“What the Fuck Just Happened”…Kacie B

I had to watch last week’s The Bachelor again so I can get the full effect of when Kacie B. was sent packing. Watching last night’s show made me understand why. Forgetting it was the three on one dates before Ben picks the two he wants to take back to his family, the “overnight dates”.

After the conversation with her Mom, it put it all into perspective. Their conservative demeanor on how she didn’t want her well over 24 year old daughter not moving in before marriage, had Ben make the decision to respect HER mother’s request and not have Kacie be put into a position where she may not accept the over night date card.

Now, not for nothing. But if my mother pulled shit like that, she would have a lot to answer. Who the hell is anyone to interfere in any relationship and ruin it due to your issues? Of course my mother wouldn’t do that, she knows better. LOL

As much as we respect our parents and their opinions, our family should not be the deciding factor on who we choose to love. Granted I personally may not be happy with the choices my siblings make but if they are ultimately happy, then I am in no place to judge.

Now getting back to this stupid ass show. As the audience, we are the ones looking outside. We’re also watching the edited version because the end of the day, in order to make these shows interesting, the producer has the last say on what gets aired and what stays on the cutting room floor.

As an actress who was on the set of the Sopranos back in 2000 from 4 in the afternoon till the wee hours of 2 am, I know that feeling to have that whole scene I was in be gone. So with that in mind, maybe the producers made Courtney to look like a mean, belligerent drunk model that at the end we are supposed to feel sorry for with her make believe wedding.

It’s funny because when they featured all the ladies as they do in the beginning of the show, I surely do not remember Courtney in a caddy demeanor. Yes she spoke about the jealousy when it comes to modeling but doesn’t that happen in all aspects of business?

Needless to say, here she is and here we are not liking her too much.

If anyone took notice like I did, there was a snarl smirk on Courtney’s face when Ben gave the final rose to Nikki and not Kacie, like maybe most people did. Her smile depicted that she never saw that coming, that Ben would ultimately send her home and her relationship with him would end.

I liked Kacie. She has a sweet smile and an innocence about her that I can appreciate. Not many women I know have that today. It’s all about the tough exterior and this does not include my FemDom alliances, I’m talking about the every day, natural woman, works, lives her life and feels the need to be tough and mean and sometimes fucking rude.

Kacie seems to exude the type of idea woman that men seek. Please bear in mind, this is my opinion from what is being depicted on television. While the producers may have editing control the eyes don’t lie.

While Kacie being confident in her relationship with Ben, her eyes said, I know he will pick me because we have something special and she believed that.

As Ben did have pain in his eyes, it was painfully clear this break up wasn’t about “you’re not the one for me”, this was about Mom interfering because she doesn’t want her good little girl living out of wedlock with a man.

Mom it’s time for you to get with the times…BTW did you see Kacie curse?

Just saying.

As we draw closer to Ben and Courtney’s proposal, I can foresee that Ben will not be the most well like Bachelor and if Lindzi gets chosen as the next Bachelorette after Emily Maynard, then it will be just another bore like what’s her face with the other wine guy. Jen was it?

Yeah…those are my thoughts on The Bachelor.

Until then.


Potato chips or french fries?

French fries! No doubt.

Whatever your heart desires…

How often do you go to the movies?

My friend Steve

Death. Final isn’t it. I was never very good at handling death. Didn’t matter who it was, person, animal, celebrity, baby…I just cannot deal.

I just found out tonight a dear friend of mine Steve, who helped put the Music Korner together for my magazine passed away last night. I have been inconsolable. I found out on my way to school, cried the whole time on the train and cried coming back home. I’m sure my eyes have taken on a new shape.

What can I say? When something like this happens, I begin to question my level of  commitment of friendship. Was I a good enough friend? Did I do everything I could do to reach out. 

I become so consumed with the magazine, sitting in front of my computer and making sure that everything I do is done to perfection and then…death.

The one thing I have learned but not happily accepted I have no control over. 

I am filled with extreme grief. Steve was someone that talked really fast when he was excited about something. Every new idea he came up with for the music korner, he was on the phone with me. I don’t know anyone who was as dedicated and committed to that part of the magazine. He cared so much about the pictures he took and getting people involved to write music reviews. He tried to get me to go to every show so that I wouldn’t miss out on the next great band. 

Steve had a good heart and a good soul. He put others first before he put himself and when he needed to put himself first bet your ass he did.

Amazing how he was filled with an assortment of music but right now the only sound I want to hear is silence. 

I will miss you a great deal. Your spirit will live on through all of us. 

Continued Thoughts on The Bachelor Season 16 – Ben

I’m perplexed. One, why I still watch this show, other than being addicted, more of, why these women get so wrapped up in believing this one man could be the man of their dreams.

Let’s get into it.

Samantha…first and foremost why was she there for so long. Poor thing looked like  a deer in headlights when Ben told her it was time for her to go home not interested in her rant about why she didn’t get any one on one dates and was part of all the group dates.

I felt sorry for her, just a little bit. She was too arrogant and full of herself but at the same time, she had this vulnerability about her that made me feel bad when Ben shipped her ass right home and didn’t even think twice about his decision.

Now on to Courtney, I’m not going to waste time here. What the fuck is Ben thinking? The girl is clearly a drunk. Every time the camera panned on her she had a glass in her hand.

Now I don’t care what scenario you’re in, if you’re dating someone either you turn a blind eye on who the person really is or you’re just plain stupid.

What bothers me too is the group dates. It’s not just a matter of healthy competition (or at least that’s what I like to believe), it’s a matter of the women proving themselves. Does that happen in real life. Must every man expect for the woman to prove themselves and why? Certainly I’m not bungee jumping for a man anytime soon. I gather for the purposes of television, it should be okay that you walk over a bridge to show your worth to a man even if it means you may slip and fall?

Here is another confusing thought. Last week Ben had a one on one with Jennifer. Even saying early on that she is the best kisser, strangely he kept Blakely and got rid of Jennifer. He didn’t really explain why? Again she was shoved in a car without any real valid explanation, yet Ms. Drunk Courtney sticks around.

Another perplexing thought here…why is it that a man can’t stand overly aggressive women, but yet Courtney seems to win a rose every time? I have had the personal experience of telling a man I wanted to be with him and his response was, “sorry love, I’m busy and not in town that week”….What the fuck? Never have I heard a man say that?

Of course people would say he could be possibly gay, but come on, you can’t just blame homosexuality. That is just wrong.

My conclusion is that this particular man is not into me and maybe he was but for some reason he changed his mind. And I’m not one to pine away at one person. If they don’t want me, goodbye and good riddance. I have better things to do with my time than to chase ONE man. There are plenty to choose from, thank you very much.

Now lets move on to Elyse, “my favorite”. She was more clueless than Samantha was. Did she seriously think that she and Ben were going any further. All of her dates were group dates and barely had she sat with Ben one on one.  I’m not sure what the tears were about, other than she feeling sorry for herself and we’ve all been there.

If the spoilers I’ve been are true, Ben is truly not looking for love. He didn’t waste time planting his mouth on almost every women when he had one on one time. This week his mouth was all over Kacie B and the minute Courtney grabs him, he has his mouth all over her too.

Maybe for a woman is different. Maybe a women cannot be emotionally vested in more than one man and for men it doesn’t make a difference.

I don’t have an answer for this one….thoughts…comments?