins what seems to be a destination of a boxing club where everyone would be getting a lesson from the one and only Laila Ali. Was that googaly eyes Kupah made at Laila?

While everyone was in their training zone, some guys took some time out to talk to Kaitlyn one and one while Kupah was out practicing his boxing because that was way more important.

After practice, Laila spills the beans that they will be boxing each other.

kaitlyn-2-2The boxing match begins with Ben Z. and Daniel and sadly after Ben Z. threw punch after punch at Daniel the towel gets thrown in and the fight it over. One point for Ben Z.

The next match was with Corey and Justin and Justin and then cut to Ben H. and Jared and Jared was not playing at all. He dropped Ben H. like a sack of candy.

When Tanner and Kupah got into the ring it lasted but all of thirty seconds before the towel was thrown in. I guess Kupah missed out on showing off all those moves he was working on before.

Since Ben Z. was the was the top contender he fought with Corey and won that round. Kupah who won, fought with Jared and surprisingly Jared won that round.

It came down to Jared and Ben Z. which left Jared not all together and as much as he wanted to savor his manhood and begging to see Kailtyn, his next stop was the hospital.

When they’re out lounging and having drinks, Kaitlyn mentions that her mind is more on Jared. Jared is kind of cute and Ben Z. even though he’s cute, he just seems to be a guy that a woman would have to worry about being faithful.

He did share about his mom’s passing when he was fourteen.

Justin shared about his son Aurelius….(“strong name”, Kaitlyn says), more like what kind of name is that for a child?

As she spoke to each one, the object of this segment of who’s getting the rose on the first date and while she’s having a conversation with Daniel, she gets a note that says, “come downstairs right now I need to see you”, we all know it’s Jared.

jarerd kissing kaitlynAfter taking a brief walk and he was telling her he was feeling really good, he steps in for a kiss. As cute as Jared is, he looks like he kisses like a fish.

As it was no surprise, Ben Z. gets the rose on the group date and gives him a kiss after her lips were just plastered all over Jared the fish. Kailtyn sure she saw fireworks? I have seen better kissing on Days of Our Lives.

The date card arrives for the one on one date and the first date goes to Clint.

Now this date was pretty cool. It was underwater shoots where they incorporated art in photography and the pictures came out flawless.

Tony who found out the group date had to do with sparring was disgusted and gave his analogy about love. It’s selfless, love is giving, being present, connection, discussions, possibilities, ideas and dreams, you should not fight for love. Really Tony? Then why are you there?

The next date card arrives and reads: JJ, Jonathon, Joshua, Chris, Ian, Joe and Tony and of course another horror of a group date where everyone makes asses of themselves trying to be a comedian. But this gives a chance for the ABC executives to invite celebrities to endorse themselves.

the-bachelorette-premiere-still-14While Tony is, elated, for lack of a better word to describe his demeanor, that Kaityln does know he exists, as he was talking to Justin he asked if Kaitlyn was supportive and Corey says yes and then Tony says,…”it’s great to know that Britt is supportive….”

Justin, “you said Britt”

Anyone watching this, did you roll your eyes at Tony’s stupidity?

Fast forward to the guys writing and practicing and insulting true comedians around the world, let’s get to Tony who spoke about….zzzzz

Certainly I won’t bore my readers with the details.

But yes the reason why Tony is here is to find love because he’s been training for this his whole life. The one on one was even creepier. Discussions about combination lock and she’s not a key turner and what they can create together….believe me when I tell you that conversation did not end with a kiss at all.

2912D20C00000578-3096907-image-m-25_1432616129357But her one on one with JJ seemed to have a stronger connection and he received the rose for the night.  Unfortunately, Joe’s make out session with throwing up Kaitlyn against the wall didn’t garner him a rose. However, it seems for JJ this is just a game and not much of anything else. It’s no wonder why he has a child and no woman by his side raising her.

And now for the rose ceremony and why Kupah is Stupah.

While everyone came a consensus to give the guys who didn’t have a date this week to get a chance to talk to Kaitlyn, JJ decided he was not going to join in and only out for himself, even while donning the rose on his jacket.

Shawn B, who didn’t get a date, to me, is one of the big contenders to be the last guy standing.  JJ definitely doesn’t have a chance. Sooner or later his true colors will come out.

Ian used the desperate card by begging for a rose in throwing some kisses over her way.

Kupah confronted JJ about his scandalous attitude, but he also questioned Kaitlyn on where she’s at and why he is there.

Their conversation didn’t start off well. I got the impression that Kaitlyn had no intention of giving Kupah a rose due to the fact at the boxing practice that he was more into Laila then he was into her. Let’s not forget Kupah voted for Britt, and he really had no intentions of really getting to know Kaitlyn. This was all about camera time for him.

Even after Kaitlyn told him before this talk she did feel a connection, their present conversation now has been a page turner, Kupah threw in compliments that were unnecessary trying to salvage himself, even after he made a fool of himself in front of the guys, even after Kaitlyn told him he needs to go…he takes a swig of his drink and then says he doesn’t want to go home.

So much for that camera time loss, Kupah takes it another notch because you know how they do their interview rejections, he took it up a few notches by screaming like an ass, making claims, how yes he was upset he didn’t get a rose, blah blah blah.

Of course now the rose ceremony will filter into the next week and my guess is that Tony will probably be salvaged and get a rose because Kupah basically assed himself out.

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To Be Continued…..

Married At First Sight – Cohabitation and Happy New Year

Ryan D. and Jaclyn

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After Ryan and Jaclyn were able to establish a living situation, they consummated their relationship. However, this relationship didn’t start off as a romantic one.

When those doors opened up it was similar reaction to Jamie when she married Doug. Not a very happy one. And even though Jaclyn said, “I do”, inside she was screaming, “I don’t”. Makes me wonder why women continue to just say yes to something where they really want to say no.

Anyway, getting back to this couple, because they are reality television, I’m sure they had to sign some kind of disclosure saying they would stick with this for the next six weeks and even though a honeymoon can make everything exciting, reality is what sets in when the vacation is over and real life steps in.

For this couple things seems to be getting off on a good foot, however, because of Jaclyn’s very possessive and strong attitude, it seems that she tries to castrate Ryan by playing the man role too, instead of just letting Ryan be the man in the relationship.

Behavior like this for me is when someone is really not that into you and will play the role of, “let’s be buddies and hang out and get to know each other.” I think they had a show like this on Bravo who followed couples that were best of friends but one of them was secretly into the other….I don’t know whatever happened to that show. Bravo goes through shows, like ATL Housewives go through hair weaves.

I’ve been known to go out on dates with guys that I was not interested in and would take over the conversation to ensure that this will not go any further and they will remain in the friend zone. Since I don’t like to play games, rest assured, it ended that night when the date was over.

Ryan lived with his family and extremely close to them. Due to the loss of his sister and then his brother in law, he was raising his niece, basically stepping in as the parents this little girl lost. Having to make a move and be away from his family, Ryan was definitely going through withdrawal but seemed ready to make the compromise and sacrifice to co-habitat with his new wife.

For Jaclyn, who seemed to struggle with the new man in her life, started to see a different side of Ryan once they began to get their house in order.

While I agree with Dr. Joseph, there is a side of yourself you have to let go in order to allow someone in your life, you also have to do it with common sense. Just because a doctor told you that this is your ideal mate it doesn’t mean that’s necessarily true.

I think what is lacking in this relationship like the rest of the cast is the courting which seemed to take place with Cortney, Jason, Doug and Jamie. They all were very committed to making their relationships work which included romance.

I’m not really seeing that with this couple…for now at least. Jaclyn is a very outspoken woman and you know sometimes, guys don’t like that. While they like women who exude strength they certainly don’t like to look like an idiot.

New Year’s day, visiting her family, she made it a point to share that under no circumstances she wants to have a child after 35. And not saying this in private but saying this in front of her family.

I think in relationships, there are certain conversations you should have in private and not in front of family members. This was definitely not topic of discussion saved for family and friends.

Davina and Sean

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The team of experts paired Davina and Sean on the main commonality that they were both bullied while growing up. Davina lives and owns an apartment in New York, which Sean owns a house in New Jersey. Both have agreed that for now living separate during certain days of the week while Sean goes to work, will just have to work for the time being. Even though Davina doesn’t like this idea, this is something that she’s temporarily dealing with only to appease Sean.

Here’s another couple with a situation where one loves living in New York while the other isn’t really having it. I think once someone lives in New Jersey and becomes accustomed to living a certain lifestyle, who really wants to live in the hustle of New York. If the man has to drive into work, who wants to drive back and spend an enormous amount of money for parking? Not ideal for New York City living.

Davina isn’t willing to make a compromise.

Sean made a private call from Dr. Joseph regarding their relationship how the chemistry was initially strong to now a friendship level of relationship.

While Dr. Joseph informs Sean to not be hard on himself on his feelings and anxiety, he should find understanding on himself and be accepting of what he’s feeling and find a solution through it.

I think Dr. Joseph is right, BUT, let’s be real here….I mean, this is reality television isn’t it?

Davina comes from a culture where most relationships are arranged, therefore there isn’t really a pursuit or courting. However, Davina who is Americanized and has exposure to American culture understands what is means to be courted or romanced. At least that is what we are taught. Just tune in to, “Say Yes to the Dress”, that’s all you hear and quite honestly that’s what women want. So what happens when you meet someone and marry them at first sight? Where is the romance? Sounds like a repeat of Ryan R. and Jaclyn.

Ryan D. and Jessica

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Now this couple, I questioned on every episode. They did have sex the first night and I’m sure they plenty of sex during the honeymoon, but after the honeymoon, everything changed and things got pretty serious and pretty nasty in a matter of three short weeks.

Jessica is not a girl who communicates her feelings at all. She says she cooks but she doesn’t cook, she says she wants closet space but she doesn’t express that, she says the kitchen will always be clean but gets a nasty response in return. He gets angry because she irons on the bed, she’s tired of sushi, she’s mad because he took their wedding money for himself, oh and let’s forget how he thinks pierces are nasty or tacky and she took out her Monroe piercing to “make a change” but yet he has a shit load of tattoos. What the fuck?

Ryan is very ghetto when he talks to her and Jessica seems to get shut out when she does. They continue to have big arguments and even after celebrating New Years Eve together as a couple, I didn’t see a loving couple at all.

It’s almost as if when everything is good, it’s really good, but just for the time being and when everything is bad, it’s really bad.

So far the last few episodes ending with Happy New Year so far isn’t happy for all of the couples.

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Married at First Site Season Two – New Couples New Problems

married-at-first-sight-season-2-weddingsThe season starts with three new couples who are paired once again by the experts, Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Joe Cilona, Dr. Logan Levkoff, and spiritualist Greg Epstein.

The couples are Sean and Davina, Ryan R and Jaclyn and Ryan D and Jessica

How the experts paired these couples it seemed were based on past experiences.

For Sean and Davina, both experienced bullying in their childhood lives. Davina who is Indian and beautiful, I must add, was bullied as a child for being different. Her father had abandoned their family when she was growing up so she lacked that experience of having a man figure in her life, however, it seems it doesn’t affect who she is as a woman. Davina reminds me of me in some ways. Yes as a child I was bullied but I did have a present father growing up who never abandoned our family. She, like me, also prefers Caucasian men. Not sure if it’s a thing where she has the same reasons as to why she doesn’t like Indian men as the way I’m not attracted to Latin men.

Both she and Sean worked in the medical field, Davina in pharmaceuticals and Sean in trauma.

Ryan R and Jaclyn both said their “I do’s”, however Jaclyn who hasn’t had sex in more than two years has big reservations on Ryan R who’s really not attractive but not overly ugly. I can understand when she said that there’s something about his face that didn’t sit right with her. If you’re blind you would see it too. Definitely something going on with the front teeth, veneers of some sort so I get it. Sure I think it’s important to date someone with nice teeth, however it’s not a total deal breaker for me. If the man is good, makes money and can take care of you, she should give him a chance. I noticed though she does things that I normally would do when I’m not attracted to someone when I would go on a blind date and be a bit rambunctious – for example the way she threw his drink and told him he needs to drink this or in the next episode on their honey moon when she ordered the steaks for them instead of letting him order his own meal.

Ryan D and Jessica were both paired due to the same commonalities. They are both independent and have been single for a long time and family is very important. The stability of life is what’s important to the both of them.

The only couples that are immediately attracted to each other right now are Ryan D. and Jessica, Sean and Davina.  For Ryan R. and Jaclyn it seems that Ryan R. right now is not seeing that Jaclyn is really not that into him.

After the wedding, it was picture time and while all the couples seem happy in their pictures, it looks like Jaclyn’s brave face it starting to fail her as she’s becoming impatient and irritable. What I find strange is what Dr. Pepper Schwartz says physical match is not that important but trust in the experiment because they share essential values.

Really?

Why do people connect in the first place? Why is it that the other couples are getting along well? They are having that physical attraction. I believe, without that, tell me where the relationship is going. Granted he does not have to look like what women think Brad Pitt is, for me it’s Kyle Secor and Peter Coyote in his younger days, if there isn’t a physical attraction how can one move past that and fall in love with the other important qualities if you can’t see them on top of you.

For me I just can’t get past that. I have met the nicest of guys but if I was not psychically attracted to them, the men remained as friends and not anything more.

This season seems to also focus more on the family, along with their thoughts and feelings on the whole scenario on a blind arranged marriage.

While the couples are off after their husband/wife announcements and celebrating their nuptials at the reception, it’s now the time for the couples to be on their own in the hotel room.

Jaclyn is positive she will not be having sex with her husband Ryan, who’s mom mentioned earlier that she knows Jaclyn loves him as much as he loves her….? Um what?

Davina and Sean look like they are hitting it off very well, and Ryan D. and Jessica were sure not letting religion interfere with their relationship while Jaclyn struggles playing, “as if”, and wanting the experience to end.

Relationships take sacrifice, commitment, compromises and hard work. I can’t see someone making sacrifices for someone they barely know. Most people will chalk it up and say, “no love lost”, but will they ever learn anything from that experience by just taking the shortcut.

This is what people look for day in and day out. I have one person on my Facebook page that does nothing all day but bash women and talk about how he will only use them for sex. That’s the underlying notion that he really wants someone sincere and instead of putting himself out there and being honest, he’d rather sound like a scumbag.

Now while I can relate with is brutal honesty, the fact remains that what you put out there is what you will get.

For these couples, it’s just the beginning. And while some of them may be feeling the physical attraction, the question is will this outlive the reality of what it takes for a relationship to work and the one couple feeling the opposite, will they be the ones that will make a sacrifice to commit?

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