@AndiDorfman Talks Breakup of a Relationship that Never Was @ChrisBHarrison

andi-and-josh-break-upChris Harrison changes scenes to talk about #BachelorNation with Andi Dorfman and her “shocking” break up with Josh.

Andi, very teary eyed, having difficulties discussing the break up and how she is coping. Chris asked her how did everything happen because at the premier they looked very happy.

Andi admits they have been struggling for a while in their relationship and it wasn’t something that happened overnight.  She was convinced for a while that she had made the right decision. She was 100% sure that her choice was the right choice.

She talked about the things they did together, cooking, spending time and being in love and when Chris asked about the premier and the wedding date – they really didn’t have an answer until they went back home and Andi confronted Josh as to why they didn’t have a date or even in discussions of planning a wedding.

Here’s the answer. Josh was not in love with Andi. He never was. Granted I wasn’t in the between the sheets with them, recalling Andi season, Josh was all about fulfilling his ego, making a name for himself on television. I think I mentioned maybe more than once or one hundred times in my blog about Andi season. This makes me think of Meredith Bachelorette season how she was so falling for Ian the very sexy eye candy guy in her season. Who wouldn’t fall for that but it was clear he was not feeling the same way for her and they broke up. “Surprise”

Josh was very full of himself in the Andi season. He wanted to act like the fucking savior and arguing with all the guys who were there when he found out their  intentions weren’t sincere . And the Boston guy, I forget his name, he was cute too but it was clear he was not into Andi either, he actually preferred blondes which goes to show you how low men can be on this show. On their trolley date he was staring off in the window probably wishing she was a blonde. Anything for air time! When you invite that camera into your life, trust me it’s hard to let go.

Nick, one of the final two and the one I thought she would have chosen, admitted to sleeping with Andi on the overnight date, aired “After the Final Rose”, was clear about his intentions. I believe he did love her and when he admitted what they did he didn’t come from place of malice, it was more like “How can we have such an intimate moment but you walk off the sunset with someone else?”

The fact is Andi fell in love with the wrong man. She wanted it so bad, but it wasn’t real and haven’t we all been there? Do I feel for her, sure I do. Her tears and pain were very real. I can relate on so many different levels having fallen in love with the wrong man in 2008. Back then it didn’t feel wrong and maybe that’s where we all falter as human beings. We get so caught up in that moment and we don’t think of our future with this person and how it may or may not turn out. Even after all of this time that has gone by, sad to say but true, I am still in love with this man. I will always have a love for him BUT at the end of the day, it’s all about realizing that some choices that were made in the past must stay in the past, not to be revisited or entertain thoughts of having that person come back into your life. They must stay gone in order for you to move on.

Andi is a smart and beautiful woman and while I really hated she choose Josh, at the same time I have deep empathy for her because I have been there and it really sucks.

I hope now she realizes that Josh is a lesson learned and that when she sees another bobble head like Josh coming along claiming he will sweep her off her feet, she runs the other way and never looks back.

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